FabSwingers.com forum: How often is a regular meet?!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you have a high sex drive, and were looking for regular meets, how often would you expect sex?!

Do you think frequency would change arrangements from fwb to "relationship "??

Just curious really!

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By *aughtyjamesMan
over a year ago

Inverclyde

2 to 3 times a week at a minimum

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By *ertsalaughMan
over a year ago

RENFREW

Regular fun with a fwb would depend on the free time you both have but I'd hope 4 times a week, if a local fwb and both had lots of free time I'd hope at least every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to follow this as regular will be taken extremely different between men and women.

Personally I’d say regular could be anything from 3 times a week over a short period of time to once a fortnight for a long period of time. Just depends on the individuals really

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Whenever we are both free. Times per week can vary.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"2 to 3 times a week at a minimum"

Exactly this once a weekday and definitely a weekend time

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"Regular fun with a fwb would depend on the free time you both have but I'd hope 4 times a week, if a local fwb and both had lots of free time I'd hope at least every day

The dream!!!

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

My idea of regular is the same person as often as they are free....

Generally it's the excuses that stop regular meets or one being dishonest about intentions.

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here.

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven

"Whenever we are both free. Times per week can vary."

I'd concur with that

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By *ogalMan
over a year ago

Paisley

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here."

That's a relationship, definitely so if you're wanting it every day...

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here.

That's a relationship, definitely so if you're wanting it every day...

A relationship is getting yer leg over every day!? Have you never been in one!?

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

My own view regular means a few times a week or at least once.

People I hook up with view ,once then again after they've checked if there's a better offer or once they've fucked everyone else in a 10 mile radius

Hence I'm still looking for a regular partner

I've a few in Spain but jees Scotland sucks

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I would class once a week as regular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd look to meet about once a week, I've way too much going on to be seeing a fwb every day.

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By *t2022Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

From our perspective as a couple, monthly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus the lot of you are horny bastards. Every day? I know what I'm like after a few days I'll want a break. A nice regular set up for me would be a couple of times a month. Preferably with some drinks or food as well.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

I'd say once a week maybe even monthly it just depends what schedules allow

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

fife

Would love to find a regular fwb set up. Very hard to find nowadays. Could be as often as 2-3 times per week with overnights included but be as well trying to find a needle in a haystack

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By *ogalMan
over a year ago

Paisley

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here.

That's a relationship, definitely so if you're wanting it every day...

A relationship is getting yer leg over every day!? Have you never been in one!? "

If she's wanting to go on dinner dates as well. Guess you missed that part though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As often as time allows I suppose, depends if your their only "regular" making time for everyone must be hard work haha

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here.

That's a relationship, definitely so if you're wanting it every day...

A relationship is getting yer leg over every day!? Have you never been in one!?

If she's wanting to go on dinner dates as well. Guess you missed that part though

Is that not just dating? or maybe the dinner dates are at the start as part of getting to know the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here.

That's a relationship, definitely so if you're wanting it every day...

A relationship is getting yer leg over every day!? Have you never been in one!?

If she's wanting to go on dinner dates as well. Guess you missed that part though

Is that not just dating? or maybe the dinner dates are at the start as part of getting to know the person "

I think having a decent fwb does involve socialising aswell, it's not dating but your not going to have a decent connection with someone you just meet for a roll about now and again. I think people forget the F part of fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would love to find a regular fwb set up. Very hard to find nowadays. Could be as often as 2-3 times per week with overnights included but be as well trying to find a needle in a haystack "

If you didn't have such high expectations....... I think you're just up the road from me

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here.

That's a relationship, definitely so if you're wanting it every day...

A relationship is getting yer leg over every day!? Have you never been in one!?

If she's wanting to go on dinner dates as well. Guess you missed that part though

Is that not just dating? or maybe the dinner dates are at the start as part of getting to know the person

Thanks for explaining, it actually makes perfect sense if anything would most likely result in better dynamics in the bedroom due having a better connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here.

That's a relationship, definitely so if you're wanting it every day...

A relationship is getting yer leg over every day!? Have you never been in one!?

If she's wanting to go on dinner dates as well. Guess you missed that part though

Is that not just dating? or maybe the dinner dates are at the start as part of getting to know the person

Thanks for explaining, it actually makes perfect sense if anything would most likely result in better dynamics in the bedroom due having a better connection "

Exactly that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As often as outside commitments allow.

I work a mix of day and night shifts so my weeks can be a bit all over the place.

But ideally, at least weekly.

And as has been mentioned, I want the friendship part of a fwb set-up.

Yes it's ultimately just sex, but that's too clinical for me. Besides sex is always so much better when you know someone on another level, and can be completely comfortable with them.

