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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? " Guy code? Not really. It's everyone for themselves  | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? Guy code? Not really. It's everyone for themselves "Watch yersel. Sassy's a headcase. | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? Guy code? Not really. It's everyone for themselves
Watch yersel. Sassy's a headcase. "Aye but she’s the best kind of headcase | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? Guy code? Not really. It's everyone for themselves
Watch yersel. Sassy's a headcase. "Haw you. Girl code! | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? Guy code? Not really. It's everyone for themselves
Watch yersel. Sassy's a headcase.
Aye but she’s the best kind of headcase "Not got my specs on. Thought that was you saying I'm a headcase.  | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. I’d say no Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Again probably not but what do I know, it will be interesting to see what guys say. Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? This is an interesting one, we should all be looking out for each other but had it voiced to me before that women have a “sisterhood”. If that’s true then good in that we ARE the more vulnerable sex here so if we protect each other then good. I’m aware there can be a negative side to anything so know there’s a down too. Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? " I think guys do care about this, of course. There are great guys out there who are kind, caring (sexy as feck) and want good honest sex with someone on their level whether it’s regular or fleeting. There’s that old joke though… women are crazy and men lie but women are crazy because men lie
Meh it’s the battle of the sex’s, we are opposites and that “rub” is what keeps coming back like moths to the flame!!! Long my it burn…
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. I’d say no Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Again probably not but what do I know, it will be interesting to see what guys say. Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? This is an interesting one, we should all be looking out for each other but had it voiced to me before that women have a “sisterhood”. If that’s true then good in that we ARE the more vulnerable sex here so if we protect each other then good. I’m aware there can be a negative side to anything so know there’s a down too. Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? I think guys do care about this, of course. There are great guys out there who are kind, caring (sexy as feck) and want good honest sex with someone on their level whether it’s regular or fleeting. There’s that old joke though… women are crazy and men lie but women are crazy because men lie
Meh it’s the battle of the sex’s, we are opposites and that “rub” is what keeps coming back like moths to the flame!!! Long my it burn…
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. I’d say no Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Again probably not but what do I know, it will be interesting to see what guys say. Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? This is an interesting one, we should all be looking out for each other but had it voiced to me before that women have a “sisterhood”. If that’s true then good in that we ARE the more vulnerable sex here so if we protect each other then good. I’m aware there can be a negative side to anything so know there’s a down too. Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? I think guys do care about this, of course. There are great guys out there who are kind, caring (sexy as feck) and want good honest sex with someone on their level whether it’s regular or fleeting. There’s that old joke though… women are crazy and men lie but women are crazy because men lie
Meh it’s the battle of the sex’s, we are opposites and that “rub” is what keeps coming back like moths to the flame!!! Long my it burn…
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
Bright light… ouch ouch burny burny
Burny burny botanic gardens "Lmfao … YES a bit like that (wee fanny flutters) x | |||
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" Burny burny botanic gardens
Lmfao … YES a bit like that (wee fanny flutters) x"I get them too for that incident and I wasn’t even there | |||
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" Burny burny botanic gardens
Lmfao … YES a bit like that (wee fanny flutters) x
I get them too for that incident and I wasn’t even there "It’s a fave memory sighhhhs | |||
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" Burny burny botanic gardens
Lmfao … YES a bit like that (wee fanny flutters) x
I get them too for that incident and I wasn’t even there
It’s a fave memory sighhhhs "You mean your wank bank! | |||
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" Burny burny botanic gardens
Lmfao … YES a bit like that (wee fanny flutters) x
I get them too for that incident and I wasn’t even there
It’s a fave memory sighhhhs
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"Back to the subject matter, ladies, ffs. Sassy's already confirmed you like a gab. In my experience guys do nothing of the sort, though I imagine it may be different for guys who actually know one-another away from here. It seems more dog-eat-dog than dogs-scratch-one-anothers-belly. " A gab??? You mean meaningful discussion on world events etc
