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By *addy OP   Man
over a year ago

alloa

Hey there. I've noticed a lot of people seem to have regular fwb's/ fb's on here. Possibly a daft question. But any advice on how to find someone ?

Did you meet them on here or elsewhere?

Not been having much luck with chats / meets on here so may as well ask the question. Thanks in advance

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Hey there. I've noticed a lot of people seem to have regular fwb's/ fb's on here. Possibly a daft question. But any advice on how to find someone ?

Did you meet them on here or elsewhere?

Not been having much luck with chats / meets on here so may as well ask the question. Thanks in advance "

This probably varies from person to person. I have found them both on and off fab but they didn’t start off as fwb sort of just became them

You could try going along to one of the socials or clubs to get to know more people

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Hey there. I've noticed a lot of people seem to have regular fwb's/ fb's on here. Possibly a daft question. But any advice on how to find someone ?

Did you meet them on here or elsewhere?

Not been having much luck with chats / meets on here so may as well ask the question. Thanks in advance

This probably varies from person to person. I have found them both on and off fab but they didn’t start off as fwb sort of just became them

You could try going along to one of the socials or clubs to get to know more people "

Definitely this. You don’t go looking for them, they end up being a regular meet after having a successful first meet which leads to more.

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By *addy OP   Man
over a year ago

alloa

Thanks for the replies , guess I'll just have to keep trying to talk/meet people on here. Not had much luck but it is what it is.

Thanks again ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me buddy I’d say it’s just not possible to actively find a fwb. I say not possible because no-one sends that first message with the intention of making the recipient a long term thing, unless you’re emailing an absolutely goddess, and no-one opens a message hoping that would be the one.

A fwb dynamic tends to be two people who have formed a connection, who are both strong communicators that are not in the right life stage to commit to a relationship.

For you chum, I’d just look to create connections with people on a friendly level, see if it goes sexual and then just see what happens from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me buddy I’d say it’s just not possible to actively find a fwb. I say not possible because no-one sends that first message with the intention of making the recipient a long term thing, unless you’re emailing an absolutely goddess, and no-one opens a message hoping that would be the one.

A fwb dynamic tends to be two people who have formed a connection, who are both strong communicators that are not in the right life stage to commit to a relationship.

For you chum, I’d just look to create connections with people on a friendly level, see if it goes sexual and then just see what happens from there "

Exactly this.

Communication is the basis of any type of relationship, FWB, i feel, is Friends first and always and the benefits part is the bonus x

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By *omond guyMan
over a year ago

alexandria


"Hey there. I've noticed a lot of people seem to have regular fwb's/ fb's on here. Possibly a daft question. But any advice on how to find someone ?

Did you meet them on here or elsewhere?

Not been having much luck with chats / meets on here so may as well ask the question. Thanks in advance "

Problem i find that there is so many men on here like myself and the ladies have so much choice to choose from on fab

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By *addy OP   Man
over a year ago

alloa

Yeah true.

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By *opetop4UMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

You can get yourself into a FWB situation by only getting involved with women who live quite a distance away or are in a relationship.

That way they won't be coming round for coffee or wanting to go to the cinema on a Wednesday evening. You can just arrange semi-regular weekend meets.

POF and Tinder have worked for me as well as being on here.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can get yourself into a FWB situation by only getting involved with women who live quite a distance away or are in a relationship.

That way they won't be coming round for coffee or wanting to go to the cinema on a Wednesday evening. You can just arrange semi-regular weekend meets.

POF and Tinder have worked for me as well as being on here.

Good luck!

"

Sorry for the profile views fella, the rope work is absolutely brilliant!!!!

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By *opetop4UMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"You can get yourself into a FWB situation by only getting involved with women who live quite a distance away or are in a relationship.

That way they won't be coming round for coffee or wanting to go to the cinema on a Wednesday evening. You can just arrange semi-regular weekend meets.

POF and Tinder have worked for me as well as being on here.

Good luck!

Sorry for the profile views fella, the rope work is absolutely brilliant!!!! "

Aw, thank you.

