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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy." I dont look for meets out of pity i look for meets so i can feel better about my self having the chance to.make someone elce feel better | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help" Will sound harsh but stop eating as much and do some exercise, you need to have will power if you don’t your fucked. The exorcise will help your head and cut out eating as much. | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. I dont look for meets out of pity i look for meets so i can feel better about my self having the chance to.make someone elce feel better" Try making you feel better about you first. It's the old if you don't love yourself no one else will. Same with attitude, confidence and positivity. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help" Go to a club… sound like you would fit in at a bdsm night either that or become a pay pig. That or join a gym or a physical activity like football or rugby or badminton loads of clubs out there looking for members | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy." How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. | |||
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"Too many women on here like to kick a man when he's down...Think their God's gift.." Correct me if I'm wrong but the ones replying to this post are predominately male .. so where do you come up wae "too many women on here like to kick a man when he's down ...think their gods gift" seems to me men are quite good at doing the kicking ... Plus being a woman on here is rough if your not interested in a guy the can turn pretty ugly calling women every name under the sun , heaven forbid we don't reply to a mail that apparently makes us rude ! ... I'll sit back and wait for the women bashing ! | |||
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"Too many women on here like to kick a man when he's down...Think their God's gift.. Correct me if I'm wrong but the ones replying to this post are predominately male .. so where do you come up wae "too many women on here like to kick a man when he's down ...think their gods gift" seems to me men are quite good at doing the kicking ... Plus being a woman on here is rough if your not interested in a guy the can turn pretty ugly calling women every name under the sun , heaven forbid we don't reply to a mail that apparently makes us rude ! ... I'll sit back and wait for the women bashing ! " I’ve no idea what it’s like for females on here but I’ve seen some status updates that show levels of abuse that, if happening in a bar or outside,could be criminal. As for the OP, set yourself some small targets for fitness/weight loss and focus on that initially. Even join a gym or a weight loss group and strike up social friendships there. One of your targets could be x amount of weight loss and you attend a social on here as your reward to yourself. If you want to achieve it you will, but do it sensibly and don’t expect instant results. Good luck. | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. " Maybe calm down a little and dont jump to the conclusion that she thinks shes cruel. Women on here get a lot of guilt trip begging messages and a lot of abuse so it's not unreasonable to take this post in the same way. There's similar posts and status updates and messages daily it does get on the nerves a bit. | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. Maybe calm down a little and dont jump to the conclusion that she thinks shes cruel. Women on here get a lot of guilt trip begging messages and a lot of abuse so it's not unreasonable to take this post in the same way. There's similar posts and status updates and messages daily it does get on the nerves a bit." She went balistic at his insecurities and asked him to “sort himself up”. That’s a huge assumption and zero empathy. The size shaming is a huge issue on this platform as it’s racism, sexism, etc. the admins do f*ck all about reports and people are really not supportive of each other. On the sister website, I know at least 5 guys who had struggled with their weight being bullied. Doesn’t matter if woman or man, the bullying is real and should be stopped. I’ve been not once told how people are just entitled to be rude only because someone isn’t their type. The girl was absolutely Bessy and up her own arse “ Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you”. Gurl, what you got to offer to have this attitude? Unless you look like a Victoria Secret model, stfu and get off your high horse. If not let the man express himself openly. Because people like her, suicide rate is on an increase in this country. Not a Boss Lady nor Queen, but a bully. | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. Maybe calm down a little and dont jump to the conclusion that she thinks shes cruel. Women on here get a lot of guilt trip begging messages and a lot of abuse so it's not unreasonable to take this post in the same way. There's similar posts and status updates and messages daily it does get on the nerves a bit. She went balistic at his insecurities and asked him to “sort himself up”. That’s a huge assumption and zero empathy. The size shaming is a huge issue on this platform as it’s racism, sexism, etc. the admins do f*ck all about reports and people are really