FabSwingers.com forum: how big is too big?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

been reading various profiles and have came across a few that have stated they won't meet with the larger lady or man (by large i take it as weight is being the issue). wat is classed as too large these days? anyone over a size 10, 12, 14??? everyones personal idea of body image is so different kinda puts u off sending a msg...

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I had one of these messages last week.

At first I was a little hurt, but then I realised that it's their loss, as for all they know we could have got on really well.

On the other side of the coin, we had fun at the weekend with a fantastic couple who had no issue with my weight whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a matter of personal taste. Personally I like large women, I find them just as sexy as thin ones and they can be full of surprises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had one of these messages last week.

At first I was a little hurt, but then I realised that it's their loss, as for all they know we could have got on really well.

On the other side of the coin, we had fun at the weekend with a fantastic couple who had no issue with my weight whatsoever

Definitely their loss Blondie your damn sexy and have nothing to be ashamed of!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had one of these messages last week.

At first I was a little hurt, but then I realised that it's their loss, as for all they know we could have got on really well.

On the other side of the coin, we had fun at the weekend with a fantastic couple who had no issue with my weight whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah it most definately is personal taste and their loss but if they not size specific then it not nice to msg to b told u too big if u know where i'm coming from. just wondered wat the general opinion on size would b xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah it most definately is personal taste and their loss but if they not size specific then it not nice to msg to b told u too big if u know where i'm coming from. just wondered wat the general opinion on size would b xx

Ive stated in my profile that I dont care about weight, race ect. but some peeps really dnt care wht u say and just msg u anyway, its a bit of a letdown when u get a msg from some old guy instead of a sexy woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think its a matter of personal taste. Personally I like large women, I find them just as sexy as thin ones and they can be full of surprises

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol yeah some ppl can't read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol yeah some ppl can't read

preach on sister

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By *ussman1Man
over a year ago

Paisley

Personality is the attraction. Hence always try for social first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personality is the attraction. Hence always try for social first."

yes but if ppl are saying dnt msg if ur too big, u cant try for a social first??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality is the attraction. Hence always try for social first.

yes but if ppl are saying dnt msg if ur too big, u cant try for a social first?? "

They may not be the kind of peeps u want to meet if they cant get past a simple weight issue, although it does all come down to atraction in the end

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By *uncouple981Couple
over a year ago

ayrshire

Ask them what they class as too big. The average woman is a size 16 so are they looking for a below average woman or an above average woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask them what they class as too big. The average woman is a size 16 so are they looking for a below average woman or an above average woman

good point mrs fun! i would't class myself as a larger lady but i know i'm not a skinny either! x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I had one of these messages last week.

At first I was a little hurt, but then I realised that it's their loss, as for all they know we could have got on really well.

On the other side of the coin, we had fun at the weekend with a fantastic couple who had no issue with my weight whatsoever

Definitely their loss Blondie your damn sexy and have nothing to be ashamed of!"

Thanks honey

I keep reminding myself that while I'm still what I think of as large (size 18/20), I have lost over 4 stone in the past 10 months and I feel a lot more confident than before. I have Mr X to thank for that!

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By *uncouple981Couple
over a year ago

ayrshire

"Ask them what they class as too big. The average woman is a size 16 so are they looking for a below average woman or an above average woman

good point mrs fun! i would't class myself as a larger lady but i know i'm not a skinny either! x

I would in no way class you as a larger lady and I should know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks honey

Congrats!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small/large its all in the eye of the beholder.

I have met some larger girls that are amazing, great humor and can a great laugh with.

Met some smaller girls that are so self absorbed and shallow.

It all come down too the actual person, and wither you click our not. Size is nothing over personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Small/large its all in the eye of the beholder.

I have met some larger girls that are amazing, great humor and can a great laugh with.

Met some smaller girls that are so self absorbed and shallow.

It all come down too the actual person, and wither you click our not. Size is nothing over personality."

Agreed

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Small/large its all in the eye of the beholder.

I have met some larger girls that are amazing, great humor and can a great laugh with.

