FabSwingers.com forum: Being stood up….just rude

By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t lose faith in the scene in Aberdeen, there are so many real genuine and lovely grabbers up there. I mean my house is still there so I ofcourse count myself in on that

But seriously, it’s the minority. For future be extra picky, photo and meet verified previously, double check the veris if possible incase it’s from a small network of fake accounts that all veri each other. Put it behind you and move in, consider it a bullet dodged and all that

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

That sucks. The proper gentleman thing woulda been to at least meet you, and explain why he didn't think he was right for you

Don't lose hope, there are good and nice folks out there.

Mandy

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

Oh I do my homework believe me, I’ve been on and off here a long time!

Let’s hope his next sh$t’s a hedgehog lol

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By *esssDanMan
over a year ago

Dundee

Oh, no! Sorry to hear this happened to you.

I had exactly the same thing happen to me a few years back with a PoF date, so I can relate

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"That sucks. The proper gentleman thing woulda been to at least meet you, and explain why he didn't think he was right for you

Don't lose hope, there are good and nice folks out there.

Mandy"

Thankyou and yes, a little decency would have gone a long way…..cest La vie xx

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Happens often.. guys think wanting to know them means you are trying to date and marry them...

They'd rather fuck a hole and there's plenty of women on here who'd do just that.

Sorry you got stood up but sadly I'd say 75% of the site are hole seekers wishing every woman took dick and no pre or post contact like we were a urinal.

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Och, that's shite. Can't be a nice feeling.I'm feeling particularly perimenopausal today so will be happy to key his car if you ever find out where he lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just shocking, no excuse for ghosting whatsoever.

Sadly it's part of fab life

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"Happens often.. guys think wanting to know them means you are trying to date and marry them...

They'd rather fuck a hole and there's plenty of women on here who'd do just that.

Sorry you got stood up but sadly I'd say 75% of the site are hole seekers wishing every woman took dick and no pre or post contact like we were a urinal."

I’m channeling this strength now….and agree totally x

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"Och, that's shite. Can't be a nice feeling.I'm feeling particularly perimenopausal today so will be happy to key his car if you ever find out where he lives

This!!!!! Feeling the love…..Thankyou xxx

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"Just shocking, no excuse for ghosting whatsoever.

Sadly it's part of fab life

To drive past and then delete message as soon as he got home…..next level rude

Clearly must have offers out the door

Thanks

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Just shocking, no excuse for ghosting whatsoever.

Sadly it's part of fab life

To drive past and then delete message as soon as he got home…..next level rude

Clearly must have offers out the door

Thanks

His bottle went. His loss

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

I can beat that - he waited until I got to the meeting place, read my message confirming I'd arrived then blocked me on fab and WhatsApp, and deleted all the pics he'd sent me including his WhatsApp profile pic

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

I don't get it. It's hard enough fir a single guy, and then they throw it all away

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

I don't get it. It's hard enough fir a single guy, and then they throw it all away

I doubt he'd even left glenrothes, just a waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

I don't get it. It's hard enough fir a single guy, and then they throw it all away

The mind boggles

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

I don't get it. It's hard enough fir a single guy, and then they throw it all away

I doubt he'd even left glenrothes, just a waster "

Daft lad. Who'd miss playing with your wheel and soaping your boobs?

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By *hYouNaughtyKittenWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"Happens often.. guys think wanting to know them means you are trying to date and marry them...

They'd rather fuck a hole and there's plenty of women on here who'd do just that.

Sorry you got stood up but sadly I'd say 75% of the site are hole seekers wishing every woman took dick and no pre or post contact like we were a urinal."

So true, I’m definitely feeling this today

Op so sorry you were treated that way, there’s just no need. Even if there’s no attraction, be an adult and use your bloody words, ghosting is ridiculously immature.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

I don't get it. It's hard enough fir a single guy, and then they throw it all away

I doubt he'd even left glenrothes, just a waster "

Wow same ghost town as one I've ..not had..also from Glenrothes.. actually two from Glenrothes one wanted to meet for breakfast then said he had breakfast in his pants instead..2nd drive by me txtd he got a call in for work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

Think if it this way....you just dodged howitzer.