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"I have chatted to a few guys on here from time to time, usually find common ground of being completely ignored lol I must be on the Dinny touch with a barge pole list, either that I'm ugly as fuck lol" I think what you fall foul of is the numbers thing, I.e men heavily outweigh women. The site states a non response should be taken a polite no thanks and that’s for a reason. For most ladies if you do reply with a no thanks then it leads to a ping pong mail of “why not” “what’s wrong with me” “can we just chat” etc. I’ve had several messages tonight despite my profile saying I have all I need. Trying to be polite and respond but its difficult. To those that say use filters, well yes I could but that blocks some nice folk that might just want to reply to forum post privately for example… my default is hidden usually | |||
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"I have chatted to a few guys on here from time to time, usually find common ground of being completely ignored lol I must be on the Dinny touch with a barge pole list, either that I'm ugly as fuck lol I think what you fall foul of is the numbers thing, I.e men heavily outweigh women. The site states a non response should be taken a polite no thanks and that’s for a reason. For most ladies if you do reply with a no thanks then it leads to a ping pong mail of “why not” “what’s wrong with me” “can we just chat” etc. I’ve had several messages tonight despite my profile saying I have all I need. Trying to be polite and respond but its difficult. To those that say use filters, well yes I could but that blocks some nice folk that might just want to reply to forum post privately for example… my default is hidden usually "Doesni stop you sending 5 non-responded messages in a row, though, does it? | |||
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"I have chatted to a few guys on here from time to time, usually find common ground of being completely ignored lol I must be on the Dinny touch with a barge pole list, either that I'm ugly as fuck lol I think what you fall foul of is the numbers thing, I.e men heavily outweigh women. The site states a non response should be taken a polite no thanks and that’s for a reason. For most ladies if you do reply with a no thanks then it leads to a ping pong mail of “why not” “what’s wrong with me” “can we just chat” etc. I’ve had several messages tonight despite my profile saying I have all I need. Trying to be polite and respond but its difficult. To those that say use filters, well yes I could but that blocks some nice folk that might just want to reply to forum post privately for example… my default is hidden usually "Yeah fully understand the no reply no likely and if I do get a no thanks I take it on the chin and say happy fabbing no pointing hounding someone who ain't into you. Can be a bit of a bummer when you are what they describe in their profile and type out a well thought out introduction to get absolute zip back but I get it ladies on here get some amount of messages you all need an admin team to deal lol | |||
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"I have chatted to a few guys on here from time to time, usually find common ground of being completely ignored lol I must be on the Dinny touch with a barge pole list, either that I'm ugly as fuck lol I think what you fall foul of is the numbers thing, I.e men heavily outweigh women. The site states a non response should be taken a polite no thanks and that’s for a reason. For most ladies if you do reply with a no thanks then it leads to a ping pong mail of “why not” “what’s wrong with me” “can we just chat” etc. I’ve had several messages tonight despite my profile saying I have all I need. Trying to be polite and respond but its difficult. To those that say use filters, well yes I could but that blocks some nice folk that might just want to reply to forum post privately for example… my default is hidden usually
Yeah fully understand the no reply no likely and if I do get a no thanks I take it on the chin and say happy fabbing no pointing hounding someone who ain't into you. Can be a bit of a bummer when you are what they describe in their profile and type out a well thought out introduction to get absolute zip back but I get it ladies on here get some amount of messages you all need an admin team to deal lol"Yep it’s not easy but I’m told being patient is worth it | |||
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"I have chatted to a few guys on here from time to time, usually find common ground of being completely ignored lol I must be on the Dinny touch with a barge pole list, either that I'm ugly as fuck lol I think what you fall foul of is the numbers thing, I.e men heavily outweigh women. The site states a non response should be taken a polite no thanks and that’s for a reason. For most ladies if you do reply with a no thanks then it leads to a ping pong mail of “why not” “what’s wrong with me” “can we just chat” etc. I’ve had several messages tonight despite my profile saying I have all I need. Trying to be polite and respond but its difficult. To those that say use filters, well yes I could but that blocks some nice folk that might just want to reply to forum post privately for example… my default is hidden usually
Yeah fully understand the no reply no likely and if I do get a no thanks I take it on the chin and say happy fabbing no pointing hounding someone who ain't into you. Can be a bit of a bummer when you are what they describe in their profile and type out a well thought out introduction to get absolute zip back but I get it ladies on here get some amount of messages you all need an admin team to deal lol"They're all headcases, bud. Lucky escape. | |||
