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By *eth_Gecko OP   Man
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Me....hunners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I've had plenty of first messages from females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm new here too.

So far have just had the one message but I've only recently been allowed to post to forums etc.

I'm not too fussed if I don't get lots of messages cause I trust that the right ones will get in touch.

Till then I'm just enjoying the energy of the space and being my authentic self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a few although mainly from couples. I haven’t had since coming back to fab after about 18 months break but, yeah, about 5 or 6 over a 2 month period.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not often, but some.

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By *exicolaMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

Now and again but certainly not as many as I'd like

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I’m not shy at mailing guys I like the look of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I mean she turned out to be a single dad called Paul….but I’m still taking it as a small win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will make first contact if theres a common interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once in a blue moon

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By *halquoneMan
over a year ago

alva

I have been on here for over a year and I can say I have not had one. But I think that’s just because am ugly. So fair dues.

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By *opetop4UMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yes, I've had a trickle too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero mate glad am not the only one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, but I can't complain cos I haven't been sending any either

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Nope although I don’t really message anyone myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah , add more pics to your profile and post pics regular along with updates , haven’t read your bio but it looks to be a decent amount and not just a few lines , also get into chat rooms on cam and take part in forums regularly. Hope that helps

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By *clayairMan
over a year ago

central west

Fighting them off….,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

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Granted, we are a couples profile, but I do most of the messaging rather than Mr, and I am not shy at messaging guys who catch our eye

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it.

I'm the same, not had any messages and I don't think my profile is bad.

Clearly women get a tonne of hassle and are very particular as are the couples.

I'll hopefully keep persevering updating things and then it might happen.

I removed my profile pic as it had my face and thought better of it.

But I don't feel comfortable with a naked body pic - gotta keep some of that suspense there ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

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Yes, plenty message me, too many in fact.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I'm quite far down the fab pecking order, but I have had a few over the years. It's so rare, though, that I tend to be more guarded when it does happen.

One that sticks in my mind was the female half of a couple who bantered back and forth for a good while, before, out of the blue, sending "Cheating fucking scumbag!" and blocking me. She/they didn't even give me the chance to concur!

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Had it happen a few times it's actually nice when a woman makes the effort, that said no vag pic with any these messages

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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

"

I tend to wink at men who catch my attention and wait to see if they wink back before sending a message! Sometimes I'll send a first message if the profile really gets my attention and I'm feeling brave!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

I tend to wink at men who catch my attention and wait to see if they wink back before sending a message! Sometimes I'll send a first message if the profile really gets my attention and I'm feeling brave! "

Oh really?

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By *uiet_69Man
over a year ago

Near

Yeah probably 5 times a year and I’m

Not sure if it’s male playing out fantasy

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By *ing_of_the_swingers400Man
over a year ago

edinbugh

Only if it’s from a forum thread but never in just a chat scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

16 at the last count (not that im counting )If you don't count the troll messages,then its 1,Horny guy from Milton Keynes can you just stop pls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still trying to figure out what the main attraction is for women on here, its almost like a top, middle or bottom choice ie. Pot luck, most if not all won't entertain any form one word message which is completely understandable, half hearted effort gets a small % of replies but what I'm finding is the more effort you put into an initial message falls on deaf ears so to speak. I understand a picture paints 1000 words however not in every instance which has been proven time after time on here. Being respectful, kind, mannerful and genuine very rarely comes into it, I personally think many won't reply if they simply don't like an image, without even knowing the person its very difficult, I've had 3 women message me, one was a four word question, the other was almost like a copy and paste and the last started very well but suddenly fell silent, still not sure why or how the silence started. Quite hard to figure out the profile judgement on here and that covers all genders I dare say. I get the men to women ratio is crazy but there seems to be something missing in between. Trust is a huge thing to gain, is huge to give however without any correspondence this place may aswell be the Viz comic

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By *j188Couple
over a year ago

aberdeenshire

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By *j188Couple
over a year ago

aberdeenshire

We’re also a couple but l (mrs)am usually the one typing. I’ve never had a problem writing introductory messages to a guy.

