FabSwingers.com forum: Block List

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it just me that has a block list the size of my two arms and legs combined?

The amount of harassment I get on here is crazy. If I tell someone I'm not interested in them because of their bare profile, or I'm not attracted to them, or their pictures are shit quality, they get angry at me. Or will make new accounts after blocking them. I wish men could take the obvious hint.

I just ignore messages now for people I'm not interested in because I can't be bothered with the hassle, but then they get angry for ignoring them. There's a big feeling of entitlement from the ones that message me.

I've been on and off the site for 4 years and it's the worst it's ever been imo.People like this ruins the site. I hope Swinghub hurries up and releases the app haha

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By *uiet_69Man
over a year ago

Near

Yeah same

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Use your filters to stop guys messaging and do your own searching

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think the mentality of some is the main issue. They think this is a sex site, and simply signing up entitles them to some "action".

It seems to be a regular thing on here that women get bugged with loads of persistant messages and harrasment style ones. I think ome of the folk sending these need to take a step back and think if they'd like to recieve a message like the one they're about to send, before they hit send.

To the OP, like someone has already suggested, use your filters and although the block list is no longer limited, the filters will stop you having to block so many people.

Mandy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel sorry for the folk who get that treatment... spoils it and gives everyone else a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your ignoring messages maybe best to use the filter to stop people messaging altogether and look yourself.

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

I'm exactly the same. I use filters and still get harassed. I hide my profile most of the time now. A lot of them feel entitled and some are downright abusive. Definitely getting worse. That said, I've made a few really good platonic friends through this site.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Is it just me that has a block list the size of my two arms and legs combined?

I've been on and off the site for 4 years and it's the worst it's ever been imo.People like this ruins the site. I hope Swinghub hurries up and releases the app haha"
I say this all the time but the site gives you filters for a reason so start using them .

Just block single guys from messaging you and do your own searches .

I think a lot of how people behave depends on the interaction they are receiving too .

I’ve been here a long time and can honestly say I could count on one hand the amount of abusive messages I’ve received yet others say they receive a lot of abuse , there must be a reason for that !

Op use your filters

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

"Use your filters to stop guys messaging and do your own searching "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ended up just blocking all men from messaging me

Fab has never been more pleasant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all for getting back! Honestly that might be a good idea just blocking guys from messaging altogether and just do the messaging myself, I didn't even think of that! Would definitely help!

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over a year ago

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
over a year ago

carluke

Our block list is a massive 4 people. All of which just couldn’t take no for an answer. On the whole when we’ve told someone to read our profile, they don’t message again

Guess we’re lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block is my new swipe left button, saves a lot of wasted time from both sides I'm sure.

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By *hroatitboyMan
over a year ago

GLA

Mines is long but if someone says they’re not interested etc I block as to not message them again in the future. And if someone’s an arse they join them lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep... I've been on here for 14 years, and this is the worst it's ever been .. even when u do arrange to meet, most the guys don't even turn up either... Completely fed up with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Covid has a lot to answer for with the fucking oddball behaviours across society now. I’ve been super lucky and only encountered a handful over the years as I’m quite careful but this one banger got through the net.

Nice person, seemingly, randomly turns into a social media creep, contacts people i know and then gives me abuse for it

You know you’ve really dodged a bullet when you see a vindictive status aimed at you when you have been nothing but polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for our keyword in the subject heading of a message, as it ensures they've read our profile, and read the keyword. If it's not there then we rarely open the message. If you open any kind of dialogue at all, even to thank them for a compliment, it seems to get some guys overly excited to the point they think they're in there. A lot of them don't even have a photo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never blocked anyone, don't really see the point.

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

"I ended up just blocking all men from messaging me

Fab has never been more pleasant

I fucked up and got on your block list. I didn't forget your name, I just didn't know it to begin with. Sorry

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

I thought our block list was long…until I started a solo profile and that one is much longer and filled up quicker!…

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By *omethingDifferent4FunWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh-ish

The block list grows by the day!

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

My block list keeps growing when men, trans and couples where the men are mostly in control get blocked for fabbing my pictures and look at my profile and I make no apologies for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My block list is quite long, it ranges from those whom I’ve messaged but not got a reply, to those who have politely declined (saves messaging again) to those who have given me abuse.

I empathise with those who get abuse, some of the replies I have received after declining offers is vile. Had one couple tell me I was fortunate that they selected me and how dare I turn them down. (Highly cleaned and sanitised version of their reply!)

It’s a feature I thought I wouldn’t use or need.

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