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"I have chatted to a few guys on here from time to time, usually find common ground of being completely ignored lol I must be on the Dinny touch with a barge pole list, either that I'm ugly as fuck lol I think what you fall foul of is the numbers thing, I.e men heavily outweigh women. The site states a non response should be taken a polite no thanks and that’s for a reason. For most ladies if you do reply with a no thanks then it leads to a ping pong mail of “why not” “what’s wrong with me” “can we just chat” etc. I’ve had several messages tonight despite my profile saying I have all I need. Trying to be polite and respond but its difficult. To those that say use filters, well yes I could but that blocks some nice folk that might just want to reply to forum post privately for example… my default is hidden usually
Yeah fully understand the no reply no likely and if I do get a no thanks I take it on the chin and say happy fabbing no pointing hounding someone who ain't into you. Can be a bit of a bummer when you are what they describe in their profile and type out a well thought out introduction to get absolute zip back but I get it ladies on here get some amount of messages you all need an admin team to deal lol
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"I have chatted to a few guys on here from time to time, usually find common ground of being completely ignored lol I must be on the Dinny touch with a barge pole list, either that I'm ugly as fuck lol I think what you fall foul of is the numbers thing, I.e men heavily outweigh women. The site states a non response should be taken a polite no thanks and that’s for a reason. For most ladies if you do reply with a no thanks then it leads to a ping pong mail of “why not” “what’s wrong with me” “can we just chat” etc. I’ve had several messages tonight despite my profile saying I have all I need. Trying to be polite and respond but its difficult. To those that say use filters, well yes I could but that blocks some nice folk that might just want to reply to forum post privately for example… my default is hidden usually
Yeah fully understand the no reply no likely and if I do get a no thanks I take it on the chin and say happy fabbing no pointing hounding someone who ain't into you. Can be a bit of a bummer when you are what they describe in their profile and type out a well thought out introduction to get absolute zip back but I get it ladies on here get some amount of messages you all need an admin team to deal lol
They're all headcases, bud. Lucky escape.
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"I have chatted to a few guys on here from time to time, usually find common ground of being completely ignored lol I must be on the Dinny touch with a barge pole list, either that I'm ugly as fuck lol" your definitely on neither of those lists. lol | |||
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"Guys do not. I always roll my eyes when a guy messages me as I know it’s going to be the offer to experience his mouth or a request to introduce them to someone I know. I have found that guys will do anything to heighten their chances of even just getting a message from a fem. We have all seen spats on the forums in the past where a fem has been blatantly in the wrong, yet there will always be a guy defending/ trying to white knight in the hope he might get to rub his balls in her face. I think the groups that so many women have on various apps are great. Safety is a huge issue and whilst people can fall out, making each other aware of those who are actually abusive or dangerous is really important. I personally wouldn’t trust another single guy on here as far as I could throw him, which isn’t far btw as I’m only a wee guy "I roll my eyes when I woman messages me but usually because it’s a man using a female account .
Unless of course it’s a woman enquiring about a social event. And I think that’s why I like group socials so much, it’s an opportunity to meet genuine people who have similar interests…..and you don’t need to watch what you are saying like you would in Costa.
I’ve built bonds with many women through Fab, some I’m very close to others I can chat easily to when I do encounter them out and about.
We (women) definitely share too much info but I’d say it’s a good thing. Keeps us safe. | |||
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"Guys do not. I always roll my eyes when a guy messages me as I know it’s going to be the offer to experience his mouth or a request to introduce them to someone I know. I have found that guys will do anything to heighten their chances of even just getting a message from a fem. We have all seen spats on the forums in the past where a fem has been blatantly in the wrong, yet there will always be a guy defending/ trying to white knight in the hope he might get to rub his balls in her face. I think the groups that so many women have on various apps are great. Safety is a huge issue and whilst people can fall out, making each other aware of those who are actually abusive or dangerous is really important. I personally wouldn’t trust another single guy on here as far as I could throw him, which isn’t far btw as I’m only a wee guy
I roll my eyes when I woman messages me but usually because it’s a man using a female account .
