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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are a long term couple. We play as a couple but also on our own occasionally. Woman’s general view is that it is a big no to play solo with the male half of the couple as he is seen to be cheating or going behind my back ! Views ?? Is there woman who would not be put off by this set up

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"We are a long term couple. We play as a couple but also on our own occasionally. Woman’s general view is that it is a big no to play solo with the male half of the couple as he is seen to be cheating or going behind my back ! Views ?? Is there woman who would not be put off by this set up "
I have done it in the past with females consent .

If I was ever considering it again then I’d always make sure the female knew because I did once play with a guy at a party who was their with his fab playmate partner .

He told me he’d discussed it with her and she was okay with it but on the night it was pretty clear she wasn’t happy about it so always make sure the female half is aware of what’s going on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met the male half of a couple for a quick social, i wasnt too keen alls he spoke about was her, kinda put me of, id much rather he found out what i liked as opposed to telling me what shes does, nowadays i usually only meet single guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for that I know my other half wouldn’t bored someone with talking about me if he was on a solo meet x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I totally get that it happened to me in a club also nothing too much happened but she was looking for him when he was in a room with me. He said it was just a miss understanding she has though he was going to play with both of us and not just the female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I understand the situation the OP is outlining.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

We don't play solo as it's not something we want to do, we get kicks out of watching each other so solo play does nothing.

If its all consensual though it's not cheating x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done it but heard a few horror stories where the wife has gone full tonto when hubby and the new burd get on a bit too well. Playing with fire I think.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We had a guy who was part of a couple who we had met for a social meet.

He contacted us and said his wife was unable to play because of a medical condition but she was fine with him playing with us. We asked for proof she was fine and turned out he had to talk to her though did eventually get proof she was fine with it.

We were a week from meeting him then they posted an update looking for a couples meet. What happened to the medical condition she couldn’t meet because of ? We felt there was something very strange and deceitful about the situation. Trust in these situations is expected and essential so it didn’t feel right and we cancelled the solo meet.

So, yes, we would meet the guy from a couple solo but it would need to be all above board with everyone being happy and aware of what’s going on. It gets complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a guy who was part of a couple who we had met for a social meet.

He contacted us and said his wife was unable to play because of a medical condition but she was fine with him playing with us. We asked for proof she was fine and turned out he had to talk to her though did eventually get proof she was fine with it.

We were a week from meeting him then they posted an update looking for a couples meet. What happened to the medical condition she couldn’t meet because of ? We felt there was something very strange and deceitful about the situation. Trust in these situations is expected and essential so it didn’t feel right and we cancelled the solo meet.

So, yes, we would meet the guy from a couple solo but it would need to be all above board with everyone being happy and aware of what’s going on. It gets complicated. "

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Agreed, happy to meet solo but I need to confirm with the partner that it's OK

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'd be wondering why there were no pictures of the man in said set up

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By *issGinger80sWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

I think you should both be comfortable with the situation and if not everyone is under the same agreement it shouldn’t happen . The last thing anyone wants is to upset anyone when we are all here for good naughty fun.

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By *BCxCouple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

We have and do consider seperate meets. Mostly we get most enjoyment out of playing together and I think we always will. But I've always had something about seeing or sending my husband off with permission to play (with a woman I already know and we've played with together). I think it's just finding the right couples who find it a turn on too and as with everything in the swinging world, communication and boundaries are needed to reduce the chance of hurt feelings or broken trust

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

My personal view and I’ve been asked many times is I don’t want to get into any drama, I’ve seen it happen to the best of couples, yeah play with my husband I’m cool with it and then women click with your husband and it becomes just friends and something regular and before you know it he’s looking forward to fuxking her more than you and and people get hurt

As much as everyone says this isn’t going to be us you just never know and I’m a monogamous individual it just doesn’t feel right for me

Maybe as I get older I might feel different

Single men to the front for me

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By *ebastian-MarnieCouple
over a year ago

paisiey

We’ve had an MFM with a male from a couple. They were friends of ours and it was all discussed between the 2 couples beforehand.

I (mr) thought I would be more comfortable with this as I thought it the guy would be less likely to brag to his mates etc since he’s in a relationship and he’s also less likely to try n contact mrs himself.

There’s probably pros and cons to both

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We had a guy who was part of a couple who we had met for a social meet.

He contacted us and said his wife was unable to play because of a medical condition but she was fine with him playing with us. We asked for proof she was fine and turned out he had to talk to her though did eventually get proof she was fine with it.

We were a week from meeting him then they posted an update looking for a couples meet. What happened to the medical condition she couldn’t meet because of ? We felt there was something very strange and deceitful about the situation. Trust in these situations is expected and essential so it didn’t feel right and we cancelled the solo meet.

So, yes, we would meet the guy from a couple solo but it would need to be all above board with everyone being happy and aware of what’s going on. It gets complicated. "

We totally understand that but we are a well verified couple who love playing together.

it’s just a wee thing we like to do occasionally lol a bit of a kink and maybe yea I right be better with a couple we have met before as a couple who might consider it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd be wondering why there were no pictures of the man in said set up "

We have pictures of the male in our friends photos

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have and do consider seperate meets. Mostly we get most enjoyment out of playing together and I think we always will. But I've always had something about seeing or sending my husband off with permission to play (with a woman I already know and we've played with together). I think it's just finding the right couples who find it a turn on too and as with everything in the swinging world, communication and boundaries are needed to reduce the chance of hurt feelings or broken trust "

Yip that is probably where we need to be looking at coupes who may consider this a little kink ! Which we have meet together before. The only way possibly to know they are genuine type people. X

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By *cotsbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Helensburgh

Wedo it quite frequently...A prefers to play solo at parties, M prefers to play solo away from parties, so we've often had lone fems phoning to talk to A to confirm it's cool, and it is cos we're compltely poly....it's not for everyone tho.

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By *he feckersCouple
over a year ago

rosyth

We have played solo occasionally though couple fun is usually our go to . But never say never

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By *ngelstormWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


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We totally understand that but we are a well verified couple who love playing together.

it’s just a wee thing we like to do occasionally lol a bit of a kink and maybe yea I right be better with a couple we have met before as a couple who might consider it "

I can relate, vast majority I do from couples profile as we explore vastly together. However, can go solo on odd occasion.

For private meets if potential of going solo, make no secret part 9f couple, infact first meet is a social as couple so we both meet the potential play partner(s) but likewise so they can see, query just how fine other side of us is with their partner going solo.

Same on flipside we prefer to meet both partners before we arrange to meet 1 for a play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

We totally understand that but we are a well verified couple who love playing together.

it’s just a wee thing we like to do occasionally lol a bit of a kink and maybe yea I right be better with a couple we have met before as a couple who might consider it

I can relate, vast majority I do from couples profile as we explore vastly together. However, can go solo on odd occasion.

For private meets if potential of going solo, make no secret part 9f couple, infact first meet is a social as couple so we both meet the potential play partner(s) but likewise so they can see, query just how fine other side of us is with their partner going solo.

Same on flipside we prefer to meet both partners before we arrange to meet 1 for a play."

That all sounds how we would go about things but it’s maybe just the minority of people who would be interested thanks

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