If you want to find out a bit about it and where you can find workshops, I'll remove my block on messages from males this evening from around 2000 and you can P.M. me if you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more likely to happen when you go into things not looking for a fwb and let it happen organically.

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By *at-me-drink-meWoman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

Its a hard 1 to find on here(i think)

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Depends what you're looking for. Some us are here

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By *at-me-drink-meWoman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

Been on fab around 8 year and the search for a fwb is still on going.i 100% dont want to date or get into a realationship. But build connection have a laugh relax around each other with the bonus of fun.

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By *hYouNaughtyKittenWoman
over a year ago

Fife

I’ve had some meets from here that have evolved into FWBs but it takes time and there were no expectations from either of us.

It does need really honest conversations from both sides and an understanding that things may change over time.

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By *ral_Giver_DundeeTV/TS
over a year ago

Dundee

I find it rare to find any female who is interested in a fwb

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By *candiumWoman
over a year ago

oban

I've had a FWB before and still looking for another. Where I live is a problem though.

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Its pretty straightforward really.

All you keed to do is charm a lady on here that you think looks and sounds great. Get her attention using your wit and charm and share a couple of classy pictures (not dick pics), including at least one face pic, with her to increase her interest in you. Continue to amuse her with your amusing chat and arrange a social meet over coffee or a drink.

At that first meet dont be pushy...compliment her but keep it light and use some self deprecating humour to keep it that way. After that meet has been successful arrange a further one to take things further.

This is the point where you need to blow her mind with how good you are, how you understand her needs and desires and show how well your bodies and minds go together. Have a great time together and when leaving discuss with her that you know that she will have lots of interest as she is so hot and you understand she will have other meetings and encounters and you are absolutely fine with that but you will be here if she ever wants to do it again.... and that you would love to .... but also that you are happy to not put pressure on and keep in touch via messages. Follow it up with friendly banter messages, keeping it light .... and low and behold you will be about to enter a FwB relationship.

Its so easy and straightforward.

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By *ifferentClassMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Its pretty straightforward really.

All you keed to do is charm a lady on here that you think looks and sounds great. Get her attention using your wit and charm and share a couple of classy pictures (not dick pics), including at least one face pic, with her to increase her interest in you. Continue to amuse her with your amusing chat and arrange a social meet over coffee or a drink.

At that first meet dont be pushy...compliment her but keep it light and use some self deprecating humour to keep it that way. After that meet has been successful arrange a further one to take things further.

This is the point where you need to blow her mind with how good you are, how you understand her needs and desires and show how well your bodies and minds go together. Have a great time together and when leaving discuss with her that you know that she will have lots of interest as she is so hot and you understand she will have other meetings and encounters and you are absolutely fine with that but you will be here if she ever wants to do it again.... and that you would love to .... but also that you are happy to not put pressure on and keep in touch via messages. Follow it up with friendly banter messages, keeping it light .... and low and behold you will be about to enter a FwB relationship.

Its so easy and straightforward.

"

Brilliant Funny because it is true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t understand some of the feedback. It’s really simple to find a FWB, I have one and she’s one of the most sought after women here.

We have had food, attended clubs and shared hotels. We really do make the best Friends Without Benefits and the way to do it is to create a good bond with an attractive woman (other genders are available) then irritate the shit out of them.

That’s what I’ve done anyway, worked a treat….

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Its pretty straightforward really.

All you keed to do is charm a lady on here that you think looks and sounds great. Get her attention using your wit and charm and share a couple of classy pictures (not dick pics), including at least one face pic, with her to increase her interest in you. Continue to amuse her with your amusing chat and arrange a social meet over coffee or a drink.

At that first meet dont be pushy...compliment her but keep it light and use some self deprecating humour to keep it that way. After that meet has been successful arrange a further one to take things further.

