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By *ee2000 OP   Man
over a year ago

ayrshire

Hi all I’m looking for some advice. I’m a single male and I’d love to attend CJ’s but I have a few reservations. I have been before to a couples night with a tinder date (not the most conventional first date I know) so I know what it is like but I feel that going as a single male would be a whole different ball game

I just want to know really if it’s worthwhile attending as a single male as I feel that single females and couples will already be spoilt for choice in that department and that I may be perceived as another chancer. Just any recommendations of nights to go to or advice in general would be appreciated….

If any single females would like to go as friends (after a social meeting first ofcourse) then I’d be happy to take you up on that.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

You'll have trouble finding a lady to accompany a stranger, if they behave badly it reflects badly on them.

Just treat it as a night out, socialise, don't drink too much or follow people round like a creep and you'll be fine.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"Hi all I’m looking for some advice. I’m a single male and I’d love to attend CJ’s but I have a few reservations. I have been before to a couples night with a tinder date (not the most conventional first date I know) so I know what it is like but I feel that going as a single male would be a whole different ball game

I just want to know really if it’s worthwhile attending as a single male as I feel that single females and couples will already be spoilt for choice in that department and that I may be perceived as another chancer. Just any recommendations of nights to go to or advice in general would be appreciated….

If any single females would like to go as friends (after a social meeting first ofcourse) then I’d be happy to take you up on that. "

Not true that women and couples are spoilt for choice at all.

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By *ee2000 OP   Man
over a year ago

ayrshire


"Hi all I’m looking for some advice. I’m a single male and I’d love to attend CJ’s but I have a few reservations. I have been before to a couples night with a tinder date (not the most conventional first date I know) so I know what it is like but I feel that going as a single male would be a whole different ball game

I just want to know really if it’s worthwhile attending as a single male as I feel that single females and couples will already be spoilt for choice in that department and that I may be perceived as another chancer. Just any recommendations of nights to go to or advice in general would be appreciated….

If any single females would like to go as friends (after a social meeting first ofcourse) then I’d be happy to take you up on that.

Not true that women and couples are spoilt for choice at all. "

That’s why I’m after some advice buddy, I’ve only ever been to the single female & couples night before so I’ve no experience as a single male there. I was hoping that wasn’t the case though. I think the numbers get limited don’t they?

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Just go book on as a single, theres usually a predrinks organised if you check the forum

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By *irtyworky69Man
over a year ago

north lanarkshire

Following this for advice aswell

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"Just go book on as a single, theres usually a predrinks organised if you check the forum"

Also if you are going as a single get booked in ASAP for the night you want to attend as they fill up fast

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By *omethingDifferent4FunWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh-ish


"You'll have trouble finding a lady to accompany a stranger, if they behave badly it reflects badly on them.

Just treat it as a night out, socialise, don't drink too much or follow people round like a creep and you'll be fine."

Top advice! Also worth attending predrinks to break the ice and get to know a few folk so you feel more comfortable when you get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends.

If you are going to be one of the wanking dead, slinking around, chatting loudly about work and/or football with people outside playrooms, and asking the people entering the playrooms "wow, do you have a real woman in there?" before slinking off to the cinema room for a wank over Briana Banks (circa 2001) then no, I wouldn't bother.

If you're going to be cool, confident, and sophisticated, approaching couples and single women like James Bond, clean, well presented, smelling and looking great, then go. And you will probably pull.

Maybe see you there xx

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By *unguyjay500Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It depends.

If you are going to be one of the wanking dead, slinking around, chatting loudly about work and/or football with people outside playrooms, and asking the people entering the playrooms "wow, do you have a real woman in there?" before slinking off to the cinema room for a wank over Briana Banks (circa 2001) then no, I

wouldn't bother.

If you're going to be cool, confident, and sophisticated, approaching couples and single women like James Bond, clean, well presented, smelling and looking great, then go. And you will probably pull.

Maybe see you there xx "

sounds like you talking from experience

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By *Booboo-Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If you are worried about turning up on your own the pre-drinks is an absolute in my opinion.

The first time I went, I went on my own and met everyone for pre-drinks. Some people will stick to their own little group but there's always plenty of people there who will welcome you in as long as you have a bit of conversation and don't sit staring like a creep. Remember that the physical aspect is only a part of the experience so treat it like meeting anyone at the pub and you'll be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You aren’t alone op.

I’ve every intention of getting along to cj’s this year as a lot of my friends do go fairly often. I’ve zero intention of going alone.

