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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any tips on how best to start on here. I have only had 1 meet. Pretty much just describe my situation in the first message but people never seem to reply.

I also add pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right il type.

So many guys over complicate the messages or are sending utter shite with the wrong type of photos.

No dick photos, stick a face pic in if you want but I don’t.

In your message, be sure to read their profile first, make sure you might fit their preferences. Don’t write the essay, don’t over share and don’t say how much you want to fuck them. Do not cut and paste the same message, youl fuck it up and you will be caught out easily.

Don’t offer to pay for a pump, don’t ever say the word ‘panties’ or refer to your balls needing drained.

Say hello, say why they have caught your eye, ask if they would like to chat without any expectations being set. You could ask them what their funniest meet has been or if they would prefer to have a rats tail or a giraffes neck…be unique.

Make effort in your profile. At the moment it’s shite, add some personality to it, some humour and for the love of god gonnae sort of those age limits man. Remove the pessimistic part about replies, remember your profile page is the snapshot of who you are buddy.

Join in on the forums, chat rooms if that’s your things and consider socials.

Easy

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By *oulou0974Woman
over a year ago

Inverness

Maybe your situation isn’t appealing to others??

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Right il type.

So many guys over complicate the messages or are sending utter shite with the wrong type of photos.

No dick photos, stick a face pic in if you want but I don’t.

In your message, be sure to read their profile first, make sure you might fit their preferences. Don’t write the essay, don’t over share and don’t say how much you want to fuck them. Do not cut and paste the same message, youl fuck it up and you will be caught out easily.

Don’t offer to pay for a pump, don’t ever say the word ‘panties’ or refer to your balls needing drained.

Say hello, say why they have caught your eye, ask if they would like to chat without any expectations being set. You could ask them what their funniest meet has been or if they would prefer to have a rats tail or a giraffes neck…be unique.

Make effort in your profile. At the moment it’s shite, add some personality to it, some humour and for the love of god gonnae sort of those age limits man. Remove the pessimistic part about replies, remember your profile page is the snapshot of who you are buddy.

Join in on the forums, chat rooms if that’s your things and consider socials.

Easy"

Pretty much this. Thread closed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's all fine and well but most of the profiles have very little on them to start any conversation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Saying what I'm looking for fun and chat isn't appealing then there would be no reason to be here

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"That's all fine and well but most of the profiles have very little on them to start any conversation "

So look for a profile which has more on it.

Or look at what someone has typed on a forum thread to spark up a conversation.

Or admit defeat and go back to wanking into your sports socks.

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"That's all fine and well but most of the profiles have very little on them to start any conversation

So look for a profile which has more on it.

Or look at what someone has typed on a forum thread to spark up a conversation.

Or admit defeat and go back to wanking into your sports socks."

Other socks are available .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any tips on how best to start on here. I have only had 1 meet. Pretty much just describe my situation in the first message but people never seem to reply.

I also add pics "

What interests do you have? You only have ‘safe sex’ that’s a given on here, it doesn’t have to be something you’ve done and enjoyed it could be something you’d like to try, be open and experimental. I’d say get rid of your suit pic, and opt for something more casual, people can tell more about someone in casual clothing rather than a strait laced formal suit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's all fine and well but most of the profiles have very little on them to start any conversation "

Then don’t chat to them.

Do a search of the people/profiles with the same sort of interests as you… then save it, as it will always change as people are on and off the site

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

*sings* "It's you, bye, you're the problem, no me!"

Ps.- Peril - There's Bugger all wrong with a sockwank! I'd say you're a heartless cunt, but it's plain to see you're no.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Improve your pics and get rid of the silhouette profile pic, those usually get ignored.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have more pics that I send in messages

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By *quirt lancasterMan
over a year ago

adeje

No real tips other than getting along to organised socials and not just for the sex stuff there good fun ...

Maybe work a bit on what pics you have certainly profile and ones you send in message..

On messaging pack for the long haul and prepare for a lot of "no thanks" the ladies far, far out number us on here...

Have fun.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have more pics that I send in messages "

No one wants them in messages that’s like forcing the recipient to acknowledge you. Your pics should be on your profile - make it look like you spent time on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have more pics that I send in messages "

There’s an organised social on July at After Dark, get on the list, best way to meet people and have loads of fun with games

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the ideas. I have improved my profile and see where it takes me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the ideas. I have improved my profile and see where it takes me"

Defo much better buddy. All the best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers

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