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By *ngusLaddieMan
over a year ago

angus

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

His loss, sorry to hear, sounds like you were honest and took precautions... Sounds like a loser..... And to make it worse he drove past you, sick in the head if you ask me. X

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

Loving this!!! Xxx

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

FAB is like a box of chocolates.

Pick the one that tastes like a turd and it'll leave a bad taste on your mouth.

In future you should just work out a better match, hard to do when 99,999 out of 10K guys on here are pricks. You just need to out that 1 in 10k...he will be worth the hassle.

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

Update…..he’s messaged to say his mum fell and broke her hip……..

I’ll leave my lovely fab forum friends to make their own mind up on that wee gem of a reply….xxx

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Update…..he’s messaged to say his mum fell and broke her hip……..

I’ll leave my lovely fab forum friends to make their own mind up on that wee gem of a reply….xxx

My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx "

The human in me says 'benefit of doubt', but, I'm not buying that excuse at all

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Update…..he’s messaged to say his mum fell and broke her hip……..

I’ll leave my lovely fab forum friends to make their own mind up on that wee gem of a reply….xxx

My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx "

If he deleted your last message then came up with that excuse/reason he could have messaged at the time to tell you.

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

I didn't know blocking someone on here was a helpful response to your maw breaking their hip, good to know..!

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"I didn't know blocking someone on here was a helpful response to your maw breaking their hip, good to know..!

Oh I’ve not blocked him, just not replied to him telling me that….he deleted my message ten mins after our arranged meet time

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

Some guys really don't get that women on here network and talk. If yer a wank our pals will know to avoid you. Girl code n all that.

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...

"Oh I do my homework believe me, I’ve been on and off here a long time!

Let’s hope his next sh$t’s a hedgehog lol"

And he is out of bog roll...

Its a sad thing both ways: he's ruined your trust in single guys and made the work genuine guys put in even more up hill!

Just get yourself some accommodation and come down to the After Dark social in Edinburgh next month...I'm sure there will be plenty of decent guys you can make connections with and won't have any repeat of your previous, there may even be some in Fife worth a punt!

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

Some guys really don't get that women on here network and talk. If yer a wank our pals will know to avoid you. Girl code n all that."

100% this!!!

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"Oh I do my homework believe me, I’ve been on and off here a long time!

Let’s hope his next sh$t’s a hedgehog lol

And he is out of bog roll...

Its a sad thing both ways: he's ruined your trust in single guys and made the work genuine guys put in even more up hill!

I love Fife! I’ve never been to any socials though, that would be a big step out my comfort zone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's such a scummy thing to do and cowardly. No class.

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

" That's such a scummy thing to do and cowardly. No class."

Exactly! If you can delete my message 10mins after the meet time you can say thanks but no…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The broken hip would be more plausible without the driving past in disguise and deleting all messages.

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By *inthgowmale45Man
over a year ago

linlithgow

Why do people do that. Strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because of shit like that I now insist on folk coming to me.

I don't drive and while I'm happy to use buses etc it's all so time consuming to just have folk no show.

At least now I'm only a walk away from home.

Some have cancelled with warning, but only 2 haven't shown up. It definitely helps to sort out the idiots from the genuine ones x

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Och, that's shite. Can't be a nice feeling.I'm feeling particularly perimenopausal today so will be happy to key his car if you ever find out where he lives

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

I don't get it. It's hard enough fir a single guy, and then they throw it all away

I doubt he'd even left glenrothes, just a waster

If one of them was 27 and enjoyed fun meets now then that's the fella! He's part of the reason my minimum age went up to 30.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

Some guys really don't get that women on here network and talk. If yer a wank our pals will know to avoid you. Girl code n all that."

Exactly!

