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"Well once again we were stood up by a single guy!! We thought that going with a recommendation guy we would be in safe hands but no!! We think it was a better offer thing but who knows. We thought by checking in yesterday and this morning that things were okay that we should go well but when travelling through the meet we sent - on the way and then get a stuck at work (on a Saturday message) as we are in transit to the meet sounds a bit shit and wrong "We have had that often Wtf would you do that for | |||
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"Well once again we were stood up by a single guy!! We thought that going with a recommendation guy we would be in safe hands but no!! We think it was a better offer thing but who knows. We thought by checking in yesterday and this morning that things were okay that we should go well but when travelling through the meet we sent - on the way and then get a stuck at work (on a Saturday message) as we are in transit to the meet sounds a bit shit and wrong "Says it the faq only meet folk that are verified by those that are looking to meet. But if hes confirmed right up until your traveling through then could easily be that he has indeed got hung up at work. It happens. Did he rearrange an alternate time or day to compensate? Thats when you find out if there a time waster. Been in a similar boat but the person in question just ghosted and then came back on with a different profile and tried it all again. Stick to clubs thats my advice | |||
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"Well once again we were stood up by a single guy!! We thought that going with a recommendation guy we would be in safe hands but no!! We think it was a better offer thing but who knows. We thought by checking in yesterday and this morning that things were okay that we should go well but when travelling through the meet we sent - on the way and then get a stuck at work (on a Saturday message) as we are in transit to the meet sounds a bit shit and wrong
Says it the faq only meet folk that are verified by those that are looking to meet. But if hes confirmed right up until your traveling through then could easily be that he has indeed got hung up at work. It happens. Did he rearrange an alternate time or day to compensate? Thats when you find out if there a time waster.
Been in a similar boat but the person in question just ghosted and then came back on with a different profile and tried it all again.
Stick to clubs thats my advice" | |||
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"Sounds like he lost his bottle. Just meet guys that are verified by couples time and time again. Sorry you were disappointed x" He was verified by a couple we know such a pain xx | |||
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"Well once again we were stood up by a single guy!! We thought that going with a recommendation guy we would be in safe hands but no!! We think it was a better offer thing but who knows. We thought by checking in yesterday and this morning that things were okay that we should go well but when travelling through the meet we sent - on the way and then get a stuck at work (on a Saturday message) as we are in transit to the meet sounds a bit shit and wrong
Says it the faq only meet folk that are verified by those that are looking to meet. But if hes confirmed right up until your traveling through then could easily be that he has indeed got hung up at work. It happens. Did he rearrange an alternate time or day to compensate? Thats when you find out if there a time waster.
Been in a similar boat but the person in question just ghosted and then came back on with a different profile and tried it all again.
Stick to clubs thats my advice"So the issue is - we were on the train before we got the message! I don’t believe that on a Saturday if your stuck at work you wouldn’t be able to take 30 seconds out to let someone know your not going to be able to turn up to a meet! | |||
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"Have had someone say they are on way then not showing up Another got address then said on way, to late ok am on way, half hour, tomorrow Or countless people arrange to meet then stop talking " It’s so infuriating isn’t it … what’s the point in them just wasting our time and day xx you pair look great btw xx | |||
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"If this happens and you don’t think he works on a Saturday then our first thought is always if the guy is married. Lots of married guys on Fab and many hide it well but if the wife cancels her night out with the girls then you suddenly can’t sneak off for a couple meet. It happens. We find real couples are more reliable. " A very good point x we think we will just stick to couples moving forward x thanks and hugs x | |||
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"Sounds like you're picking the wrong guys " How do you pick the right guy?? | |||
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"Sounds like you're picking the wrong guys How do you pick the right guy?? " Good question. Plenty of single guys here. They'd meet you in a shot. Maybe a club meet next time, just in case, then your trip isn't wasted  | |||
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"Did you chat afterwards or just block him?" Another good point. A block, would be my advice | |||
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"Did you chat afterwards or just block him?" Spoke after but the reason for the no show still didn’t excuse the lack of notice x | |||
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"Well once again we were stood up by a single guy!! We thought that going with a recommendation guy we would be in safe hands but no!! We think it was a better offer thing but who knows. We thought by checking in yesterday and this morning that things were okay that we should go well but when travelling through the meet we sent - on the way and then get a stuck at work (on a Saturday message) as we are in transit to the meet sounds a bit shit and wrong "I don't understand guys your are stunning and anyone getting the opertunity should be taking it x | |||
