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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So hear me out !

Myself and my GF have a great relationship - sex is hot , we get on like a house on fire.

We have had a MFF before , with set boundaries where I didn’t actually have full sex with the girl but we had a great night.

Now on many occasions whilst having d*unken sex she has made mentions of a MFM etc while in the moment and then back tracked about it the next day.

So recently while having kinky foreplay I asked her outright and said I feel she feels she would be slut shamed for admitting it etc and she said yea it is her ultimate fantasy but she can only imagine doing it with 2 of me , obv this is not possible she said but that’s the way she sees the fantasy but can’t imagine it being someone else.

I am all for having a MFM and want her to experience her ultimate fantasy it massively turns me on and don’t have any issues with it , how would I best reassure her that I support it and get the ball rolling.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Make a couples profile and let her see some options.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We had a couples profile , had a great night on it chatting over some wines and got really turned on but then next day think she felt embarrassed and deleted

I feel like we are both dying to do the same thing but no one’s making that move and I don’t want to pressure but she’s said outright haha

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By *Carver-Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We had a couples profile , had a great night on it chatting over some wines and got really turned on but then next day think she felt embarrassed and deleted

I feel like we are both dying to do the same thing but no one’s making that move and I don’t want to pressure but she’s said outright haha"

I think at this point you've both shared your desires, and for the moment she wants to indulge purely as a fantasy. Respecting this boundary is only going to improve your sex life, because she'll see that she can trust you to be open-minded without getting carried away. And who knows, if that's the case she may feel more confident down the line to revisit it.

I would say for the moment to find out whether she'd like to incorporate written or audio erotica into your foreplay that describes mfm encounters. What do you think?

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

It's baby steps and only if your both 100% comfortable & committed albeitvm nervous into taking any next steps as a couple.. but that can't really evolve organically without a couples profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So hear me out !

Myself and my GF have a great relationship - sex is hot , we get on like a house on fire.

We have had a MFF before , with set boundaries where I didn’t actually have full sex with the girl but we had a great night.

Now on many occasions whilst having d*unken sex she has made mentions of a MFM etc while in the moment and then back tracked about it the next day.

So recently while having kinky foreplay I asked her outright and said I feel she feels she would be slut shamed for admitting it etc and she said yea it is her ultimate fantasy but she can only imagine doing it with 2 of me , obv this is not possible she said but that’s the way she sees the fantasy but can’t imagine it being someone else.

I am all for having a MFM and want her to experience her ultimate fantasy it massively turns me on and don’t have any issues with it , how would I best reassure her that I support it and get the ball rolling."

Take your time, its obviously been on her mind as it has been on yours but yeah warning.

I've meet couples where the hubby was into it more than his woman or visa versa but not cause I was the 3rd, the one not into it, did it because the partner wanted too and as a single guy, it's usually easy to see, which I have then took a step back.

It's no big deal if you both never play with anyone else apart from each other but you've both dipped your toes and eventually one might reach their level of interest but you never know.

Wishing you both well on your fab adventure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was with my ex the sex was mind blowing and all I wanted was 2 of him. Honestly couldn't get enough. That craving doesn't really go away. It's possible that's she's just pretending to be shy. I'd keep talking about it in the heat of the moment and occasionally ask her outright if she wants that. I think she'll eventually just ask you. Also now and again just mention that you're fine with the idea and you'd like it to happen. You could also just say that you'll arrange it and see what her reaction is. Sometimes people just want things to happen without the actually thinking about it

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By *leasure domMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You could watch some MFM porn together and see how horny it makes her.

Or arrange for a guy to give her a massage and you watch/join in to give her a 4-hands massage.

Or, as your profile status is bicurious and she presumably knows that, arrange to meet a guy for fun with her watching and see if it turns her on.

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By *ittleMizzNaughty88.Woman
over a year ago

Renfrewshire


"We had a couples profile , had a great night on it chatting over some wines and got really turned on but then next day think she felt embarrassed and deleted

I feel like we are both dying to do the same thing but no one’s making that move and I don’t want to pressure but she’s said outright haha"

Maybe it's just a fantasy rather than a reality. If she can delete the profile after one night chatting & felt embarrassed by it.

I'd tread carefully. I'd do a couple profile again & take it slowly.

When & if she decides to go for it have a chat about boundaries etc.

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By *lam granWoman
over a year ago

falkirk

The wanting two of you comment makes perfect sense if your sex life is as good as you suggest. It can be tempting to think you can build on this and make things even better but your gf is obviously worried or has concerns at the back of her mind that involving another guy would change things forever. Once that genie is out the bottle you can't get it back in.