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

"I didn't know blocking someone on here was a helpful response to your maw breaking their hip, good to know..!

Oh I’ve not blocked him, just not replied to him telling me that….he deleted my message ten mins after our arranged meet time

I meant him blocking you was a weird response to his mum's alleged broken hip, I was being tongue in cheek.

He acted like a twat, and I'm sorry your time was wasted.

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

Sadly there are a ridiculous amount of timewasters on here. I usually filter them out at the message stage or if they're reluctant to chat on the phone. But I have had a few where they've not turned up and a few where I've arrived at their door and they've hidden behind it.

A lot of sad people about. Time-wasting and fantasising is the new hobby for some.

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"I didn't know blocking someone on here was a helpful response to your maw breaking their hip, good to know..!

Oh I’ve not blocked him, just not replied to him telling me that….he deleted my message ten mins after our arranged meet time o-

I meant him blocking you was a weird response to his mum's alleged broken hip, I was being tongue in cheek.

He acted like a twat, and I'm sorry your time was wasted.

Oh he’s not blocked me as he’s viewed my profile a few times since….I’m guessing he saw my status update and felt the need to think of an excuse lol. Twat setting activated for sure!

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By *un50RedHead OP Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

"Sadly there are a ridiculous amount of timewasters on here. I usually filter them out at the message stage or if they're reluctant to chat on the phone. But I have had a few where they've not turned up and a few where I've arrived at their door and they've hidden behind it.

A lot of sad people about. Time-wasting and fantasising is the new hobby for some. "

Shame so many similar experiences for people but we rise above

xxx

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By *oberto7Man
over a year ago

Greenock

Shocking behaviour x

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By *eachy400Woman
over a year ago

Muiravonside

It’s happened to me a few times, one even messaged saying he was in the pub but just had to pop out & get cash so to wait for him. Luckily I lived opposite & could see he hadn’t turned up or left. As expected I never heard from him again. Others have just disappeared an hour before so either cold feet or just no intention of showing. I tend to stick to clubs & social events now x

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By *cotsman269Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

It’s shocking that people would take the time to chat and arrange something and not turn up.

Even just for the social side of things.

I suppose block and move on is the correct way to deal with it.

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By *cottish30Man
over a year ago

aberdeen

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Yep that's what happens in the Aberdeen area,loads of time-wasting females and couples,chat then when get asked to meet every excuse comes out to play

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

The only time I suffered a 'no show' was in.......Aberdeen.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"The only time I suffered a 'no show' was in.......Aberdeen.

Sheep are shit with directions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one turned up for social seemed nice and charming kissed and left it then said wanted to meet next day said yes but then said not to wear perfume i said why you married as a joke then thru dummy out pram whivh tho weird same perfume day before said no didnt want to go into work smelling of fragrance lucky escape then he blocked me full of it then blocked me thank god

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one turned up for social seemed nice and charming kissed and left it then said wanted to meet next day said yes but then said not to wear perfume i said why you married as a joke then thru dummy out pram which tho weird same perfume day before said no didnt want to go into work smelling of fragrance lucky escape then he blocked me full of it then blocked me thank god

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I had one turned up for social seemed nice and charming kissed and left it then said wanted to meet next day said yes but then said not to wear perfume i said why you married as a joke then thru dummy out pram which tho weird same perfume day before said no didnt want to go into work smelling of fragrance lucky escape then he blocked me full of it then blocked me thank god

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Not quite the same as being stood up tho .

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Happens often.. guys think wanting to know them means you are trying to date and marry them...

They'd rather fuck a hole and there's plenty of women on here who'd do just that.

Sorry you got stood up but sadly I'd say 75% of the site are hole seekers wishing every woman took dick and no pre or post contact like we were a urinal."

Very well said. Not had meet in months due to guys not wanting to make any effort for socials or get to know me abit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Lucky escape op mines was different but least he showed for social

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

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By *r-King SizeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I seen your status the other day about it and yeah that's a shit thing to do to someone clearly he missed out and you had to much sex appeal for him hopefully you find someone better suited and genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Nut job. Who doesn't love smelling of woman after a hot date?