A long time ago I went to a social event in Glasgow and the single guys all stood at the edges with their beers looking shifty as hell. I’d rather not risk being like that.

I hope you do manage to get along chum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I attended as a cpl but was left to be single

Never had any luck

A may give it A try once more

If no luck I won't return

But you want go try see how it is

U might be lucky

Night I went was spur of moment

Or it just me that no 1 was interested in

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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago

the pub or in the nude in Paisley


"I attended as a cpl but was left to be single

Never had any luck

A may give it A try once more

If no luck I won't return

But you want go try see how it is

U might be lucky

Night I went was spur of moment

Or it just me that no 1 was interested in"

What do you mean? Never had any luck, did you approach folk for chat or anything?

Just because you’ve went doesn’t guarantee you getting lucky!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"If you are worried about turning up on your own the pre-drinks is an absolute in my opinion.

The first time I went, I went on my own and met everyone for pre-drinks. Some people will stick to their own little group but there's always plenty of people there who will welcome you in as long as you have a bit of conversation and don't sit staring like a creep. Remember that the physical aspect is only a part of the experience so treat it like meeting anyone at the pub and you'll be fine."

Hello stranger. When are you coming back to CJs? x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"I attended as a cpl but was left to be single

Never had any luck

A may give it A try once more

If no luck I won't return

But you want go try see how it is

U might be lucky

Night I went was spur of moment

Or it just me that no 1 was interested in"

If you coupled up with a female to get in to CJs then there’s no obligation to stay and play together or with each other.

CJs isn’t a sex club, you go to socialise and if anything else happens it’s a bonus. I rarely play at CJs but have met some lovely people that I’ve arranged to meet up with another time.

Luck doesn’t come into it. You do actually need to make an effort to socialise with people. Wandering about upstairs is unlikely to get you anywhere.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

For Fun For All nights there’s usually a pre-drinks social in town from 6.30-9.00. Everyone is welcome to attend.

It might be easier for single guys to go when it’s not a big theme night as these get filled up quickly.

Go with no expectations, don’t drink too much, chat to people in the forums who you know are going and come along to pre drinks as it’s a great ice breaker and helps calm the nerves.

I’ll introduce you to the people at the social and it’s up to you to do the rest. Those that do well at CJs have a personality and some banter, maybe even some cheesy chat up lines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been as a single male.

Was a free night, got talking to two of the ladies as soon a I went in down the stairs

Got talking to a couple of the guys, they all disappeared together, I got talking to another really friendly guy and we had a good laugh that night.

I had some fun with a few of the ladies later on.

And I'm no Greek Adonis with ripped muscles - I'd say I'm cuddly.

Bottom line is you determine the night you have.

Don't talk, perv, and just look like a creep - won't work.

You need to mingle, talk, form relationships (not sex ones) and take it as it comes

I'm going on the 21st - can't wait.

However this time, I am going to go to the predrinks before hand (as long as I'm welcome)

Sont hold back, go for it, but be prepared to make the effort.

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By *Booboo-Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"If you are worried about turning up on your own the pre-drinks is an absolute in my opinion.

The first time I went, I went on my own and met everyone for pre-drinks. Some people will stick to their own little group but there's always plenty of people there who will welcome you in as long as you have a bit of conversation and don't sit staring like a creep. Remember that the physical aspect is only a part of the experience so treat it like meeting anyone at the pub and you'll be fine.

Hello stranger. When are you coming back to CJs? x"

Hey hey. Been away for a bit. Might see me some time soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only thing I can add is as a single man please don't follow women around or stand and stare like a creep

You'd think that would just be common sense eh

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By *ccue 23Man
over a year ago

greenock

We're is this place I can never find it in Glasgow

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...


"It depends.

If you are going to be one of the wanking dead, slinking around"

The wanking dead...

I may have just woken all the dead locally laughing at this comment. I'm crying!

@OP as others have said get yourself to the social beforehand... I've been to a few social only gatherings and the people I've met have been nothing but friendly, courteous and full of advice.

Pretty much everyone I've met and connected with has offered to say "Hi" when I do venture to CJs; just to fire a message in the Forum chat here for the night I'm going.

I doubt it would be a lonely or uncomfortable night then.

A wee bit of effort to get your head above the parapet first will likely go a long way!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"We're is this place I can never find it in Glasgow "

Once you’ve booked in to an event Cj will send you the details. The profile is kinkycj

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