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It's like he was sitting there waiting for me to get to the place before doing all that. Prick. Yet if I'd offered him a play meet he wouldn't have got there fast enough  | |||
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"I had one guy messaging me a lot the day before our social saying how excited he was, I didn't get a chance to follow up on the day as I was busy with work and had to rush to meet him - as soon as I got to the venue he read my 'I've arrived' messages then blocked me on fab and WhatsApp and deleted all the photos he sent me, even his WhatsApp profile pic
It's like he was sitting there waiting for me to get to the place before doing all that. Prick. Yet if I'd offered him a play meet he wouldn't have got there fast enough "Ah, an invitation not to be refused  | |||
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"Did you chat afterwards or just block him? Spoke after but the reason for the no show still didn’t excuse the lack of notice x "So he could very well have been genuine. Totally understand your disappointment but things do happen to people and it's not always as it seems. Hes not really a 'no show' as he let you know, it's a shame it hadn't been before youd got on the train, did he know what time you were getting the train?. I think people jump on this without knowing the circumstances and vilify the guy. You mentioned not taking time out to message you but its priorities, we dont know what happened at work. As I say, I get your disappointment and hope it doesnt happen often. All the best  | |||
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We do however have a few who we know is reliable
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"I had one guy messaging me a lot the day before our social saying how excited he was, I didn't get a chance to follow up on the day as I was busy with work and had to rush to meet him - as soon as I got to the venue he read my 'I've arrived' messages then blocked me on fab and WhatsApp and deleted all the photos he sent me, even his WhatsApp profile pic
It's like he was sitting there waiting for me to get to the place before doing all that. Prick. Yet if I'd offered him a play meet he wouldn't have got there fast enough "Jeeez... That is absolutely savage!! | |||
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" How do you pick the right guy?? " I’d say this is the golden question. I find it extremely easy to spot an online thrill seeking fem/couple however it’s far easier to hide that aspect as a guy purely due to the high number of male profiles. Just one of those frustrating things sadly | |||
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"I think there might need to be a bit more context on the situation. Couple of things I'd like to know are, how long had you been travelling for at the point you got the message and also what job does the guy do? For me there would be a major difference in getting a message on a train from Rutherglen to Glasgow against say Dundee to Glasgow. Also if he works a job where he needed to stay on extra I'd guess for being busy, then it's also likely he may simply not have had the time to step away to send a message. From multiple years in hospitality I know that happens plenty of times. Putting that aside I get the disappointment of the meet not happening but you have also been able to speak afterwards to get more info from him. If he was a genuine time waster I'd expect the profile to disappear or block you. " Exactly this, always two sides | |||
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"I could be wrong but over the years it seems to be the younger members that are the biggest time wasters. " Absolute rubbish. I find most older guys on here are only looking for wank fodder. Certainly the most disrespectful messages and undertones of entitlement are from older guys | |||
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"I could be wrong but over the years it seems to be the younger members that are the biggest time wasters. Absolute rubbish. I find most older guys on here are only looking for wank fodder. Certainly the most disrespectful messages and undertones of entitlement are from older guys" That's only your opinion based on your experience but from my point of view I've wasted a lot of time chatting, getting a meeting arranged and then nothing. That's happened twice recently | |||
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"Also happens the other way around. I had arranged to meet a couple. Spoken on the phone saying I would arrive in 30 minutes. By the time I had arrived at their hotel they had gone radio silent. " But that's not what this guy did. Yes it must have been disappointing for them but he did let them know and spoke with them afterwards and possibly apologised. I just feel everyone is quick to jump on this guys back not knowing the full story. | |||
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"Sounds like you're picking the wrong guys How do you pick the right guy?? " You need to know things to look out for ,few red flags Does he give out other via chat Does he accommodate Does he travel for work Does hide his profile Etc | |||
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"I think there might need to be a bit more context on the situation. Couple of things I'd like to know are, how long had you been travelling for at the point you got the message and also what job does the guy do? For me there would be a major difference in getting a message on a train from Rutherglen to Glasgow against say Dundee to Glasgow. Also if he works a job where he needed to stay on extra I'd guess for being busy, then it's also likely he may simply not have had the time to step away to send a message. From multiple years in hospitality I know that happens plenty of times. Putting that aside I get the disappointment of the meet not happening but you have also been able to speak afterwards to get more info from him. If he was a genuine time waster I'd expect the profile to disappear or block you. " Hi so I’m going to have to disagree with you here .. it was a short train journey more the rutherglen - Glasgow .. if you look at the clock and think this might be tight or I’m not going to make this.. I’d send a message .. if I was so busy that the couple didn’t come in to my mind then I’d suggest he wasn’t that interested in the first place ?? | |||