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Happened to me twice in the last month both from verified users both times I had to get my other half to leave for the night so not only have they wasted my time but his also

But these assholes don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had quite a few misses on here as well.

Cancelling meet whilst you’re on your way.

Another one a lady offering paid services.

Given fake addresses on other occasion.

A healthy dose of scepticism does not go amiss.

Lots of good intentioned people on here despite this.

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By *j175Man
over a year ago

aberdeen

i was quite surprised to see fab from a females profile recently she had posted for a meeting and was inundated with responses all of which seemed total time wasters. some of which weren’t even near the area

no wonder fab is hard we bring it on ourselves

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"
you shouldn't wear Aberdeen FC baseball caps to meets, lesson learned!

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By *randmissdemeanourMan
over a year ago

glasgow

At one of my parties six couples either cancelled on the day of the party or just didn't show up. This has really discouraged me from hosting any more.

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By *ero StressMan
over a year ago

Scotland

Really sorry to hear this happen is it any wonder us single males get very few messages and you look amazing aswel.

But the excuse he used if my mother had fallen and broken her him she would be my priority and I wouldnt even be logging in here nevermind reading and deleting messages.

I know it will of been a kick in the teeth but if he has done that then he obviusly isn't worth your time or anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently I got invited to a party which was cancelled the night before (was invited well in advance and had built maybe enough courage to actually go to it lol), turns out the party wasn’t cancelled just my invite as the hosts decided me being local was now a problem (it was them who made contact with me and we’d spoken for I’d say a long time, to the point of adding me on Facebook to make sure I was legit and stuff) I completely understand people get cold feet, but making arrangements to be then cancelled at the last minute is a trend on here I’m finding lol xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

" to the point of adding me on Facebook to make sure I was legit and stuff) I"
Id have told them to get lost your private life is your private live and anyone asking me to jump through hoops to prove myself to them can do the same .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" to the point of adding me on Facebook to make sure I was legit and stuff) IId have told them to get lost your private life is your private live and anyone asking me to jump through hoops to prove myself to them can do the same ."

We had spoken for a while and I understood they were nervous about me being local, and they seemed legit, so I went with it, but it was more the fact they’d messaged me first, to then say it was a problem, if it was an issue why did they message in the first place lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really annoys me reading this, it's hard enough to get a message or a reply from women at the best of times let alone an arranged meet, I've still got my L plates on regarding this site however I've had 2 cancels now and to be honest beforehand I had a strange inkling that it could well happen, reasons were given but thats life I suppose..

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By *aughty 1 and Naughty 2Couple
over a year ago

the couple from next door

"At one of my parties six couples either cancelled on the day of the party or just didn't show up. This has really discouraged me from hosting any more."
and your partys we fantastic...too..alway had lots off fun at them x

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

There’ll always be time wasters, sometimes there might even be genuine reasons to cancel, but the Ops stand up is pretty shit and inexcusable, no surprise that some just give up

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By *idas ManMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

I swapped face pics, swapped numbers, had her tell me how my pics on here “gave her flutters”, arranged a meet only for me to audibly here her say under her breath “aw no!” when I got in her car. She then blocked me on here and ignored my texts.

Knocks the confidence a little bit tbh

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think there are some people who get off on getting people to do things, meets should not be one of them, it's kind of a big keep for many, and part of the fun, not surprised people get frustrated, ruins the what used to be a good site!!!

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Just shocking, no excuse for ghosting whatsoever.

Sadly it's part of fab life

To drive past and then delete message as soon as he got home…..next level rude

Clearly must have offers out the door

Thanks

His bottle went. His loss

Aye. Guaranteed he'll be messaging again in a few months.. unless ya block his ass ??

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

"At one of my parties six couples either cancelled on the day of the party or just didn't show up. This has really discouraged me from hosting any more."