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By *tew1985Man
over a year ago

Near You

I could count on 1 hand for all the years I've been here. I get about 4 guys per day message though. Maybe I should take the hint.lol

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By *ood_Girl99Woman
over a year ago

Dundee

The only meet I've had this time round, was with a guy I messaged first. Had seen him previous times on here and remembered him. His intelligent profile and common interests caught my eye.

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By *azzle99Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I’ve made a lot of first contact, more so if I’m in a new city with work etc. Been doubted so many times if I’m real!

Can’t win!

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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

I tend to wink at men who catch my attention and wait to see if they wink back before sending a message! Sometimes I'll send a first message if the profile really gets my attention and I'm feeling brave!

Oh really?"

You know it!

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

It's happened once or twice

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By *cotsboyMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"We’re also a couple but l (mrs)am usually the one typing. I’ve never had a problem writing introductory messages to a guy."

Fantastic photos and great to see someone else from the shire. Feel free to drop me a message

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

…

I’ve sent the first message a few times….especially if the profile reads quite interesting or I’ve seen then posting on forums

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By *omble 69Man
over a year ago

Symington

Sadly never

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By *ubbyandHisHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Yep, I mean she turned out to be a single dad called Paul….but I’m still taking it as a small win"

I proper snort laughed at this

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I’ve had quite a few. Usually just a pre-emptive “don’t even think about it” but they still count, don’t they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve sent the first message a few times….especially if the profile reads quite interesting or I’ve seen then posting on forums "

A few times my backside, you send me more messages than the kings had hot dinners!

Or have I got you mixed up with another? This has happened previously

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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago

the pub or in the nude in Paisley

Used to get them with a single man profile. Get none now with the couples one

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By *eth_Gecko OP   Man
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Well in a strange way I'm glad to see all the replies in here and find out I'm not the only one.

Actually find the site more entertaining now more than ever as I now get that about 90% of the users are full of BS...and not to take all this serious now.

And people bend more rules in here than the Catholic Church.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, I mean she turned out to be a single dad called Paul….but I’m still taking it as a small win"

Hahaha this made me laugh this morning thanks

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Once in a while yeah

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By *ookonthebrightside71Man
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Yip but they turn out to be scams looking to be paid.

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By *ike4256Man
over a year ago

Musselburgh

Never had one yet

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By *rfredzzzMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've been messaged first by women several times. But then I'm black and they've all been white women who were into interracial fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not often but I had a couple recently.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Well in a strange way I'm glad to see all the replies in here and find out I'm not the only one.

Actually find the site more entertaining now more than ever as I now get that about 90% of the users are full of BS...and not to take all this serious now.

And people bend more rules in here than the Catholic Church.

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Why do we need to take it seriously. I'm here for fun. Enough seriously stuff in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once or twice since I rejoined a few weeks ago...

Mostly it is couples asking me to join in...haven't taken anyone up yet though...

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sure my first meeting she saw fresh meat and took the plunge he's mine as for the rest occasionally but few we've became best friends after them leaving the site none sexual

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By *ruetothisMan
over a year ago

UK

Yes or a wink which usually means up for chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never received a message from a lady on the back of my profile, although I've had a few DM'ing I. Response to posts.

I have sent a couple to guys when the kids were at their mums though.

Paul x

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By *oberto7Man
over a year ago

Greenock


"I’m not shy at mailing guys I like the look of "
Still waiting lol

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By *aintmikeMan
over a year ago

glasgow

My Inbox is fecking overflowing with single and married women ,,, please stop mailing me, i cant keep up,,, try some other guys for feck sake,,,,,,,

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By *innMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Yes a few first contacts from women. But just a few. It’s usually because if I can provide the safe anonymous experience they want.

Normally I am first to contact them due to their interests.

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By *r-King SizeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Nope but then again I'm built like a dad and not a brick house

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By *rscotsdudeMan
over a year ago

angus

I have a few times but its always been through something said on forums. Had a few messages thanking for the laughs i gave them (forum banter....not naked pics!)

Had one other really dodgy message. Was again through forums and i had mentioned i was a farmer.....lets just say she was more interested in what animals i had and not in a healthy way

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

A female was called a fake after she messaged a guy from a profile that had only been on a week. Can’t win.