Unless of course it’s a woman enquiring about a social event. And I think that’s why I like group socials so much, it’s an opportunity to meet genuine people who have similar interests…..and you don’t need to watch what you are saying like you would in Costa.
I’ve built bonds with many women through Fab, some I’m very close to others I can chat easily to when I do encounter them out and about.
We (women) definitely share too much info but I’d say it’s a good thing. Keeps us safe. "What she said. Tho you guys can all breathe a sigh of relief... we very rarely rate your performance. No like we have a big imaginary white board with statistics on who's the shittest shag we have much more important things to discuss normally like scones or alcoholic antics | |||
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"Guys do not. I always roll my eyes when a guy messages me as I know it’s going to be the offer to experience his mouth or a request to introduce them to someone I know. I have found that guys will do anything to heighten their chances of even just getting a message from a fem. We have all seen spats on the forums in the past where a fem has been blatantly in the wrong, yet there will always be a guy defending/ trying to white knight in the hope he might get to rub his balls in her face. I think the groups that so many women have on various apps are great. Safety is a huge issue and whilst people can fall out, making each other aware of those who are actually abusive or dangerous is really important. I personally wouldn’t trust another single guy on here as far as I could throw him, which isn’t far btw as I’m only a wee guy
I roll my eyes when I woman messages me but usually because it’s a man using a female account .
Unless of course it’s a woman enquiring about a social event. And I think that’s why I like group socials so much, it’s an opportunity to meet genuine people who have similar interests…..and you don’t need to watch what you are saying like you would in Costa.
I’ve built bonds with many women through Fab, some I’m very close to others I can chat easily to when I do encounter them out and about.
We (women) definitely share too much info but I’d say it’s a good thing. Keeps us safe.
What she said. Tho you guys can all breathe a sigh of relief... we very rarely rate your performance. No like we have a big imaginary white board with statistics on who's the shittest shag we have much more important things to discuss normally like scones or alcoholic antics "Thank the gods. I wouldn't want other fellas getting jealous | |||
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"Guys do not. I always roll my eyes when a guy messages me as I know it’s going to be the offer to experience his mouth or a request to introduce them to someone I know. I have found that guys will do anything to heighten their chances of even just getting a message from a fem. We have all seen spats on the forums in the past where a fem has been blatantly in the wrong, yet there will always be a guy defending/ trying to white knight in the hope he might get to rub his balls in her face. I think the groups that so many women have on various apps are great. Safety is a huge issue and whilst people can fall out, making each other aware of those who are actually abusive or dangerous is really important. I personally wouldn’t trust another single guy on here as far as I could throw him, which isn’t far btw as I’m only a wee guy
I roll my eyes when I woman messages me but usually because it’s a man using a female account .
Unless of course it’s a woman enquiring about a social event. And I think that’s why I like group socials so much, it’s an opportunity to meet genuine people who have similar interests…..and you don’t need to watch what you are saying like you would in Costa.
I’ve built bonds with many women through Fab, some I’m very close to others I can chat easily to when I do encounter them out and about.
We (women) definitely share too much info but I’d say it’s a good thing. Keeps us safe.
