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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Isn't it about time there was a cull of members who have been on for a long time (say a year or more) to be removed from the site. Would possibly out timewasters

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

No

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

No, could get into the reasons but this has been done so many times I cant be arsed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't users use there loaf and not contact those they believe are time wasters just because they don't have verifications?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"No"
the voice of reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes a do beleive that if someone hasnt met after a yr they should be removed cause they aint gonna meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they dont want to mee,,,

maybe they just like looking at dirty pics lol

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By *uncouple981Couple
over a year ago

ayrshire

Luckily you have a verification or you would be included in the cull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe they dont want to mee,,,

maybe they just like looking at dirty pics lol"

Or maybe both... Maybe even meeting while looking at dirty pictures

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And so do you but there are those that arrange meets and then when you turn up and they don't you ask the reason and just get a load of insults back

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

They aint doing anyone any harm but i know at least one profile claiming to be a party organiser with not a single friend or verification on their profile so does make u wonder at times.

I just ignore or block

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

One small point... verified people can still be timewasters

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By *uncouple981Couple
over a year ago

ayrshire

Just don't meet people with no verifications then if you keep having problems.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True they can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is rapidly becoming a cam site and not a swinging site. Too many ladies who like to sit and get told how beautiful they are and too many men on for a quick wank. And it will get worse as the Americans are now arriving in the directing rooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems that loads of people (men usually) in the Inverness area have a moan about timewasters, usually on status though, and usually on a Sunday night after a weekends heavy wanking.

The OP has obviously found the forums now, they'll all be here soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always thought this was about like minded people getting together and if the mood was right having some fun not arranging to meet after many messages for one party not to show and then when politely ask for a reason ( as sometimes there are genuine circumstances) to be told to f#%* off and stop messaging them

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By *uncouple981Couple
over a year ago

ayrshire

There are a lot of time wasters on her. Most people have had people pull out or just not turn up and abuse of some sort. You just need to ignore it and carry on.

Hopefully you will find some good people soon

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always thought this was about like minded people getting together and if the mood was right having some fun not arranging to meet after many messages for one party not to show and then when politely ask for a reason ( as sometimes there are genuine circumstances) to be told to f#%* off and stop messaging them"

So was it just text messages or did you talk on the phone? Assume they had no veris or you wouldn't have posted about it? Big warning sign after a year as you say. Lesson learned, be more selective. Report them for the abuse and hit the block button. Moaning about it on status updates just isn't attractive, makes you seem vindictive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A veri don't mean shit and usually can't be trusted or out of date. I can't be arsed meeting very often now but have been on off fab since its inception. I still spend more time on fab than so called genuine people in forums chat and general perving. Even when I do meet I rarely leave or ask for veris. If want a cull just make it a pay site and see all the time wasters leave

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By *eefdoddusCouple
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

No. No verifications doesn't mean that a member isn't meeting. Simple as that.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Unsure of the right way to go about this question of wanna be's etc... im doubting that there is a fair solution.

So no to any cull.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

How about a cull of profiles which carry the Sydney Uni/ Adult Friend Finder nonsense

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk


"How about a cull of profiles which carry the Sydney Uni/ Adult Friend Finder nonsense"

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do so many rely on verifications? Why not try using your own gut instinct. Not a fool proof method but are any?

I met a guy last week who has been a member for well over a year and with no verifications, he had his reasons, he was 100% genuine oh and very gorgeous, next meet arranged so glad I use my own judgement

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By *andS_GlasgowCouple
over a year ago

Giffnock

We have not been verified by another other member

We have been verified by the Admin with our member picture

TWICE We arranged on to meet "Verified" members - Two No Shows

Our spare time is VERY LIMITED due to lack off childcare so we are lucky to get a night our every couple of months - then "Verified" members let you down

We are looking forward to our 1st meet - DESPITE timewasting "Trusted" members

VERIFIED doesnt mean you will show

Unverified doesnt mean we are time wasters

Rant Over LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have not been verified by another other member

We have been verified by the Admin with our member picture

TWICE We arranged on to meet "Verified" members - Two No Shows

Our spare time is VERY LIMITED due to lack off childcare so we are lucky to get a night our every couple of months - then "Verified" members let you down

