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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was recently contacted by a couple who wished to meet with me. After chatting, we organised a day & time to meet at my home.

On the day of the meeting (prior to being due to meet that evening), we were chatting some more, when all of a sudden they cancelled on me. The reason (excuse) they gave was that I lived too far away. This was despite them already knowing where I lived and the fact that they had previously stated that I was "very handy" as I was only 3 miles away!

After probing a bit more, they finally admitted that they cancelled because I had mentioned that I don't drink!

Has any non drinkers out there had people refusing to meet with them because they don't drink? It's a first for me!

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

None drinker here too.

I'm not aware of any cancellation due to me being coffee total. This is fabswingers and strange things happen here, so im not suprised you've came across this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip I've also experienced it a few times some people think and feel T totalers can be boring

or weird

or they just don't feel comfy with it ,as some people that drink likes a we tipple to get them relaxed and get down and dirty

personally give me a wee cheeky red bull or a bit of cake and I'm anyone's I don't need a drink to party

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By *tu231Man
over a year ago

lenzie

i haven't d*unk in 15years so i must be boring too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not had a drink since Saturday, im boring too, haha, though cannot say it would bother me if someone is T total. I go out for social drinks with my friends. But its an occasional thing. Prefer my coffee.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I rarely drink because of work - maybe have a beer once in a blue moon but its a new one on me lol. I'm the same, don't need a drink to get me in the mood or for Dutch courage but I guess everyone's different. Don't let it get you down and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well it's great to hear that I'm not the only non drinker on here and that we're not seen by everyone as being lepers! lol

It shouldn't be seen as some sort of stigma and I tend to agree that it says more about those who use that as a reason not to meet someone, rather than the non drinkers themselves.

Anyway, here's to more sober fun in the future!! Thanks everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yip I've also experienced it a few times some people think and feel T totalers can be boring

or weird

or they just don't feel comfy with it ,as some people that drink likes a we tipple to get them relaxed and get down and dirty

personally give me a wee cheeky red bull or a bit of cake and I'm anyone's I don't need a drink to party

Good to know. I'll be stocking up on Red Bull & Cake and getting in touch!

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By *ir laugh a lotMan
over a year ago

glasgow

i dont drink but i often tend to think that folk who do,then find out you dont drink assume you dont drink coz you have a problem with drink ,i used too enjoy a pint but about 20 yrs ago i gave it a miss as i no longer enjoyed the atmosphere in pubs ,i dont miss drink but i do miss social side sometimes ,but these days its just a pub lunch with a soft drink i avoid pubs in the evenings,just not for me ,prefer a decent meal in a comfortable and safe environment maybe its just an age thing with me who can say

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

I'm not a drinker either. Happy to be the driver on a night out. Larry, being ex forces, enjoys a good skin full.

Not had anyone mention that I don't drink. I'm happy and will play/not play as I see fit. I don't need a drink to help me along

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I am partial to the odd red wine

but certainly doesn't bother me if someone doesn't drink .... Will share anything except my wine

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Mr X doesn't drink, and I rarely drink when I'm with him. As far as I'm aware, it's never been an issue for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a new one on me not meeting because u don't drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am partial to the odd red wine

but certainly doesn't bother me if someone doesn't drink .... Will share anything except my wine

Oh we all know you wouldn't share a capful of your vino Cutie lol holy water springs to mind , nothing like a good can of when in your company to give you a headache pmsl xxxx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I'd be more than worried at meeting someone who's had too much alcohol than someone who doesn't drink at all ,don't change for anyone if it suits you not to drink then don't .

Have fun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be more than worried at meeting someone who's had too much alcohol than someone who doesn't drink at all ,don't change for anyone if it suits you not to drink then don't .

Have fun xxx

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here here Nawty nicely said

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By *rs Robinson no 1Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I am a nondrinker, and yes I have found that at times, as in not being invited to a night out, because you don't drink...but not on fab though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yip I've also experienced it a few times some people think and feel T totalers can be boring

or weird

or they just don't feel comfy with it ,as some people that drink likes a we tipple to get them relaxed and get down and dirty

personally give me a wee cheeky red bull or a bit of cake and I'm anyone's I don't need a drink to party

Good to know. I'll be stocking up on Red Bull & Cake and getting in touch!

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. Oooo errr yummy yummy what kind a cake lol

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By *ewshyTV/TS
over a year ago

falkirk

its a sad reflection of attitudes in this country when because you dont drink, your thought of as odd, i chucked it years ago, and can honestly say i dont miss it one bit

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Personally I like a wee drink on occasion but often I'm called upon to drive to a meet, therefore, whether a drinker or not I can't have a drink. So that would mean not getting to meet!

It really is a sad indictment on our society where having fun is purely fueled by alcohol. What about when we were kids & had a great time. No alcohol back then.

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Non drinkers here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been a problem. Don't touch the stuff I'm daft enough without it.

I've worked Glasgows doors too long and seen what it does to have no real time for it.

My vice is coffee I drink too much of the stuff and I need to cut it down.

I have met folks in pubs etc for a meet and had an odd look when I order Cranberry juice or Coke but its never stopped the fun.

If you need a glass or two of vino to get you in the mood then fine, however I'm not too enamoured with d*unk people coming onto me like I said had enough of that at the pub door on a Saturday night

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd be more than worried at meeting someone who's had too much alcohol than someone who doesn't drink at all ,don't change for anyone if it suits you not to drink then don't .

Have fun xxx

Absolutely Miss D. You'd think that would be the logic people would follow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yip I've also experienced it a few times some people think and feel T totalers can be boring

or weird

or they just don't feel comfy with it ,as some people that drink likes a we tipple to get them relaxed and get down and dirty

personally give me a wee cheeky red bull or a bit of cake and I'm anyone's I don't need a drink to party

Good to know. I'll be stocking up on Red Bull & Cake and getting in touch!

. Oooo errr yummy yummy what kind a cake lol

Gotta be CHOCOLATE!!

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By *cottybhoyMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Wonder if it is because I don't wash and drink lots is why I don't get any offers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn't bother me if i read on their profile they don't drink, that's for sure, their loss sweetcheeks.....x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"wouldn't bother me if i read on their profile they don't drink, that's for sure, their loss sweetcheeks.....x"

Thank you...

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By *damandeve4funCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We once had a couple go cold on us once we revealed that we hardly touch alcohol. Just one of those things. We have decided against meeting others for different reasons, so each to their own...

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