FabSwingers.com forum: Lowering your standard

By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

Why should people lower their standards You wouldnt do it in the real world so why do people expect/ask u to do it here.for me attraction is a:MUST .Im an adult and know im not for every1 and would never force myself on some 1 if they said no. Be picky be fussy.

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Some folk will just keep trying, in the hopes of geting a Yes, when someone is at a low point.

I'm experiencing it sorta from an old FWB, but she just won't take no for an answer. Not even with my valid reasons.

Mandy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is a huge difference between an online profile and an actual social/meet. I understand everyone has their level of standard and rightly so however in reality I don't think any online profile gives a true insight into what that said person can be like in real life. Being attractive is only half the battle... so much goes on between ones lugs that can be so unattractive. Can we really judge someone truly on an online profile alone ? Without any form social its impossible to judge.

Trying to juggle attraction/personality to suit provides a hard task.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Just block them?? I honestly believe that a lot of people on here get kicks out of having people chase them, then moaning about it on forums. See this all the time

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

This is why I rarely meet, I never lower my standards

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

Why would you settle for anything less than what you would like?

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.

But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Why should people lower their standards You wouldnt do it in the real world so why do people expect/ask u to do it here.for me attraction is a:MUST .Im an adult and know im not for every1 and would never force myself on some 1 if they said no. Be picky be fussy."
I don’t !

If there isn’t an attraction then nothing is going to happen no matter how much they ask.

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

I rarely meet and the vast majority of my veris are from social events. I'm incredibly fussy and have mentioned that more than once on my profile. I know what I'm attracted to and that will never change nor will I lower my standards for anyone!

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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

If there isn’t an attraction then nothing is going to happen no matter how much they ask. "

Iv had guys threating to screen shot my profile and send it to people just because i said no there wasnt an attration. For me there has to be an attraction

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

No I couldn’t do it personally

I like who I like and that won’t change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely agree

I've had a meet before where I wasn't too sure if I was entirely attracted, and the sex was rubbish cause of it

I won't put myself in that situation again. Even if it means no sex, I'd rather wait

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"I completely agree

I've had a meet before where I wasn't too sure if I was entirely attracted, and the sex was rubbish cause of it

I won't put myself in that situation again. Even if it means no sex, I'd rather wait

It’s that whole quality over quantity thing innit

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

"I completely agree

I've had a meet before where I wasn't too sure if I was entirely attracted, and the sex was rubbish cause of it

I won't put myself in that situation again. Even if it means no sex, I'd rather wait

100% agree with this ^^^^ I'd rather go without than have rubbish sex!

It’s that whole quality over quantity thing innit

100% agree with this ^^^. If rather go without than have mediocre sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need the attraction and personality to give you the umph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only shag 10/10 stunners like myself.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Someone was moaning about me being too fussy for fab

Still didn't shag him x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"Some folk will just keep trying, in the hopes of geting a Yes, when someone is at a low point.

I'm experiencing it sorta from an old FWB, but she just won't take no for an answer. Not even with my valid reasons.

Mandy"

It’s unfair to take advantage when someone is at a low point. They should be offering support. Hope you’re ok. Fx

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"Someone was moaning about me being too fussy for fab

Still didn't shag him x"

Fussy or selective, either way he’s not getting his boaby wet

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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

I have to agree with what is being said. You know what you like and don’t like. You could be the hottest person in the world to me, but if there’s not much going on between the ears or you have the personality of a wet wipe, it’s not going to work. Equally I could get on great with you, but if I’m not attracted to you, it’s not working for me.

I want lust. I want passion. Don’t want mediocre sex and just going through the motions.

Everyone likes different types

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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

"I only shag 10/10 stunners like myself."

With shit hot personalities and similar senses of humour as well eh??

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Nothing wrong with being selective, fussy, having standards, etc. What is wrong is receiving abusive messages because you’ve said ‘no’. Sometimes it’s easier to not reply, delete or block than get the barrage of abuse.

It’s also not ok for people to judge on the number of verifications or partners someone has had.

Fab is here to facilitate meets, there’s no guarantee of anything and until people realise that there will always be those who moan about not having any meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only shag 10/10 stunners like myself.

With shit hot personalities and similar senses of humour as well eh??

Nah, as long as they have big tits it's all good.

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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

"I only shag 10/10 stunners like myself.

