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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance." Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandy | |||
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"Thanks for the private message but you could have just asked here. Your question doesn't bother me, I was letting you know that there have been many threads on these subjects that will give you lots of help, you just need to search for them." apologies for the private message, I meant no offence, seems to be a lot of negativity here on fabswingers, I guess my face doesn't fit the lifestyle, haha. Thanks for the advice. | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandy" first of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted " You considered it might be your own attitude that might make you feel not inclusive? | |||
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"Thanks for the private message but you could have just asked here. Your question doesn't bother me, I was letting you know that there have been many threads on these subjects that will give you lots of help, you just need to search for them. apologies for the private message, I meant no offence, seems to be a lot of negativity here on fabswingers, I guess my face doesn't fit the lifestyle, haha. Thanks for the advice. " I don't have a negative attitude, I pointed you in a direction that would be useful to your questions. No idea why you've interpreted it that way. If you are coming into this lifestyle with a negative attitude you won't get anywhere, that's a fact. You will struggle. So try being positive. | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted You considered it might be your own attitude that might make you feel not inclusive?" I'm not really sure what I said there would be considered as "attitude" I pointed out my personal experience and your reply confirmed a certain "attitude" towards my point of view. What am I left with? I can't win, haha. | |||
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"Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted " That's not true in the slightest. The people that complain of a clique are usually ones who've been rude and/or aggressive in the forums and then wonder why people aren't friendly to them. You have to put in what you want to get out, if you have a constant negative attitude you will be seen as a buzz kill. When it comes to clubs, clique is usually used to describe a group of friends, who've probably built up their friendships over a period of time by attending said clubs. That doesn't make a clique, unless that group is deliberately excluding other people. As I've previously said, if you want to get anywhere on here, a positive attitude will take you further. | |||
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"Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted That's not true in the slightest. The people that complain of a clique are usually ones who've been rude and/or aggressive in the forums and then wonder why people aren't friendly to them. You have to put in what you want to get out, if you have a constant negative attitude you will be seen as a buzz kill. When it comes to clubs, clique is usually used to describe a group of friends, who've probably built up their friendships over a period of time by attending said clubs. That doesn't make a clique, unless that group is deliberately excluding other people. As I've previously said, if you want to get anywhere on here, a positive attitude will take you further." apologies, I didn't realise having personal observations and experiences was so wrong, I didn't think I was being rude or aggressive either. I am here to find out about the lifestyle and to see if I would be accepted. I meant no I'll will to anyone but the fact I have had my arse chewed means I have obviously said something to offend or brought up a touchy subject | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted " I think you've taken that all a bit to heart. Firstly you have mo face pic or profile pic. That puts me off and I'm sure I don't just speak fir myself. Like any friend groups you won't fit in everywhere. First impressions count and you aren't doing yourself any favours. | |||
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"Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted That's not true in the slightest. The people that complain of a clique are usually ones who've been rude and/or aggressive in the forums and then wonder why people aren't friendly to them. You have to put in what you want to get out, if you have a constant negative attitude you will be seen as a buzz kill. When it comes to clubs, clique is usually used to describe a group of friends, who've probably built up their friendships over a period of time by attending said clubs. That doesn't make a clique, unless that group is deliberately excluding other people. As I've previously said, if you want to get anywhere on here, a positive attitude will take you further. apologies, I didn't realise having personal observations and experiences was so wrong, I didn't think I was being rude or aggressive either. I am here to find out about the lifestyle and to see if I would be accepted. I meant no I'll will to anyone but the fact I have had my arse chewed means I have obviously said something to offend or brought up a touchy subject " Totally not what I said at all, but you do you. Good luck  | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted I think you've taken that all a bit to heart. Firstly you have mo face pic or profile pic. That puts me off and I'm sure I don't just speak fir myself. Like any friend groups you won't fit in everywhere. First impressions count and you aren't doing yourself any favours. " He did have one on show when he started this thread. | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted " Well with that negative belly attitude you’re defo onto sour plums !! I think you’ll find there’s a lot of us on here make things extremely inclusive for everyone but attitudes that stink generally put people off | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted I think you've taken that all a bit to heart. Firstly you have mo face pic or profile pic. That puts me off and I'm sure I don't just speak fir myself. Like any friend groups you won't fit in everywhere. First impressions count and you aren't doing yourself any favours. " I removed my face pic half an hour ago, it's been there for months and no one took any notice | |||