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"its shite becuse jen guys who would give the back teeth just for a bit fun dont get a chance " The ones who usually claim they would give their back teeth. Or will always show up are the profiles 1 who cannot accomodate 2 have a silhouette avatar and no pics. 3 have no verifications As Meat Loaf said - 2 out of 3 ain't bad | |||
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"Sounds likes like there are a fair number of time wasters around as well as fake profiles and not all just singles guys so affecting couples and singles alike. Might be that clubs are the best way forward, at least for first meets. " Due diligence and a quick social meet for a coffee works for me. If they can't meet for a coffee they are hardly going to get ready and pay into a club. This usually separates the timewasters and instashag crew. | |||
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"I think there might need to be a bit more context on the situation. Couple of things I'd like to know are, how long had you been travelling for at the point you got the message and also what job does the guy do? For me there would be a major difference in getting a message on a train from Rutherglen to Glasgow against say Dundee to Glasgow. Also if he works a job where he needed to stay on extra I'd guess for being busy, then it's also likely he may simply not have had the time to step away to send a message. From multiple years in hospitality I know that happens plenty of times. Putting that aside I get the disappointment of the meet not happening but you have also been able to speak afterwards to get more info from him. If he was a genuine time waster I'd expect the profile to disappear or block you. Hi so I’m going to have to disagree with you here .. it was a short train journey more the rutherglen - Glasgow .. if you look at the clock and think this might be tight or I’m not going to make this.. I’d send a message .. if I was so busy that the couple didn’t come in to my mind then I’d suggest he wasn’t that interested in the first place ?? " OK, fair enough you disagree, but I'd ask do you at least accept that there are some jobs where you can't just drop what your doing to disappear to send a message. Again I'd site hospitality, most places don't allow you to have your phone out or even on you front of house and if its that busy he needed to stay on he probably isn't getting away to send a message. Also if you're on the train for 15-20min then that's a hell of a small window for him to message. Sorry but to me you actually come across a bit entitled in your complaining here. It's amazing to me how little understanding or empathy is offered, especially when again you said that you still spoke to him afterwards and he fully explained what happened. In this situation I always ask myself what I'd think if it was reversed, what would your thoughts be on this guy coming on here to put you on blast (without identifying you) because you weren't able to make a meet on short notice simply as real life happened? Lastly did you put out any other expenses other than a local train ticket or is it just the hurt feelings from not getting your meet? | |||
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"I think there might need to be a bit more context on the situation. Couple of things I'd like to know are, how long had you been travelling for at the point you got the message and also what job does the guy do? For me there would be a major difference in getting a message on a train from Rutherglen to Glasgow against say Dundee to Glasgow. Also if he works a job where he needed to stay on extra I'd guess for being busy, then it's also likely he may simply not have had the time to step away to send a message. From multiple years in hospitality I know that happens plenty of times. Putting that aside I get the disappointment of the meet not happening but you have also been able to speak afterwards to get more info from him. If he was a genuine time waster I'd expect the profile to disappear or block you. Hi so I’m going to have to disagree with you here .. it was a short train journey more the rutherglen - Glasgow .. if you look at the clock and think this might be tight or I’m not going to make this.. I’d send a message .. if I was so busy that the couple didn’t come in to my mind then I’d suggest he wasn’t that interested in the first place ?? " So basically you took a short trip into town for a social meet, you were contacted and advised he couldn't make it due to work which happens. Hes well verified and came recommended by people you know. You were in contact with him after, I assume he apologised, maybe offered to rearrange or make it up to you? Yet here you are, dissing him and accusing him of being a time waster or whatever. I dont think you're being at all fair here and have possibly affected your chances of future meets as people might be wary that should they do or say anything you dont like then you'll bring it here. I think you've maybe missed the target with this post. Giving you the benefit of doubt, perhaps unwittingly. | |||
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"Really can’t believe people are so stupid to get a meet. And not show up if we’re me wild horses wouldn’t drag me away " So on the logic of what you've said here, you would walk out of a job to make sure you get a meet? Given that real life happens and can drop unexpected events on you, would you say fuck it I've got a meet? | |||
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"I would always plan a meet for when I was off work" And in the context of the op's post the guy did plan for when he had finished work but had to stay on extra. What would your suggestion be for that, walk out of work leaving them when it's busy? | |||