It is possible, I've had that in the past. It's just really difficult to find x

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

fife

If you didn't have such high expectations....... I think you're just up the road from me"

Fab isn’t real life, We have a very happy family life and fab is an extra of that. If nothing comes of fab it has no impact on life whatsoever. We know what we want and if it not what we want we are not interested. Tried many times to shake things up and take a punt on meeting someone who wouldn’t usually be what we want but always end up getting bitten or disappointed. so although id much rather find someone for more regular fun I’m not overly concerned about not having it. Would much rather end up having 2 or 3 amazing meets per year rather than settle for a lot more with something I’m not gonna enjoy half as much

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Ideally for me someone I can meet every few weeks would work for my home life, especially if there was more than one regular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you didn't have such high expectations....... I think you're just up the road from me

That's the spirit! Quality over quantity

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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

The people saying that regular for them would mean daily or at least 3 times a week etc are talking about a relationship. How on earth can people have a daily arrangement with someone they don’t live with. Have you no other life or commitments?

For me something regular would be every second weekend when I am child free. If I wanted more often I would be looking for a relationship, but I’m not! It’s hard enough finding that and I haven’t managed to find it so far. Would love to find someone who likes going out for a drink or whatever too and then back for shenanigans and just chatting and getting to know each other more between meeting up. It’s like I’m asking for the impossible!

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By *enie90Woman
over a year ago

a bottle

"The people saying that regular for them would mean daily or at least 3 times a week etc are talking about a relationship. How on earth can people have a daily arrangement with someone they don’t live with. Have you no other life or commitments?

Definitely agree with this! Once every fortnight or maybe once a week at most. With work and life commitments, several times a week regular gosh! just thinking about planning that in is causing me to get stressed.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I used to meet a guy fortnightly for quite some time when we were both child free which suited us both, we didn’t meet others in between as we were both busy with kids, work and friends. Meeting regular meant our confidence grew with each other which made everything more fun

I am now looking for a relationship somewhere in between fwb and marriage but can’t quite seem to get there

if I did find a relationship I don’t think I would even want to see them every day but we are all different

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Agree, I've been trying to find a regular for 11 years!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree, I've been trying to find a regular for 11 years! "

We have been lucky enough to have a throuple thing now after knowing we wanted a more regular thing. Regular for us is once every two weeks but can sometimes see each other in between. Would luv to see more but work and family commitments come first and we all understand that.

Speak everyday though and we like to socialise aswell as the naughty stuff

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Once every few weeks would be ideal but home-life & work commitments always get in the way .

Sometimes it’s good to be craving that next meet if it’s been a while

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By *r-King SizeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I would agree at least once a week with the same fwb if you are both free and with multiple fwb could be multiple times in a week when free

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"My idea of regular is the same person as often as they are free....

Generally it's the excuses that stop regular meets or one being dishonest about intentions.

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here."

Nah skip the dinner I have friends I can go to dinner with.

Would maybe do an activity with a regular like hillwalking or couple of drinks and a game of pool. Nothing near a relationship. I can take my own bins out thanks very much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have a high sex drive and I'm meeting just one person I'd be happy with 4 to 5 tines a week. Don't know if it would be possible time wise but I have sex daily in a relationship so if it was possible that would be my preference

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

It's really a spectrum depending on each other's work & life balance, and geography. For me, 3-4 times a month would work for me.

If you're meeting most days per week, that's bordering relationship status, unless it's a fuk'n'go thing

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Jesus the lot of you are horny bastards. Every day? I know what I'm like after a few days I'll want a break. A nice regular set up for me would be a couple of times a month. Preferably with some drinks or food as well."

Was shocked to see others ideas of regular, Mr Fox and I don't have sex every day!

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By *nstant_classicMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Some people are saying 2,3,4 times a week. Na, you might as well be in a relationship. Fuck that.

Weekly at most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

once a week if free. communication is more regular with my fwb. because we are also friends obviously.

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By *laymate321Woman
over a year ago

Angus

Regular with a fwb is as and when your regular commitments allow, everyone has their own take on it but to me it’s be once a week

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Some people are saying 2,3,4 times a week. Na, you might as well be in a relationship. Fuck that.

Weekly at most."

lol I was thinking the same. That is barely possible for most unless living together. Once a week or even once a month. .

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

Once maybe twice a month. Maybe the odd last minute thing but nothing more but that’s us. Enjoy you naughty fabbers. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever we both have the time really.

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By *at-me-drink-meWoman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

Any free time we have together .weather thats 1/2 or 4/5 times a week .for me reg means meeting the same person obv both people have dif lifes so it all depends on that

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By *aliskerWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Following this with interest.

My ideal scenario would be to have 5 fwbs, 3 men, 1 girl and 1 couple. All bisexual so I could mix and match 1 on 1 meets with threesomes and foursomes.

But only see any 1 of them maybe once or twice a fortnight, no fuck and go scenario’s, I’d like a good connection with all of them.

I know, I might as well be asking for world peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMO if your meeting someone regular (couple times a week , every week) then the lines get blurred , it stops being a FWB and heads into the dangerous place of catching feelings .. the more sex you have with the one person the more time gets invested and feelings come into play .. think folk struggle with FWB set up due to this and usually ends up messy !..also choosing to go down the FWB route and going for dinner and dates then it's defo not a FWB not saying it's a relationship but it's certainly not a FWB !

