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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

only been here a couple of months and its been a steep old learning curve

Here is my advice to newbies , i hope you seasoned campaigners can jump in and give a help in hand .........

1. Info , get it on your profile, the more the better as it will narrow down who contacts you thus noones time is being wasted .

2. Pics - get a few up , they can be discrete as you like , but something is better than nothing , if you want to hide your face you can and only send it when a trust is built up

3. Forum and chat- use them , get to know folks rather than endless messages

4. Respect - if you dont fit the bill dont message folks on the off chance , respect folks wishes and they will repect yours

5. Socials - if you can get along to one , go mingle ( missed the boat myself on the xmas one )

6. Verified - if you cant get someone to verify you get pic verified as a minimum

7. messages - 'lets fuck' aint gonna do it , be repectful, polite and honest

8. Fun - have fun , and dont take the hump if your not someones cuppa tea , everyone has different tastes and you cant win them all

9. Patience - you really need to be , it aint gonna happen in 5 minutes

10. Genuine - be yourself , not some cyber sex god , folks are only gonna be let down

Anything i have missed ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

11. Cookies. Always offer cookies. And ice-cream perhaps.

Seriously though, i reckon it's all about respect, having your head screwed on, and remembering that there is always a person behind a profile.

And reading profiles. Properly. And taking heed of 'em. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

keith heads to costco for a jumbo bag of cookies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sound advice duo.

As long as they actually read the profiles and heed what they say, makes it easier and more comfortable if everyone has something worth reading too, not just a couple of words. I.E not playing at the header if they are not etc. xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice. Espec number 7. Had a few of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice. Espec number 7. Had a few of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These "lets fuck" messages don't work? That's why there's no reply's

Some pretty good advice, it's a shame noone really pays attention (speaking from experience). I learned the hard & long way what this site/lifestyle is about and everything said above is a great starting point!

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

clydebank


"These "lets fuck" messages don't work? That's why there's no reply's

Some pretty good advice, it's a shame noone really pays attention (speaking from experience). I learned the hard & long way what this site/lifestyle is about and everything said above is a great starting point!"

will PLEASE in front of LETS FUCK work then lol BRENNIE xxxxxxxx

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By *issCognitoWoman
over a year ago

secret location near glasgow


"These "lets fuck" messages don't work? That's why there's no reply's

Some pretty good advice, it's a shame noone really pays attention (speaking from experience). I learned the hard & long way what this site/lifestyle is about and everything said above is a great starting point!

will PLEASE in front of LETS FUCK work then lol BRENNIE xxxxxxxx"

Works wae me

I jest I jest x

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Loch Lomond


"These "lets fuck" messages don't work? That's why there's no reply's

Some pretty good advice, it's a shame noone really pays attention (speaking from experience). I learned the hard & long way what this site/lifestyle is about and everything said above is a great starting point!

will PLEASE in front of LETS FUCK work then lol BRENNIE xxxxxxxx

Works wae me

I jest I jest x"

Grr ....Well That's my wan-liner oot the winda then

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By *issCognitoWoman
over a year ago

secret location near glasgow


"These "lets fuck" messages don't work? That's why there's no reply's

Some pretty good advice, it's a shame noone really pays attention (speaking from experience). I learned the hard & long way what this site/lifestyle is about and everything said above is a great starting point!

will PLEASE in front of LETS FUCK work then lol BRENNIE xxxxxxxx

Works wae me

I jest I jest x

Grr ....Well That's my wan-liner oot the winda then "

U kno you don't need a one liner with me babe..

U had me @ hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These "lets fuck" messages don't work? That's why there's no reply's

Some pretty good advice, it's a shame noone really pays attention (speaking from experience). I learned the hard & long way what this site/lifestyle is about and everything said above is a great starting point!

will PLEASE in front of LETS FUCK work then lol BRENNIE xxxxxxxx"

Yip, always with my pleases and thankyous

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Loch Lomond

As i'm not allowed to post links I trawled for this post. Not taking any credit for it as it's a post by View..

hope it helps!

_____________________________________________

my advice is......

chat in the room and get to know folks

say hi to all ..... and chat away and get to know folks....

dont hit on every couple or fem the sec they come in.....

dont expect sex within 20 mins.... yu might get some but unlikely...

be different..... stand out in someway

there are hundreds of single guys ..... so be different....

have pics ..... and not cock only ..... many dont like cock pics..... and a guy in pants is attractive lol .. trust me I look at em

be uber respectful to ladies..... treat them as such and not pieces of meat....

I watch everyday when lovely ladies on cam and the faceless wankers come in. and hassle them in whispers.. ask to whisper it is polite to do so....

if a lady is 'new' on the site...... dinna pounce like a pack of baying wolves.... welcome her to the site and let her settle in...... ffs, how scary can it be to have 20+ whispers for sex within a few mins of first entering. the room..

go to socials, lunches and meet folks socially....... they are ideal to get to be known ......

I personally dont write to couples/fems asking for meets .....

having been part of a couple on here, its a volume game with some guys.... they hit every new couple/fem wi same mail content, read every profile, digest information..... write message tailored around what couples/fems are looking for ( not what yu want) ....

and if they say no single guys.... ffs dont write to them .....

dont have a chip on yur shoulder as a single guy...... there are couples looking for single guys out there....

I watch one guy every day ....

he says 'hi , then yu have mail x'.....

then moves to next couple and says 'hi, then yu have mail x 'and guess what.... he moves to next couple and says 'hi..... lol .... yu have mail' x gives a desperate impression and disrectful in the extreme ....

.... expect to travel to meet folks.. many guys expect the fems/couples to travel to them... one guy asked mrs view and i to drive to largs from forfar, we had to book a hotel, and he would pop roond for an hour.... 350 miles and hotel cost for us.... and he didna even have a 14inch cock lol ...........

dinna strop if yu dont get a reply...... it goes with the territory..... some will reply others wont.... let it go....

be honest on yur profile.... if yu married, say it ...... folks meet married guys..... again honesty is best policy ....

but most of all........

be nice...

honest.......

respectful to all.......

if yu make a mistake...... apologise

have a laugh......

speak today for a possible meet next week ..... no the next 20 mins cause you passing the end of the road lol and its yur lunchtime ......

I wish you well.......... I am a player and I know it and am honest about it .... and this life is great ... when you go into with your eyes open ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol lol gadge..... cheers dude.

the reason I deleted my profile last month was to have this thread vanish. I had asked for it to be removed several times but it never was.

for the following reasons..

its too patronising to some.

it causes me too much grief.

but the most important... I dinna believe in most of the shite I wrote on it any longer.

yu now owe me a pint the morra night dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aw damn. I feel left out. Never had a 'wanna fuck' message! Wouldnt answer it but feel inadequate now! Need a change of pic i think. Lol! Tehe

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Loch Lomond


"lol lol gadge..... cheers dude.

the reason I deleted my profile last month was to have this thread vanish. I had asked for it to be removed several times but it never was.

for the following reasons..

its too patronising to some.

it causes me too much grief.

but the most important... I dinna believe in most of the shite I wrote on it any longer.

yu now owe me a pint the morra night dude "

Sorry View .... I had no idea.

Pint it is M8

Speak to you t'nite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stella Gadge lol

cya tonight dude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh hell..garys on stella tonight

lol

cya tonight babe xx

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh hell..garys on stella tonight

lol

cya tonight babe xx

auds xx"

yup ....... xxxxx

is jase scared yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just bumping this up for scufflebum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice wish we would have looked at this post weeks ago whaen we 1st started.......

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