With shit hot personalities and similar senses of humour as well eh??

Nah, as long as they have big tits it's all good."

And know how to suck a callipo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only shag 10/10 stunners like myself.

With shit hot personalities and similar senses of humour as well eh??

Nah, as long as they have big tits it's all good.

And know how to suck a callipo

Absoultely, its my number 1 requirement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction and personality and just cause i have pulse im not into saying yes sex to anyone im not attracted to socials or whats app 1st now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy who's personally very shy and stuff honestly it reflects on here I'm selve reserved and don't go all cocky like most.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

If I look at a face pic and think 'OK maybe' it's then down to the chat to see if I want to meet them for a social. Physical and mental attraction is a must, it just doesn't work with only one of them.

At something like greedy girls you can get away with it just being physical attraction alone, but it still doesn't really stimulate my mind. A good personality is so important.

Sadly, 95% of the messages I get are from people that I'm not physically attracted to. I just delete the message unless they've bothered to write a decent intro then I will reply with a sorry but no message.

This hasn't changed whether I've been single or in a relationship. If the choice was between sex with someone who didn't excite me and going without, I'd prefer to go without. I rarely have meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a strange way I actually don’t mind it at all when a fem says no to me after chatting and seeing my mush, it’s refreshing actually and I really respect that.

Lowering standards is sheer desperation and ultimately hugely disrespectful to other human beans. We need to start being better to each other and we can only do so once we start being better ourselves.

Ok fine, I was gutted recently when I was too ugly but I pulled my big boy pants up, dried my eyes….and ate a full bag of kettle chips to recover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I rarely meet, I never lower my standards "

I do have feelings you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the issue is ,its there ceiling, but your floor . Sometimes you have to play the fool, to Fool the fool

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

I have to be picky as I am into BDSM, and fetish activity.Someone who is meeting for intercourse/oral would not get on with Me, as I don't perform these acts with anyone but My LTR partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.

But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic."

Pretty much this though it does happen in real life also.

If Tom Hardy fancys dropping his standards to myself

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"I think there is a huge difference between an online profile and an actual social/meet. I understand everyone has their level of standard and rightly so however in reality I don't think any online profile gives a true insight into what that said person can be like in real life. Being attractive is only half the battle... so much goes on between ones lugs that can be so unattractive. Can we really judge someone truly on an online profile alone ? Without any form social its impossible to judge.

Trying to juggle attraction/personality to suit provides a hard task. "

Agree with this as I recently met someone for a social whom I got on with during online chat but his pictures meant I wasn’t sure if I would be attracted to but I was pleasantly surprised at how much I did find him attractive, his pics definitely didn’t do him justice however he must have felt the opposite about me as didn’t hear from him again

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By *ac995Man
over a year ago

aberdeen

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.

But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic.

Pretty much this though it does happen in real life also.

If Tom Hardy fancys dropping his standards to myself

Arm wrestle you for him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest that says more about him than you, end of the day probably his loss, not the end of the world for yourself. A simple reply or message after a social goes a long way whichever way it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.

But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic.

Pretty much this though it does happen in real life also.

If Tom Hardy fancys dropping his standards to myself

Arm wrestle you for him!"

Can we leg wrestle my arms ain't the strongest and I want to win!

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Never sell yourself short, that goes for any human no matter the gender, to many people message everyone without any form of possible physical attraction trying to get a meet/sex a pair tits is a pair tits same goes for vag, ass and dick and indeed tummy or without a big tummy (to many forums atm)

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his?

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Would any of you folk (who won't drop your standards) happily raise your standards to ride someone you felt were lowering theirs? Say, for example, Tom Hardy decides neither Charlotte Riley nor their gorgeous unicorn are keeping him satisfied and he fancies easing his ball-ache with a stranger on Fab. You good with him potentially lowering his? "

Given you're already hypothetically fighting over him, I'm gonna take that as a yes.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Oh. And can I referee the leg wrestling? I'm qualified.

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"I think a lot of people do on here just to get laid. Whether that's men doing it purely to ease the ball ache or women doing it for validation.

But you're right OP, no one should have to. And attempts to almost guilt trip women into a ride are pretty pathetic.

Pretty much this though it does happen in real life also.

If Tom Hardy fancys dropping his standards to myself

Arm wrestle you for him!