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Why not have more than one FWB if you’ve a high sex drive? Surely the same person won’t be free all the time you’re free. You’d get different experiences if you played with more than one person.

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By *unshinemcmanioMan
over a year ago

GLASGOW

I'd say once a week is probably what I'd be looking for in a fwb situation. I have a lot on though so can understand if other people would want to meet more than once a week

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

"Following this with interest.

My ideal scenario would be to have 5 fwbs, 3 men, 1 girl and 1 couple. All bisexual so I could mix and match 1 on 1 meets with threesomes and foursomes.

But only see any 1 of them maybe once or twice a fortnight, no fuck and go scenario’s, I’d like a good connection with all of them.

I know, I might as well be asking for world peace."

Sounds buay that

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By *at-me-drink-meWoman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"Why not have more than one FWB if you’ve a high sex drive? Surely the same person won’t be free all the time you’re free. You’d get different experiences if you played with more than one person.

Ideally 3 or 4 fwb would be perfect. Meeting them all reg.

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
over a year ago

grangemouth

We do this as fun

We like the idea of meeting another couple regularly

But we would not want it daily

As a couple we want our time and not to rely on this

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By *ollyRoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

I DON'T WANT a relationship but I do want dinner and dick sometimes and not go be lied to... Nearly impossible to find that on here.

That's a relationship, definitely so if you're wanting it every day...

A relationship is getting yer leg over every day!? Have you never been in one!?

If she's wanting to go on dinner dates as well. Guess you missed that part though

You never have dinner out with your friends? Go to the movies with your friends? A wee coffee in the afternoon with a friend? It's 'friends with benefits'- I enjoy the friendship part as much as the sex part!

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By *horesonWellesMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

As often as life allows.. Once a week would be great, but I'd settle for once a month. I'd be happy with FWB/play partners that I only see at swinging and kink events too.

It's strange to me that so many people balk at the idea of hanging out and doing the "friend" part of FWB. If it's just about the sex I'd say fuck buddy instead.

It's not a "relationship" until both parties want it to be. How many nights we see each other or if you sleep over makes no difference to me. But I'm a relationship anarchist so what do I know

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By *ralPerfectionistMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

It's easy to go through spells.

Sometimes meets flood in, then weeks it's painfully hard to find anything.

Regular meets are hard on here. To find someone who you know can meet up with whenever you both are horny.

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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago

Fife

I think regular is different for everyone. All depends on the individuals situations. I have a high sex drive and would love sex daily but thats not practical for my life even if it does sound heavenly! I have a couple of fwb and try to meet weekly but doesn't always work out that way. Do what works best for you and the person your meeting, don't worry about what anyone else is doing. Xx

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By *Booboo-Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Got a fairly low sex drive so once a month is probably fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree.

Anything more than 3 times a week is a relationship. You are kidding yourselves on if you don't think it is not. No way I can manage more than twice a week, I just have too much on. Trying to results in knackered people and not enough sleep ! Was ok in my 20s but these days gotta be more patient with your body. Imo.

In any case Fwb are pretty impossible to find these days as the internet has conditioned people to think they can do better, choice is too abundant and swiping can be addictive ...

. So many a perfectly fun fwb situation doesn't get off the ground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting someone regularly doesn't always have to involve having sex for me. I quite like being able to meet socially, chat, laugh, flirt kiss at the end of the night.

It makes the sex that follows even more intense.

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By *at-me-drink-meWoman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

"Meeting someone regularly doesn't always have to involve having sex for me. I quite like being able to meet socially, chat, laugh, flirt kiss at the end of the night.

It makes the sex that follows even more intense.

Agree with this

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By *at-me-drink-meWoman
over a year ago

w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND

I think finding a reg local fwb not just for sex but to flirt kiss chill with aswel is so hard to find..being a single mum and working 40-48hour a week im looking for adult company aswel as fun

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By *issxxx73Woman
over a year ago

my own world

FWB I'd say maybe once a week when time allows.

Big part is socially doing stuff together once in a while.

As the old saying goes if they can't do stuff with you in public. They certainly wouldn't be fucking in private.

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By *igman40123Man
over a year ago

travelling

"FWB I'd say maybe once a week when time allows.

Big part is socially doing stuff together once in a while.

As the old saying goes if they can't do stuff with you in public. They certainly wouldn't be fucking in private.

Always a good balance fun in & out the bed. Plays a key part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have a high sex drive, and were looking for regular meets, how often would you expect sex?!

Do you think frequency would change arrangements from fwb to "relationship "??

Just curious really!

Oh in an ideal world I'd love sex every day haha

However, regualar these days could be a couple of times a week to a couple of times a month depending on work, caring commitments, childcare etc etc

Mrs

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