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"Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted That's not true in the slightest. The people that complain of a clique are usually ones who've been rude and/or aggressive in the forums and then wonder why people aren't friendly to them. You have to put in what you want to get out, if you have a constant negative attitude you will be seen as a buzz kill. When it comes to clubs, clique is usually used to describe a group of friends, who've probably built up their friendships over a period of time by attending said clubs. That doesn't make a clique, unless that group is deliberately excluding other people. As I've previously said, if you want to get anywhere on here, a positive attitude will take you further. apologies, I didn't realise having personal observations and experiences was so wrong, I didn't think I was being rude or aggressive either. I am here to find out about the lifestyle and to see if I would be accepted. I meant no I'll will to anyone but the fact I have had my arse chewed means I have obviously said something to offend or brought up a touchy subject " Perhaps you should take up a communications class at college or a working with others svq unit and you’ll quickly realise the way in which you write and the language which you use has major implications on the persona you project | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted I think you've taken that all a bit to heart. Firstly you have mo face pic or profile pic. That puts me off and I'm sure I don't just speak fir myself. Like any friend groups you won't fit in everywhere. First impressions count and you aren't doing yourself any favours. I removed my face pic half an hour ago, it's been there for months and no one took any notice " Some of us don’t search profiles and don’t pay attention to pics | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted Well with that negative belly attitude you’re defo onto sour plums !! I think you’ll find there’s a lot of us on here make things extremely inclusive for everyone but attitudes that stink generally put people off "I don't understand how my attitude stinks just because I have an opinion, I meant no offence to anyone, merely pointed out a personal concern as to how I'm currently perceiving things and somehow I'm a terrible person. It was reading forums here that gave me the opinions, apologies. | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted I think you've taken that all a bit to heart. Firstly you have mo face pic or profile pic. That puts me off and I'm sure I don't just speak fir myself. Like any friend groups you won't fit in everywhere. First impressions count and you aren't doing yourself any favours. I removed my face pic half an hour ago, it's been there for months and no one took any notice Some of us don’t search profiles and don’t pay attention to pics " wait, what? You tell me in the first message that I don't have a profile picture then you tell me that some people don't search profiles and pay attention to pics? Sorry, but I'm confused | |||
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"Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted That's not true in the slightest. The people that complain of a clique are usually ones who've been rude and/or aggressive in the forums and then wonder why people aren't friendly to them. You have to put in what you want to get out, if you have a constant negative attitude you will be seen as a buzz kill. When it comes to clubs, clique is usually used to describe a group of friends, who've probably built up their friendships over a period of time by attending said clubs. That doesn't make a clique, unless that group is deliberately excluding other people. As I've previously said, if you want to get anywhere on here, a positive attitude will take you further. apologies, I didn't realise having personal observations and experiences was so wrong, I didn't think I was being rude or aggressive either. I am here to find out about the lifestyle and to see if I would be accepted. I meant no I'll will to anyone but the fact I have had my arse chewed means I have obviously said something to offend or brought up a touchy subject Perhaps you should take up a communications class at college or a working with others svq unit and you’ll quickly realise the way in which you write and the language which you use has major implications on the persona you project " really though? You are judging the way I communicate and trying to make me feel inferior and criticise me about the way I am coming across. I hope you feel proud of your achievements. | |||
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"Never before has a username been so fitting" someone already said that, come up with something better | |||
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"Never before has a username been so fitting someone already said that, come up with something better " Well if it's a consensus, maybe you're the issue | |||
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"Seems to be a fitting moniker says the guy with bright orange pubes, lol"So you may have been trying to offend him with playground comments but we'll done for offending all of us who wear our Bright orange pubes with pride | |||