We are looking forward to our 1st meet - DESPITE timewasting "Trusted" members

VERIFIED doesnt mean you will show

Unverified doesnt mean we are time wasters

Rant Over LOL"

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By *l coupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not everyone wants to share their meets, doesn't mean they haven't met. Thats an assumption you make, and its often the wrong assumption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have not been verified by another other member

We have been verified by the Admin with our member picture

TWICE We arranged on to meet "Verified" members - Two No Shows

Our spare time is VERY LIMITED due to lack off childcare so we are lucky to get a night our every couple of months - then "Verified" members let you down

We are looking forward to our 1st meet - DESPITE timewasting "Trusted" members

VERIFIED doesnt mean you will show

Unverified doesnt mean we are time wasters

Rant Over LOL"

Would be a bit confusing if verified never existed though, you could be telling somneone,,,nope never had a meet yet,, and another, ohh we swing often, just choose not to look like we do.

But generally,,its a bloke claiming to be a couple, thats common knowledge.

In no way saying how to use your profile, just saying how it is commonly read on that first glance/click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of em are fake profiles just in case they get banned for a while or they come in and fool about xx know that cos i know quite a few names who are fake but .......... hey ho their choice

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By *andS_GlasgowCouple
over a year ago

Giffnock


"In no way saying how to use your profile, just saying how it is commonly read on that first glance/click."

Your profile was similar setup as one of the Noshows

ie - A wee tick saying "Verified by other Users"

No view of the other users - could have been 200 members - but then again..........

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By *ussman1Man
over a year ago

Paisley

Just don't contact anyone without verifications. Easy it will soon get them tired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am an active user but don't have any verifications. This is mainly because I don't actively seek meets. I occasionally see if anyone is up for one.

Doesn't mean I am not genuine though!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I find it very hard to believe that a single guy whos been on here for over a year has no verifications on their profile yet claims to have had meets because most guys on here are so desperate for that first verification on their profiles to prove they are genuine because they are never take seriously with out it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither are cpls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In no way saying how to use your profile, just saying how it is commonly read on that first glance/click.

Your profile was similar setup as one of the Noshows

ie - A wee tick saying "Verified by other Users"

No view of the other users - could have been 200 members - but then again.........."

Exactly my point really, verified tag is a facility on site designed to help in the search for a,,,real meet, ok some opt to be ultra discrete, but majority have nowt because they do nowt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it very hard to believe that a single guy whos been on here for over a year has no verifications on their profile yet claims to have had meets because most guys on here are so desperate for that first verification on their profiles to prove they are genuine because they are never take seriously with out it ."

While I agree that lots of single guys are like that, me personally couldn't care less about verifications from other people. There are a select few on here who I do actually talk with and they take me seriously enough.

This is the problem with on here, us guys get stereotyped too easily. Fair enough most guys fall into that stereotype but there are quite a few that are most likely genuine and not crying about not being able to meet.

A meet is a meet at the end of the day. If someone gets one then great but if they don't then meh, it isn't the end of the world!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I find it very hard to believe that a single guy whos been on here for over a year has no verifications on their profile yet claims to have had meets because most guys on here are so desperate for that first verification on their profiles to prove they are genuine because they are never take seriously with out it .

While I agree that lots of single guys are like that, me personally couldn't care less about verifications from other people. There are a select few on here who I do actually talk with and they take me seriously enough.

This is the problem with on here, us guys get stereotyped too easily. Fair enough most guys fall into that stereotype but there are quite a few that are most likely genuine and not crying about not being able to meet.

A meet is a meet at the end of the day. If someone gets one then great but if they don't then meh, it isn't the end of the world!"
Your in a very small minority there as most guys on here want as many shags as thy can cram in thats why they join lol

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I find it very hard to believe that a single guy whos been on here for over a year has no verifications on their profile yet claims to have had meets because most guys on here are so desperate for that first verification on their profiles to prove they are genuine because they are never take seriously with out it ."

If 'being taken seriously' depends on verifications (which, as we all know can be easily fabricated) I'd prefer not to be taken seriously.