This is the point where you need to blow her mind with how good you are, how you understand her needs and desires and show how well your bodies and minds go together. Have a great time together and when leaving discuss with her that you know that she will have lots of interest as she is so hot and you understand she will have other meetings and encounters and you are absolutely fine with that but you will be here if she ever wants to do it again.... and that you would love to .... but also that you are happy to not put pressure on and keep in touch via messages. Follow it up with friendly banter messages, keeping it light .... and low and behold you will be about to enter a FwB relationship.

Its so easy and straightforward.

Brilliant Funny because it is true!"

So wheres your amusing chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fbook dating is definitely better if this is the situation you are looking for. I think just not trying to hard with the messages. I have started to do this. I also find woman who post looking for banter and some sort of connection are best avoided, I think most of these woman have been scared in relationships and can’t seem to decide what they want in life. Also avoid copy and paste I hate dick pic woman, just read as much profiles as possible. Hope this helps.

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By *ibliosWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I also find woman who post looking for banter and some sort of connection are best avoided, I think most of these woman have been scared in relationships and can’t seem to decide what they want in life."

Genuinely baffled by this - I would have thought being clear you want a bit of banter and mutual interest (i.e. a bit more than a shag'n'go) suggests they have a pretty *good* idea of what they're looking for, not the other way around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also find woman who post looking for banter and some sort of connection are best avoided, I think most of these woman have been scared in relationships and can’t seem to decide what they want in life.

Genuinely baffled by this - I would have thought being clear you want a bit of banter and mutual interest (i.e. a bit more than a shag'n'go) suggests they have a pretty *good* idea of what they're looking for, not the other way around!"

If you actually can have proper banter with most of these woman they can’t handle it and block or maybe I’m just to much. Trust me avoid them and also look at their verification. Its just what I find on fab, but maybe I’m not everyone’s cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt any relationship starts with the intention of developing into a FWB it just evolves. There’s no secret formula you just find someone you click with. This sites just a microcosm of real life except the gender ratios are significantly skewed and that makes it more difficult for single guys.

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

The FWB I've ever had was through Fab. Excellent, lover, great company, respectful and filthy. That said, we chatted for over a year before meeting. I've lost count of the men that message expecting sex - instant block. I think it takes effort from both parties and clear boundaries

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Its pretty straightforward really.

All you keed to do is charm a lady on here that you think looks and sounds great. Get her attention using your wit and charm and share a couple of classy pictures (not dick pics), including at least one face pic, with her to increase her interest in you. Continue to amuse her with your amusing chat and arrange a social meet over coffee or a drink.

At that first meet dont be pushy...compliment her but keep it light and use some self deprecating humour to keep it that way. After that meet has been successful arrange a further one to take things further.

This is the point where you need to blow her mind with how good you are, how you understand her needs and desires and show how well your bodies and minds go together. Have a great time together and when leaving discuss with her that you know that she will have lots of interest as she is so hot and you understand she will have other meetings and encounters and you are absolutely fine with that but you will be here if she ever wants to do it again.... and that you would love to .... but also that you are happy to not put pressure on and keep in touch via messages. Follow it up with friendly banter messages, keeping it light .... and low and behold you will be about to enter a FwB relationship.

Its so easy and straightforward.

Brilliant Funny because it is true!

So wheres your amusing chat "

Wheres my amusing chat? Oh come one now. There are so many desperate guys on here looking for tips (with a P!!!!) .... I have to reign it in on the public forums of they will be using it themselves. Then everyone will get fed up of it!!!!

So definitely a case of keep it straight laced and sensible in public forum..... leave the wit and humour for private conversations.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Its pretty straightforward really.

All you keed to do is charm a lady on here that you think looks and sounds great. Get her attention using your wit and charm and share a couple of classy pictures (not dick pics), including at least one face pic, with her to increase her interest in you. Continue to amuse her with your amusing chat and arrange a social meet over coffee or a drink.

At that first meet dont be pushy...compliment her but keep it light and use some self deprecating humour to keep it that way. After that meet has been successful arrange a further one to take things further.