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

Being completely honest, I never message first. Don't know if I'm just plain lazy or what!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, I send the polite hello and stuff but never get replies, not even to say they aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two messages today,both from blokes

Two yesterday,both from blokes,im wondering maybe im only attractive to men

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"Two messages today,both from blokes

Two yesterday,both from blokes,im wondering maybe im only attractive to men "

Not to me. And don't go flooding my inbox with photos of your boabie trying to change my mind.

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By *apis_lazuliMan
over a year ago

newcaslte

I have never been approached on here by a woman. In ‘real life’ I actually get a reasonable amount of attention from women, but on here I feel like I have two heads.

If I message someone, I make an effort. I write full paragraphs and include a face image … but I get nothing. Not even a “no thank you” reply.

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By *ugbyBawsMan
over a year ago

Fife

Nope....but the men love me apparently.

I'm only here exploring/nosing anyway, so not upset by the fact.

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By *rijjMan
over a year ago

paisley

Once or twice but then got ghosted or blocked out the blue haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm still trying to figure out what the main attraction is for women on here, its almost like a top, middle or bottom choice ie. Pot luck, most if not all won't entertain any form one word message which is completely understandable, half hearted effort gets a small % of replies but what I'm finding is the more effort you put into an initial message falls on deaf ears so to speak. I understand a picture paints 1000 words however not in every instance which has been proven time after time on here. Being respectful, kind, mannerful and genuine very rarely comes into it, I personally think many won't reply if they simply don't like an image, without even knowing the person its very difficult, I've had 3 women message me, one was a four word question, the other was almost like a copy and paste and the last started very well but suddenly fell silent, still not sure why or how the silence started. Quite hard to figure out the profile judgement on here and that covers all genders I dare say. I get the men to women ratio is crazy but there seems to be something missing in between. Trust is a huge thing to gain, is huge to give however without any correspondence this place may aswell be the Viz comic "

We get a lot of messages from men saying things like...man I'd love to fuck your wife or you pics have me throbbing!

Instant put off for me (wife) my hubby loves nothing more than to watch me be pleasured by another man, he would have it happen every day if he could!

I once got chatting to a guy that had such a great sense of humour... Didn't go straight into the sex/dirty chat, and I really enjoyed chatting/getting to know him...then he went silent...profile was gone, still have no idea what happened there

I know this is a swingers site and trust me when I say I LOVE sex, but connection is key for me! I need a connection...a good sense of humour always helps! Make me laugh and the door will start to open. I'm not about finding a random guy sending a few messages and him turning up at the door! Everyone is different, but that's just my view on things, for the sex to be great...connection is key! How can we make a connection over a message that says..."I want you to jump on my cock" just doesn't do anything for me.

Alot of people will say but it's a swinging site... Yes that's correct, but I want to get to know the person who will be sharing my bed for a few hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent a first message a few times. Usually from through the forums or the back of a status update.

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...

Every 2 years I get a first message from a lovely wee lady, it always reads the same; "hey son, got a new phone and just wanting to see if this still works. Text me back, love mum xxx".

Kinda sweet that she still doesn't trust technology in her 70s!

As for FAB messages, once in a blue moon...maybe!

Hens teeth are more abundant.

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
over a year ago

carluke

Sometimes we get messages from women first, but they are all the same. Joined the site a day ago and have been verified by a guy the same day. They have nothing written on their profile and one dodgy looking picture

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By *mn93Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Once...over the past few years lol. But it is what it is, we move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one or two the past few weeks. A few steamy conversations but not led anywhere and I'm in no rush.

Would much prefer to find a partner I think there is an honest connection with and the sec will be dynamite than jumping on the bed with the first woman to message me.

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By *cania 730Man
over a year ago

newton stewart

any massage near newton stewart dumfries and galloway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling very fortunate to have received messages from females. They usually comment on how good my verifications are so that's probably the reason.

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By *ikerBloke...Man
over a year ago

western hemisphere , planet earth

It happens on the odd occasion they get to the end of my profile without blocking me !!!!