What she said. Tho you guys can all breathe a sigh of relief... we very rarely rate your performance. No like we have a big imaginary white board with statistics on who's the shittest shag we have much more important things to discuss normally like scones or alcoholic antics "Fuck I best get rid of my white board in the spare room then lol xx | |||
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" your definitely on neither of those lists. lol " I wouldn't be so sure xD | |||
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" your definitely on neither of those lists. lol I wouldn't be so sure xD" Haha cheers  | |||
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"We’ve had conversations with people where we have been warned about or encouraged to meet others. In our experience people talk but we would guess when it comes to Fab then 90% of guys are loners and don’t normally engage with other guys. We’ve never met a single woman so don’t really have experience. " Yeah this is what I mean. The single female community defo talk especially when it's warning others about total wrong uns. From experience of talking to guys they seem oblivious to the male community and very much dog eat dog kinda thing. | |||
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"I would look out for and warn anyone if I knew they were possibly getting involved with some boy or girl that was an arsehole, it makes me wonder about the people that wouldn't." Absolutely. It keeps everyone safe. The original post wasn't really about guys chatting on here as strangers. More guys who know other guys on the scene through socials clubs or parties. If you found out someone was a tosser. Either sex. Would you tell your circle of friends. And do guys listen when told this kinda thing or would they still get involved. Obvs not just in a gossip he said she said thing but proper proof etc | |||
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"Iv had some bitchy comments from woman about other women. No need really" There’s no need for that. I feel women should come together and support one another, especially on a scene like swinging/sex site where it’s easy to get carried away with what a guy is telling you and miss potential red flags. I’d rather fix a crown than knock it down. | |||
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"Iv had some bitchy comments from woman about other women. No need really There’s no need for that. I feel women should come together and support one another, especially on a scene like swinging/sex site where it’s easy to get carried away with what a guy is telling you and miss potential red flags. I’d rather fix a crown than knock it down. " It's a fantasy world tho where everyone gets on, we are all only human at the end of the day. The ones that get on with eachother are looked upon as cliches aswell lol | |||
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"Iv had some bitchy comments from woman about other women. No need really There’s no need for that. I feel women should come together and support one another, especially on a scene like swinging/sex site where it’s easy to get carried away with what a guy is telling you and miss potential red flags. I’d rather fix a crown than knock it down. It's a fantasy world tho where everyone gets on, we are all only human at the end of the day. The ones that get on with eachother are looked upon as cliches aswell lol" Not the case. I host and attend fab social gatherings frequently so it’s real life. As you say we are human, we like some people and don’t like others. If you think surrounding myself with people I like makes me part of a click then that’s a you problem not a Gina problem. | |||
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"Iv had some bitchy comments from woman about other women. No need really There’s no need for that. I feel women should come together and support one another, especially on a scene like swinging/sex site where it’s easy to get carried away with what a guy is telling you and miss potential red flags. I’d rather fix a crown than knock it down. It's a fantasy world tho where everyone gets on, we are all only human at the end of the day. The ones that get on with eachother are looked upon as cliches aswell lol Not the case. I host and attend fab social gatherings frequently so it’s real life. As you say we are human, we like some people and don’t like others. If you think surrounding myself with people I like makes me part of a click then that’s a you problem not a Gina problem. " No I wasn't meaning you, I was just generalising.... There's nowt wrong with surrounding yourself with people you get on with, that's what we all do really | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? " Just thankful that pricks do show there true colours and women do look out for women on here, also the guys that look out for women also! | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? Just thankful that pricks do show there true colours and women do look out for women on here, also the guys that look out for women also! "It's a very small world. Smaller than a lot of people think | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? Just thankful that pricks do show there true colours and women do look out for women on here, also the guys that look out for women also! "This, regardless of sex we should all be wary of predators of either sex and support each other. As said before in the thread, no time for idle gossip but keeping each other safe. Yes!!!  | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? Just thankful that pricks do show there true colours and women do look out for women on here, also the guys that look out for women also! "Absolutely | |||
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"Iv had some bitchy comments from woman about other women. No need really There’s no need for that. I feel women should come together and support one another, especially on a scene like swinging/sex site where it’s easy to get carried away with what a guy is telling you and miss potential red flags. I’d rather fix a crown than knock it down. It's a fantasy world tho where everyone gets on, we are all only human at the end of the day. The ones that get on with eachother are looked upon as cliches aswell lol Not the case. I host and attend fab social gatherings frequently so it’s real life. As you say we are human, we like some people and don’t like others. If you think surrounding myself with people I like makes me part of a click then that’s a you problem not a Gina problem. " "never take and eejit with you, you can always pick one up when you get there" - Billy Connolly | |||
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 , that do create a bad experience at times?
Maybe that is very naive of me. And a little wishful thinking?
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" Just thankful that pricks do show there true colours and women do look out for women on here, also the guys that look out for women also! "This is an interesting response for more than one reason. An example would be if a single guy said here that bitches and/ or women with the inability to regulate their own emotions by blaming and lashing out at guys always show their true colours, it would be stamped on quickly by other women. Guys just accept that slating men is fair game, they also won’t openly question it for the fear of the backlash. Secondly, not many guys will look out for women without alterioir motive. Yes there are some ofcourse there are, but as it’s said above by another fabber, it’s a dog eat dog attitude from single guys. Many will white knight against other guys in the hope to be seen as a ‘good guy’ whilst others will just not tell people about the women that are mental for the same reason as above, the fear of the backlash as men are again quickly and easily judged as being the bad ones. Taking people at face value often gets forgotten about on fab, it’s meant to be fun but the gossiping, claims of cliques and the politics can often ruin that. | |||
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"Surely can only be a good thing people looking out for other people (male or female). I mean, there is certainly some interesting characters on this site , that do create a bad experience at times?
