FabSwingers.com forum: Men using the term slag ,slut

By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

So whats womens & mens opinion on men saying they are looking for sluts & slags .me personally its a delete straight away if i get a mail using the terms HUGE turn off

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...

My wee boy called me "top slut 2023" the other day. Poor boy hasn't been able to sit down since. His arse is still hotter than Fukushima...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wouldn't say that face to face to a woman so why say it on here, don't get why people act differently online

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

An instant delete from me, after adding a note that they're one of the any hole's a goal brigade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't allow any man to call me anything like that without permission

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By *ornimeMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Defo delete the arseholes I mean we all like fun if anything the guys are sluts but I am an angel lol xxx

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
over a year ago

grangemouth

Some instant block

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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"I won't allow any man to call me anything like that without permission "

100% this ..but random mail saying u look like a dirty slut or can i fuck u slut or updates saying looking for sluts to fuck .its a huge turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they use the word slag, instant scum.

Mr is the only one who gets to call Miss slut and only when appropriate.

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

It’s highly offensive and degrading in my opinion. Updates saying looking for a dirty slut, slag etc, calling me one in messages or meeting me and calling me one will result in you being told to get out or me leaving, deleted and blocked.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Circumstantial and depends on what the person's into, just calling someone it randomly especially online screams desperation to me

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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"It’s highly offensive and degrading in my opinion. Updates saying looking for a dirty slut, slag etc, calling me one in messages or meeting me and calling me one will result in you being told to get out or me leaving, deleted and blocked. "

Thats exactly it. It screams they have no respect and shows how they think about women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't allow any man to call me anything like that without permission

100% this ..but random mail saying u look like a dirty slut or can i fuck u slut or updates saying looking for sluts to fuck .its a huge turn off"
Absolutely agree 100%, When they eventually introduce the arseholes filter in here, you will be fine, don't let them get to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't allow any man to call me anything like that without permission

100% this ..but random mail saying u look like a dirty slut or can i fuck u slut or updates saying looking for sluts to fuck .its a huge turn off"

Yep instant block if they do that

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

Thankfully this isn't something I encounter often, but whenever I am subjected to these derogatory names, I instantly delete.

Same goes with any profile names with slut/slag. It speaks to how they perceive women.

I'm not on here to be subjectified and any twat that does deserves to be ignored and blocked! At the very least!

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Thats exactly it. It screams they have no respect and shows how they think about women"

Yes, a real red flag

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By *nubis282Man
over a year ago

Hamilton

It's not a term I'd use for a woman.

Although curious if what's been said would apply to a woman who uses either term for herself? Plenty of usernames on here with these terms in them

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By *inthgowmale45Man
over a year ago

linlithgow

I like using it in bed..would never use it outside of the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s a term used in bed and is one that turns the woman on during play, acceptable.

Any other time, get into the fucking sea.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Automatic block and deletion

Sex is mutual for me

If you want a slag slut or fuck anything catch everything type then pay one and move along.. I'm not and never will be that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you would say something like that is beyond me. It's supposed to be a fun sight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not a term I'd use for a woman.

Although curious if what's been said would apply to a woman who uses either term for herself? Plenty of usernames on here with these terms in them"

Some women like it, some don't. I think it's common sense to be respectful to strangers and not use such terms until you know for sure

I like it in the bedroom with certain men but only when I've gave them permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it’s a term used in bed and is one that turns the woman on during play, acceptable.

Any other time, get into the fucking sea."

Get into the sea....I like that and will be stealing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its an instant block from me.

I absolutely despise derogative language. I honestly don't understand why anyone would message a random stranger thinking it was ok but then I suppose men and women's brains work very differently

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By *enni WhiteTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

Probably the worse 2 words you can here on here

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It all comes down to a bit of respect, and I'd never call a woman anything like that.

I mean in chat, if someone has certain terms in their username I will even avoid using those when addressing them.

Mandy

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

A guy kept on telling me that he was going to use me like the dirty slut I am when I was on cam a few weeks ago.

I may act like an auld hairy sometimes after a bottle of the vino calapso, but the nearest you're getting to me pal is licking your screen.

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"It all comes down to a bit of respect, and I'd never call a woman anything like that.

I mean in chat, if someone has certain terms in their username I will even avoid using those when addressing them.

Mandy"

Aye, does sound a bit contradictory "Hey DIRTYCUMSLUTQUEEN you look so classy tonight"

But, if that floats yer boat then fair dos.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"A guy kept on telling me that he was going to use me like the dirty slut I am when I was on cam a few weeks ago.

I may act like an auld hairy sometimes after a bottle of the vino calapso, but the nearest you're getting to me pal is licking your screen. "

If you block them, can they still see you on cam?

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"A guy kept on telling me that he was going to use me like the dirty slut I am when I was on cam a few weeks ago.