not supportive of each other. On the sister website, I know at least 5 guys who had struggled with their weight being bullied. Doesn’t matter if woman or man, the bullying is real and should be stopped. I’ve been not once told how people are just entitled to be rude only because someone isn’t their type. The girl was absolutely Bessy and up her own arse “ Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you”. Gurl, what you got to offer to have this attitude? Unless you look like a Victoria Secret model, stfu and get off your high horse. If not let the man express himself openly. Because people like her, suicide rate is on an increase in this country. Not a Boss Lady nor Queen, but a bully. " I really don't agree that was bullying and it's a bit hypocritical to say you can only offer criticism if you look like a victoria secret model. Sort himself out doesn't have any references to his weight I'd say it was more to do with self esteem. Fabs not always the best place to be when your feeling down on yourself and saying to come back when in a better place isn't cruel. I am fat myself so not a stranger to the fat shaming but it's an issue everywhere not just on here and if I was feeling as low as op is taking a break and working on myself isn't a bad bit of advice maybe a bit blunt but as I already said the guilt trips and begging messages on here are a daily occurrence so patience for this can run low. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help" You probably won’t get a meet with such a negative attitude/ lack of verifications - genuinely as women we have about a 100-1 ratio to pick from and many of us won’t just do random 1-2-1s as we’ve usually all had at least one bad experience before. Get yourself along to a club night, I’d recommend a Greedy Girls and you’re guaranteed to get some action. Most other club nights you’d have to work on your self esteem and be alluring and chatty in social areas but a GG night is far easier to get some play if that is all you are looking for. That will also garner you some verifications and put you higher up the gene pool. | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. Maybe calm down a little and dont jump to the conclusion that she thinks shes cruel. Women on here get a lot of guilt trip begging messages and a lot of abuse so it's not unreasonable to take this post in the same way. There's similar posts and status updates and messages daily it does get on the nerves a bit. She went balistic at his insecurities and asked him to “sort himself up”. That’s a huge assumption and zero empathy. The size shaming is a huge issue on this platform as it’s racism, sexism, etc. the admins do f*ck all about reports and people are really not supportive of each other. On the sister website, I know at least 5 guys who had struggled with their weight being bullied. Doesn’t matter if woman or man, the bullying is real and should be stopped. I’ve been not once told how people are just entitled to be rude only because someone isn’t their type. The girl was absolutely Bessy and up her own arse “ Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you”. Gurl, what you got to offer to have this attitude? Unless you look like a Victoria Secret model, stfu and get off your high horse. If not let the man express himself openly. Because people like her, suicide rate is on an increase in this country. Not a Boss Lady nor Queen, but a bully. I really don't agree that was bullying and it's a bit hypocritical to say you can only offer criticism if you look like a victoria secret model. Sort himself out doesn't have any references to his weight I'd say it was more to do with self esteem. Fabs not always the best place to be when your feeling down on yourself and saying to come back when in a better place isn't cruel. I am fat myself so not a stranger to the fat shaming but it's an issue everywhere not just on here and if I was feeling as low as op is taking a break and working on myself isn't a bad bit of advice maybe a bit blunt but as I already said the guilt trips and begging messages on here are a daily occurrence so patience for this can run low. " Criticism is often seen wrong, positive feedback and support is often recommended. I did not said anything about criticising but the attitude she had towards it. We can agree to disagree, I think if you can’t say something nice, or help, why comment just to show you’re better. Positive feedback is key | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help" Id say perhaps concentrate on yourself for a while . Being new seperated will be taking its toll on you mentally . I know slimming world do men only classes if this is something I’d be interested in something like that . I’m sure once you’ve tackled the weight issues your self esteem will improve too . As for what you are offering sexually is not something most women want on here and most see oral as foreplay before the main event however I’m sure there will be some who enjoy oral only meets so don’t give up searching . Good luck ! | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please helpId say perhaps concentrate on yourself for a while . Being new seperated will be taking its toll on you mentally . I know slimming world do men only classes if this is something I’d be interested in something like that . I’m sure once you’ve tackled the weight issues your self esteem will improve too . As for what you are offering sexually is not something most women want on here and most see oral as foreplay before the main event however I’m sure there will be some who enjoy oral only meets so don’t give up searching . Good luck ! " Nice to see positives feedback | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. " Whoa!!! At what point in her message did sassy fat shame the op? She suggested the op work on himself. I took by her mention of self esteem that she was indicating he ought to improve his overall confidence and learn to love himself a bit. You jumped to the conclusion that she was fat shaming. Says more about you I’m afraid. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help" Ok buddy, ima bite on this after reading all of the replies. Guys on fab, i am one so i know this is factual, think it’s all about having the biggest dick, abs, being 6ft and dark hair. Now on the surface of it, if you don’t have most of those attributes it is true. If you skim over some profiles this is what they list as the “must haves” and it can be a little daunting. But look closer at the profiles of couples and women… You will find those who are actually active on the scene, on the most part, don’t ask for all of this. They will perhaps have a type which is fine but personality, respect and how you present yourself are ahead of the rest. There are plenty single women accounts on fab set up to get attention and boost their ego, I genuinely can list about 5 Scottish ones off the top of my head easily. Look past them… Please read this bit fully as I’m not trying to say I’m some Adonis. Now from your point of view OP, you’re a bigger guy low in confidence, so you will look at my photos and be like ffs that’s what they want I’ve no chance. I do actually get told this by guys but it’s pish, as I look at your stats mate & see you’re 6ft and I think ffs, jammy bastard. None of us are the same, we are all different and have our own positives alongside our own insecurities. To get past them you need to accept and own them, but that’s a long road and Fabswingers is not the place to seek help to achieve that. Believe me when i say, you do not want a pity ride. That will set you back further. I have a pal on fab, 10/10 stunning, won’t touch me with yours. Not because I’m no tall enough or not ripped enough, not because she’s a chubby chaser or a secret lesbian, it’s just because I don’t float her boat. Take it on board that there isn’t any guy on fab that will open women’s legs here like Moses parted the sea. Focus on where you are having problems and you will find you will be the type someone is looking for. Confidence is a tricky thing to work on, but there are things you can do to make things a little better on Fab. Fucking fix that abomination of a profile page. I’m sorry mate but it’s shite and I’m being as honest as possible. You could starve a sex pest for a year and they wouldn’t get moist at your photo. It’s a shanner. Take some time to look at other more active guys pages. If you are low on body confidence, put up a photo where you are well dressed, or play around with black and white photography for body shots. Take a good headshot/ face pic and when you go to meet people dress well and do all the normal grooming. Write about about yourself, put your humour into your page, your actual interests and that’s literally it man. It’s genuinely that easy. Coming out of a LTR isn’t easy for anyone emotionally but you can’t replace that feeling with anything you get here. That’s when things can become really difficult, you might get attached to someone even just by chatting online and without being too aware, you’re creeping the fuck out of them. It happens all the time. For you, I’d recommend taking a wee bit of time away, get some self care podcast in your ears if you don’t want to go and speak to someone and spend time outdoors. There’s groups such as Men Matter online that will offer safe spaces and such for you to go and mix with other guys socially who are in the same boat. Then, the best advice, when you’re on your way back to being yourself with more confidence you sign up to attend a social. I know there are loads of people that would walk you in and introduce you around so you’re not left on your own  | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. " excellent answer to OP's post,  | |||
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"The lack of empathy on this post is sickening. If it was a woman posting it would be all 'you go girl ' and 'embrace your curves' to say go on a diet and become a paypig. Get an actual grip of yourselves OP if you're feeling shit about yourself give me a message. We can meet for a walk, have a chat, bit of lunch. Whatever you fancy. It's on me" excellent reply and very nice to see you have reached out to help the guy . Hope he takes u up on ur offer off a social cause then he will have at least 1 veri more than some off the other guys on here | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. " She didn't even mention being fat in her post. She spoke about self esteem. And she's right. Unless the guy wants to attract women with even worse mental health issues than him, no woman will meet a guy cause she feels sorry for him to get a lick of her snatch. | |||
