FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Scotland

One piece of advice

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One for ladies. What's two pieces of advice you would give a single guy just joining fab, that would help him get a reply from a message. Mine would be....

1. Always read the profile before thinking of making contact.

2. No sleazy fancy a shag or do you deep throat messages, that's an immediate block, for me.

I could probably list about ten but let's stick with two at the moment.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

No dick pics, something tasteful like chest or bum is good or in a suit.

Message with something witty or something of interest from the female’s profile. I do like a well thought out message.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Don't try too hard to be different and have realistic expectations when it comes to sex

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Make a decent profile (no red flags, illegal photos etc) and then don't send any messages at all. Just sign up to events, or use forums / chat function. Treat it like any other social media. That way you'll meet people in the real world and be able to make a natural first impression.

Jigs x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"Make a decent profile (no red flags, illegal photos etc) and then don't send any messages at all. Just sign up to events, or use forums / chat function. Treat it like any other social media. That way you'll meet people in the real world and be able to make a natural first impression.

Jigs x

"

Jigs is bang on the money I reckon

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I wouldn’t give anyone any advice unless it was asked for .

People are free to do as they please .

Why is this question only aimed at single guys & not just to anyone joining fab anyway ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Everyone knows it's us guys that are the problem

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ink-KameraMan
over a year ago

Livingston


"Everyone knows it's us guys that are the problem "

True, unfortunately. Even if it's not all the guys. The few bad eggs spoil it for everyone

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Jigs has it on the head but I’d also add in, just to reiterate the point:

When horny, do not send any messages whatsoever.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Everyone knows it's us guys that are the problem

True, unfortunately. Even if it's not all the guys. The few bad eggs spoil it for everyone"
How do they spoil it for everyone ?

I’ve said it many times before that each & everyone of us is in control of our own destiny on here .

If your a decent human being then that will out shine the not so decent people & how they behave has no reflection on anyone else but themselves

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world


"I think Jigs has it on the head but I’d also add in, just to reiterate the point:

When horny/d*unk, do not send any messages whatsoever."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile pic is of your cock - tells us you are a cock.

You have multiple pics of your cock all from slightly different angles - tells us your cock is the most important thing to you and you believe it should be for everyone else too.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Make a decent profile (no red flags, illegal photos etc) and then don't send any messages at all. Just sign up to events, or use forums / chat function. Treat it like any other social media. That way you'll meet people in the real world and be able to make a natural first impression.

Jigs x

"

Not everyone goes to socials or use forums, if guys aren’t to send message what about all the girls and couples looking for men that don’t attend?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ogalMan
over a year ago

Paisley


"One for ladies. What's two pieces of advice you would give a single guy just joining fab, that would help him get a reply from a message. Mine would be....

1. Always read the profile before thinking of making contact.

2. No sleazy fancy a shag or do you deep throat messages, that's an immediate block, for me.

I could probably list about ten but let's stick with two at the moment. "

You're giving the game away for those of us who put a bit of effort in

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Be yourself.

It you're worth meeting then women will meet you.

If you're a dick, then they'll dodge you.

People over complicate Fab. It's more like real life than we realise.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Be yourself.

It you're worth meeting then women will meet you.

If you're a dick, then they'll dodge you.

People over complicate Fab. It's more like real life than we realise."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Make a decent profile (no red flags, illegal photos etc) and then don't send any messages at all. Just sign up to events, or use forums / chat function. Treat it like any other social media. That way you'll meet people in the real world and be able to make a natural first impression.

Jigs x

Not everyone goes to socials or use forums, if guys aren’t to send message what about all the girls and couples looking for men that don’t attend?"

Who specified socials? Events on here include anything from private / public meets, club nights, private / public parties or socials. It's how the site was designed. You post and get responses. If, as you say, they don't ever attend events then that's just keyboard swinging and a waste of everyone's time.

Though if you're looking for girls, please leave fab. This is for consensual adults only.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Make a decent profile (no red flags, illegal photos etc) and then don't send any messages at all. Just sign up to events, or use forums / chat function. Treat it like any other social media. That way you'll meet people in the real world and be able to make a natural first impression.

Jigs x

Not everyone goes to socials or use forums, if guys aren’t to send message what about all the girls and couples looking for men that don’t attend?

Who specified socials? Events on here include anything from private / public meets, club nights, private / public parties or socials. It's how the site was designed. You post and get responses. If, as you say, they don't ever attend events then that's just keyboard swinging and a waste of everyone's time.