I had similar with gb that I organised: 12 guys were supposed to show, on the day it was me, two women and three guys. We still played, but two of those who never showed sent me messages asking when the next one was.

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
over a year ago

grangemouth

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

We are so reluctant to send face pics

We did

Then address

Then number

Messed around

Coming not coming

Then blocked us

But called at all times from private number

Stalker

That's not acceptable

Why

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Yep being stood up is out of line, a last minute message albeit rubbish is still acceptable.

We’ve had couples cancel a few hours before a meet after we’ve driven an hour and a half. Luckily it was at a club, so we still had a great night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

That's just bad manners...however on the plus side at least he's done you a favour by taking himself off your list and you don't need to waste any more time on him. But it's frustrating and not great for your self esteem when this happens. Hopefully your next meet will be twice as fun to make up for the disappointment

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently I’ve actually had a few woman arrange a meet and then on the day go off the radar it’s getting my worse on here sadly

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By *argaidMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Oh this place is weird.

When I was last here frequently I found messages would be ignored or I'd even be blocked immediately by women who'd then approach me at socials. Still can't figure out if I just can't do random approaches well or if it's something else

So, I wouldn't worry too much about being stood up. Yes, it's bloody rude but that's how folk are. He just didn't fancy you at that moment. Look forward to telling home to eff off he's had his chance in future

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Oh this place is weird.

When I was last here frequently I found messages would be ignored or I'd even be blocked immediately by women who'd then approach me at socials. "
This does not surprise me

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"Oh this place is weird.

Meeting in person is completely different to reading a profile and seeing if you want to meet up. I’ve met guys at social events or CJs that from their profile I wouldn’t meet.

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx"

Sorry to hear you were messed about like this! Please don't let it dent your confidence, you look gorgeous in your pic! Bullet dodged and his loss and all that!

I'd say i have a 50/50 hit rate with no shows on here. You try to do the checks, and the chat seems go flow... but then ghosted and your at the meet point but no response to messages.

As someone else said, a social is a social, surely we can act like adults and have a chat over a coffee even if one or other decides not to take things further!

Hope the next guy has more manners!

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London

Yeah recently had this girl who cancelled like last minute once, and then "prepared me" to let me down again. I sort of said "If you dont want to meet, that's okay" and she reassured me a hundred times that she had "no clue that her boss just changed her shift less than 24 hours befor hse has to be on without telling her".

To my surprise, she later said "Oh okay I talked to him and told him that I won't be able to come in". Taken by surprise, I thought, I may have overreacted.

We agreed on 2 o clock. At 2:30 she messaged me "sorry, just got up. After breakfast I'll take the next train over to meet you".

2 hours later "Sorry, train is too full".

Another hour after that "I am waiting for my friend to finish work she can drive me instead"

6 o clock "Yeah, she should be done about now"

And then ghosted me, never answered again, blocked me 2 days later on fabs and whatsapp, and I was just furious.

Why waste my time like that? Don't want to come? Changed your mind? FINE! Just for the love of allah, don't say you're on your way and then ignore me. Jeez. My entire day was ruined waiting around for her.

It's not like she just didn't show up, she stringed me along all day long to make me wait longer and longer.

So could be worse, OP.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Yeah recently had this girl who cancelled like last minute once, and then "prepared me" to let me down again. I sort of said "If you dont want to meet, that's okay" and she reassured me a hundred times that she had "no clue that her boss just changed her shift less than 24 hours befor hse has to be on without telling her".

To my surprise, she later said "Oh okay I talked to him and told him that I won't be able to come in". Taken by surprise, I thought, I may have overreacted.

We agreed on 2 o clock. At 2:30 she messaged me "sorry, just got up. After breakfast I'll take the next train over to meet you".

2 hours later "Sorry, train is too full".

Another hour after that "I am waiting for my friend to finish work she can drive me instead"

6 o clock "Yeah, she should be done about now"

And then ghosted me, never answered again, blocked me 2 days later on fabs and whatsapp, and I was just furious.