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Often a wink or a fab received, but more often I can't message back due to their filters bunch of pervs they are

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

govan

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

govan

[These days never. When younger it was easier and got the odd one.

One of my first play adventures around 2006.

Message from a lady that said

"Im visiting your city and staying in a hotel. Would you like to fuck me and film for my husband?"

Ofcourse i said yes and we had a great fuck.

After fucking she said

"If you want to go to the bar and watch the footy and have a pint or two ill be waiting here. When youre ready come back and fuck me again then you can go...."

That was a carlsberg meet haha

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By *runkensailor59Man
over a year ago

Bellshill

I get the occasional first message from a woman or couple. But I get the impression there are so many men on here compared to women, and most women get so many messages, they can just reply to the messages that catch their eye, rather than having to actually browse for a man!

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By *hYouNaughtyKittenWoman
over a year ago

Fife

If I come across someone I like the look of, I’ll happily reach out first. I don’t wait for what I’m looking for to just magically find me so a message or a wink first from me and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I come across someone I like the look of, I’ll happily reach out first. I don’t wait for what I’m looking for to just magically find me so a message or a wink first from me and see what happens."

Can wink me anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[These days never. When younger it was easier and got the odd one.

One of my first play adventures around 2006.

Message from a lady that said

"Im visiting your city and staying in a hotel. Would you like to fuck me and film for my husband?"

Ofcourse i said yes and we had a great fuck.

After fucking she said

"If you want to go to the bar and watch the footy and have a pint or two ill be waiting here. When youre ready come back and fuck me again then you can go...."

That was a carlsberg meet haha"

Similar to one I had two years ago. Couple in Manchester reached out asking me to text a number, their friend was in Aberdeen for the weekend and wanted to play. She wasn’t on fab so they were looking and sending her profiles.

Red flags galore, but thought fuck it I’m not busy so let’s see if it’s a guy in a trenchcoat. Sent the WhatsApp, she replied, looked stunning, went along and she was real. Had a cracking night, ended up in the strip bar and back to her hotel. One of the best experiences I’ve had with the site.

It can happen guys.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"[These days never. When younger it was easier and got the odd one.

One of my first play adventures around 2006.

Message from a lady that said

"Im visiting your city and staying in a hotel. Would you like to fuck me and film for my husband?"

Ofcourse i said yes and we had a great fuck.

After fucking she said

"If you want to go to the bar and watch the footy and have a pint or two ill be waiting here. When youre ready come back and fuck me again then you can go...."

That was a carlsberg meet haha

Similar to one I had two years ago. Couple in Manchester reached out asking me to text a number, their friend was in Aberdeen for the weekend and wanted to play. She wasn’t on fab so they were looking and sending her profiles.

Red flags galore, but thought fuck it I’m not busy so let’s see if it’s a guy in a trenchcoat. Sent the WhatsApp, she replied, looked stunning, went along and she was real. Had a cracking night, ended up in the strip bar and back to her hotel. One of the best experiences I’ve had with the site.

It can happen guys. "

It sure can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once or twice. It’s always very flattering

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By *orweigieMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

I get a few here and there. 90% of the time it’s me though. It makes me feel real good when a woman messages first considering all the competition

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By *hYouNaughtyKittenWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"Can wink me anytime "

Good things seem to happen when I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I created another profile on here just so I could send myself mail and feel wanted........

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By *rBrightsidzMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Been on here about 7 months and could probably count it on one finger

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By *ent57Man
over a year ago

... where the streets have no name!

Yeap, had them quite a few times (2 or 3 this year) ... always surprising, but very welcome!

I think at least one came from a bogus profile - but some of the others came from those that blocked single guys because they were fed up of being inundated by 100s of unwelcome messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a message from anyone ever!

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"I created another profile on here just so I could send myself mail and feel wanted........"

Absolutely no need. You can actually message yourself directly; and the best thing about it - your message always stays unread, so every time you log in from them on, it's like, "Ooh! Yella! A message!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I created another profile on here just so I could send myself mail and feel wanted........

