FabSwingers.com forum: An old timer

By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

So I have been on here for more years than I care to mention (since 2006). But recently I have found connecting and meeting people to be much harder than I have historically.

I mean perhaps it’s just because I am not a 20 odd year old stallion anymore.

But it would be great to make some like minded pals. So please say hello.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
50 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"So I have been on here for more years than I care to mention (since 2006). But recently I have found connecting and meeting people to be much harder than I have historically.

I mean perhaps it’s just because I am not a 20 odd year old stallion anymore.

But it would be great to make some like minded pals. So please say hello. "
Hello always happy to chat lol

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By *aliskerWoman
50 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Damn, now I feel bad for not chatting to you more. Maybe I’ll fix that soon.

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By *redwilma666Couple
50 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

"So I have been on here for more years than I care to mention (since 2006). But recently I have found connecting and meeting people to be much harder than I have historically.

I mean perhaps it’s just because I am not a 20 odd year old stallion anymore.

But it would be great to make some like minded pals. So please say hello. "

Sorry you are still a pup, we began swinging in 1989 & Fred is now 67. However we can sympathise with this thought

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By *ettercallsaul118Man
50 weeks ago

Funtown

"So I have been on here for more years than I care to mention (since 2006). But recently I have found connecting and meeting people to be much harder than I have historically.

I mean perhaps it’s just because I am not a 20 odd year old stallion anymore.

But it would be great to make some like minded pals. So please say hello. "

I was the same until I recently went to my fist social . Should get yourself along to one. Always happy to chat .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

Thanks for the responses! I am not looking for sympathy. Just people who empathise with the message.

I am a confident and outgoing guy, so perhaps the socials is a way to go. Thanks.

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By *inky-girl-for-useWoman
50 weeks ago

Ayrshire/glasgow

I definitely find it harder to chat and have a connection on here recently. I honestly think that’s because of the amount of “spam” messages all girls and couples receive from the guys that can’t seem to grasp that this is a swingers site! If I have a have a spare hour to chat I will, but I can come back on and there’s 30-40 messages that are either from the other end of the country/staying in a hotel nearby or just message to say they want to meet me right now

By the time I go through the nonsense I’ve gotten distracted and come off the site and it’s a constant cycle so I genuinely lose track of who I’ve been speaking to

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Fab has definitely changed over the years, socials and clubs seem to be the easier way to meet now.

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By *inky-girl-for-useWoman
50 weeks ago

Ayrshire/glasgow

"Fab has definitely changed over the years, socials and clubs seem to be the easier way to meet now."

Totally agree and I definitely prefer meeting people face to face!

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"So I have been on here for more years than I care to mention (since 2006). But recently I have found connecting and meeting people to be much harder than I have historically.

I mean perhaps it’s just because I am not a 20 odd year old stallion anymore.

But it would be great to make some like minded pals. So please say hello. "

Jings man you’re still young but I get where you’re coming from. Socials and the club events, youl be surprised how welcoming everyone is and how much of a laugh youl have. All the best

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By *nythingman69Man
50 weeks ago

johnstone

I’m finding the exact same issue. I’ve been on here for many many years. Back in the day it seemed more genuine and direct to meet people. I think nowadays the site is flooded with introverts that masquerade as extroverts and don’t have the intention and guts to meet up in real life.

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By *ellinever70Woman
50 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"I’m finding the exact same issue. I’ve been on here for many many years. Back in the day it seemed more genuine and direct to meet people. I think nowadays the site is flooded with introverts that masquerade as extroverts and don’t have the intention and guts to meet up in real life. "

Or maybe, now that you're a bit older, the women you're hoping to meet just don't want to meet on your terms

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I also have been on and off of here since the begining. There was a prevoous site that cost £25 per year and I met much more people on there. As this one is free it has a much bigger population so the couples and ladies cant keep up. I met a couple for a drink last night and they also said Socials and clubs was the way to go.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
50 weeks ago

Dundee

I've been here for about 11 years and there has been an influx of the 'meet now?' brigade over that time. So there's a lot of sorting the wheat from the chaff which can be tiresome and time consuming.

Age possibly plays a part - I'm not 33 any more and I don't get as many messages as I used to. Last week and over the weekend I had a status up about being free for a social this week and didn't get one message about it.

I do go to socials and clubs and while I can get chatting with people nothing is coming of it at the moment, so I'm just looking at them as social opportunities for the time being and I've met some lovely people.

This site definitely has peaks and troughs but it is harder now than it used to be.