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"I think there might need to be a bit more context on the situation. Couple of things I'd like to know are, how long had you been travelling for at the point you got the message and also what job does the guy do? For me there would be a major difference in getting a message on a train from Rutherglen to Glasgow against say Dundee to Glasgow. Also if he works a job where he needed to stay on extra I'd guess for being busy, then it's also likely he may simply not have had the time to step away to send a message. From multiple years in hospitality I know that happens plenty of times. Putting that aside I get the disappointment of the meet not happening but you have also been able to speak afterwards to get more info from him. If he was a genuine time waster I'd expect the profile to disappear or block you. " Disagree completely. It takes 2 minutes to jump on, send a very short but courteous apology and then try to regain later. Unless you have broken down in a tunnel ?? | |||
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"I think there might need to be a bit more context on the situation. Couple of things I'd like to know are, how long had you been travelling for at the point you got the message and also what job does the guy do? For me there would be a major difference in getting a message on a train from Rutherglen to Glasgow against say Dundee to Glasgow. Also if he works a job where he needed to stay on extra I'd guess for being busy, then it's also likely he may simply not have had the time to step away to send a message. From multiple years in hospitality I know that happens plenty of times. Putting that aside I get the disappointment of the meet not happening but you have also been able to speak afterwards to get more info from him. If he was a genuine time waster I'd expect the profile to disappear or block you. Disagree completely. It takes 2 minutes to jump on, send a very short but courteous apology and then try to regain later. Unless you have broken down in a tunnel ??" That's why I was looking for some context of the guys job. Again going back to my own experience in hospitality, when it's busy you don't get the chance to step out whenever you want also the vast majority employers do not allow phones on staff front of house. This is something I would expect from most jobs to be honest, if you are there and working then you shouldn't be on your phone, you should be doing your job. One last thing I'd point out, in the op's original post, the guy did actually message to say he was stuck at work. | |||
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"We are friends with you both and certainly wouldn’t stand use 2 up. We would love to meet use ??" But they weren't stood up. | |||
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"According to them they were? " If you read, they were contacted to advise he couldn't make it. Their disappointment aside, they were not stood up. | |||
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"Well once again we were stood up by a single guy!! We thought that going with a recommendation guy we would be in safe hands but no!! We think it was a better offer thing but who knows. We thought by checking in yesterday and this morning that things were okay that we should go well but when travelling through the meet we sent - on the way and then get a stuck at work (on a Saturday message) as we are in transit to the meet sounds a bit shit and wrong "Sorry to hear that but that is the reason single guys in here find it had to get meets Because of idiots | |||
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"Well once again we were stood up by a single guy!! We thought that going with a recommendation guy we would be in safe hands but no!! We think it was a better offer thing but who knows. We thought by checking in yesterday and this morning that things were okay that we should go well but when travelling through the meet we sent - on the way and then get a stuck at work (on a Saturday message) as we are in transit to the meet sounds a bit shit and wrong
Sorry to hear that but that is the reason single guys in here find it had to get meets Because of idiots "Not the only reason - no effort in profiles or in messages, sending messages that make it clear my profile hasn't been read, no pics on profile, no verifications, cock profile pic, moany statuses - all add up to a massive no for some guys | |||
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"Quick question, how much notice of something coming up and having to cancel a meet is acceptable? " For me I'd say a couple of hours notice, then I wouldn't have got ready and possibly travelled | |||
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"Quick question, how much notice of something coming up and having to cancel a meet is acceptable? " If you miss the shower and shave deadline, you're in the bad books | |||
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"Happened to us yesterday after days and days of messaging and that was with someone we had met once before. Cancelled two hours before we were due to meet. Absolutely his loss though x" Thats not being stood up it’s being cancelled on . At least they let you know | |||
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"Well once again we were stood up by a single guy!! We thought that going with a recommendation guy we would be in safe hands but no!! We think it was a better offer thing but who knows. We thought by checking in yesterday and this morning that things were okay that we should go well but when travelling through the meet we sent - on the way and then get a stuck at work (on a Saturday message) as we are in transit to the meet sounds a bit shit and wrong "Well looking at your pics it was his loss, another strike against single guys, thanks mate | |||
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"Maybe he just got caught up at work and was telling the truth." Exactly. Youd think most on here have never had to change plans at the last minute. I'd guess theres more to this than OP has said. | |||
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