FabSwingers.com forum: A question for lads in your 20’s

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you found it difficult to actually meet or get a response from a women on here yet? Lol. So embarassing, politeness and a pleasant greeting gets you nowhere? Sending a 100 dick pics in a message isnt really my vibe so what am i doing wrong? ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending 1-99 dick pics isn’t much better buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

?? sending them randomly in any number isnt my sort of thing ?? just dont get it mate, what do they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im pretty sure of two things,one BOW isn't 20 ,And he is trying to be helpful lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what do they want "

I’m not going to be my usual wind up.

It’s actually really simple chum, women (and couples), if they are looking for guys just want guys to be decent to them.

Read their profiles, make sure you match what they have set (age etc). If you decide to send a message, show you’ve read their iage, don’t be creepy or say how much you want to fuck them, do not ever add a boaby photo unless they are one of the minority that ask.

Upto you if you want to add a face pic, I don’t.

If they open it and don’t reply, don’t bombard them and absolutely never ever send them another message if your first is not read. Guys do that all the time, even the ones on the forum that dish that advice out and it’s one of the fastest ways to be blocked.

Join in on these forums, get to socials, make a personalised profile and add decent photos. That’s honestly it, it’s really easy. If I can meet women here I absolutely promise you, so can any guy who isn’t an oddly behaved bastard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im pretty sure of two things,one BOW isn't 20 ,And he is trying to be helpful lol

Me? Helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just use your head, Most couples and females don't even want a cock pic showing on the guys profile, its off putting, worse when they receive a cock pic as an attachment.

Just read their profile, and look to see what they are looking for and enjoy, sometimes profiles give you a bit insight to that person, so send a message, respectful and should give you a better percentage of reply

All the best on fab, it does work

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nice one lads

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By *ergus1000Man
over a year ago

Greenock

If I was in my 20s I would be in pubs and night clubs meeting the ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not as much as everyone may think. I've said before I'm on here mainly for social meets and if anything happens bonus. But nothing to exciting

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

"Have you found it difficult to actually meet or get a response from a women on here yet? Lol. So embarassing, politeness and a pleasant greeting gets you nowhere? Sending a 100 dick pics in a message isnt really my vibe so what am i doing wrong? ?? "

Drag your expectations back 90%, the woman on here generally are very shy and do not fancy the thought of some young shagger down the pub shouting and bawling about how he fucked some older woman as her man watched.

Attend socials, it is the best way to meet people, remember socials can lead to more, however as much as it may come as a surprise to some, most people here are not here to shag the world, they just want a bit of quiet, trustful, respectful fun on the side.

If I'm honest and I'm a woman 30+ I'm thinking, why is a guy on his 20s on here, he should be in he pub.

However as much as my moobs may look female, I'm definatley not.

All the best on your quest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unsolicited dick pics are the worst .. whether it's 1 or 100 .. same with women fanny pics are gantin specially the wans that widnae look out of place as the facehugger in alien !

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By *ennyjMan
over a year ago

falkirk

"Unsolicited dick pics are the worst .. whether it's 1 or 100 .. same with women fanny pics are gantin specially the wans that widnae look out of place as the facehugger in alien !"
lol at that

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

"If I was in my 20s I would be in pubs and night clubs meeting the ladies."

But you are not.... And things are different now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was in my 20s I would be in pubs and night clubs meeting the ladies.

But you are not.... And things are different now

I was gonna bring this up but il add on. I'm NOT gonna do that as if I was to approach the wrong 70 percent I'd be beaten called a pervert possible accused of a lot of other hideous things. Just don't risk it.

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By *at-me-drink-meWoman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"what do they want

I’m not going to be my usual wind up.

It’s actually really simple chum, women (and couples), if they are looking for guys just want guys to be decent to them.

Upto you if you want to add a face pic, I don’t.

100% this. If u like some1 read their profile (every1 wants dif things ) to see if you match what they want. Most women and couples state not to send a cock photo in mail ..send a face photo. Yeah i know its a bit scary but alot of people want attraction. Dont go all porn style and use the terms like slut ruin destroy. . Fab is actually quite simple to work.

Read the profile

be respectful

dont send cock photos unless asked

make an effort

send a face photo

dont be a dick if its a no

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Can you really see 20 odds joining in on forums though I mean it would be great if they did I don't think they will bother their arse with it

Shame cause most forumites are a good bunch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you really see 20 odds joining in on forums though I mean it would be great if they did I don't think they will bother their arse with it

Shame cause most forumites are a good bunch"

I'm on here daily / every couple days. I'm 22.. so does happen. Just not often xD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another factor is the male to female ratio, men vastly outnumber women. I wish people would read the FAQ’s and site advice and maybe the forums too before they are “let loose” on the site. It would save everyone a lot of time. Maybe a fab questionnaire before you’re allowed to use the site would be an idea.

Example

Q 1. What does a non response mean?

Answer (in case you don’t know) a non response should be taken as a polite no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another factor is the male to female ratio, men vastly outnumber women. I wish people would read the FAQ’s and site advice and maybe the forums too before they are “let loose” on the site. It would save everyone a lot of time. Maybe a fab questionnaire before you’re allowed to use the site would be an idea.

The section on the menu, tips and getting started is actually really good. It wasn’t always there and I think started maybe just before or around covid?

At the bottom is the most important with regards to how many messages the females receive.

I like the fact that you can be on the site for years and that page stays on the left hand side menu permanently

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By *JBrownMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I have yet to charm any of the lovely ladies on this to even a coffee or drink haha.

It seems the best way forward is to just be a normal, decent human being. Many of the points above are 100% correct, from the number of guys to women and the approach to messages.

Unfortunately, due to my line of work and the kinds of shifts I do, managing to go to one of the weekend socials or clubs is a near impossibility, but that doesn't stop me from pinging a message, introducing myself and seeing if they're interested.

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By *pinner10Man
over a year ago

Newcastle/Durham/Northumberland

How come men automatically assume sending a dick pic helps them on their way into a woman’s panties? A single nice face picture and a message that leaves a lady intrigued is far better, you control her mind capture her imagination and find a way to make her laugh and any woman would tell you it works far better, if I show you my dick and another 99 show there’s it’s only a dick

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By *rinc3ss_xWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

I wouldn't recommend ever sending explicit photos without being asked, as it can be off-putting.

Always read their profile and try to understand what they are seeking on Fab! Profiles provide a lot of insight into that person. Send a message that is respectful and relevant to their profile.

For me, I specify a keyword in my bio that should be included in the subject line. If it's not included, I simply delete the message.

Hope this helps! Happy Fabing

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