Can we leg wrestle my arms ain't the strongest and I want to win!"

If you insist

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends

Sorry - that wasn't aimed at the upper echelons - more the Nestle and Mars Girls.

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By *ugehandsMan
over a year ago

Fife/ Newcastle

There has got to be some kind of mutual attraction whether is physical, intellectual or shared interests otherwise its just not going to happen.

I've never understood the any holes a goal mentality, maybe to many people think porn movies are real life.

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends

I do love a bit of sarcasm

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"There has got to be some kind of mutual attraction whether is physical, intellectual or shared interests otherwise its just not going to happen.

I've never understood the any holes a goal mentality, maybe to many people think porn movies are real life. "

Intellectual?

I got upset because I thought they sent an actual beagle into space and I still feel like fucking Einstein on here sometimes!

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By *ugehandsMan
over a year ago

Fife/ Newcastle

Anyone who can string a coherent sentence together of fab can be classed as a genius in comparison to some.

I'm thinking about the wanna fuck keyboard warrior in particular.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.

All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

"Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.

All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.

Oh,can I steal this for my super fussy profile?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.

All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.

Oh,can I steal this for my super fussy profile?

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Certainly.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"There has got to be some kind of mutual attraction whether is physical, intellectual or shared interests otherwise its just not going to happen.

I've never understood the any holes a goal mentality, maybe to many people think porn movies are real life.

Intellectual?

I got upset because I thought they sent an actual beagle into space and I still feel like fucking Einstein on here sometimes!"

Einstein on here is a 62 year old single male! Above your age limit and the wrong sex! Don't go lowering your standards!!!

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

"Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.

All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.

Oh,can I steal this for my super fussy profile?

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Certainly.

I may have adapted it for my profile! Hope you approve!

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Why are you even giving the time of day to people you have no intention of meeting

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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"Why are you even giving the time of day to people you have no intention of meeting"

Im not i say no or dont reply

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Standards are like a castle's drawbridge; raise it to keep the riffraff out. Lower it and you let in the vagabonds and the Johnny-cum-lateleys.

All hail our standards. May they never drop like whore's drawers.

Oh,can I steal this for my super fussy profile?

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Certainly.

I may have adapted it for my profile! Hope you approve!

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It's perfect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to some of the messages I get,(from men with dented egos) apparently, lots of men wouldn't look twice at me in the real world but lower their standards here and I should be grateful for it.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends

Sorry - that wasn't aimed at the upper echelons - more the Nestle and Mars Girls. "

That’s alright then

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

"According to some of the messages I get,(from men with dented egos) apparently, lots of men wouldn't look twice at me in the real world but lower their standards here and I should be grateful for it.

Thank you for bringing that up! I'm frequently told I should be grateful for any interest at my age! Therefore I'm totally gonna be dropping my knickers for them! Absolute twats!

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Thank you for bringing that up! I'm frequently told I should be grateful for any interest at my age! Therefore I'm totally gonna be dropping my knickers for them! Absolute twats!

Wtf … I trust both you ladies tell them to get to! X

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends

I do love a bit of sarcasm"

Sarcasm? I was being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me you should always respect the other persons wishes and boundaries the way I see it is once a mind is made up no point trying to change it. Unfortunately it will always be apart of some peoples mentality to think they can negotiate or change it.

But saying that if i'm bribed with food well that may change my standards haha

But while reading this thread this song popped into my head.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=llGvsgN17CQ

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

Eh I would say he would be raising his standards if he were to come a calling upon myself or my fab friends

I do love a bit of sarcasm

Sarcasm? I was being honest

You're funny.

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By *horesonWellesMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Quality over quantity every time, and not just with physical attraction! Biphobia is the most common reason I preventatively block people. If you say something that comes off as racist, transphobic, bi/homophobic, fatphobic etc - I'm out. Honest ignorance is one thing, but if you're in my inbox fetishizing me you can get lost. I'm a person not a sex toy.

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Maybe not lowering standards, but if the personality, attitude and confidence shines through then that’s already an attraction for us, sparks that interest to explore more..on line is already a minefield trying to get to know someone…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what the block button is for. Move on

Mrs

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Online persona is quite often different to face-to-face persona.

I can get along with most people, but if i don't feel attracted, half my brain is thinking of an escape plan while flirting

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