I may act like an auld hairy sometimes after a bottle of the vino calapso, but the nearest you're getting to me pal is licking your screen.

If you block them, can they still see you on cam?"

No. This was the first time I'd ever encountered this guy in chat though so didn't realise he was a prick until he said that. To be fair the room are pretty good at calling anyone out if you've asked them to stop and they persist.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums

I quite like good girl. Think it all comes down to consent. If you're going to go out on a limb and say something which may cause upset or offence then ask first.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums

I quite like good girl. Think it all comes down to consent. If you're going to go out on a limb and say something which may cause upset or offence then ask first."

I hate it, they may as well pat me on the head whilst they're at it. But yes, I agree.

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums

I quite like good girl. Think it all comes down to consent. If you're going to go out on a limb and say something which may cause upset or offence then ask first.

I hate it, they may as well pat me on the head whilst they're at it. But yes, I agree."

I'm fond of Pedigree Chum so not fussed

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums

I quite like good girl. Think it all comes down to consent. If you're going to go out on a limb and say something which may cause upset or offence then ask first.

I hate it, they may as well pat me on the head whilst they're at it. But yes, I agree.

I'm fond of Pedigree Chum so not fussed

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By *cotsboyMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

It’s just basic manners I’d say. Don’t think I’ve ever used those words sexually or will use them

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Disgusting in everyday use. Misogynist bullying.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"A guy kept on telling me that he was going to use me like the dirty slut I am when I was on cam a few weeks ago.

I may act like an auld hairy sometimes after a bottle of the vino calapso, but the nearest you're getting to me pal is licking your screen. "

I hope there is a calender function on my phone for these blockbuster events!

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By *aughtyAsian4funMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Definitely not right. That word should be used only on context when there is a mutual understanding between the two. No man has any right calling a woman that even after they have had sex and the words may have been used. Alot of men need to show more respect to the other half.

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By *ornycouple7884Couple
over a year ago

Exeter

So glad to find this thread after a meet last night where one guy kept calling me a slut. I didn't like it at all and should have said something but was during my first dp so was all a bit overwhelming.

Been dwelling on it today as it completely spoiled the experience for me and although technically correct just felt really derogatory and certainly wasn't discussed or agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is shocking that some men use these terms when they don't even know you or met you. It's different if you agree to be called these names when you are on a meet

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By *aughty 1 and Naughty 2Couple
over a year ago

the couple from next door

It an instant turn off for us and block...

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By *inkyjijoMan
over a year ago

Angus

Not very pleasant at all, unacceptable unless it is an agreed part of some roleplay fun etc. You wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar or club and ask " you fancy a shag you slag?" So its a no from me.

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"You wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar or club and ask " you fancy a shag you slag?" So its a no from me."

I have no idea why but that comment made me lol

. Probably because I can imagine the amount of bruised baws it would result in.

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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"So glad to find this thread after a meet last night where one guy kept calling me a slut. I didn't like it at all and should have said something but was during my first dp so was all a bit overwhelming.

Been dwelling on it today as it completely spoiled the experience for me and although technically correct just felt really derogatory and certainly wasn't discussed or agreed.

No man should be calling any woman that during a meet unless u have shown u want it.. it shows they have no respect at all. Doesnt matter if we as women are vanilla or crazy filthy kinky. Until you know a woman wants that kind of talk it shouldnt even be said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had an in depth convo with someone who loves it says it an empowerment owning the word .. me nah i just dont get it if a woman enjoys sex and has a healthy sexual outlook then shes a slag / slut / hoor .. anyone calls me by them its game over , glesga kiss , good night vienna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to say those words whatsoever.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

Not a term that I'd ever use without first knowing that the lady likes the word in the right context too. Also when I'm with a partner in a group situation I have never allowed other guys to use the term towards her.

Interestingly I wrote a short blog on this topic recently. My attraction towards s**ts is off the chart so I've started to make a more conscious effort to attract the women with the qualities of a s**t that I so adore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never found myself in a situation where either word has been accepted, acceptable or needed.

The English language is so varied that there are far better words that suit a situation without being derogatory.

Ravenous is a particular favourite of mine

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I find it disrespectful instant delete if I get it in a mail

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By *bwstarzWoman
over a year ago

south cheshire

I have to say I happily call myself a slut in certain situations with certain people, I’ve taken ownership of the word, however Joe bloggs randomly calling me a slut or a slag is a big no no and just kills the vibe.

I have noticed though that a club that I used to frequent pretty regular has updated their decor and one of the first thing you see as you walk in is the words ‘I love sluts’ on the wall, as well as cum sluts and various other comments and it doesn’t sit right with me, swinging is all about equality, empowerment and celebrating sexuality however stuff like that just gives me Andrew Tate vibes.

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By *dinburgh262Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

As others have said, there’s a time and place for it. Usually in the heat of the moment. Not forcing it into an introductory message.

