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By *urora200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Hello all,

We have been on Fab about 2 months and most people have been absolutely wonderful.

We have checked out every profile within 100 mile radius of Glasgow and writen to the ones which were suitable.

We sadly have yet to find a couple we clicked with not just in personality but also in looks.

All we were looking for is a couple for a soft swap, good looking, slim/athletic between 25 and 45.

Either it was impossible trying yo arrange something from their side or they just vanished suddenly after very positive messages or similar.

Is it really that hard to find? Feeling a bit deflated.

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
over a year ago

grangemouth

We have found it difficult also

I think it depends on what you are looking for

They need to want similar

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Been through very similar and not found anyone fitting what we’re after on here.

We tried clubs out and found that’s worked ideal for us, managed to meet a few people from here at clubs that were what we are looking for, as well as just chatting to others at a club too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are also an advocate of clubs.

You get to see real people with faces and personalities. It may be you do or do not take it further that night but you can always arrange to meet again.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We also find it difficult on Fab to meet couples. If you have a set of criteria then you’re always going to limit the numbers.

If there are 300 couples in Fab for 100 miles of central belt then 60% will be obese or overweight from NHS stats. So now you have maybe 120 left. Let’s say 50% are in your age range then you have 60 to choose from. Assume maybe half will do soft swap and you have 30 people. Finally assume you only have attraction with half of those and you have 15 people left who you might be compatible with. No wonder it’s tough.

We’re thinking of clubs too but keep getting bad reviews from people we chat to but think we probably need to see for ourselves.

Good luck OP

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Clubs are brilliant because you can see if there is a physical attraction before you even chat to them.

We've also ever only come across a couple of couples who soft swing (which doesn't interest us), so ir probably is much more difficult to find than full swap

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By *essicaandmarkCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Tbh we are more into personalities than looks as we don’t want to live with playmates. We are a curvy couple with a few kinks we look more at verifications than photos xx

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By *oss man JMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Why 45 max, we’ve done soft swinging and not really into full swap, we have a single guy profile just haven’t got round to doing a couples one as we had no idea what this was when we first seen it haha ! Drop me a message and you never know how things go, only got one pic but happy to send others

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By *oss man JMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"Hello all,

We have been on Fab about 2 months and most people have been absolutely wonderful.

We have checked out every profile within 100 mile radius of Glasgow and writen to the ones which were suitable.

We sadly have yet to find a couple we clicked with not just in personality but also in looks.

All we were looking for is a couple for a soft swap, good looking, slim/athletic between 25 and 45.

Either it was impossible trying yo arrange something from their side or they just vanished suddenly after very positive messages or similar.

Is it really that hard to find? Feeling a bit deflated. "

Definitely listen to everyone about the clubs ! Go to a club. Best way to meet couples and look for social events

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By *ew couple4youCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Definitely clubs are the way forward guys. Get to meet people face to face and chat to loads of different people. Everybody has different likes and dislikes so all can be discussed before hand.

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By *urora200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Some great advice here thanks all keep it coming please.

My wife and I when out and about shopping in a busy area we made a rough estimate that about 5/10 couples we saw matched what were are hoping for, so about 3/10 couples fell between 25 - 45, slim/athletic or a good figure average and good looking. Although in a busy shopping centre maybe doesn't give a realistic scope of the population I guess.

However we did still think it would be much easier than it is.

At this rate we would be lucky to get one soft swap (with a couple who matches our hopes (and us theirs) in the next however many years.

Yes clubs or even social events would be far far better. The sadly for us most of them are late evening and due to family commitments it's very difficult for us. Day time and early evening arrangements can be made but late evening is hard.

Still can't quite belive that within 100 mile radius of Glasgow also covering Edinburgh/Ayrshire etc not one couple who quite meets our hopes, not just in looks, age, body shape etc but other things which are really not hard to avoid. Honestly our desires are not that selective, especially when out and about and only takes seconds to see a couple who we both find attractive. As don't want people to think we are being too selective and also not saying another couple may not be attractive as they totally are but not quite clicking for us.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

I've had a read through your profile, and if I'm being totally honest the things that would put me off personally are-

1. That daft disclaimer at the bottom

2. The fact that you describe yourselves as attractive and looking for the same. I would never contact or engage with a profile like this because who's to say what other people find attractive? Someone describing themselves as fun, open minded, etc etc would definitely grab my interest.

