FabSwingers.com forum: Ever worry you'll be recognised at a social?

By *ife Ninja OP Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Ideally, I'd love to go to more local socials, but I'm worried about coming across someone I know, or work with (hence why I go further away).

How do you deal with this? Not everyone buys into the discrete mantra.

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By *ameasyou1234Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Both male and female halves of us have been spotted in adult clubs at separate times. All was well.

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By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Happened numerous times. Not had an issue so far. They are there for the same reason & for socials, you have to be verified.

Jigs x

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Ideally, I'd love to go to more local socials, but I'm worried about coming across someone I know, or work with (hence why I go further away).

How do you deal with this? Not everyone buys into the discrete mantra."

Happened on my first one. Walked in to find my aunt's ex partner there. We don't like each other so we sat on opposite sides of the room

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"Ideally, I'd love to go to more local socials, but I'm worried about coming across someone I know, or work with (hence why I go further away).

How do you deal with this? Not everyone buys into the discrete mantra."

Part of me understands this but the bigger part of me really doesn't. I don't know why it would matter. They would be there for the same reasons and its a social, so no playing. They more than likely wouldn't bat an eyelid either.

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By *xybumWoman
over a year ago

East Kilbride

"Ideally, I'd love to go to more local socials, but I'm worried about coming across someone I know, or work with (hence why I go further away).

How do you deal with this? Not everyone buys into the discrete mantra."

Yawn! Who cares! If anyone recognises you then you are both In same boat yeh? Ignore and forget! End of.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Ideally, I'd love to go to more local socials, but I'm worried about coming across someone I know, or work with (hence why I go further away).

How do you deal with this? Not everyone buys into the discrete mantra."

I would either run screaming from the place or totally brass neck it and just go right up to them with the patter.

Probably the latter then have a double vodka to calm the nerves

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Ideally, I'd love to go to more local socials, but I'm worried about coming across someone I know, or work with (hence why I go further away).

How do you deal with this? Not everyone buys into the discrete mantra.

I would either run screaming from the place or totally brass neck it and just go right up to them with the patter.

Probably the latter then have a double vodka to calm the nerves

That's why I go to Glasgow for your banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with this? Not everyone buys into the discrete mantra."

Wait. Are they there for a different reason that we don't know about? Take ownership and be you.

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By *un-shineWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Met a couple different people over the years 'a neighbour' and ' work collegue' embarrassing at the time for both but its fine

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

It’s happened twice to me, both work colleagues, one I noticed the other I found out later, neither have shouted about it and neither would, most on here are discreet anyway

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

"hey guys, you'll never guess who I saw at the swinging club last night"

Said no-one ever!

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

""hey guys, you'll never guess who I saw at the swinging club last night"

Said no-one ever! "

It’s that a fake profile? No-one ever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it happens, just deal with it.

At the end of the day it's a social, and they're there for the exact same reason as you, so it'll only be awkward if you let it be x

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Surely it's one of them that's bound to happen f it

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Not always as straight forward as being there for the same reason

A few years ago a customer messaged me, thankfully he had a face pic on so I politely declined to chat which he politely accepted. At work this guy hates me so could quite easily make trouble for me. This doesn’t stop me going to socials but I don’t think I would risk going to a club in case he was there

If I met a friend/neighbour/colleague that wouldn’t scare me I would just have a laugh with them about it

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...

""hey guys, you'll never guess who I saw at the swinging club last night"

Said no-one ever! "

I'll use they when I'm in work next...

Much prefer to hide in plain sight. If I meet someone I know I'd see how they reacted (if I get blanked then so be it) and just go with the flow. Ultimately we are all there for our own reasons, who's to know if I'm there for my first visit or I'm a regular without asking? Same for them, let the dialogue flow!

As to meeting work colleagues there, I'd only be miffed if they went to play with anyone I had my eye on while it was a strike out night for me. FOMO at its best.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"Not always as straight forward as being there for the same reason

If I met a friend/neighbour/colleague that wouldn’t scare me I would just have a laugh with them about it "

What is the difference for you between a large social and going to club? Either one is going to be the same for them.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We’re fortunate that we’ve only ever attended socials away from our local area.

Doubt very much that we’d go to a local one in case of being recognized

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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago

the pub or in the nude in Paisley

Lots of people I wouldn't mind seeing at a social. Lots of people I don't want to see having sex in a club.

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Interesting discussion.

Generally, I'll go to clubs, socials or meets well away from the Edinburgh/Fife area.

In my job, being recognised could cause immense issues for me, so, it's interesting to hear other people's views.

Not everyone is discreet, I know, to my cost

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Interesting discussion.

Generally, I'll go to clubs, socials or meets well away from the Edinburgh/Fife area.

In my job, being recognised could cause immense issues for me, so, it's interesting to hear other people's views.

Not everyone is discreet, I know, to my cost

The crux of the matter though is that in order to out you at work, they would have to out themselves also. No one will torpedo themselves willingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being an undertaker,this hasn't been a problem so far

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Being an undertaker,this hasn't been a problem so far

If anyone did out you it would just be a dead end.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"Lots of people I wouldn't mind seeing at a social. Lots of people I don't want to see having sex in a club.

You don't need to be seen. Private rooms etc.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"We’re fortunate that we’ve only ever attended socials away from our local area.

Doubt very much that we’d go to a local one in case of being recognized "

Wish we had more local ones. Rare for Dundee

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"Interesting discussion.

Generally, I'll go to clubs, socials or meets well away from the Edinburgh/Fife area.