Absolutely no need. You can actually message yourself directly; and the best thing about it - your message always stays unread, so every time you log in from them on, it's like, "Ooh! Yella! A message!""

I think this could be a "whoooosssshhh" moment

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By *IZZ_69Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I get hundred so have to bulk delete a lot of them... Sorry girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get hundred so have to bulk delete a lot of them... Sorry girls "

Messages from yourself and other men don’t count chum

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By *ancspete132Man
over a year ago

oldham

Nope never & never likely too either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know you could message yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all I ever do as I need to somehow make myself feel wanted. Like many others here I don’t get emails from women at all

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By *oomsOnFireCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"It’s all I ever do as I need to somehow make myself feel wanted. Like many others here I don’t get emails from women at all "

Haha, now I know this isn’t true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all I ever do as I need to somehow make myself feel wanted. Like many others here I don’t get emails from women at all

Haha, now I know this isn’t true "

Factual, it’s Mr Rooms on Fire that emailed me….a lot

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By *igboobiesCouple
over a year ago

Saltcoats


"Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

"

We always reply tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been known to send the first message if someone catches my eye.

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By *othianGuy41Man
over a year ago

Livingston

Yes once. Off my mum asking why I'm fabbing her nude pictures!

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By *1ckles916Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Never had a first contact either but I'm like the other gentleman, ugly

Oh well maybe one day my inbox will surprise me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two so far and still stay in contact so i must be doing something right

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Yep, a few. It's quite nice when it happens but just remember the odds.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen


"Yes once. Off my mum asking why I'm fabbing her nude pictures! "

Because my dad was hanging out the back of her and he is a unit

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock

Women message guys! What, seriously??

Lol, only kidding, I've had a couple, but only through forum posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mainly message first due to message filters, was always successful last profile, this time around I hardly get a reply as I don’t attach a face pic, oh well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find I'm too young for most so just sat browsing forums and some cams every now n then and going to the odd social

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By *andN2Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *andN2Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nat’s winked and messaged some guys first that she’s liked in the past. Both on our couples profile and her solo one.

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

Yes

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Never.

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By *ustforfun1759Couple
over a year ago

IRVINE

Yep had women a few times sending me the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nat’s winked and messaged some guys first that she’s liked in the past. Both on our couples profile and her solo one."

I’d honestly love to be a fly on the wall for a guy logging into his fab to see a wink from nat sitting there.

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By *apman02Man
over a year ago

glasgow

It’s brilliant getting a first message, (I’d imagine)

Not that I’ve had one haha but we go on in hope

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By *loriouscurvesWoman
over a year ago

wild west lothian

I do sometimes message a guy it’s not always successful but that’s fab!

I think I might do some messaging today ….didn’t realise it was so rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I’ve been lucky enough to have had a few messages initiated from women here, on both occasions they were in response to something I’d posted in the forums, I imagine that given the tremendous ratio of men to women, it’s always going to be a more rare occurrence that you will get messages out of the blue.

I don’t think this is a problem though, I can only imagine the volume of messages women receive and I’ve heard of the vitriol and abuse some receive for not engaging! It would be enough to put someone off! I’d only recommend to be yourself and find someone you have something in common to chat with about!

Have fun

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By *randmrsexploringCouple
over a year ago

Fife

Yes we have messaged a few gents first. Just be patient and relaxed you will find someone that shares the same interests as you xx

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Barrhead


"Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

"

I think I have received maybe 5 first messages from women. and maybe 3 from couples.

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife


"I do sometimes message a guy it’s not always successful but that’s fab!

I think I might do some messaging today ….didn’t realise it was so rare "

It's extremely rare I believe. Most ladies are probably so busy keeping up with what's in their inbox to send messages I guess. ... It would probably make some ones day if they got a message from you.

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By *opeydeviantMan
over a year ago

Livingston

Never ever ...plenty men in cpls though ...mmm go figure

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By *xl PoseMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

I got a wink from a woman once, I didn't notice till a day later. When i went to have a wee nose at her profile i couldn't as she'd blocked me!. Too slow in replying i guess. oh well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been in here now over 7 months I have sent a good few polite messages with woman as asked...but has many guys actually received first contact from a woman?