Maybe that is very naive of me. And a little wishful thinking?
"Absolutely. There are many strange ones on here. Some are downright dangerous. As a single woman I'm glad other women have my back. And I have theirs. This goes for guys I know well too. This really isn't a male v female thing. It's about having your fellow human beings back in a crazy world | |||
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"Surely can only be a good thing people looking out for other people (male or female). I mean, there is certainly some interesting characters on this site , that do create a bad experience at times?
Maybe that is very naive of me. And a little wishful thinking?
Absolutely. There are many strange ones on here. Some are downright dangerous. As a single woman I'm glad other women have my back. And I have theirs. This goes for guys I know well too.
This really isn't a male v female thing. It's about having your fellow human beings back in a crazy world "Well said young lady | |||
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"Tbh, I feel that both females and males should be looking out for each other. With being active on fab, telegram and the social scene, I get to hear of bad experiences or people that I may not want to associate myself with. From personal experience, there are quite a few really quite manipulative guys on fab and on the scene who will say what they think we ladies want to hear, strike up friendships with us but behind our backs there are things being said. I’m so glad I have the group of friends I do on the scene. They know my strengths and weakness’s, but also know how I operate. Idle gossip is for the weak of mind, usually people who want to gossip about others on the scene are either trying to paint someone in a bad light to make themselves look good or it’s how they operate I.e. poor me, the last person I saw from the scene was this or that, putting on the sob story to try and manipulate the next person. Informative warnings are not gossip but for me to believe things I need to have the information from a very reliable source or see/hear proof. X" Well said | |||
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"Tbh, I feel that both females and males should be looking out for each other. With being active on fab, telegram and the social scene, I get to hear of bad experiences or people that I may not want to associate myself with. From personal experience, there are quite a few really quite manipulative guys on fab and on the scene who will say what they think we ladies want to hear, strike up friendships with us but behind our backs there are things being said. I’m so glad I have the group of friends I do on the scene. They know my strengths and weakness’s, but also know how I operate. Idle gossip is for the weak of mind, usually people who want to gossip about others on the scene are either trying to paint someone in a bad light to make themselves look good or it’s how they operate I.e. poor me, the last person I saw from the scene was this or that, putting on the sob story to try and manipulate the next person. Informative warnings are not gossip but for me to believe things I need to have the information from a very reliable source or see/hear proof. X" I also agree with this, but there are also women who do this too. There is always two sides to every issue. Example, Person 1 accuses person 2 for a mental health trigger person 2 has no idea about. This would be person 1s responsibility to regulate and perhaps not be active on a scene if they are still not ready. Person 1 plays victim, person 2’s side isn’t ever considered. You see the imbalance? This can be attributed to any gender roles "Interesting post, I wish I did have folks to chat with sometimes, but trust issues due to abuses rule that out. This place is a mine field of no hope I find. I've tried social and club events but seeing some nutters in person make it rather frightening and I find generally people are guarded with faces they don't know. My time here this time round is not totally positive sadly, I don't know what to do! Great post thanks OP. "This reply deserves responses. Reach out to some women of a similar age or perhaps those who frequently attend socials and such. Despite my questioning here, I’ve found the vast majority of folk to be absolutely golden and I think you might have just been really unlucky. It’s honestly worth a try | |||