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"The lack of empathy on this post is sickening. If it was a woman posting it would be all 'you go girl ' and 'embrace your curves' to say go on a diet and become a paypig. Get an actual grip of yourselves OP if you're feeling shit about yourself give me a message. We can meet for a walk, have a chat, bit of lunch. Whatever you fancy. It's on me" Maybe to help him you could invite him along to one of wank group parties, surely that's a win win? | |||
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"The lack of empathy on this post is sickening. If it was a woman posting it would be all 'you go girl ' and 'embrace your curves' to say go on a diet and become a paypig. Get an actual grip of yourselves OP if you're feeling shit about yourself give me a message. We can meet for a walk, have a chat, bit of lunch. Whatever you fancy. It's on me Maybe to help him you could invite him along to one of wank group parties, surely that's a win win?" you d be so lucky | |||
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"The lack of empathy on this post is sickening. If it was a woman posting it would be all 'you go girl ' and 'embrace your curves' to say go on a diet and become a paypig. Get an actual grip of yourselves OP if you're feeling shit about yourself give me a message. We can meet for a walk, have a chat, bit of lunch. Whatever you fancy. It's on me Maybe to help him you could invite him along to one of wank group parties, surely that's a win win?you d be so lucky" You don't think the OP has a chance? I bet there's loads of females out there with the OPs fantasy, they might not want to admit it publicly. | |||
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"The lack of empathy on this post is sickening. If it was a woman posting it would be all 'you go girl ' and 'embrace your curves' to say go on a diet and become a paypig. Get an actual grip of yourselves OP if you're feeling shit about yourself give me a message. We can meet for a walk, have a chat, bit of lunch. Whatever you fancy. It's on me Maybe to help him you could invite him along to one of wank group parties, surely that's a win win?you d be so lucky You don't think the OP has a chance? I bet there's loads of females out there with the OPs fantasy, they might not want to admit it publicly. " Here’s a bigger shovel mate. | |||
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Which portrays the attitude that causes you to also be extremely successful on the site buddy boy"you are such a smug wanker | |||
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Which portrays the attitude that causes you to also be extremely successful on the site buddy boyyou are such a smug wanker"do you not get why people respond to you in a certain way.Seem like not a bad Guy drop attitude | |||
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"The lack of empathy on this post is sickening. If it was a woman posting it would be all 'you go girl ' and 'embrace your curves' to say go on a diet and become a paypig. Get an actual grip of yourselves OP if you're feeling shit about yourself give me a message. We can meet for a walk, have a chat, bit of lunch. Whatever you fancy. It's on me Maybe to help him you could invite him along to one of wank group parties, surely that's a win win?" I would love for OP to take up fems offer of a social and gets the verification. I would offer to meet for a coffee too. Been following this today and feel that a lot of replies have made me cringe. Nobody knows OPs circumstances he may just feel he is overweight he may have medical issues, but god when he reads this he may well have further issues. Pls can we be respectful to each other. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help Ok buddy, ima bite on this after reading all of the replies. Guys on fab, i am one so i know this is factual, think it’s all about having the biggest dick, abs, being 6ft and dark hair. Now on the surface of it, if you don’t have most of those attributes it is true. If you skim over some profiles this is what they list as the “must haves” and it can be a little daunting. But look closer at the profiles of couples and women… You will find those who are actually active on the scene, on the most part, don’t ask for all of this. They will perhaps have a type which is fine but personality, respect and how you present yourself are ahead of the rest. There are plenty single women accounts on fab set up to get attention and boost their ego, I genuinely can list about 5 Scottish ones off the top of my head easily. Look past them… Please read this bit fully as I’m not trying to say I’m some Adonis. Now from your point of view OP, you’re a bigger guy low in confidence, so you will look at my photos and be like ffs that’s what they want I’ve no chance. I do actually get told this by guys but it’s pish, as I look at your stats mate & see you’re 6ft and I think ffs, jammy bastard. None of us are the same, we are all different and have our own positives alongside our own insecurities. To get past them you need to accept and own them, but that’s a long road and Fabswingers is not the place to seek help to achieve that. Believe me when i say, you do not want a pity ride. That will set you back further. I have a pal on fab, 10/10 stunning, won’t touch me with yours. Not because I’m no tall enough or not ripped enough, not because she’s a chubby chaser or a secret