Though if you're looking for girls, please leave fab. This is for consensual adults only. "

WOW!

Girls as in females, clearly fab is only for consenting adults, that’s a given.

I’ve met people through messaging them, and I’m sure there are plenty others that have too.

I guess we all work it differently, but that’s okay

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"Make a decent profile (no red flags, illegal photos etc) and then don't send any messages at all. Just sign up to events, or use forums / chat function. Treat it like any other social media. That way you'll meet people in the real world and be able to make a natural first impression.

Jigs x

Not everyone goes to socials or use forums, if guys aren’t to send message what about all the girls and couples looking for men that don’t attend?

Who specified socials? Events on here include anything from private / public meets, club nights, private / public parties or socials. It's how the site was designed. You post and get responses. If, as you say, they don't ever attend events then that's just keyboard swinging and a waste of everyone's time.

Though if you're looking for girls, please leave fab. This is for consensual adults only. "

Get your point in the first paragraph.

Second paragraph is being slightly pedantic though. Lost count of the number of times transvestites or transwomen are referred to as "t girls" on here..And there is never any suggestion or assumption of an underage crossdresser or trans woman. Simply understood as a friendly and affectionate term.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"Make a decent profile (no red flags, illegal photos etc) and then don't send any messages at all. Just sign up to events, or use forums / chat function. Treat it like any other social media. That way you'll meet people in the real world and be able to make a natural first impression.

Jigs x

Not everyone goes to socials or use forums, if guys aren’t to send message what about all the girls and couples looking for men that don’t attend?

Who specified socials? Events on here include anything from private / public meets, club nights, private / public parties or socials. It's how the site was designed. You post and get responses. If, as you say, they don't ever attend events then that's just keyboard swinging and a waste of everyone's time.

Though if you're looking for girls, please leave fab. This is for consensual adults only.

WOW!

Girls as in females, clearly fab is only for consenting adults, that’s a given.

I’ve met people through messaging them, and I’m sure there are plenty others that have too.

I guess we all work it differently, but that’s okay "

(....casually whistles the theme tune to "Jim'll Fix It").

The gentleman doth protest too much, me thinks.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Make a decent profile (no red flags, illegal photos etc) and then don't send any messages at all. Just sign up to events, or use forums / chat function. Treat it like any other social media. That way you'll meet people in the real world and be able to make a natural first impression.

Jigs x

Not everyone goes to socials or use forums, if guys aren’t to send message what about all the girls and couples looking for men that don’t attend?

Who specified socials? Events on here include anything from private / public meets, club nights, private / public parties or socials. It's how the site was designed. You post and get responses. If, as you say, they don't ever attend events then that's just keyboard swinging and a waste of everyone's time.

Though if you're looking for girls, please leave fab. This is for consensual adults only.

WOW!

Girls as in females, clearly fab is only for consenting adults, that’s a given.

I’ve met people through messaging them, and I’m sure there are plenty others that have too.

I guess we all work it differently, but that’s okay

(....casually whistles the theme tune to "Jim'll Fix It").

The gentleman doth protest too much, me thinks. "

I’m saying nothing more

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ayco04Man
over a year ago

Stirling

There's so many basic things that you could say to a guy starting out, like no dick pics, FAF, love your pics etc.

Let them make their mistakes I say, a bit of common courtesy shows a lot in man, and if a guy can't recognise that then maybe that's a good thing.

I always read a profile, look at the restrictions, age, preference. And I'm respectful. If I get a no, it's a simple "No problem, happy fabbing" and no hissy fits.

Respect and communication is key on this site, we are all people looking to have a good time.

I would say to any newbie on Fab, don't have any expectations to be the hottest guy on here, show some respect, be friendly, and let things develop naturally. This is a community after all, you'll never just walk in and be the biggest man in the room. Get to know people and learn who they are, you'll make so many better connections that way

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Understand that no reply is no thank you.

Don't think with only your dick.

Remember it's not instashsg. Join in, play nice and you'll find your people

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ustaman85Man
over a year ago

here and there

sun screen would be it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently


"Just be yourself "

..everyone else is already taken.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be… READ the FAQ’s and the site advice thoroughly (then the forums ) I’d even go as far to suggest a few simple questions before being allowed to join (still fully free, just an added step).

The simplest example of a question I can give that would cut down on sooooo much confusion and mail is….

Q- What does a non response mean?

A - A polite no thanks

Disclaimer:- not 100% but 99.9999999999999 %

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top