You've had good advice here. Be open, honest and ultimately leave it with her to mull over. In the meantime, ask yourself how you would feel if you saw a completely different side of your Mrs when she was fucking a different guy. Making different noises, acting like a different person. (Possibly best to do this AFTER you've cracked one off so it's not the horn talking!)

Some guys are able to see this purely in the moment and not feel intimidated or bothered by it. For others it turns what should have been a mind blowing experience into a massive regret and something with the potential to ruin what was a perfectly good relationship.

They say you should never meet your heroes as they never live up to your expectations. Sometimes sexual fantasies are the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some great advise thank you all much appreciated

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By *Carver-Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"The wanting two of you comment makes perfect sense if your sex life is as good as you suggest. It can be tempting to think you can build on this and make things even better but your gf is obviously worried or has concerns at the back of her mind that involving another guy would change things forever. Once that genie is out the bottle you can't get it back in.

You've had good advice here. Be open, honest and ultimately leave it with her to mull over. In the meantime, ask yourself how you would feel if you saw a completely different side of your Mrs when she was fucking a different guy. Making different noises, acting like a different person. (Possibly best to do this AFTER you've cracked one off so it's not the horn talking!)

Some guys are able to see this purely in the moment and not feel intimidated or bothered by it. For others it turns what should have been a mind blowing experience into a massive regret and something with the potential to ruin what was a perfectly good relationship.

They say you should never meet your heroes as they never live up to your expectations. Sometimes sexual fantasies are the same."

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By *ibliosWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Agree with a lot of what's been said. It sounds like these conversations have only been had when d*unk and / or horny - have you sat down and really talked it through in the cold light if day? I would say it's much better to have an open and honest conversation than doing (well intentioned) things to 'help' if - as has been observed before - it's purely a passing, heat of the moment fantasy than something she'd actually be interested in exploring (or ending up with her feeling even mildly pressured to do so).

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By *halynmCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Patience is key - talk about all the things you would both like to do just don’t let it dominate all the conversations and over time you will explore more together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me that your partners still in the fantasy stage of this ,pushing her into it might not be so beneficial ,maybe try having the conversation when the horny heids no oan and see what happens , what may seem like a good idea when your horny may feel totally different in the cold light of day , I'd say enjoy the amazing sex you both are having by yourself at the moment as it seems that step of introducing someone new into the mix is not ready to be taken x

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride

Have you considered trying a soft swing with another couple and see if that breaks the ice ?

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By *eg2509Woman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Hey, why don’t you suggest going to a club night and exploring what that is all about. Let her see what goes on in the open rooms. Also speak to others on the scene, see what she thinks.


"So hear me out !

Myself and my GF have a great relationship - sex is hot , we get on like a house on fire.

We have had a MFF before , with set boundaries where I didn’t actually have full sex with the girl but we had a great night.

Now on many occasions whilst having d*unken sex she has made mentions of a MFM etc while in the moment and then back tracked about it the next day.

So recently while having kinky foreplay I asked her outright and said I feel she feels she would be slut shamed for admitting it etc and she said yea it is her ultimate fantasy but she can only imagine doing it with 2 of me , obv this is not possible she said but that’s the way she sees the fantasy but can’t imagine it being someone else.

I am all for having a MFM and want her to experience her ultimate fantasy it massively turns me on and don’t have any issues with it , how would I best reassure her that I support it and get the ball rolling."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So hear me out !

Myself and my GF have a great relationship - sex is hot , we get on like a house on fire.

We have had a MFF before , with set boundaries where I didn’t actually have full sex with the girl but we had a great night.

Now on many occasions whilst having d*unken sex she has made mentions of a MFM etc while in the moment and then back tracked about it the next day.

So recently while having kinky foreplay I asked her outright and said I feel she feels she would be slut shamed for admitting it etc and she said yea it is her ultimate fantasy but she can only imagine doing it with 2 of me , obv this is not possible she said but that’s the way she sees the fantasy but can’t imagine it being someone else.

I am all for having a MFM and want her to experience her ultimate fantasy it massively turns me on and don’t have any issues with it , how would I best reassure her that I support it and get the ball rolling."

It's all about having fun, if your letting her have the fun and joining in then where does the slut part come into it?

Best thing we ever done was open up to full swaps etc and never has the wife thought she was a slut, just a woman who enjoys experiences with her hubby

Just you reassure her that everything will be fine and if she doesn't like it once it's happened then don't need to do It again

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