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By *ambo.420Man
50 weeks ago

castlemilk

I've been on and off for a few years now and feel the exact same, I'm a talker so love the whole getting to know them part I find more and more people know about the site these days and are just on it for a nosey rather than to actually meet

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

It’s changed a lot over the years. Socials and clubs are definitely the way to find a connection x

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By *ambo.420Man
50 weeks ago

castlemilk

Right so clubs and socials seem to be the way foward but single male who's never been what's the best way to go about it would feel so awkward going alone

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By *assy LassieWoman
50 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Right so clubs and socials seem to be the way foward but single male who's never been what's the best way to go about it would feel so awkward going alone "

Keep an eye on the forums or events section. Message the organisers when they advertise their social. Be willing to pay a nominal amount to secure your place and turn up!

Going alone shouldn't be awkward a good host will introduce you to others if you don't know anyone going.

Clubs - contact direct and book in

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By *aucySue52Woman
50 weeks ago

glasgow

I think since covid and the lockdowns, it has definitely changed it doesn’t seem to be for those who are “genuine “ and “swingers “ one man off here said to me well it’s a “sex” site which it isn’t to me .

I said it’s called fab “swingers “ not fab “sex”

It’s very frustrating for someone who’s genuinely into the lifestyle but don’t know what the way forward is .

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By *agnar73Man
50 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

I’d love to go to clubs but the one time/day I can make.. well, it was full for single guys weeks ago..

It is what it is and try again maybe next month.

Also seems a bit scary as everyone knows everyone sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Been on and off through the years between relationships.

Perhaps a daily message limit on the amount of people you can contact would help ? Not the messages themselves as I think there is already a limit on that, but the amount of different people single males can contact.

I don't know how it could be set up, but for example say 5. If someone contacts them first that wouldn't count on their quota.

That would certainly cut down on the pre-typed multi-send messages or the 'hi, how are you today' messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Fab has definitely changed over the years, socials and clubs seem to be the easier way to meet now.

Totally agree and I definitely prefer meeting people face to face!

This

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By *ambo.420Man
50 weeks ago

castlemilk

Always just worries me because you see alot of the same people all talking to each other and talking about the clubs so as a newcomer to that side I get awkward lol

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Always just worries me because you see alot of the same people all talking to each other and talking about the clubs so as a newcomer to that side I get awkward lol "

I went to a Glasgow one and didn't know anyone back in October. Not everyone knows everyone. As long as your chatty and treat it as a social I'm sure you'll be fine.

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By *ambo.420Man
50 weeks ago

castlemilk

Yeah I'm definitely trying it guess it's just a confidence thing tbh and over thinking it

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Hopefully this is interpreted the way it is intended.

I'm a bit confused here.

Your only 41 and say you are outgoing but your finding it hard connecting and meeting people.

The only problem you will have on fab is when you reach over 50 as your then outside of most age ranges.

I'm outgoing and open and it is harder as you get older but its really up to you to sort it. I'm 54, single and have a great social and private life but its because I put myself out there and chat.

Fab is a fantastic place to meet people and to be honest there shouldn't be any excuses.

The socials are amazing, just find out on here who is organizing each one and once going to a social then you will hopefully connect with people and then you maybe end up going with those people in the future to other parties etc...

Big socials are in Glasgow, Edinburgh, Dundee, Aberdeen, Ayrshire, always easy to find out who is arranging them. The latest one being arranged is a silent disco.

Best bet, get along to a big social and take it from there, everyone is welcomed and really made to feel welcome.

You also have the clubs, like Cjs and After dark etc.., been, but not for me so don't intend to be back but a high proportion enjoy it so that's another option for you. One thing I will say about the clubs, they do make you feel welcome

I hope this is a turning point for you and hopefully get in touch with the right people and feel more like your old self with no looking back

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By *orl1971Couple
50 weeks ago

Glasgow

Maybe as you’ve got older what you are looking for has changed. Sometimes we get a bit pickier as we get older as well as our options narrowing.

As people say clubs and socials are good.

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By *ink and CurvesWoman
50 weeks ago

glasgow

I have to say that since turning 40, my fab experience has been better than ever!

Perhaps that’s more down to my own state of mind and confidence rather than anything else.

But I definitely don’t think age is a hindrance!

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By *razer0779Man
50 weeks ago

paisley

If it’s any consolation, I’ve been on here for over a year and still not had a meet with a woman , have sent plenty of nice messages and always been pleasant, but I’m lucky if I even get a message back , usually just ignored or deleted and blocked.