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"Interesting post, I wish I did have folks to chat with sometimes, but trust issues due to abuses rule that out. This place is a mine field of no hope I find. I've tried social and club events but seeing some nutters in person make it rather frightening and I find generally people are guarded with faces they don't know. My time here this time round is not totally positive sadly, I don't know what to do! Great post thanks OP. "Might be good to go to a ladies social. Those are ace! You would probably click with people and make friends. My first social was a ladies one. Best thing I did | |||
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"Interesting post, I wish I did have folks to chat with sometimes, but trust issues due to abuses rule that out. This place is a mine field of no hope I find. I've tried social and club events but seeing some nutters in person make it rather frightening and I find generally people are guarded with faces they don't know. My time here this time round is not totally positive sadly, I don't know what to do! Great post thanks OP. "This makes me sad. And hopefully you try again. I have to say I’ve met amazing people on here one female actually would be lost without. But agree with sassy go to a ladies social. I jumped feet first and was scary but it gets better. | |||
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"Interesting post, I wish I did have folks to chat with sometimes, but trust issues due to abuses rule that out. This place is a mine field of no hope I find. I've tried social and club events but seeing some nutters in person make it rather frightening and I find generally people are guarded with faces they don't know. My time here this time round is not totally positive sadly, I don't know what to do! Great post thanks OP. "As someone who's only recently come back to socials and things honestly speak to some of the organisers of these socials the women are lovley and have made me feel very welcome. They'll have better advice for you. | |||
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"In reply to the person 1 person 2 part of this reply. Yes there are always 2 sides to a story. I always consider each side of a conversation ( unless of course bits are left out ). Anyway as for mental health I think this is a thing that is thrown about far too much these days. Also the word triggered. What happened to good old just no being happy about something or being in a bad mood. These things are allowed. It’s like on Tiktok and other socials, all of a sudden everyone is on the spectrum cause they have an opinion. " Meg, you honestly don’t know how heavily I agree with this reply. I used the person 1 & 2 example as it’s very similar to nonsense I was hit with recently which has then led to one sided bitching. Playground antics. | |||
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"In reply to the person 1 person 2 part of this reply. Yes there are always 2 sides to a story. I always consider each side of a conversation ( unless of course bits are left out ). Anyway as for mental health I think this is a thing that is thrown about far too much these days. Also the word triggered. What happened to good old just no being happy about something or being in a bad mood. These things are allowed. It’s like on Tiktok and other socials, all of a sudden everyone is on the spectrum cause they have an opinion. Meg, you honestly don’t know how heavily I agree with this reply. I used the person 1 & 2 example as it’s very similar to nonsense I was hit with recently which has then led to one sided bitching. Playground antics. " What someone said you have mental health issues or on the spectrum ? Or you were 1 of the people in the person 1 person 2 scenario? | |||
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"In reply to the person 1 person 2 part of this reply. Yes there are always 2 sides to a story. I always consider each side of a conversation ( unless of course bits are left out ). Anyway as for mental health I think this is a thing that is thrown about far too much these days. Also the word triggered. What happened to good old just no being happy about something or being in a bad mood. These things are allowed. It’s like on Tiktok and other socials, all of a sudden everyone is on the spectrum cause they have an opinion. Meg, you honestly don’t know how heavily I agree with this reply. I used the person 1 & 2 example as it’s very similar to nonsense I was hit with recently which has then led to one sided bitching. Playground antics. What someone said you have mental health issues or on the spectrum ? Or you were 1 of the people in the person 1 person 2 scenario? " Oh I’m mentally way past any treatable issues, I’m Just thankful it isn’t contagious
I was person 2, but then even with my saying so, there’s still 2 valid sides to everything.
