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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that some men/couples on swingers chat rooms ( NOT ALL )think that if you are a swinger then you must be a tart, they ask do you want a meet? and you say NO THANK YOU and they ask why , and you tell them sorry we dont meet single guys,or just anyone, or not meeting at the moment.But they seem to think that it is there right that you should say YES because you are on a swingers chat room so you must just shag anyone,

If you have given them a no then should this not be enough.

Does anyone else feel like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are usually new to the Scene IMO.

Most people new or not in the Scene still think swinging is about "key swapping and having sex with anybody".

They fail to realise its them that are in the dark, the uninitiated (Muggles)really don't understand that us open minded, liberated people find chemistry, magnetism, charisma & friendship very sexy.

We choose who we share our mind and bodies with.

I feel sorry for the muggles I really do.

Rock x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well said rock

i deffo do agreexxxx

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By *egs4uWoman
over a year ago

somewhere around

Yep im finding that kfs and not just in the chatroom also in mails im receiving. They presume because your a single fem your a tart, ready tae f**k anything with a pulse and will meet them because they've asked and get quite abusive when you say NO THANKS.

Agree with rock chemistry, magnetism, charisma & friendship very sexy and important, theres got to be that for me to meet.

Ive hidden my profile just now because of all the mail with the 'WANNA F**K YOU, HOW ABOUT IT SEXY OR THE CRACKER IS I WANT YOUR LEGS WRAPPED ROUND MY NECK', ffs wish they would all read views post in the forum.

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By *dinburgh_duoCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Why is it that some men/couples on swingers chat rooms ( NOT ALL )think that if you are a swinger then you must be a tart, they ask do you want a meet? and you say NO THANK YOU and they ask why , and you tell them sorry we dont meet single guys,or just anyone, or not meeting at the moment.But they seem to think that it is there right that you should say YES because you are on a swingers chat room so you must just shag anyone,

If you have given them a no then should this not be enough.

Does anyone else feel like this?"

I would suggest they are on the wrong site if this is their perception........

If someone sent us a message like that in response to a simple 'thanks but no thanks' I'd be reporting them.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rock... well said dude and I AGREE

but some are offensive in the extreme to ladies.... this needs stamped out, them banned and ISP blocked.

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but I also feel sorry for the nice guys.. and dont mean me and yu who have been round the block a few times (hasten never together before rumours start lol x )

but have noticed recently a lot of new guys who are trying so hard to do it right... and I applaud them .

they are chattin away nicely , getting to know folks.....

so well done new lads, keep it up...

and one day the majority of 'nice lads' may outweigh the minority of ' stupid faceless mindless eddyits '......

lil and larry, jo and steve, and purssss do a great job of being objective and playing fair....

and this is not an 'anti single guy' rant as a few couples could also learn some respect for others....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree Kinks,

It must be very annoying for the girls to get dozens of messages from guys looking for sex every day when they have never actually taken the time to speak to the girl. Life is not like that guys! Even on a swingers site. It's probably even worse if you are a bi-fem only looking for other women and you get an avalanche of emails from the cut-and-paste brigade who can't be bothered to read the profiles.

I guess it should be put down to inexperience in life and in swinging...

but don't be too hard on them Kinks- They will grow up sometime. (Once they realise their success rate is zero)

Rabbit581 x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do agree with KFS, my profile clearly states, no-one under thirty yet still get mail from kids younger than my own, and I state no mails from people outside Scotland but get them(usually those ones are wanting cumcam cos they have just seen me in chatroom)

And my bugbear is attempting to direct me if I am on cam, many of us are on cam to let ppl see we are genuine, and also just to have a bit of fun with pals, face to face as it were, not for any sex reasons.

Many new peeps are reading views swingles guide lol and taking it on board but alas many can't read profiles or guidance.