This is the point where you need to blow her mind with how good you are, how you understand her needs and desires and show how well your bodies and minds go together. Have a great time together and when leaving discuss with her that you know that she will have lots of interest as she is so hot and you understand she will have other meetings and encounters and you are absolutely fine with that but you will be here if she ever wants to do it again.... and that you would love to .... but also that you are happy to not put pressure on and keep in touch via messages. Follow it up with friendly banter messages, keeping it light .... and low and behold you will be about to enter a FwB relationship.

Its so easy and straightforward.

Brilliant Funny because it is true!

So wheres your amusing chat

Wheres my amusing chat? Oh come one now. There are so many desperate guys on here looking for tips (with a P!!!!) .... I have to reign it in on the public forums of they will be using it themselves. Then everyone will get fed up of it!!!!

So definitely a case of keep it straight laced and sensible in public forum..... leave the wit and humour for private conversations. "

Wasn't asking you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only fwb was a friend originally, was amazing, unfortunately it didn’t last but would love to find it again with someone, great company and great sex without the added unnecessary drama

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I’ve had fwbs a few years back but I feel since covid that most people are looking for quick hook ups on here and have no interest in keeping in contact or seeing regularly. Which is ashame as the sex gets better the more you see someone and can push boundaries and explore together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had fwbs a few years back but I feel since covid that most people are looking for quick hook ups on here and have no interest in keeping in contact or seeing regularly. Which is ashame as the sex gets better the more you see someone and can push boundaries and explore together. "

100% agree, it’s the ultimate, the honesty and freedom you can get from it

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"I’ve had fwbs a few years back but I feel since covid that most people are looking for quick hook ups on here and have no interest in keeping in contact or seeing regularly. Which is ashame as the sex gets better the more you see someone and can push boundaries and explore together.

100% agree, it’s the ultimate, the honesty and freedom you can get from it"

Exactly!

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By *at-me-drink-meWoman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND


"I’ve had fwbs a few years back but I feel since covid that most people are looking for quick hook ups on here and have no interest in keeping in contact or seeing regularly. Which is ashame as the sex gets better the more you see someone and can push boundaries and explore together.

100% agree, it’s the ultimate, the honesty and freedom you can get from it

Exactly!"

100% agree with this. Theres no effort in mail. Just u wana fuck ,u free,or im looking for a slut. .as soon as i mention fwb connection reg meets i get mail saying ur clearly looking to date(i 100% do not want to date)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had fwbs a few years back but I feel since covid that most people are looking for quick hook ups on here and have no interest in keeping in contact or seeing regularly. Which is ashame as the sex gets better the more you see someone and can push boundaries and explore together.

100% agree, it’s the ultimate, the honesty and freedom you can get from it

Exactly!

100% agree with this. Theres no effort in mail. Just u wana fuck ,u free,or im looking for a slut. .as soon as i mention fwb connection reg meets i get mail saying ur clearly looking to date(i 100% do not want to date)"

I would just appreciate a response to messages lol

Would jump at another fwb’s, done it twice and it was amazing

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"I’ve had fwbs a few years back but I feel since covid that most people are looking for quick hook ups on here and have no interest in keeping in contact or seeing regularly. Which is ashame as the sex gets better the more you see someone and can push boundaries and explore together.

100% agree, it’s the ultimate, the honesty and freedom you can get from it

Exactly!

100% agree with this. Theres no effort in mail. Just u wana fuck ,u free,or im looking for a slut. .as soon as i mention fwb connection reg meets i get mail saying ur clearly looking to date(i 100% do not want to date)"

Absolutely. I’ve had exactly the same. There is no effort made now. It’s just a hook up site now days

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"I’ve had fwbs a few years back but I feel since covid that most people are looking for quick hook ups on here and have no interest in keeping in contact or seeing regularly. Which is ashame as the sex gets better the more you see someone and can push boundaries and explore together.

100% agree, it’s the ultimate, the honesty and freedom you can get from it

Exactly!