I understand the ratio of men to woman are most likely huge but I was wondering if many woman go looking and messaging the men or do you just give through ya inbox looking for the right guy/woman or couple.

"

Not a peep lol back to Tinder I go ??

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By *utzdeepMan
over a year ago

aberdeenshire

Wait…. There’s actually women on this?

They seem to be none existent up in Aberdeenshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait…. There’s actually women on this?

They seem to be none existent up in Aberdeenshire

"

Loads of quines! The scene in Aberdeen (poet didnae knowit) is actually not too baaaaad…

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’ve made a lot of first contact, more so if I’m in a new city with work etc. Been doubted so many times if I’m real!

Can’t win! "

I can confirm, and I’m more Cess Pitt than Brad Pitt

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Yeah I’ve no issue

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By *rNiceGuy1Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Never had first message from a woman unfortunately

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Had a handful of messages from woman who sent a meesage first but 98% of time its me messaging women first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my age, not likely to attract many but had a few, and some couples. Just as well I'm more into guys.

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Never had first message from a woman unfortunately "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few messages from a woman first. From my experience on this site if I message first it's unlikely to be met with a reply but when they message me first it's all good. Not a complaint.

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By *utzdeepMan
over a year ago

aberdeenshire


"Wait…. There’s actually women on this?

They seem to be none existent up in Aberdeenshire

Loads of quines! The scene in Aberdeen (poet didnae knowit) is actually not too baaaaad…"

First week on actual not that baaaad nooo… lol

Had a few meets already

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By *ollarLeadRestrainMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Exactly this...let me wipe away the tears from my four eyes!


"I have never been approached on here by a woman. In ‘real life’ I actually get a reasonable amount of attention from women, but on here I feel like I have two heads.

If I message someone, I make an effort. I write full paragraphs and include a face image … but I get nothing. Not even a “no thank you” reply.

"

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By *omjones12Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Ladies now is you chance. Message away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't messaged any men on here first. I have absolutely no idea what to say, I also am more into a person's chat than their penis pics so wouldn't really know if someone's going to be what I'm looking for until they message and tell me about themselves and what they're looking for. In the real world I can talk to anyone, in fab world I just don't know where to start, so I really do feel for guys for having to reach out to woman first the majority of the time. I also need to have a first message that I can really engage with and get a read of the person too so that something makes me want to know more which is just more pressure men on here must have. I couldn't cope being a man on here lol!

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By *1ce0neMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Very very seldom does a lady message me first

It’s such a surprise whenever it’s has happened I skip a beat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will message men if we like them and hopefully vice versa

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Yes, every now and again

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

But lets be honest only 3% of women will message a guy first on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But lets be honest only 3% of women will message a guy first on here"

Why so specific on the percentage

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"But lets be honest only 3% of women will message a guy first on here

Why so specific on the percentage "
because from a logical point of view, there's far more men then women on here so women will have the options when it comes to messaging. 97% of the messages women receive from men are probably not interested in those men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But lets be honest only 3% of women will message a guy first on here

Why so specific on the percentage because from a logical point of view, there's far more men then women on here so women will have the options when it comes to messaging. 97% of the messages women receive from men are probably not interested in those men "

We get alot of messages but we are definitely interested and respond to much more than 3 %

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never, but I put it down to the fact that I'm awful at writing profiles about myself.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"But lets be honest only 3% of women will message a guy first on here

Why so specific on the percentage because from a logical point of view, there's far more men then women on here so women will have the options when it comes to messaging. 97% of the messages women receive from men are probably not interested in those men

We get alot of messages but we are definitely interested and respond to much more than 3 %"
ok just to be generous, you probably respond to 5% of the messages received

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Not often but had a few and was very pleased and lucky one of them got in contact. Lovely lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But lets be honest only 3% of women will message a guy first on here

Why so specific on the percentage because from a logical point of view, there's far more men then women on here so women will have the options when it comes to messaging. 97% of the messages women receive from men are probably not interested in those men

We get alot of messages but we are definitely interested and respond to much more than 3 % ok just to be generous, you probably respond to 5% of the messages received "
you shouldn’t make assumptions on other people

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By *ackiekenny twoMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Can a lady from this post message me just so I can come back on and say yes I was the lucky one

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London


"Can a lady from this post message me just so I can come back on and say yes I was the lucky one "

Lol. Good one mate. Tell us if works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can a lady from this post message me just so I can come back on and say yes I was the lucky one "

Yes so we can up our 5% of messages we just got told by a complete stranger that’s percentage of messages we send.