Your pictures and stuff are all fine though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was saddened to see you are not looking to massage back and forth as my backs been killing me recently and a good massage is hard to find..

Soft swap, in my experiences, have been really easy to find as most couples are respectful for the other party’s boundaries.

Switch the profile around a little, you bang on about pubes too much then say it’s not a game changer…then bring the subject back up again. If you prefer a fuzzywuzzy just say it directly.

Get along to a social guys, on the chat rooms (I don’t tbh) and join in here. Youl see things change quickly

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

You both look great OP and you must get some attention.

The thing about clubs is people probably have a more open mind. For example they’re probably not asking anyone’s age and people can come across better in person than in photos.

For us we never meet soft swap couples as honestly it seems a bit limiting. You’re never sure whether the couple have underlying concerns that stop them going further. Having said that we have seen a number of soft swap couples around but they’re just not that common as many, in our experience, prefer full swap.

However your fun, your rules

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By *urora200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"I've had a read through your profile, and if I'm being totally honest the things that would put me off personally are-

1. That daft disclaimer at the bottom

2. The fact that you describe yourselves as attractive and looking for the same. I would never contact or engage with a profile like this because who's to say what other people find attractive? Someone describing themselves as fun, open minded, etc etc would definitely grab my interest.

Your pictures and stuff are all fine though "

Thanks for the advice. Appreciate it. Maybe should remove that part saying attractive, we did notice alot of other profiles do say that about themselves so thought maybe a good idea to write that as that's the general consensus we have found when people describe us so wanted to give a realistic view of us without trying to be egotistical as we are far from that as people. And also looks are also in the eye of the beholder.

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By *oss man JMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"Some great advice here thanks all keep it coming please.

My wife and I when out and about shopping in a busy area we made a rough estimate that about 5/10 couples we saw matched what were are hoping for, so about 3/10 couples fell between 25 - 45, slim/athletic or a good figure average and good looking. Although in a busy shopping centre maybe doesn't give a realistic scope of the population I guess.

However we did still think it would be much easier than it is.

At this rate we would be lucky to get one soft swap (with a couple who matches our hopes (and us theirs) in the next however many years.

Yes clubs or even social events would be far far better. The sadly for us most of them are late evening and due to family commitments it's very difficult for us. Day time and early evening arrangements can be made but late evening is hard.

Still can't quite belive that within 100 mile radius of Glasgow also covering Edinburgh/Ayrshire etc not one couple who quite meets our hopes, not just in looks, age, body shape etc but other things which are really not hard to avoid. Honestly our desires are not that selective, especially when out and about and only takes seconds to see a couple who we both find attractive. As don't want people to think we are being too selective and also not saying another couple may not be attractive as they totally are but not quite clicking for us. "

Age is only a number remember good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice. Appreciate it. Maybe should remove that part saying attractive, we did notice alot of other profiles do say that about themselves so thought maybe a good idea to write that as that's the general consensus we have found when people describe us so wanted to give a realistic view of us without trying to be egotistical as we are far from that as people. And also looks are also in the eye of the beholder. "

Listen, give yourselves some credit too. Finally a couple that aren’t demanding face pics to be sent within the next three seconds. That’s actually refreshing to see

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate


"I've had a read through your profile, and if I'm being totally honest the things that would put me off personally are-

1. That daft disclaimer at the bottom

2. The fact that you describe yourselves as attractive and looking for the same. I would never contact or engage with a profile like this because who's to say what other people find attractive? Someone describing themselves as fun, open minded, etc etc would definitely grab my interest.

Your pictures and stuff are all fine though

Thanks for the advice. Appreciate it. Maybe should remove that part saying attractive, we did notice alot of other profiles do say that about themselves so thought maybe a good idea to write that as that's the general consensus we have found when people describe us so wanted to give a realistic view of us without trying to be egotistical as we are far from that as people. And also looks are also in the eye of the beholder. "

I personally wouldn't ever describe myself as attractive, although other people do, and people describe us as an attractive couple

My worry would be a couple who described themselves as attractive and looking for same being a bit like "wtf, you pair are NOT attractive" when we send face pics

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By *urora200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Thanks for all the advice and we have taken that advice on board and tweeked somethings on our profile to portray ourselves in fairer light.