It's not like she just didn't show up, she stringed me along all day long to make me wait longer and longer.

So could be worse, OP. "

I'd have binned her off after the 2pm no-show. Why waste your day?

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London

She kept reassuring me through text that she's coming. And everytime I was mentally done, she made it sound like she's just around the corner basically.

You wouldn't believe how convincing some people can be. They lie the blue off the skies.

On the way..... Just about there... only little longer .... train only takes half an hour .... too full, taking the next train. .... buddy is driving me now .... well not now but when they come back from work which should be very soon...

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"She kept reassuring me through text that she's coming. And everytime I was mentally done, she made it sound like she's just around the corner basically.

You wouldn't believe how convincing some people can be. They lie the blue off the skies.

Nah, fuck that. One cancellation, fair enough. Then pissing about? No, its a block. I wonder why men put up with this more than women do.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London

"She kept reassuring me through text that she's coming. And everytime I was mentally done, she made it sound like she's just around the corner basically.

You wouldn't believe how convincing some people can be. They lie the blue off the skies.

Nah, fuck that. One cancellation, fair enough. Then pissing about? No, its a block. I wonder why men put up with this more than women do."

Men put up with it a lot more, because they have less option. If one woman plays games, it might be another week or two until you meet someone else. As a man, I don't have 300 messages every day.Not that difficult to understand.

Also many women show up late, as if it wouldn't matter, and then just carry on, business as usual. As a man you just get used to it and don't sweat it as much any more.

Although, I have to say, stringing me along like that, making me believe she will be here any minute now all day long, and then not show up at all and stop replying full stop (not even any further excuses later) is very unusual.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"She kept reassuring me through text that she's coming. And everytime I was mentally done, she made it sound like she's just around the corner basically.

You wouldn't believe how convincing some people can be. They lie the blue off the skies.

Nah, fuck that. One cancellation, fair enough. Then pissing about? No, its a block. I wonder why men put up with this more than women do.

Also many women show up late, as if it wouldn't matter, and then just carry on, business as usual. As a man you just get used to it and don't sweat it as much any more.

So because men have it harder on here you're willing to be messed about in the hope of a fuck?

Tbh I think you need to have more respect for yourself. Everyone on here deserves to be treated with manners and respect, including the single guys. I bet this woman, if it was indeed a woman, hadn't even left her house.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London

Yes, because men have less options, they are less picky and wait longer. Don't make an attack out of it please. I am just being honest, isn't that a change for once?

And if you remember, I told her that she doesn't have to come, if she doesn't want to. I said this, when she started to bullshit me for a second time, and I never believed her first excuse. But sometimes I put it away as nerves.

Should have stuck with my instinct and blocked her right away. But as I am saying - some people lie so much in their lives, that they become real masters at it. Happens all the time on here, too. It's an everyday event. No one takes responsibility for their actions, it's always something or someone else, and no one wants to look bad.

Half of the lies are self protective, the other half are cover ups.

"Sorry, I meant to answer, but I got distracted" or "Sorry, was too busy at work. I must have read your message, but forgot to reply. I thought I had actually."

Constant gaslighting. Most guys just blend it out, it's part of growing up, but if you're hungry for sex you lower your expectations and put up with more bs.

At the end she made it look like she's on her way for real the whole time and I was fooled.

Don't think I did anything wrong in the moment, and hindsight is always 20/20.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, because men have less options, they are less picky and wait longer. Don't make an attack out of it please.

Should have stuck with my instinct and blocked her right away. Happens all the time on here, too. It's an everyday event. No one takes responsibility for their actions,

"Sorry, I meant to answer, but I got distracted" or "Sorry, was too busy at work. I must have read your message, but forgot to reply. I thought I had actually."

but if you're hungry for sex you lower your expectations and put up with more bs.

Don't think I did anything wrong in the moment, and hindsight is always 20/20."