lesbian, it’s just because I don’t float her boat. Take it on board that there isn’t any guy on fab that will open women’s legs here like Moses parted the sea. Focus on where you are having problems and you will find you will be the type someone is looking for. Confidence is a tricky thing to work on, but there are things you can do to make things a little better on Fab. Fucking fix that abomination of a profile page. I’m sorry mate but it’s shite and I’m being as honest as possible. You could starve a sex pest for a year and they wouldn’t get moist at your photo. It’s a shanner. Take some time to look at other more active guys pages. If you are low on body confidence, put up a photo where you are well dressed, or play around with black and white photography for body shots. Take a good headshot/ face pic and when you go to meet people dress well and do all the normal grooming. Write about about yourself, put your humour into your page, your actual interests and that’s literally it man. It’s genuinely that easy. Coming out of a LTR isn’t easy for anyone emotionally but you can’t replace that feeling with anything you get here. That’s when things can become really difficult, you might get attached to someone even just by chatting online and without being too aware, you’re creeping the fuck out of them. It happens all the time. For you, I’d recommend taking a wee bit of time away, get some self care podcast in your ears if you don’t want to go and speak to someone and spend time outdoors. There’s groups such as Men Matter online that will offer safe spaces and such for you to go and mix with other guys socially who are in the same boat. Then, the best advice, when you’re on your way back to being yourself with more confidence you sign up to attend a social. I know there are loads of people that would walk you in and introduce you around so you’re not left on your own "sorry wee man I ve read war and peace | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy. How rude and entitled. Only because you got a pussy my dear it doesn’t mean you can be cruel and “sassy”. I’m a gay man, I’m gonna tell you off anytime. The man obviously has some mental health struggles coming probably from a lassie like you who thinks speaking out loud and proud is alright only because it has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill. Don’t forget, they’ll all get saggy at some point. The man simply asked for some help, and congratulations to him for being strong enough to reaching out. I’m a chubby chaser in the gay world and I already am aware of how off putting the size shaming is, and how dangerous it is for loads of men on here who’d never meet due to their size and the size shaming coming from entitled ride members of this website. Fat people are people. So please try and be a better person for the future. " You sound like a total misogynist. "It has a pair of boobs and an extra hole to fill"? And you're preaching at other people to be a better person. Gie ma heid peace. The man is looking for advice or some kind of input, otherwise he wouldn't have posted on the forum. People have offered that it different ways, varying from the tough love approach to the folk treading more softly. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help" Fab is not a good place to be if you have low self esteem. Use your time to work on yourself and find things to enjoy and that might help you look forward to things more. Sex is not the most important thing in life. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help" Some advice from a fellow fat guy (for what it's worth): - Get rid of the cock-pic, for a start; the vast majority of women simply don't want to see them (especially unsolicited). If they really want to see it, they'll ask you, don't worry. - Without meaning to be harsh, get rid of the stuff on your profile about being deprived of sex, etc.: women don't find it appealing, and you are trying to present yourself in the best possible light. - Take care with the way you word things; even as a man, I winced a little at the cream cake comment, and honestly, I think it would completely turn a woman off. When talking about sexual acts, maybe use less explicit language (eg., maybe "giving oral" instead of "licking pussy"). - Go along to socials and club nights, where you can let your personality and confidence shine, and at the very least get verifications to help you in the future. The fact is that even men who have bodies I would be overjoyed to have can struggle on here. Personally, I tend to use the site as a way to keep in contact with people I meet at clubs, rather than for directly finding meets, but it still sometimes happens, and if I can do it, so can you. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help Some advice from a fellow fat guy (for what it's worth): - Get rid of the cock-pic, for a start; the vast majority of women simply don't want to see them (especially unsolicited). If they really want to see it, they'll ask you, don't worry. - Without meaning to be harsh, get rid of the stuff on your profile about being deprived of sex, etc.: women don't find it appealing, and you are trying to present yourself in the best possible light. - Take care with the way you word things; even as a man, I winced a little at the cream cake comment, and honestly, I think it would completely turn a woman off. When talking about sexual acts, maybe use less explicit language (eg., maybe "giving oral" instead of "licking pussy"). - Go along to socials and club nights, where you can let your personality and confidence shine, and at the very least get verifications to help you in the future. The fact is that even men who have bodies I would be overjoyed to have can struggle on here. Personally, I tend to use the site as a way to keep in contact with people I meet at clubs, rather than for directly finding meets, but it still sometimes happens, and if I can do it, so can you." 100% agree with every word here | |||