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"I didn't expect those replies folks, quite touched. Going to events now is not something I think I can do due to anxieties as a result of previous attempts. I am alone but not lonely, fortunately I do like and enjoy my own company. Why am I here, I hear you say, I have needs, I'm only human. One day, my time will come, I keep telling myself it may become believable at some point "You are more than welcome to tag along when you feel like it. Even just a coffee with a couple of folk to start with xx | |||
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"I didn't expect those replies folks, quite touched. Going to events now is not something I think I can do due to anxieties as a result of previous attempts. I am alone but not lonely, fortunately I do like and enjoy my own company. Why am I here, I hear you say, I have needs, I'm only human. One day, my time will come, I keep telling myself it may become believable at some point "Shame you aren’t closer or you could come to Sunday coffee. We have regular social meet ups which is a good way to get to know people. | |||
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"Bored on a Friday...yup dangerous I know. But it got me thinking. Do guys on here chat to each other the way women do. Like do they look out for each other? Do they have guy code? Do they warn each other of potential headcases? Do they realise that girls DO all of the above and if they are a prick could easily find themselves on multiple "do not touch with a barge pole' radars? Do guys care if women are crazy or unstable. Or does their wee head overrule the big head? " Definitely No as in guy code. Yeah guys care if a girl is crazy and definitely like to avoid. Most guys know there are radars, many justified and some definitely not justified. but in life, it is what it is Right folks, stay away from........ Him orr there and her over that way  | |||
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"I didn't expect those replies folks, quite touched. Going to events now is not something I think I can do due to anxieties as a result of previous attempts. I am alone but not lonely, fortunately I do like and enjoy my own company. Why am I here, I hear you say, I have needs, I'm only human. One day, my time will come, I keep telling myself it may become believable at some point
Shame you aren’t closer or you could come to Sunday coffee. We have regular social meet ups which is a good way to get to know people. "?? | |||
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"In reply to the person 1 person 2 part of this reply. Yes there are always 2 sides to a story. I always consider each side of a conversation ( unless of course bits are left out ). Anyway as for mental health I think this is a thing that is thrown about far too much these days. Also the word triggered. What happened to good old just no being happy about something or being in a bad mood. These things are allowed. It’s like on Tiktok and other socials, all of a sudden everyone is on the spectrum cause they have an opinion. " So you are triggered by the word triggered? | |||
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"Definitely a girl code but it should be a swingers code. It's a community and it's the whole point in the verification process also. There's a difference in gossip and warnings but I get it's a very thin line. And I'd be gutted if there was a red flag guy that my friends knew about but didn't tell me. I'm grown up enough to make up my own mind but luckily I can suss out the eedjits fairly quickly. There's many that think they are god's gift but evident that they are rotten to the core. They will always be outed sooner or later, swinging in Scotland is a very small place and word can easily get out when there's a bad apple "100% agree hun x | |||
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"In reply to the person 1 person 2 part of this reply. Yes there are always 2 sides to a story. I always consider each side of a conversation ( unless of course bits are left out ). Anyway as for mental health I think this is a thing that is thrown about far too much these days. Also the word triggered. What happened to good old just no being happy about something or being in a bad mood. These things are allowed. It’s like on Tiktok and other socials, all of a sudden everyone is on the spectrum cause they have an opinion. So you are triggered by the word triggered? "Ahahaha nawwww I couldn’t give a toss but it seems to be everyone’s buzz/go to word | |||
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"Definitely a girl code but it should be a swingers code. It's a community and it's the whole point in the verification process also. There's a difference in gossip and warnings but I get it's a very thin line. And I'd be gutted if there was a red flag guy that my friends knew about but didn't tell me. I'm grown up enough to make up my own mind but luckily I can suss out the eedjits fairly quickly. There's many that think they are god's gift but evident that they are rotten to the core. They will always be outed sooner or later, swinging in Scotland is a very small place and word can easily get out when there's a bad apple "I fully agree with this, however there are also red flag women out there too. I’m not nipping, just adding. You are spot on with regards to gossip and warning, totslly agree. But can we tackle the issue head on here? If it really was a red flag guy or a warning of character, why was none of it relevant until the female had sex with that male and then found herself blocked after going flaky and unhinged? Surely that’s key? Did anyone see the male running around shouting about how nuts the woman was? Why is none of that even considered? Why was it all deemed in good humour until one woman decides she’s not happy at being rightfully blocked? Surely it’s a red flag that someone is unhinged enough to sit through 2 months of texts and voicenotes, again which we’re all taken in the correct context at the time, to attempt to ruin another’s reputation? These are valid points that we should all be asking ourselves as that is genuine common sense, especially as 1 person has been on fab for years without issue.. Are people big enough in themselves to make their own minds up on others? I’d like to hope. When an individual is blocked for a valid reason and makes an attempt at character assassination in revenge by cherrypicking messages without context and spreading them about like Nutella on toast, they will repeat that same behaviour to another in the future. When that eventually happens, will those who prejudged the first person be big enough to offer out an apology? Sadly I doubt that. Reminds me of the saying what Suzie said of Sally said more of Suzie than it did of Sally.. | |||
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