Met some smaller girls that are so self absorbed and shallow.

It all come down too the actual person, and wither you click our not. Size is nothing over personality."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got a message once from a young guy and then I messaged back and promptly got back 'sorry I don't shag fat birds'

Luckily enough it wasn't at the start of our fab journey or I'd have fled for the hills! Still rankled a bit tho as he had messaged us first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had one of these messages last week.

At first I was a little hurt, but then I realised that it's their loss, as for all they know we could have got on really well.

On the other side of the coin, we had fun at the weekend with a fantastic couple who had no issue with my weight whatsoever

Definitely their loss Blondie your damn sexy and have nothing to be ashamed of!

Thanks honey

I keep reminding myself that while I'm still what I think of as large (size 18/20), I have lost over 4 stone in the past 10 months and I feel a lot more oconfident than before. I have Mr X to thank for that!

well done u!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting that the post seems to refer to the ladies only!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day..

Big/small it don't matter.. As long as you are healthy/active and YOU are happy with your body.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Interesting that the post seems to refer to the ladies only!!!"

I'm definitely not a larger guy but I'm not ripped & toned either. Pretty average I'd say. But ripped & toned is often the order of the day.

Another one that gets me is "must be good looking" which kinda goes without saying I think though its pretty subjective, ones Van Gogh is anothers regurgitated dinner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We got a message once from a young guy and then I messaged back and promptly got back 'sorry I don't shag fat birds'

Luckily enough it wasn't at the start of our fab journey or I'd have fled for the hills! Still rankled a bit tho as he had messaged us first

what an Asshole, Ive taken a look at ur pics and I'd never call you fat, some people are so shallow and judgmental .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting that the post seems to refer to the ladies only!!!"

read my original post! says larger lady/man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting that the post seems to refer to the ladies only!!!

I'm definitely not a larger guy but I'm not ripped & toned either. Pretty average I'd say. But ripped & toned is often the order of the day.

Another one that gets me is "must be good looking" which kinda goes without saying I think though its pretty subjective, ones Van Gogh is anothers regurgitated dinner."

lol see i wouldnt ask for ripped n toned as av not got that in the house but if thats wat was under the shirt then i wouldnt complain either.

i just think that instead of sayin not interested in larger ppl they shd b size specific to save others being disappointed or feel they r inadequate x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

yes, they should.

If I'm reading a profile and it says how they're gym bunnies and like others to 'take care of themselves' I stop reading.

Just because I don't go to the gym and am bigger than other women doesn't mean I don't look after myself.

I always read that to mean they want someone similar to themselves, which I clearly am not.

I would never message someone commenting on their looks. If someone messaged me and I wasn't interested, I'd just say they're not my type. I'd never say "no, you're too fat/ugly for me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We got a message once from a young guy and then I messaged back and promptly got back 'sorry I don't shag fat birds'

Luckily enough it wasn't at the start of our fab journey or I'd have fled for the hills! Still rankled a bit tho as he had messaged us first

what an Asshole, Ive taken a look at ur pics and I'd never call you fat, some people are so shallow and judgmental .

Awwww thanks

xxx

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By *rnstar9inMan
over a year ago

central

there is no size limit as far as im concerned, if i get on with a fem or cpl just by messages that makes my mind up what i would like to happen, rather have larger lady who is open minded,good in bed and not shy to a thin fem who is shy and only likes missionary position with lights out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i got a message from a guy on Monday just to tell me i was " too fat for us white guys anyway" was the words he used lol Charming guy i thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i got a message from a guy on Monday just to tell me i was " too fat for us white guys anyway" was the words he used lol Charming guy i thought

WOW! on behalf of all men I apologize.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i got a message from a guy on Monday just to tell me i was " too fat for us white guys anyway" was the words he used lol Charming guy i thought

LOL,

just had too look.

Just right..