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"The lack of empathy on this post is sickening. If it was a woman posting it would be all 'you go girl ' and 'embrace your curves' to say go on a diet and become a paypig. Get an actual grip of yourselves OP if you're feeling shit about yourself give me a message. We can meet for a walk, have a chat, bit of lunch. Whatever you fancy. It's on me" I agree completely, there are some really poor answers on here from male and female but the level of entitlement by some has actually shocked me. The guy has asked a question and obviously struggles with self esteem and confidence. Have a bit of thought to how people feel and how the OP might feel reading some of your answers. You are allowed to disagree with him and point out why but shitty comments are poor. What i would say is the the initial reply wasn't the worst reply by any stretch but it started a bit of a pile on so maybe have a bit more empathy initially. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help You probably won’t get a meet with such a negative attitude/ lack of verifications - genuinely as women we have about a 100-1 ratio to pick from and many of us won’t just do random 1-2-1s as we’ve usually all had at least one bad experience before. Get yourself along to a club night, I’d recommend a Greedy Girls and you’re guaranteed to get some action. Most other club nights you’d have to work on your self esteem and be alluring and chatty in social areas but a GG night is far easier to get some play if that is all you are looking for. That will also garner you some verifications and put you higher up the gene pool. " No one is guaranteed play at a greedy girls night  | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help Interested to know how you can accommodate when still living with your wife?." Wins the observation round. Wow. | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help You probably won’t get a meet with such a negative attitude/ lack of verifications - genuinely as women we have about a 100-1 ratio to pick from and many of us won’t just do random 1-2-1s as we’ve usually all had at least one bad experience before. Get yourself along to a club night, I’d recommend a Greedy Girls and you’re guaranteed to get some action. Most other club nights you’d have to work on your self esteem and be alluring and chatty in social areas but a GG night is far easier to get some play if that is all you are looking for. That will also garner you some verifications and put you higher up the gene pool. No one is guaranteed play at a greedy girls night "I agree not everyone is guaranteed and should not be portrayed to be a sure thing | |||
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"Probably better to work on you and your self esteem for a bit. Come back more positive with what you can offer a woman meeting you. No one will meet you out of pity cause you want to lick a pussy." | |||
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"Hi everyone im a rather fat guy with low self esteem and low self worth but i would eat a pussy like a cream cake im writing this because i have tried and tried to find a willing partner im very newley seporated and have not had phyiscal contact for months so i dont ask anythi g in return so i dont dissapoint can someone please help Interested to know how you can accommodate when still living with your wife?. He sends her out to buy the johnnies." or, his wife watches? | |||
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"A massive thanks to everyone who commented with nice things to say and as for the people how can he accom if he stays with her well i have a garden play room /entertainment space i can use just because someone can accom doesnt mean its in there hous and as for the advice some of it valad first of all to the people guessing about me theres a few diffrent things to consider 1 i have 3 fractures in my spine from years ago that have heald but cause issues some times yes i have a gym membership yes i work silly shifts but i have to provide for my family the one positive is im now getting messages of support and interacting with people all be it non sexual its nice to talk " All well that ends well then. | |||
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"The lack of empathy on this post is sickening. If it was a woman posting it would be all 'you go girl ' and 'embrace your curves' to say go on a diet and become a paypig. Get an actual grip of yourselves OP if you're feeling shit about yourself give me a message. We can meet for a walk, have a chat, bit of lunch. Whatever you fancy. It's on me" Well done! What a lovely response. Actions can speak louder than words. | |||
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