100% agree with this. Theres no effort in mail. Just u wana fuck ,u free,or im looking for a slut. .as soon as i mention fwb connection reg meets i get mail saying ur clearly looking to date(i 100% do not want to date)

Absolutely. I’ve had exactly the same. There is no effort made now. It’s just a hook up site now days "

I’ve not had this experience. I’ve met some lovely guys this year who are definitely none of the above. Meeting at socials is definitely better than trying to judge from profiles.

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Its pretty straightforward really.

All you keed to do is charm a lady on here that you think looks and sounds great. Get her attention using your wit and charm and share a couple of classy pictures (not dick pics), including at least one face pic, with her to increase her interest in you. Continue to amuse her with your amusing chat and arrange a social meet over coffee or a drink.

At that first meet dont be pushy...compliment her but keep it light and use some self deprecating humour to keep it that way. After that meet has been successful arrange a further one to take things further.

This is the point where you need to blow her mind with how good you are, how you understand her needs and desires and show how well your bodies and minds go together. Have a great time together and when leaving discuss with her that you know that she will have lots of interest as she is so hot and you understand she will have other meetings and encounters and you are absolutely fine with that but you will be here if she ever wants to do it again.... and that you would love to .... but also that you are happy to not put pressure on and keep in touch via messages. Follow it up with friendly banter messages, keeping it light .... and low and behold you will be about to enter a FwB relationship.

Its so easy and straightforward.

Brilliant Funny because it is true!

So wheres your amusing chat

Wheres my amusing chat? Oh come one now. There are so many desperate guys on here looking for tips (with a P!!!!) .... I have to reign it in on the public forums of they will be using it themselves. Then everyone will get fed up of it!!!!

So definitely a case of keep it straight laced and sensible in public forum..... leave the wit and humour for private conversations.

Wasn't asking you! "

Ouch cold.

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By *itty.kat2023Woman
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

I've had fwb in the past, and am looking for it again but it was usually with friends first that developed.

I want to find it again though as always think the sex gets better longer you play! More difficult to find as so many on here just want a quick one-off fuck!

It really does come down to the content of the messages we're sent like the poster above said(sorry, can't remember the user name, the big message with all the tips haha)

Don't be pushy, don't send dick pics if they don't want to receive them, and just be honest about what you're after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also find woman who post looking for banter and some sort of connection are best avoided, I think most of these woman have been scared in relationships and can’t seem to decide what they want in life.

Genuinely baffled by this - I would have thought being clear you want a bit of banter and mutual interest (i.e. a bit more than a shag'n'go) suggests they have a pretty *good* idea of what they're looking for, not the other way around!

If you actually can have proper banter with most of these woman they can’t handle it and block or maybe I’m just to much. Trust me avoid them and also look at their verification. Its just what I find on fab, but maybe I’m not everyone’s cup of tea "

I get where you are coming from mate. It's definitely very much the case that women are very very sensitive on here. You can blow your chances with the slightest misplaced comma or tad edgy wording. Lost in text conversation is always a risk. A face to face social meet completely corrects any of this. Only then can you 'know' who your talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had numerous Fwb over the years all from socialising in the pubs, none from here or any other online platform / web site. They always developed from that obvious initial spark but only after a good while of normal conversation and social meeting at functions or nights out..

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

You can’t “find” a fwb. It just happens naturally.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"You can’t “find” a fwb. It just happens naturally. "
^This

It usually comes with a connection in the person you are meeting with and builds up from there .

You can just say I want a fwb and wait for women to apply lol

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By *hiregirl76Woman
over a year ago

Scotland

Good luck OP I hope you find what you are looking for

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By *tagmeupMan
52 weeks ago

wirral

Hope i find one

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By *halquoneMan
52 weeks ago

alva

Pay for it.

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By *eisenberg30Man
51 weeks ago

dundee

I STILL HAVNT FOUND WHAT IM LOOKING FOR??

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By *alcon43Woman
51 weeks ago

Paisley

I’ve never actively looked for a FWB, they’ve just happened. Have you tried attending socials, clubs, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

Needing the same but a hook up would be a good start

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