In a way buddy I want to stand in your corner for your point due to a recent issue I had alongside my genuine value base but then I also completely disagree with some of your points which I’ve quoted from your last post.

Firstly, never ever lower your expectations or be less picky(inc lowering standards). If you are chatting to a female you believe there to be an attraction/ connection then always expect that same level. I don’t like the idea of people lowering anything just because, as you say, they are hungry for sex. That’s just not good at all, infact I think it’s just nasty.

Also, you said you should have just blocked her which I think is the judgement call at the end of the day but you are looking back with that 20/20 hindsight.

You gave someone the benefit of the doubt, maybe a little too often in one day, but you still showed that bit of faith in another person.

Listen man, life happens and things can genuinely come up and get in the way of meets. Just because someone cancels, that doesn’t warrant a block or a time waster label so I think you were right to react the way you did. The reply you got above about binning at the 2pm issue is spot on though, we show faith, we are flexible but also be smart and notice when your plonkers being pulled.

The replies weren't an attack, just another fabber saying where the line should have been set.

At the weekend just past I had a meet on Saturday, funnily enough was meant to be at 2pm in town. I’m ready to go, she’s giving excuses about being caught in the rain, train times and then at 14.30….no dog sitter even though a dog hasn’t been mentioned in the 2 months we have been chatting. So you give the good faith, life can happen but that’s where you just say ok, maybe another time and leave it there. I text saying no worries, maybe catch up another time as at the end of the day, there’s no real rush to meet up.

By 15.00 she had asked me to pick her up and we ended up out for food, had a really good laugh signed off with a few frenchie kisses. She’s a real person who just had a bitch of a day.

Fab is what it is, it’s how you approach it that makes the difference man.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"She kept reassuring me through text that she's coming. And everytime I was mentally done, she made it sound like she's just around the corner basically.

You wouldn't believe how convincing some people can be. They lie the blue off the skies.

Nah, fuck that. One cancellation, fair enough. Then pissing about? No, its a block. I wonder why men put up with this more than women do.

Also many women show up late, as if it wouldn't matter, and then just carry on, business as usual. As a man you just get used to it and don't sweat it as much any more.

Well this is a lot of shite. Get a grip.

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

The comments about folk being approached at socials by people who have blocked them just shows how superficial Fab can be in a way. The written word and filtered pics only show you a fraction of what a person has to offer.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Yes, because men have less options, they are less picky and wait longer. Don't make an attack out of it please. I am just being honest, isn't that a change for once?

Half of the lies are self protective, the other half are cover ups.

"Sorry, I meant to answer, but I got distracted" or "Sorry, was too busy at work. I must have read your message, but forgot to reply. I thought I had actually."

Constant gaslighting. Most guys just blend it out, it's part of growing up, but if you're hungry for sex you lower your expectations and put up with more bs.

At the end she made it look like she's on her way for real the whole time and I was fooled.

Don't think I did anything wrong in the moment, and hindsight is always 20/20."

I'm not attacking you. I'm saying you should value yourself more.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"My fab expectations are already very low but to swap face pics, arrange a coffee social, drive 30min and then be stood up…..?

(swear he drove past slowlyand saw me sat outside, sunglasses and baseball cap on)

Then read and deleted my last message, is just beyond rude.

Rant over…..thanks for listening xx

weirdo.

Unfortunately for him I'd already screenshot his pics and profile so I could remember who I was looking for, so obviously my female friends now know who to be wary of

Good on you, I do the exact same.

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London

By 15.00 she had asked me to pick her up and we ended up out for food, had a really good laugh signed off with a few frenchie kisses. She’s a real person who just had a bitch of a day.

Fab is what it is, it’s how you approach it that makes the difference man.

So you did the exact same thing as me, except for you it worked out and for me it didn't.

She sounded like she tried to bullshit you, you took it at face value while remaining friendly, then she changed her mind (same as me so far) and eventually turned up late (in my case just didn't).

You also tolerated the excuses, in the hopes, that she still turns up and you judged the situation wrong.

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