In my job, being recognised could cause immense issues for me, so, it's interesting to hear other people's views.

Not everyone is discreet, I know, to my cost

I think a lot of us could say similar. It's the same for many. All in the same boat. It's sad that society has folk feeling like this. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

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By *oberto7Man
over a year ago

Greenock

Know someone on here who yaps to their m8s about cjs etc

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By *oberto7Man
over a year ago

Greenock

Not unless they have nk one to answer to

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By *IGDADDYBEAR69Man
over a year ago

SCOTLAND

Happened to me. Guy i played football with was there while his wife was playing etc and I eventually ended up playing with his wife…. (Not knowing)

He then made a big thing about at a training session and was obviously only at the club for the wife not himself… so put me off going to clubs for a while but got back on the wagon and tend to just avoid folk i know at clubs

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By *oss man JMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Walked into after dark Edinburgh very first time, my cousins mate and pals !!! I recognise you haha then 2nd time guy that sort of works there, I had done his garden and he stays 2 mins away from me

Don’t care ! It’s gonna happen

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Interesting discussion.

Generally, I'll go to clubs, socials or meets well away from the Edinburgh/Fife area.

In my job, being recognised could cause immense issues for me, so, it's interesting to hear other people's views.

Not everyone is discreet, I know, to my cost

The crux of the matter though is that in order to out you at work, they would have to out themselves also. No one will torpedo themselves willingly."

Some people are more talkative than they should be

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

It's a social. They won't have to witness you shagging someone or parading around in the nude. I don't see why it'd be a problem x

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

Suppose it depends. Colleague, neighbours, friends no.

Family yes.

Toxic people yes.

Gossips that know either yes.

Some people have more to lose than others also.

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By *exyangietgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

I haven't had this problem but I doubt if anyone would recognise me as my male self when I'm in female mode.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would find it hugely amusing if that happened, I’d be calling them depraved sexual monsters

You have to take this side of life with a slice of humour and playfulness. We are all sexual beings, it’s 2023 and people are fully empowered to explore.

I’d have my money on that Mark I was in Maths with. He had a pierced nipple at 13, kinky bugger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a social. They won't have to witness you shagging someone or parading around in the nude. I don't see why it'd be a problem x"

Although you might all be there for the same reasons some folk don't care who knows their business and others do. You don't need to be shagging, I wouldn't want people to know I'm on this site. Let's face it, according to society, it's more acceptable to have an affair than to watch your partner have sex with others. Swinging is frowned upon and also an interesting topic for folks not on the site to talk about.

I like my private life to remain private, every one of us know that even verified users blab, having attended a large social year's ago I witnessed quite a few folks there tell others outside the function room why we were all there. Then mobile phones came out and people were being filmed going in and out. I'd never attend one again.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It's a social. They won't have to witness you shagging someone or parading around in the nude. I don't see why it'd be a problem x

That’s shocking people being filmed on the way into a social.

We are careful due to jobs. If you manage other people and meet a person you manage then you get into a strange power dynamic. People could manipulate that in a ‘Now I know your secret I was wondering about asking for a promotion’ way.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Not always as straight forward as being there for the same reason

If I met a friend/neighbour/colleague that wouldn’t scare me I would just have a laugh with them about it

What is the difference for you between a large social and going to club? Either one is going to be the same for them. "

A social I am only out for a drink, a club takes it to another level. It’s just my personal opinion, a few friends and family know I am here, I’m not embarrassed by it but not sure how it would go down with bosses at work or my teenagers

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By *axter1987Man
over a year ago

your hotlist

Has happened to me a couple of times. I always find it a pleasant surprise rather than the opposite

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

If someone did reveal that you were on here, had been to a party or parties or went to a club and tried to use it against you would that be considered to be bl@ckmai1.

As mentioned above taking photos or videos could be the same as sharing nude photos without consent and get them on the register. I suppose some people don't think much further than their next cup of coffee.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"If someone did reveal that you were on here, had been to a party or parties or went to a club and tried to use it against you would that be considered to be bl@ckmai1.

If you took a picture of someone fully clothed at a social event for swingers and then shared on social media with a ‘Some pictures from the swinger event I attended’ comment would that really be considered breaking the law in a revenge porn way? If so what’s the difference between that and posting pictures at a gig of some of the crowd ?

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"If someone did reveal that you were on here, had been to a party or parties or went to a club and tried to use it against you would that be considered to be bl@ckmai1.

I was thinking more about doing it as a way to demonise them because they were at an event related to swinging.

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Not always as straight forward as being there for the same reason

If I met a friend/neighbour/colleague that wouldn’t scare me I would just have a laugh with them about it

What is the difference for you between a large social and going to club? Either one is going to be the same for them.

I've met you, and you're lovely, but I don't think I'd be comfortable at a social in Edinburgh. I'd love to go to the new socials, but it's Glasgow, Newcastle or further afield for me.....I just can't risk my career

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By *ubbyandHisHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Interesting discussion.

Generally, I'll go to clubs, socials or meets well away from the Edinburgh/Fife area.

In my job, being recognised could cause immense issues for me, so, it's interesting to hear other people's views.

Not everyone is discreet, I know, to my cost

I’m totally invested & want to know what you do now lol

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By *ife Ninja OP Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Interesting discussion.

Generally, I'll go to clubs, socials or meets well away from the Edinburgh/Fife area.

In my job, being recognised could cause immense issues for me, so, it's interesting to hear other people's views.

Not everyone is discreet, I know, to my cost

I’m totally invested & want to know what you do now lol "

I'm social agent OSO

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