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Profile pic's not a great start! Try torso pic's or something like shirt open tie round neck. Just in my opinion.  | |||
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys! Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks! Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message. I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner?? Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows! " | |||
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys! Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks! Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message. I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner?? Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows! "firstly I’d sort out a proper profile photo it doesn’t have to be of your face . Most won’t reply if they don’t have a slight idea of you look like even by a body pic I’ve never understood why guys need to be told no in an email surely a no reply would register that they are not interested in conversing with you . I’d say read their profile and only mail if they match what you are looking for. Good luck ! | |||
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys! Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks! Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message. I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner?? Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows! "Can you imagine the amount of time the recipient would need to take to reply to every single message even to say no thanks? If everyone thinks like you then that could be upto 10/20 messages per hour or so(depending how popular the person is) the recipient would have to reply to | |||
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"These posts are like Groundhog Day man. All you have to do is do a quick search for women seeking men within 5 miles of you, then do the same for men seeking women and you will see the difference in member results are tenfold if not more for the men. Now think of a fraction of those guys sending out messages…women’s inboxes (and couples) can be utterly horrific with messages. They can’t reply to them all, just not possible. Your profile is what I’d refer to as a ‘shanner’. You’re starting it off with a demand, you’re talking utter testicles about being unable to share any photos (not even an headless smartly clothed body shot) and you have a photo up of Kermit and Mrs piggy. Cmon man. So without knowing what on earth you will be messaging, you are being overlooked because you are 49, can’t accommodate, you’re body shaming in your profile that’s starts off with a demand to be read and you’re using kids entertainment characters as a photo to represent yourself." Give that man a round of applause  | |||
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys! Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks! Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message. I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner?? Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows! "Every time I see a post like this I wonder 'have you not read the FAQs?' as it clearly states there that no one is entitled to a reply. It seems that very few people have read them. | |||
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys! Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks! Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message. I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner?? Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows! "Do you reply to junk emails? I don't get lots of typical messages probs cause I have a bare profile but I'm also not looking for messages like yourself. (I'm meeting people via social events atm). But I'll not reply if I don't want to. If I like the look of a profile I will. It's kinda that simple. Why do you want someone to respond that isn't interested? | |||
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"Thanks everyone…. All good advice taken on board! Sometimes you need the obvious poked in your face to realise… what a stupid question in the first place! "I see you’ve taken some points on board via your profile bio apart from you still expect a reply to your emails . As myself an some others have said if you do not get a reply to your message then move on to the next profile because no one owes you a reply . Again why do you need to be told in an email that people arnt interested in you surely the no reply would tell you that !? | |||
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"Plenty of females reply to single males. Remember no reply is a reply. " This 
Just remember that those who have taken the time to write a genuine undemanding message actually based on the females people are more like to get a reply! I tend to not bother with unverified and blank profiles because of the amount of time wasters who have no intention of ever meeting
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"I’m back on again. New profile so comments welcome. Female friend pointed out that no matter how good your profile is it’s all about numbers and ratio of men to women. If I don’t get a reply hey ho. I really appreciate members who give a polite no thanks as I know this can often insight an invective response so I’ll always reply back politely thanking them for their reply. It’s a funny old world and fab is even stranger " It's more about if they fancy something about you. Be that pics or profile info. It's not all about the numbers. There could be 10 guys on fab. If I don't fancy them I don't fancy them. Not very many women will go with the best of a bad bunch scenario! | |||
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"I’m back on again. New profile so comments welcome. Female friend pointed out that no matter how good your profile is it’s all about numbers and ratio of men to women. If I don’t get a reply hey ho. I really appreciate members who give a polite no thanks as I know this can often insight an invective response so I’ll always reply back politely thanking them for their reply. It’s a funny old world and fab is even stranger It's more about if they fancy something about you. Be that pics or profile info. It's not all about the numbers. There could be 10 guys on fab. If I don't fancy them I don't fancy them. Not very many women will go with the best of a bad bunch scenario! " Point taken. I’ve often wondered just what the ratios are ? | |||
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"I’m back on again. New profile so comments welcome. Female friend pointed out that no matter how good your profile is it’s all about numbers and ratio of men to women. If I don’t get a reply hey ho. I really appreciate members who give a polite no thanks as I know this can often insight an invective response so I’ll always reply back politely thanking them for their reply. It’s a funny old world and fab is even stranger " Everyone has different tastes and preferences too. It's impossible to appeal to everyone that you message. Best advice is to move on to the next profile and see if you're what they're looking for. | |||
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"It can be very annoying though, especially when u meet the criteria in someones profile, so these things work both ways. If I didn't match someone's interests then I wouldn't msg them. But see when u do meet them and u send them a nice msg with ur face picture and it gets deleted straight away ... well that's really disheartening lol! A simple no thanks is sufficient. I have been told that folk think my profile is fake which I don't really know how to take except maybe as a compliment" Meeting someone's criteria doesn't mean they'll fancy you | |||
