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By *ndk OP   Couple
over a year ago

LEVEN

Do people meet for socials only on here?, with the knowledge that no naughtiness is on the cards.

We are taking small steps, and think coffee would be next for us, but don't want anyone to think we are just wasting their time?

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

Yep definitely, when the wife and I meet people for tge first time it’s mostly like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely xx

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

It's like the best way to get to know someone pal also gives a person the option to just leave rather than feeling awkward if they was to just meet up with a stranger at a hotel or there home for sex then turned out they had catfished them with pics of when they was way younger or Snapchat filters a social is a great ice breaker and if goes well there's nothing to say a social couldn't turn into fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people meet for socials only on here?, with the knowledge that no naughtiness is on the cards.

We are taking small steps, and think coffee would be next for us, but don't want anyone to think we are just wasting their time?"

Socials are a huge part of the swinging community in Aberdeen. Lots of people use the site for social interaction. Use it how you wish it’s your profile and your choice at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a social meet.

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...

Aye, the whole point of a social meet, especially as a first meeting, is to sound everyone out. I mean, you'd view a house/car before taking the plunge...for a lot of people there needs to be a level of connection and comfort with a person/persons before the fun stuff happens.

You can only tell so much from a few words and photos on a profile. I always find you will learn more watching a person and talking to them for 5 mins than if you just message back and forth for a fee weeks.

Unless you're a rampant shagger that is. Then socials are kinda pointless...

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By *omcupCouple
over a year ago

Alexandria

Definitely acceptable, no one should feel pressured into something and there's no harm in explaining it's purely social meetings so that people don't get the wrong end of the stick

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By *hatwedointheshadowsWoman
over a year ago

back’o’beyond

We tend to have a social meet 1st before any plays Iv started to hold private social meets weekly in my pub in fife and people seem ti be enjoying it only coming up for the 3rd night but for the response iv been definitely would say socials are a good thing not all about the sex I personally feel like am part of a community in swinging with real good freinds met along the way x

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By *interspiceWoman
over a year ago

Alloa

I think its a fantastic opportunity to meet socially. I love a good social. Could I have more info please xx

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Do people meet for socials only on here?, with the knowledge that no naughtiness is on the cards.

We are taking small steps, and think coffee would be next for us, but don't want anyone to think we are just wasting their time?"

That’s our approach at all times, visits to a club being the exception. We are very much that if we don’t get on or there isn’t a connection when we have our pants on, then there never will be when the pants come off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a social first with someone new!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally think socials are amazing and for me are an absolute must before a meet. It allows for the he vibe to be assessed and properly get to know each other. Enjoy the site how you feel and never let anyone pressure you into anything you don’t want to do

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By *oyfulduoCouple
over a year ago

a town near you, will travel

Like everyone else has said, socials are fabulous, best way to be able to meet and check out if there is attraction, but also just to be able to talk about this subject matter in a safe place with like minded people xx

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

Definitely something we are into, see if everyone clicks and see where it goes. Not a waste of time at all.

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

If you're transparent with people about what you are and aren't looking for then I don't see how you can be accused of being time wasters. Just do things at your own pace.

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By *ndk OP   Couple
over a year ago

LEVEN

Thanks for all the advice, it has made us feel a bit better and hopefully braver x

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By *nn1330Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

It's pretty much all I do now , unless I have a huge connection with a person but would take a lot , I make sure the other person knows that's its purely social, up to them if that's enough, if not they can move on

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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago

the pub or in the nude in Paisley

Since we met each other on here, it’s been socials only for the last year or so.

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By *cotlosthiskiltMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Already got your answer multiple times over, socials are very much a big thing in our community so social away OP and go at your own pace as there will still be ample people willing to meet you both.

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By *ndk OP   Couple
over a year ago

LEVEN

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By *ndk OP   Couple
over a year ago

LEVEN


"I think its a fantastic opportunity to meet socially. I love a good social. Could I have more info please xx"

Winter, let us know what more info you would like x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always meet socially before any fun x

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By *aucyxx1Couple
over a year ago

Troon

Yes we like to meet for a social first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were more of a social couple. It's def more about quality than quantity for us. And we fade in and out of swinging . We go to alot of socials and we love it! We've made loads of friends and hope to make many more xx

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By *ide em cowgirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes of course feel it’s the best way to get to know likeminded people.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Of course it is acceptable. Trouble is getting people to turn up. We were let down once again while we were visiting our friends camp field near Perth Easter weekend. It gets a tad tedious being let down without a courtesy message to say why or even can't make it. There are lots here on fab disrespectful and think people are just a commodity. Hope you have all the luck of the Irish OP. We definitely don't mind a coffee with folk, in fact there are lots who will say social first

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By *haifuarMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

Socials are great, I've made some long-lasting friends where there wasn't that mutual sexual spark but we both appreciated the honest company. It can be hard to talk freely about your kinks but with friends you meet on here you always have someone capable of discretion and understanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a social with no pressure or expectations is far better way to get to know someone

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By *aucySue52Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Completely agree and it’s on my

profile although the amount of times folk have wasted my time chatting and even arranging to meet then when I say it’s just a social they say it’s not worth their while .

How do you know if you ll connect ?

Also the time wasters that don’t show .

As a single female it’s also for safety

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Fabbers usually fall into two groups. Those who like a social meet and those who just want to play and go.

Look out for social events on the forum if you want to meet up with others as a group or meet for coffee with anyone you’re interested in. There’s no obligation to play if you decide to go to CJs anytime either. Many of us socialise there and don’t play.

Have fun.

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By *ubbyandHisHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Defo social 1st

It’s like the best kind of foreplay & build up, I also know within minutes of a social if i like or don’t like someone

I’m clear in our profile social is a must, dont get me wrong i get some whollopers who clearly didn’t read profile but helps out the weirdos

I like a few socials a week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials are a good way forward.

There are times when you meet people and with 4 people (more or less) you all need to feel an attraction to take it further.

with a social you can still have a fantastic night without that attraction via chatting, a meal, drinks.

we all have vanilla friends we go out with and have a good night out without the sex. A social is just like that.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Socials are not only acceptable but the norm for many people.

It’s a no pressure way of seeing if there is a connection plus if neither party can accommodate then you can see if people get on before booking a hotel for a second play meet.

We’ve got a social only meet today.

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By *fficegirlTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

Sometimes people don't want to get their kit off on a first date

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By *eedsanewusernameMan
over a year ago

Mainly under the bed...

Certainly so. Most social meets I've had involve trying to sound each other out. It's always a dangerous game to rip each others clothes off in Cafe Nero...

Then again. I've had a rock climbing social...which was very nice for checking out the glutes on the lady I met with

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