What's this gym thing peeps keep talking about? A new fad our something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i got a message from a guy on Monday just to tell me i was " too fat for us white guys anyway" was the words he used lol Charming guy i thought

i think u look fine, wat an asshole x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask them what they class as too big. The average woman is a size 16 so are they looking for a below average woman or an above average woman

good point mrs fun! i would't class myself as a larger lady but i know i'm not a skinny either! x

I would in no way class you as a larger lady and I should know

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"i got a message from a guy on Monday just to tell me i was " too fat for us white guys anyway" was the words he used lol Charming guy i thought

i think u look fine, wat an asshole x"

I agree. What a cock! Hope you've reported him for abuse.

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By *aucy MikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"i got a message from a guy on Monday just to tell me i was " too fat for us white guys anyway" was the words he used lol Charming guy i thought

His loss sexy lady. I don't care what anyone thinks of my size and by the sound of things am larger than the lades who've commented so far. Mike thinks I'm sexy, gorgeous and great fun in bed and out. The guys we've played with so far have asked to meet again and that's good enough for me. There are so many shallow, time wasting people on here. I hope you find genuine ones who appreciate your sexy curves. Sx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a very abusive message late last year saying i ate to much cakes! haha wowza ....... but being a bi female i love the larger ladies sexy, curvasiousm and something actually to hold! and not just feel like holding a skinned off pig there loss if the want to sleep with a breadstick

power to the bigger women!

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I got a very abusive message late last year saying i ate to much cakes! haha wowza ....... but being a bi female i love the larger ladies sexy, curvasiousm and something actually to hold! and not just feel like holding a skinned off pig there loss if the want to sleep with a breadstick

power to the bigger women!

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

power to the bigger women!

very much agreed

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By *ictiiWitchCouple
over a year ago

Helensburgh

I get that quite a lot, not on here but walking down the street etc. one guy shouted after me during the summer saying "nice tits, shame they are on a fat cow like you"

Sometimes you can really start to lose faith in people..

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By *uncouple981Couple
over a year ago

ayrshire

I honestly can't believe people would be so rude and hurtful. Are these people perfect in every way when they think they can comment on others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats totally out of order.

Never a cop around when you need them.

Yet you can find then harassing people in the car park at my work. LOL but then again some nights it can get interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people can be so cruel, I just hope that you poor individuals who do get told these horrible Lies don't think any worse of the rest of us. If it makes you feel any better your all sexy beauties in my books and Id be honored to ever get an evening with any of you.

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By *ittle Jon46Man
over a year ago

Dundee

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By *ittle Jon46Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Hey,not sure what's too big or what size you are, but you are very, sexy. Dont ever let the buggers get you down!!, As above I would be delgithed with the chance to meet. Have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I come too this thread, I canny help that Mika sing jumping into my head.

" big girls you are beautiful"

Boy did he get that right..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not size that matters its the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We winked a couple from Glasgow the other night (from my partner's profile) "a friendly couple" looking for a meet & got a reply along the lines of

"Haha no chance, if you wanted a laugh hen you should have just looked in the mirror IMFA"

It's really upset me & knocked my confidence as I feel that I'm holding my partner back from having more fun.

As for the friendly couple I think they need to rewrite their profile as they came across as anything but friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not even worth the thought tbh.

People like that are what you call "a waste of space"

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By *aucy MikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Its not even worth the thought tbh.

People like that are what you call "a waste of space""

Agreed! As Saucy said earlier, I think she's very sexy and much as I prefer the curvier lady, all shapes and sizes of women are beautiful and should be admired and adored. Mike

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Ignorant people annoy the hell out of me. If someone isn't to your taste, delete the message and move on. What's the bloody point being rude and nasty??? I have to be honest and say I have ninjaperved at some profiles on here and I haven't found a profile I didn't like

So bollocks to the ignorant people, and hello to all the lovely nice people

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By *aucy MikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Ignorant people annoy the hell out of me. If someone isn't to your taste, delete the message and move on. What's the bloody point being rude and nasty??? I have to be honest and say I have ninjaperved at some profiles on here and I haven't found a profile I didn't like

So bollocks to the ignorant people, and hello to all the lovely nice people

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Ps. Sorry for ranting

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