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"Hello folks, I'm new to the scene, I am just looking for advice on socialising as I don't know anyone who is involved. Does anyone have any pointers on clubs, etiquette, dos and don'ts, etc. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance. Your question is VERY broad, may be best to break it down into smaller questions. The thing I would say that is best to do first is to decide what you want from a place like this and the lifestyle. If it's a date, then sorry, so say, but this isn't a dating site, it's a lifestyle site. If you wanna get your name and face known, look for Socials and Club Nights in your area (or accessible area) that you can get to. At these events, be civil, polite, and generally yourself, don't get overly d*unk, and don't be the creepy guy that just walks round staring. From where you're based according to your profile, Edinburgh may be your best location for clubs and Socials. Just keep your eyes on the forums for mentions of them. Mandyfirst of all, I was here to meet people and be sociable and make friends. I am not here to find a date, I am not that naive, I understand the lifestyle, but I have learned that its a clique type situation. Not very friendly or inclusive to newcomers, unless their faces fit. Thanks for the advice but I don't think I would be accepted I think you've taken that all a bit to heart. Firstly you have mo face pic or profile pic. That puts me off and I'm sure I don't just speak fir myself. Like any friend groups you won't fit in everywhere. First impressions count and you aren't doing yourself any favours. I removed my face pic half an hour ago, it's been there for months and no one took any notice Some of us don’t search profiles and don’t pay attention to pics wait, what? You tell me in the first message that I don't have a profile picture then you tell me that some people don't search profiles and pay attention to pics? Sorry, but I'm confused " I never mentioned no pics that was another user | |||
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So you may have been trying to offend him with playground comments but we'll done for offending all of us who wear our Bright orange pubes with pride "he fired the first shot with his playground comment. He had a pop, I popped back, fairs fair? He chose to interject into the conversation, as did you when you seen something that offended yourself. | |||
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"Never before has a username been so fitting someone already said that, come up with something better Well if it's a consensus, maybe you're the issue " no one asked you to get involved, this isn't about you princess. | |||
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"Never before has a username been so fitting someone already said that, come up with something better Well if it's a consensus, maybe you're the issue no one asked you to get involved, this isn't about you princess. " It's a public forum. You are right though, don't think you would fit in with the attitude | |||
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"I came here with the intention of asking a few questions and it has now descended into a case of attacking me. Highly unnecessary really. It has proved many of my personal concerns and worries about things have been correct. I meant no offence to anyone and apologise if I caused any. Have fun. " Have you ever heard of a self fulfilling prophecy? My guess is you not had any or many meets, in order to square that away in your head you’ve invented a scenario where your an outsider among a clique of terrible people who just won’t give you a chance. The majority of people in here are friendly, warm and only happy to converse, they generally only bite back when people arrive with preconceived ideas, poor me attitudes and an idea of their own self worth that is truly astonishing. Maybe try taking advice with humble acceptance, and realise it comes from a place of help rather than the made up wee world in your head. | |||
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"I came here with the intention of asking a few questions and it has now descended into a case of attacking me. Highly unnecessary really. It has proved many of my personal concerns and worries about things have been correct. I meant no offence to anyone and apologise if I caused any. Have fun. Have you ever heard of a self fulfilling prophecy? My guess is you not had any or many meets, in order to square that away in your head you’ve invented a scenario where your an outsider among a clique of terrible people who just won’t give you a chance. The majority of people in here are friendly, warm and only happy to converse, they generally only bite back when people arrive with preconceived ideas, poor me attitudes and an idea of their own self worth that is truly astonishing. Maybe try taking advice with humble acceptance, and realise it comes from a place of help rather than the made up wee world in your head. " I came here with no preconceptions, no inflated self worth, I have taken advice and tried what people have suggested. I came here because I was led to believe that I might be able to make friends and meet people but it seems that most people have preconceived ideas of me and single guys in general without actually having the decency to ask. I have learned a lot today. | |||
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"You asked a question and were told to do a search of the forums because there is various help forums out there, lots with great advice but instead you bit at anyone that pointed out your attitude. Women wont flock to you they have the choice of thousands you need to put yourself out there and after reading this i doubt you will get anywhere Good luck" yes I followed the advice, and yes I bit back when people were pointing out my attitude, I am a human, with feelings and emotions. And I don't expect women to flock to me and don't really want that as I'm not that vain. I was hoping to connect with understanding people but I don't think I will find any here unfortunately | |||
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