Not something I’d do, but suppose it’s a case by case basis and will work for some. Although I’d imagine they would have better success saving it for message 2 or 3.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"So whats womens & mens opinion on men saying they are looking for sluts & slags .me personally its a delete straight away if i get a mail using the terms HUGE turn off"

Very disresecful and i wouldnt use those words. unless i know she enjoys them or finds them hot

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By *ighlandGirl14Woman
over a year ago

Inverness

Personally for me in the right context it's a turn on. Just randomly in a message absolutely not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not even able to say it comfortably when I’m being asked to say those things

I’m not much of a dirty talker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me boring or old school

But respect! It's just a massive no, and I wouldn't dream of sending messages like that or saying it in real life either.

Delete, delete , delete I'd they do that - you're better than being called names for someone else's pleasure

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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"Personally for me in the right context it's a turn on. Just randomly in a message absolutely not! "

100% in the rite moment in the heat of it with the rite person .but random 1s mail or 2nd 3rd mail.is a no go for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So degrading so it is,

No man can define your worth, and even then if its anything less than queen! Baws start drapping

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

It's never OK. I just got a horrendous message on her asking if I wanted to be used as a gangbang slut. Enough to make me want to leave this site

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By *ralPerfectionistMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

It really kicks me straight out of the moment when a guy says something like "you love this dick don't you ya little slut" because I have to correct him "I do enjoy this but I'm not a slut". They see it in porn and think others actually like it in real life.

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By *asterslittlewhoreCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Strangly with whore in my name i don't get that too much, something to do with being a couple profile I suspect and that men respect a man alot more than a female profile. As I've had a single profile and was all the slut slags and everything else you can think of!

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By *-JustJai-xWoman
over a year ago

West Lothian

It the kink world slut is a role. It's a word that can be a term of endearment and a major turn on.

However, it needs to be consensual!

My partner or someone I'm playing with using derogatory terms is hot!

Some random who's just jumped in my DM's, not so much!!

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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"It the kink world slut is a role. It's a word that can be a term of endearment and a major turn on.

However, it needs to be consensual!

My partner or someone I'm playing with using derogatory terms is hot!

Some random who's just jumped in my DM's, not so much!!

I agree in the rite place and time with the rite person .but a random 1st 2nd 3rd mail with no previous chat is a huge turn off

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By *parkle13Woman
over a year ago

Dundee

Hate it .and getting called darling

Or getting asked ,what you into

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So disrespectful ??

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Not a fan. Find it somewhat distasteful

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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago

the pub or in the nude in Paisley

Yeah I hate it too. Also hate when they offer you cash like we’re doing a job!

Only like it when Pablo says it the way he does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I hate it too. Also hate when they offer you cash like we’re doing a job!

Only like it when Pablo says it the way he does

Us too, hate it..

We've also been offered cash, fine food and the hotel paid for. Cringe!

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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago

the pub or in the nude in Paisley

"Yeah I hate it too. Also hate when they offer you cash like we’re doing a job!

Only like it when Pablo says it the way he does

Us too, hate it..

We've also been offered cash, fine food and the hotel paid for. Cringe!

As soon as folk mention cash or drugs I block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As soon as folk mention cash or drugs I block them

Yeah, so do we.

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By *hrobbermanMan
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"They wouldn't say that face to face to a woman so why say it on here, don't get why people act differently online "

You don't 'get' why people act differently online?

Because nobody would talk about what is discussed online here with any woman or man they just met in 'real life' (as opposed to 'online'). It is not 'done'. We civilised ourselves out of that a few hundred years back.

"Online" is what allows us to use names like "cs1876" or "_hrobberman" and discuss these sexual things without saying who we really are (thus causing crushing exposure etc). If we went up to complete strangers and spoke using the sexualised language that is used on here we might get arrested.

I am really surprised that you don't get that!

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By *ewcpl80Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

"They wouldn't say that face to face to a woman so why say it on here, don't get why people act differently online

You don't 'get' why people act differently online?

I am really surprised that you don't get that! "

Think your missing the point, he doesn't get why people feel brave enough to use these degrading names when they most likely don't have the balls to do it in real life. Keyboard terrorist I'm told they call it these days. But I'm with him I don't get it ether, just like I don't get wanting to shoot the guy down for asking a legitimate question just because it's done online.

Suppose this is the ages we live today right

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By *hrobbermanMan
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"They wouldn't say that face to face to a woman so why say it on here, don't get why people act differently online

You don't 'get' why people act differently online?

I am really surprised that you don't get that!

Suppose this is the ages we live today right

I suppose what I am saying is..

"The freedom that forums, websites and sex sites give you for anonymous open discussion and hookups is the same freedom for anonymous open discussion which allows some people to use words which some consider to be rude and off-limits."

I dont use such language myself but I wholeheartedly support others right to use it. I suppose I am secretly hoping it will reduce the competition!

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