FabSwingers.com forum: when you say something stupid that you don't mean.

Mainly under the bed...

"I know a lot of us are easily offended by something someone has said or done. I most often say things I don't mean or that's taken totally the wrong way. It's easy to miss understand what someone is trying to say via text message. Men have it hard enough on here as it is and for a lot of us guys that don't have the gift of the gab. anyone else find it hard to get a decent profile write up ???"

Just messaging is difficult as you have to stand out from the crowd...

Attack the problem by being different:

If you're contacting folk and they say in their profile "no dick pics" don't send one.

I've talked to a few couples and singles at recent socials and they all had very common advice for a single guy, advice many guys ignore entirely and just blunder away regardless:

No dick pics (unless they ask).

Put a bit of effort into a message ("wanna fuck" isn't the opening line they're all looking for).

Shave your man-minge, or at least trim it back. You'll look tidy and a bit longer to boot...

Wash (like who thinks 18 holes of golf then a meet without washing is ideal?!?). And smell nice too.

Be on time. If you're 5 mins early for a meet you're already 5 mins late...

It is hard, getting your head above the parapet and being seen as a reasonable, half decent guy rather than a testosterone factory/life support machine for an over active but under developed penis.

I suppose its about what you put in and what you hope to get out of FAB. Maybe get out and meet folk at organised socials...then folk can see you from the other side of the keyboard. The ones I've been to have been really helpful, folk I've met know I put my foot in my mouth and say inappropriate things, but a smile and good personality go a lot further than a "down to fuck" message ever will, no matter how tongue in cheek.

So, down to fuck?