It appears to have done me no harm whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it very hard to believe that a single guy whos been on here for over a year has no verifications on their profile yet claims to have had meets because most guys on here are so desperate for that first verification on their profiles to prove they are genuine because they are never take seriously with out it .

While I agree that lots of single guys are like that, me personally couldn't care less about verifications from other people. There are a select few on here who I do actually talk with and they take me seriously enough.

This is the problem with on here, us guys get stereotyped too easily. Fair enough most guys fall into that stereotype but there are quite a few that are most likely genuine and not crying about not being able to meet.

A meet is a meet at the end of the day. If someone gets one then great but if they don't then meh, it isn't the end of the world!"

Part of the craft/skill of a long term fake/timewaster is talking a great meet,if you couple that up with un verified on their profile, sorry but you could be the hottest couple/woman on here by what you say in a message,if no tick is accompanying it,i will probably avoid.

Yes i know some crafty fakers manage to gain the tick too, but as said, it kind of helps in the selection process.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I find it very hard to believe that a single guy whos been on here for over a year has no verifications on their profile yet claims to have had meets because most guys on here are so desperate for that first verification on their profiles to prove they are genuine because they are never take seriously with out it .

If 'being taken seriously' depends on verifications (which, as we all know can be easily fabricated) I'd prefer not to be taken seriously.

It appears to have done me no harm whatsoever."
Well i guess for a lot of people myself included i like to know im meeting some genuine than someone with no friends or verivications on their profile or even phots to say who they are either male or female

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I find it very hard to believe that a single guy whos been on here for over a year has no verifications on their profile yet claims to have had meets because most guys on here are so desperate for that first verification on their profiles to prove they are genuine because they are never take seriously with out it .

If 'being taken seriously' depends on verifications (which, as we all know can be easily fabricated) I'd prefer not to be taken seriously.

It appears to have done me no harm whatsoever.Well i guess for a lot of people myself included i like to know im meeting some genuine than someone with no friends or verivications on their profile or even phots to say who they are either male or female "

I can entirely understand why you would but is a verification the kind of proof you'd put absolute faith in?

No having friends or verifications on a profile isn't the same as not having friends or verifications - it's just that a member has chosen not to share them.

Might that make getting meets more difficult? Possibly.

Are there people out there who don't give a ****? Absolutely.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I find it very hard to believe that a single guy whos been on here for over a year has no verifications on their profile yet claims to have had meets because most guys on here are so desperate for that first verification on their profiles to prove they are genuine because they are never take seriously with out it .

If 'being taken seriously' depends on verifications (which, as we all know can be easily fabricated) I'd prefer not to be taken seriously.

It appears to have done me no harm whatsoever.Well i guess for a lot of people myself included i like to know im meeting some genuine than someone with no friends or verivications on their profile or even phots to say who they are either male or female

I can entirely understand why you would but is a verification the kind of proof you'd put absolute faith in?

No having friends or verifications on a profile isn't the same as not having friends or verifications - it's just that a member has chosen not to share them.

Might that make getting meets more difficult? Possibly.

Are there people out there who don't give a ****? Absolutely."
Totally disagree with u if you can see clearly no verification tick or hiden friends then i wouldnt trust at all .

And no i wouldnt put 100% all of my faith on verifications at all but they certainlky help then none at all in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think we have ever met Anyone without veris?

Dont think we ever would either?

Plus the wee green flag thingy is a pile of....

Plus... nosy and very fussy i like to see who folk have Played with

Auds xx

Me personally think after a yr if you Havent been verified ..you dont want to meet....end of...

Not saying anything wrong with not Meeting alot of folk are on here just to Chat and look at folks mucky pictures Lol.

Auds xx

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Dont think we have ever met Anyone without veris?

Dont think we ever would either?

.......... "

I'm guessing there must have been a time when YOU weren't verified.

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By *andS_GlasgowCouple
over a year ago

Giffnock

Superb Quote
"Dont think we have ever met Anyone without veris?

Dont think we ever would either?

..........

I'm guessing there must have been a time when YOU weren't verified.

"

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"..........

Might that make getting meets more difficult? Possibly.

Are there people out there who don't give a ****? Absolutely.

Totally disagree with u if you can see clearly no verification tick or hiden friends then i wouldnt trust at all .