Get lots of messages from guys every day that pester me to meet but women or couples only for me lol

Seems to be if your not meet verified it’s almost impossible to meet , but if no one meets how can you get verified lol

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"So I have been on here for more years than I care to mention (since 2006). But recently I have found connecting and meeting people to be much harder than I have historically.

I mean perhaps it’s just because I am not a 20 odd year old stallion anymore.

But it would be great to make some like minded pals. So please say hello. "
Anytime u fancy a pint with us both on tbe Ayrshire Riviera just pop a message .

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Never even heard of Fab until a friend told me about it a few months ago. Definitely a different place to what he described but he was on it years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Never even heard of Fab until a friend told me about it a few months ago. Definitely a different place to what he described but he was on it years ago. "
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Heaps off lovely people on it mate ' but u need to have a good think about ur life style . Are u an out going Male at 50+ or are u now getting more introverted than Extroverted .site only suits what you want out off it . In our Opinion

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By *onlywishiMan
50 weeks ago

Newcastle

"If it’s any consolation, I’ve been on here for over a year and still not had a meet with a woman , have sent plenty of nice messages and always been pleasant, but I’m lucky if I even get a message back , usually just ignored or deleted and blocked.

Get lots of messages from guys every day that pester me to meet but women or couples only for me lol

Seems to be if your not meet verified it’s almost impossible to meet , but if no one meets how can you get verified lol "

Don’t worry about that I’ve had one meet and a couple of socials for a drink

Like most have said get along to the social gatherings and go with the mindset of having a good chat nothing else and you’ll have a great time

The site has changed by guys thinking it’s a sex site where you say hi and you get sex straight away ? But it’s not that and there is the reason that lots prefer social get togethers or going to clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Never even heard of Fab until a friend told me about it a few months ago. Definitely a different place to what he described but he was on it years ago. .

I have spoke to some decent people and some strange ones, I’m sure people could say the same about me. I’m on fab due to life changing things in my life and I’m just wanting to chat even meet people who are on Fab with similar interests to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

"So I have been on here for more years than I care to mention (since 2006). But recently I have found connecting and meeting people to be much harder than I have historically.

I mean perhaps it’s just because I am not a 20 odd year old stallion anymore.

But it would be great to make some like minded pals. So please say hello. Anytime u fancy a pint with us both on tbe Ayrshire Riviera just pop a message .

i will take you up on that. I was in Paisley last night for Belle and Sebastian, it was a great night out. I think i might start touring the satelite towns of Glasgow!

Happy to host a pint in the west end of glasgow too

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"So I have been on here for more years than I care to mention (since 2006). But recently I have found connecting and meeting people to be much harder than I have historically.

I mean perhaps it’s just because I am not a 20 odd year old stallion anymore.

But it would be great to make some like minded pals. So please say hello. Anytime u fancy a pint with us both on tbe Ayrshire Riviera just pop a message .

i will take you up on that. I was in Paisley last night for Belle and Sebastian, it was a great night out. I think i might start touring the satelite towns of Glasgow!

Happy to host a pint in the west end of glasgow too "

You're a leader, not a follower - how about arranging a social somewhere you like? Anyone would be lucky to get to know you, btw. x

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By *atureMale321Man
50 weeks ago

Moray

I think it has changed and the older you get the harder it gets, no pun intended, i contact my age group with similar interests but i think tbe ladies boxes are pretty full

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By *loriouscurvesWoman
49 weeks ago

wild west lothian

Maybe come through to one of PinkandLittleMiss’ socials in Edinburgh

They are really good at getting everyone to mix and you get to speak to loads of folk

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By *agnar73Man
49 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Maybe come through to one of PinkandLittleMiss’ socials in Edinburgh

They are really good at getting everyone to mix and you get to speak to loads of folk

Are they usually evenings ?

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By *loriouscurvesWoman
49 weeks ago

wild west lothian

"Maybe come through to one of PinkandLittleMiss’ socials in Edinburgh

They are really good at getting everyone to mix and you get to speak to loads of folk

Are they usually evenings ?"

Yes they are I went to the Sept one that started about 6 I think

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By *alcon43Woman
49 weeks ago

Paisley

I usually do a Sunday afternoon coffee social but I’m not free on a Sunday for the rest of the year. There’s usually a few of us meet up regularly.

I also do a pub quiz social and there’s two left for this year.

Socials and clubs are easier as age isn’t important as meeting in person you aren’t relying on a profile.

Can I also suggest just a pic of you in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
49 weeks ago

"Maybe come through to one of PinkandLittleMiss’ socials in Edinburgh

They are really good at getting everyone to mix and you get to speak to loads of folk

let me know when the next one is please? Xxx

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