To repeat View, thank goodness for our fantastic mods who are there for us all but especially vigilant for us single females...knowing 'Ninja' Jo and Co. are there makes the chatroom a comfortable place for me xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

damn it rock you mean its no ffs and here's me keys at the ready lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noticing more and more in the chat room that guys seem to think that women are just there to be hit upon.......hopefuly is just coz they're new to the site and their hormones will calm down.....I think VIEW's post in the forum should be compulsory reading for all!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stu, I have put in my personal profile a request that newbies read Garry's post, and I hope that those who do ACTUALLY READ profiles will read and digest his post and act accordingly. Perhaps if every female, single or in a couple, did the same we may eventually reduce the numbers of rude or intimidating guys in the chatrooms. I know of a few rude newbies entering the chatroom who,on being asked to read it, have re-entered the chatrooms, apologised to the ladies and asked to start again on a new and enlightened footing. xxxxxx

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By *eanneTVTV/TS
over a year ago

glasgow

There does seem to be a growing number of guy (not saying every one of them) who are either comming into the chatroom and whispering for a meet then getting stroppy when you say no thanks. This is not just restricted to the chatroom though also happening in mail messages. I may be a TV but that does not mean im lifting my skirt for everyone who shows some interest and wish that these people would accept no for exactly what it means.

Yes its a swingers site it is not an instant (just add water) shag site. Guys if you want an Instant shag then go get a hooker and leave us the fook alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree. TOO many guys pushy...and then wonder why they don't seem attractive to meet!

I'm an educated, socially aware, tolerant, respectful, happily married woman who (perhaps like most women) likes sex and see playing with stranger's cock/s a bit of great fun!

Why some guys can't comprehend this, I've no idea!

Those that do...'get'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we were at a social last year and i was out (trac that is) having a cig and was chatting to a guy he asked me a question and i said i couldent possibly say as am a lady and he said I RIGHT YOUR A SWINGERS SO THAT MEANS YOUR A TART omfg a totally lost it and you can imagine my response, lets just say he left pretty quick, xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we were at a social last year and i was out (trac that is) having a cig and was chatting to a guy he asked me a question and i said i couldent possibly say as am a lady and he said I RIGHT YOUR A SWINGERS SO THAT MEANS YOUR A TART omfg a totally lost it and you can imagine my response, lets just say he left pretty quick, xxxxxx"

omggggggg!!!!!!!!!!!!!! who would have the brass neck to say something like that what an idiot.....and just for the record trac u r a lady babe xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mandt. Disgusting attitude the guy had! What we've found is that swinging isn't for the socially retarded (like the chimp that 'talked' to you...!), but mainly for the socially tolerant and well-adjusted! EVERYONE likes sex (depite what some may say!) and the idea of safe, sexual fun is a natural want. It's common sense. It's a pity that 'society' is so narrow-minded and unaccepting in so many ways. If all the world were swingers, it would be a far nicer place, perhaps!lol

Not that it matters, but Sean and I both highly acad educated - but we believe that SOCIAL education is the most important education any one can have. This 'guy' that talked to you like that is obviously socially reatrded.

Am sure you haven't anyway - but don't let such an ignorant creep bother you.

Cheers!

S & S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree with everything that has been said so far on this subject . the guy that abused you and thats the word i would use for it , was totally ignorant of the nature of swinging and what its all about , he obviously views all woman or couples as sexuall objects there for the taking instead of recognising us (swingers) as human beings with brains thoughts and lives outside of the social arena . i wonder if he would have said those things if he met you in a pub or any other social place ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mwah tracey hunni ty xxx, susanmilkmaid a social retart is such a true statment and you will be glad to know we are having a fabby time on here and looking forward to so much more mmmmmmm,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fair play mandt! Glad that it seems that this 'Typhoo ad' bloke didn't bother you too much! Keep having fun there lass! We've only 'swung' a few times over the years and everyone we've met (except one pushy eejit) has been absolutely fine!

Take care and hope you don't get any other forehead-builders...!

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