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"I’ve had some really interesting chats recently with some vanilla female friends and a couple of fab friends regarding some women being unable to cum when being sexual with others. I had an ex that was like that, once we got closer and to know each other better she was actually a heavy gusher and was extremely embarrassed by it. This seemed to create a mental block when being sexually active, another friend sadly has low self confidence in her body and this could quite well be a similar cause of her not being able to climax in the company of others. I, ofcourse, could be wrong though What are all of your experiences and thoughts? Have any of the fems perhaps went through a phase like this and managed to find a solution….or could it literally be as simple as us men being fucking useless? ![]() It’s totally bizarre how the mind can stop the body functioning the way the person wishes . If only we weren’t all subject to stereotypical comparisons we wouldn’t be embarrassed by our bodies and could ask/guide our partners into the right ways to get our bodies to react the way we wish . ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I’ve had some really interesting chats recently with some vanilla female friends and a couple of fab friends regarding some women being unable to cum when being sexual with others. I had an ex that was like that, once we got closer and to know each other better she was actually a heavy gusher and was extremely embarrassed by it. This seemed to create a mental block when being sexually active, another friend sadly has low self confidence in her body and this could quite well be a similar cause of her not being able to climax in the company of others. I, ofcourse, could be wrong though What are all of your experiences and thoughts? Have any of the fems perhaps went through a phase like this and managed to find a solution….or could it literally be as simple as us men being fucking useless? ![]() I think spontaneous exciting sex generally results in both parties climaxing. But when it's a regular thing or a relationship then there has to be a deeper connection to make sex amazing | |||
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"Possibly a bit of both. I think everyone (regardless of gender) at times feels a little self conscious when it comes to sex. Some of us more than others at times and it means we get stuck in our heads rather than lost in the moment. That can be a barrier. Factor in any negative experiences or harsh words, then any pressure that we feel under to look, act or be a certain way. Let's be honest, even on a site that's supposed to be be full of open minded people, there's plenty of shaming! Then there's the hormones, the emotions and all that those entail,mixed in with whatever is happening in our lives. Lastly, the situation, the person, the connection. There's so much that can have an impact infact I'm often surprised how well some of us actually do! " What she said!! We humans are complex creatures ![]() | |||
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"I really find this a hard subject ![]() Generally being hard helps ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Definitely a relatable subject both to myself personally and to people I've been with in the past. I've only been able to cum with 2 of the people I have slept with before, definitely got a mental block of letting go and not cumming too early. On the other hand, I've been with women who can't get naked or get self conscious of cumming, definitely all about building up trust and comfort with someone. Only issue with that level of connection is that feelings can begin to become stronger and if both of you aren't into that then it will inevitably become an awkward breakaway for both parties." I'm glad I'm not the only one. You explained it better though. Others might think it's great but it can mess things up and make the partner feel like it's their fault, which then makes it even harder to cum, sometimes impossible. This might sound awesome but inside its a different story. Obviously in a play room it can make you feel like god so it's not all doom and gloom | |||
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"I find it almost impossible, doesn't mean I'm not enjoying it,I just don't seem to get to that point easily with someone. Then I start to think are the getting fed up trying and then I just switch off. But I can cum quickly and multiple times on my own. It's definitely a mind over matter thing with me ." This is me as well! | |||
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"I’ve had some really interesting chats recently with some vanilla female friends and a couple of fab friends regarding some women being unable to cum when being sexual with others. I had an ex that was like that, once we got closer and to know each other better she was actually a heavy gusher and was extremely embarrassed by it. This seemed to create a mental block when being sexually active, another friend sadly has low self confidence in her body and this could quite well be a similar cause of her not being able to climax in the company of others. I, ofcourse, could be wrong though What are all of your experiences and thoughts? Have any of the fems perhaps went through a phase like this and managed to find a solution….or could it literally be as simple as us men being fucking useless? ![]() The solution for me was meeting someone I properly clicked with...before Mr, I never felt sexually satisfied or fulfilled. I just felt frustrated and thought the problem was me. Turns out I'm a filthy pervert underneath it all, and I just needed to meet another filthy pervert to unlock that wee door in my head lol Mrs | |||
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"I think you boys are seriously over-analysing female orgasms tbh." This^^ You only need the right key to the lock. Orgasms galore ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think you boys are seriously over-analysing female orgasms tbh. This^^ You only need the right key to the lock. Orgasms galore ![]() ![]() DIY job. Never fails ![]() | |||
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"I think you boys are seriously over-analysing female orgasms tbh." I slightly agree with this but at the same time I do have some friends that just can’t get there when being sexual with a guy/ partner of their choice. Some ace points above though, it’s good to get the different levels of views ![]() ![]() | |||
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