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"Does anyone actually reply to single guys! Yes Apart from the statutory…. thanks but no thanks! Yes there are other responses Obvious issue being I work in a position where it involves young people so cannot take the chance of a profile face pic, no one wants dick pics but always state in my messages… I have no issue sharing in a private message. You realise that private messages are only private until you hit the send button? I just think if you take the time to write a proper message and not the regular single guy type message…. Is it not common courtesy to maybe reply in the same polite manner? How do you know your message is any diffrent to another regular single guy type? Common courtesy would imo be realising you control your actions and not anybody else's it would save you angst over your perception of what should happen Or just over thinking and expecting too much? Who knows! Over thinking and expecting to much chill and go with the flow instead of beating yourself up over someone else's actions " you been takening a short break as no seen u in forum for a long time | |||
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"Wow .. yet another post about the same issues. It really isn't the place for single guys, average Joe or those with 'dad bods' or even good looking guys with tons of personality but just want to remain discrete for hundreds of possible reasons " Going to have to disagree here. I’d say im very average in the looks dept but I am more gym fit on the body yet I get negative comments a lot. Some say I look stuck up and others say they don’t like posers, which both don’t describe me at all. Guys with the ‘dad bods’ don’t get comments like that and I’d say are more successful on fab rather than guys that are gym fit or have abs popping out like a perverts pupils. It’s more about how you converse and carry yourself online. Seriously that’s the key to opening a form of online communication. | |||
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. " If only that last segment were true... Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so. | |||
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. If only that last segment were true... Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so." Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' | |||
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"Wow .. yet another post about the same issues. It really isn't the place for single guys, average Joe or those with 'dad bods' or even good looking guys with tons of personality but just want to remain discrete for hundreds of possible reasons Going to have to disagree here. I’d say im very average in the looks dept but I am more gym fit on the body yet I get negative comments a lot. Some say I look stuck up and others say they don’t like posers, which both don’t describe me at all. Guys with the ‘dad bods’ don’t get comments like that and I’d say are more successful on fab rather than guys that are gym fit or have abs popping out like a perverts pupils. It’s more about how you converse and carry yourself online. Seriously that’s the key to opening a form of online communication. " Disagree? :-/.. you are kind of agreeing tbh.. distinct white knightish comment..  | |||
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. If only that last segment were true... Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so. Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' " Ignorant behaviour! 
You seem delightful.
Not rude at all.
It actually is on the site as advice. | |||
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" Disagree? :-/.. you are kind of agreeing tbh.. distinct white knightish comment.. "Well that makes no sense, oh mate you’re agreeing with me but you’re also white knighting. Where do you lot crawl out from because honestly it becomes so tiresome. I disagreed with the thought process that average guys with dad bods don’t get a look in. It’s probably more to do with the thin air between the ears. Howzat for a white knight | |||
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. If only that last segment were true... Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so. Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' " Not at all it’s to help women because a lot of guys (not all) totally disregard what a woman’s profile says. On mine I clearly state I am not seeking new contacts and that, as the site states a non response is a polite no thank you. Yet I still get umpteen messages a day. I do still answer some out of that “politeness” you refer to. Sometimes to a very nice thank you BUT if they had read the profile they would have saved us both time and effort. I don’t use too many filters as sometimes there might be someone who messages re a forum post for example so the non response rule is handy there… this is something I fear will continue to surface periodically… sometimes I think fab should have a very quick questionnaire before allowing full use of the site with a primary question being “what does a non response to your message mean?”  | |||
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. If only that last segment were true... Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so. Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' Ignorant behaviour!
You seem delightful.
Not rude at all.
It actually is on the site as advice. "That's my point exactly... 'fab rule' site says it's ok, so I'll just be ignorant. You can see why guys get fed up. | |||
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. If only that last segment were true... Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so. Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' Ignorant behaviour!
You seem delightful.
Not rude at all.
It actually is on the site as advice.
That's my point exactly... 'fab rule' site says it's ok, so I'll just be ignorant. You can see why guys get fed up. "As do women … | |||
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"You also don't need to just delete, I'm not saying u need to reply as I realise women and couples get loads of msgs but to delete straight away with no response is pretty much saying no thanks. If u have a particular type then put that on ur profile and then maybe u won't get hundreds of msgs. If only that last segment were true... Confused by the first bit though - are you wanting folk to keep your message for posterity, or just in case they fancy a re-read if there's nothing on the telly? As has been said previously, if delete = not interested (as is site etiquette) then you've got your answer just as efficiently as if they typed something back if not more so. Site etiquette ... To be rude and ignorant?! .. is this the 'fab rule' that sanctions ignorant behaviour that women hide behind because its 'site ettiquette' Ignorant behaviour!
You seem delightful.
Not rude at all.
It actually is on the site as advice.
That's my point exactly... 'fab rule' site says it's ok, so I'll just be ignorant. You can see why guys get fed up. "I actually don't get why guys are fed up and stay and complain about it actually. It's bizarre to me! If I wasn't enjoying fab I'd just leave. Thankfully there's some lovley folk on here though.  | |||
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