He knows more then a us then

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By *ackiekenny twoMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Can a lady from this post message me just so I can come back on and say yes I was the lucky one

Yes so we can up our 5% of messages we just got told by a complete stranger that’s percentage of messages we send.

He knows more then a us then "

Just the 5% lol

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By *otrock-cplCouple
over a year ago

Glenrothes

We've message many single guys when we started out years ago for our gangbangs, party's etc we held at ours but as always is the way the biggest majority of single men are full of bravado on messenger but when it comes to it they ether 1 don't have the balls to even show up or 2 unload as quick as they enter the room so we tend to have much more fun with M/F couples and Females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once so meh

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Aside from reciprocal messages between friends and forumites on here, I've only sent five messages in the last 2½ years. All of my interactions and meets have been on the back of women sending me the first message.

So yes, women do message.

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By *scobar67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I'm looking for a secretary to keep up with my mail for me

Apply within

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few but not always a follow-up

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By *ennyjMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Had one yesterday from someone, first in 8 months since last chatted so yes they do message , eventually

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By *ackiekenny twoMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes I managed to receive a message what a lucky person I am

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

From the few women that has messaged me first, most of them I wasnt interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An issue that stops women, and couples, reaching out is the constant bombardment of emails that their inbox takes from guys who can’t just take a hint.

I’ve had 4 chats with 4 friends this past week (and a bit) who all have guys sending message upon message when the first one isn’t read.

Ignorant pushy shite like that just makes it harder.

It’s all about how you carry yourselves over in your bio, the forums, the chat rooms, social events and how you speak in messages. Guys don’t often speak to each other, unless they want to wash each others chins in the others pubes, but believe me when I say women (and couples) speak to each other and share experiences with male users. It’s a community afterall

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I rarely send the first message. We’re usually wading through the inbox to have time to send a first message. When I have sent the first message it’s not always been successful. Most of my meets have been through clubs or social events.

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By *rmani5Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow /Blackpool /Amsterdam Liverpool

That made me laugh lol

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"An issue that stops women, and couples, reaching out is the constant bombardment of emails that their inbox takes from guys who can’t just take a hint.

I’ve had 4 chats with 4 friends this past week (and a bit) who all have guys sending message upon message when the first one isn’t read.

Ignorant pushy shite like that just makes it harder.

It’s all about how you carry yourselves over in your bio, the forums, the chat rooms, social events and how you speak in messages. Guys don’t often speak to each other, unless they want to wash each others chins in the others pubes, but believe me when I say women (and couples) speak to each other and share experiences with male users. It’s a community afterall "

Most men on here don't use the forums or have a bio I do wish they would though makes it easier and I'd probably approach them first

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By *ike4256Man
39 weeks ago

Musselburgh

I've never had a single message from a woman on here

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By *eroLondonMan
39 weeks ago

Mayfair

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By *ornylee69Man
39 weeks ago

kirkcaldy

Tend to get more winks and odd pic fab when I grab someone attention. Had a few good conversations and not had any bad ones thankfully. Can't be forced. If you click then great if not, wasn't meant to be. Greatful for any interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

IV gotten 2 first messages from woman

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Had a couple of messages, mostly to do with questions on forum. I’m sure woman do look for guys is that not why they are on fab.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
39 weeks ago

South West London

Probably 1% of women message men first on here since they get swamped with messages already

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I have my message filters high so I always message first, only get about 10 messages a week and like it that way. Know exactly what I’m looking for and here for on Fab

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By *cottish_switchMan
39 weeks ago

Glasgow

It does happen although not all that often. On the plus side, when ladies do message they are always in my experience genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Not on here in a while I do on another site

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