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By *hycouple18Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *hycouple18Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sounds if urs been looking for that perfect couple we where the same when we started out looking at people in shopping centres thinking they look ok but we attended lots clubs and met couples there and we still do we even took away the age limit as never worked for us plus we met couple at club who thought we where lot younger than we looked and on here they had age limit which meant we never meet on here and we had amazing time playing with them so or advice would be more chilled relax more and no expectations on others attended some clubs and remember urs don’t always need play as we still go and don’t always play but still have great time hope this helps urs out x

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

You seem like a really nice couple, I'm sure you would do well in clubs x

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By *urora200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"You seem like a really nice couple, I'm sure you would do well in clubs x "

Thanks for your kind words.

Would love to goto one. Wish there was one on in an afternoon or early evening.

But don't most people who goto them on Fab too?

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate


"You seem like a really nice couple, I'm sure you would do well in clubs x

Thanks for your kind words.

Would love to goto one. Wish there was one on in an afternoon or early evening.

But don't most people who goto them on Fab too?"

I'm sure cjs do ab afternoon one?

You get a mix of both fabbers and non fabbers at clubs x

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By *urora200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"You seem like a really nice couple, I'm sure you would do well in clubs x

Thanks for your kind words.

Would love to goto one. Wish there was one on in an afternoon or early evening.

But don't most people who goto them on Fab too?

I'm sure cjs do ab afternoon one?

You get a mix of both fabbers and non fabbers at clubs x"

Really will have to try and look into that. We did look on the social things but couldn't find anything on Fab but guess CJs is separate but not sure if CJs advertise on their website about the afternoon meets. Do you know?

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By *urora200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

Just looked on the CJs website and there is the greedy girls gangbang party on a afternoon that's the closest possibly for us.

What we really are looking for is a couples only afternoon. But not sure if CJs ever do that?

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

OP, if you were to meet a couple outside of a club would it be afternoon or early evening? That’s a limiting factor to meets too as we’ve found many only meet at weekends.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

To much for me to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all,

We have been on Fab about 2 months and most people have been absolutely wonderful.

We have checked out every profile within 100 mile radius of Glasgow and writen to the ones which were suitable.

We sadly have yet to find a couple we clicked with not just in personality but also in looks.

All we were looking for is a couple for a soft swap, good looking, slim/athletic between 25 and 45.

Either it was impossible trying yo arrange something from their side or they just vanished suddenly after very positive messages or similar.

Is it really that hard to find? Feeling a bit deflated. "

We have been on here for over a year with limited success. Granted, we live in a rural part of the world where meets of any kind require a bit of planning and a night away, but even finding folk we click with and connect with has been overall a frustrating experience. Clubs are a good shout, but you have to just be patient otherwise

Mrs

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By *urora200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"OP, if you were to meet a couple outside of a club would it be afternoon or early evening? That’s a limiting factor to meets too as we’ve found many only meet at weekends. "

Yes can do weekends afternoon and early evening but would require planning of about 5 days ahead of time.

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By *abonTedCouple
over a year ago

Midlands & Cheltenham

OP: think you both look knock out, shame we’re not a little closer for coffee

Is there a shrug emoji?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP,

CJ doesn't host couples and single females afternoons, only evenings. Afternoon events are monthly TV/TS and GGGB parties.

There are some similarities between our respective situations. My wife and I were in a similar place to you this time last year: soft swap only, difficulty with childcare, little experience of the Scottish club scene...

I have tried to DM you but you have blocked all TV/TS people from contacting you I'm not looking to meet couples, but I remember what it was like starting out, so my DMs are open if you'd like to speak about getting into the lifestyle and the Scottish club scene.

Best of luck xx

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By *otstuff69xCouple
over a year ago

dundee

its not so easy as you think to have meets even a drinks social as so many timewasters and fakes pretending to be couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer soft swap, though I'm over 45, Lexi isn't, Lexi looks good, I'm the ugly bugger and we're a bigger couple. But hey ho. I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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2. The fact that you describe yourselves as attractive and looking for the same. I would never contact or engage with a profile like this because who's to say what other people find attractive? Someone describing themselves as fun, open minded, etc etc would definitely grab my interest.

Your pictures and stuff are all fine though "

I hate that saying 'attractive', just like 'professional' not sure what bearing it has. But certainly the OPs have some smashing photos.

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