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"This is a post to see if anyone else has experienced this. A friend who had been on site for many years, who had good experiences and made friends and enjoyed being part of site. A while ago found that whenever they would post anything on forum or respond to forum chats they would be shot down in flames and the forum post would not progress further felt they were not getting anything in return. They began to feel very low and lost a massive amount of confidence in themselves, became a tad introverted which was complete opposite of how they were . So we met fairly recently for coffee and catch up and Fab was brought into convo again as they knew i was still on site. My experienced this past year on Fab has totally changed me and thats down to the amazing friends i have made and support i have. I explained to friend my findings on site and after some chatting and deep thinking they rejoined. This time the experience has been so much more.positive and they are back to themselves. Not feeling any negativity towards site etc. So my question is.... has anyone really felt thay their head was seriously messed up with site to the point that their personality had changed and they were so low? Did a break from site help?" Yes Like any group of friends there are times when people overload you with their own problems, they take advantage of your generous nature, and you’re undoubtedly left feeling that you’re being taken for granted. FAB is just like any other friend group too much of the above can take its toll and for many on this site this place is meant to be fun and a break from reality and opportunity to live out fantasies, but for others it becomes their obsession because they can’t deal with the everyday I’ve always said to people that sometimes you need to take a step back from the site, anything tbh that’s taking too much of your time and strength and as you well know I’ve been away for quite a while because of this exact reason and even now I’m holding back and using the word NO alot more, defo need to be alot more selfish and think of number one but I tell myself that all the time and still get dragged under by other folks dramas and problems It’s all about keeping a healthy balance whatever walk of life you follow, if you’re not looking after number one you have nothing left to give anyone else | |||
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"This is a post to see if anyone else has experienced this. A friend who had been on site for many years, who had good experiences and made friends and enjoyed being part of site. A while ago found that whenever they would post anything on forum or respond to forum chats they would be shot down in flames and the forum post would not progress further felt they were not getting anything in return. They began to feel very low and lost a massive amount of confidence in themselves, became a tad introverted which was complete opposite of how they were . So we met fairly recently for coffee and catch up and Fab was brought into convo again as they knew i was still on site. My experienced this past year on Fab has totally changed me and thats down to the amazing friends i have made and support i have. I explained to friend my findings on site and after some chatting and deep thinking they rejoined. This time the experience has been so much more.positive and they are back to themselves. Not feeling any negativity towards site etc. So my question is.... has anyone really felt thay their head was seriously messed up with site to the point that their personality had changed and they were so low? Did a break from site help?" It gets the point as a male especially where I need a break so il take a break I mean I'm on here for forums and socials. A fuck is a bonus | |||
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"A guy posted this exact same thread in the lounge " It’s good to get the perspective from a different group. Posts are often taken from one group to another. They do know each other. | |||
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"A guy posted this exact same thread in the lounge It’s good to get the perspective from a different group. Posts are often taken from one group to another. They do know each other. " Thank you for explaining this x | |||
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"My Fab friends have seen me through a lot of bad times as well as good times. I’ve also been privileged to have friends speak to me about their struggles and I’ve done my best to support them. The messages people send can hurt more than any physical injury ever will. You can’t take it back once it’s been seen and it still has an impact long after the message has been deleted. I know it’s a difficult site for single guys but it doesn’t give them the right to expect anything from it. Fab takes a bit of effort, chat in the forums, go to socials and clubs, make an effort with your profile and have no expectations. Everyone deals with MH in their own way but it doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. " And as u know u have all helped me. Think friend more felt was being ignored. Would start post about some really good stuff on forum and would be totally ignored, if they responded in a forum post, nobody would reply after that. So they became detached and i watched them become distant and angry at points, questioning their opinions. So the break they took was time to recover and re-evaluate things. My only fear is that they let it get to them again over time. But hopefully not. Now i know the signs to watch for and i wont be as slow to speak up to them this time. The site has a way of getting under ur skin and can leave u feeling a million dollars one minute then the next ur questioning urself as to why u r on it. Thats why i am grateful for my group of friends on here who keep me "sane" and listen to me. So i just need to so the same for them x Thanks | |||
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"i think to be on here you really need a thick skin , and sometimes folk can muddle here with reality , just as negative responses can can an affect so can being bombarded with compliments it can alter someones reality . if here's no longer fun nor productive and takes over your life and thoughts then i think its time for some perspective ..the majority of people are strangers and letting strangers alter your opinion of yourself is never good , sometimes a bit of distance and perspective is whats needed ." Agree 100pc | |||
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"This is a post to see if anyone else has experienced this. A friend who had been on site for many years, who had good experiences and made friends and enjoyed being part of site. A while ago found that whenever they would post anything on forum or respond to forum chats they would be shot down in flames and the forum post would not progress further felt they were not getting anything in return. They began to feel very low and lost a massive amount of confidence in themselves, became a tad introverted which was complete opposite of how they were . So we met fairly recently for coffee and catch up and Fab was brought into convo again as they knew i was still on site. My experienced this past year on Fab has totally changed me and thats down to the amazing friends i have made and support i have. I explained to friend my findings on site and after some chatting and deep thinking they rejoined. This time the experience has been so much more.positive and they are back to themselves. Not feeling any negativity towards site etc. So my question is.... has anyone really felt thay their head was seriously messed up with site to the point that their personality had changed and they were so low? Did a break from site help?" My thoughts are that there are many characters on here who like to just have a laugh on the forums and often their comments are not delivered they way they were ment . The longer your on here you get to know some of the peoples characters and know most of what’s been said is said in jest . However yes there are the odd ones are not welcoming to new posters . As one or two have said this isn’t real life and it shouldn’t effect anyone in that way because at the end of the day it’s coming from a faceless character behind a keyboard . | |||
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"I don't take the site seriously enough to let anything upset or change me as a person. If its not fun. Stop!" 100% agree with this  . | |||
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