That's prefectly OK. Your choice.

And no i wouldnt put 100% all of my faith on verifications at all but they certainlky help then none at all in my opinion

That's gibberish. "
Excuse me i dont insult people by telling them their opinions are gibberish its my opinion that im entilted to as u are to yours,I may not agree with what you have to say but i dont insut you into the bargain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont think we have ever met Anyone without veris?

Dont think we ever would either?

..........

I'm guessing there must have been a time when YOU weren't verified.

"
Actually...Nope...

A cpl we know and played with told us about this Site ...when we joined they verified us right away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined ages ago, not had a meet yet.

Let me explain.

I joined, then not long after joining I met someone. I had a life with them and this was not her thing.

We had a kid and there were problems.

So as a single father, bringing up a kid and working nightshift. It kinda does not leave time too meet.

Now my kid is of age where I can start spending time on myself.

I have just popped back in for a look.

With a possibility of meeting new people

So should I be banished for putting my life/kid first?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I joined ages ago, not had a meet yet.

Let me explain.

I joined, then not long after joining I met someone. I had a life with them and this was not her thing.

We had a kid and there were problems.

So as a single father, bringing up a kid and working nightshift. It kinda does not leave time too meet.

Now my kid is of age where I can start spending time on myself.

I have just popped back in for a look.

With a possibility of meeting new people

So should I be banished for putting my life/kid first?

"
Not at all since uve been honest enough to give your reasons why im sure ud also be honest enough to explain that to anyone you speak privatly too ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ones asking you too?

Lots of folk will meet folk without veris...but equally...alot of folk wont.

Its all about preferences.

X

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"No ones asking you too?

Lots of folk will meet folk without veris...but equally...alot of folk wont.

Its all about preferences.

X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shut, nothing too hide.

I with me a spade is a spade.

I am a cheif by trade, they don't call me gorden Ramsay at work for nothing (although I am not an ass like him )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why are you wearing a mask?

Lol.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry...couldnt resist that Lol.x

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

I'm guessing there must have been a time when YOU weren't verified.

Actually...Nope...

A cpl we know and played with told us about this Site ...when we joined they verified us right away...

"

So there WAS actually a time when you weren't verified and, when you were verified, it had nothing to do with activity on this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am ask for preference.

However, there seems too be a stigma about about it.

Yes there are allot if people that adder time waisting, hell I had one last week. Went silent on the day the meet wad planned for.

Today someone blocked me, after I telling me they were interested. All I said was if you are interested in a meet just give me a shout (they said they were) 2 days later blocked.

Thats fine, life goes on, not going too lose sleep over it.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Some people are loke dogs with bones on here im away to bed nanite fabsters lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems that loads of people (men usually) in the Inverness area have a moan about timewasters, usually on status though, and usually on a Sunday night after a weekends heavy wanking.

The OP has obviously found the forums now, they'll all be here soon "

Don't tar us all with same brush!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mask was a bit of fun at work.

I find it amusing.

Will change it soon.

Its pointed at someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say a whole...5 mins...

So Yip...your right!!!!!!!!

Will i Post you your blue Peter badge or Do you want it Hand delivered?

Oh...but only if you verify that i Actually turned up with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mask was a bit of fun at work.

I find it amusing.

Will change it soon.

Its pointed at someone."
why change it...Looks cool x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL thanks it was a charity event.

Dress as a hero for a hero.

For the boys putting there life on the line over sea's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"LOL thanks it was a charity event.

Dress as a hero for a hero.

For the boys putting there life on the line over sea's."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway as you were,

Was not trying too make a sob story or anything.

Just trying too point out that there could be a validated reason for not having a veri.

Having one might be nice, but I would also not want a list of who I have spent time with online. That for me and the party's involved (private)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL predictive texting owns me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had been on the site for over a year or more without any verifications then left then rejoined,during my first time on the site i built up friends and was in the chat room a lot so people got to know me.

Anyone who thinks fab is an all singing all dancing shagathon for single guys maybe needs to wake up lol,after sending out lots of polite mails to couples/singles who were looking to meet it simply did not happen for me so i just logged on and started to check out other parts of the site.

I have one verification now though so hope that saves me from the cull

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