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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Hey i dont seem to be having much luck on here so far im starting to lose interest now because no matter what i do no one seems to be interested in young single straight males anyone able to help out with some advice ? Thanks in advance

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Out of 12 pics, 9 are of your cock. No written profile and a meaningless warning that wouldn't stand up in any court in the land.

Ignoring the fact that you're miles away from me, I would pass your profile by, absolutely no effort put into it.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Out of 12 pics, 9 are of your cock. No written profile and a meaningless warning that wouldn't stand up in any court in the land.

Ignoring the fact that you're miles away from me, I would pass your profile by, absolutely no effort put into it."

I agree. Overly graphic pics, nonsense legal disclaimer and no personality in bio.

It’s a huge challenge on here for single guys esp when you live in a less populated area.

Your profile is an ad for you, you need to sell yourself and also inc what you have to offer potential meets.

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thank you. Will rethink my profile over and try a bit harder to update it

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thanks. In realy shy and never know what to say. Will have a think and try update better

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Vast majority of women will read your profile before they will even open a message. If your profile has nothing to capture their interest then they are unlikely to even open the message.

You are quite young for this site. You also live in a fairly remote location where I suspect there aren't exactly hoards of swingers.

Your profile definitely needs work

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thanks. Going to do some work on trying to make it better

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Updated my profile a bit now. Thanks for the advice fingers crossed for more attention now

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

You still have the nonsense about photos, it literally means nothing. Once you upload a photo anywhere on the Internet it is no longer yours, and would you really take someone to court?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading profile's all the way through and reading preferences helps. Just looking at pictures and firing a hope n hell message or wink will get you ignored.

Your face is on your profile so as much as it might not be what you want to hear if someone fancies you they will reply.

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thank you. I do try my best and read every profile

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

You can have the perfect profile (if there is such a thing) and still have the same result. It's hard getting any sort of connection going through this online thing.

I think best thing to do is to get yourself out there. There are frequently social events, or go to a swingers club x

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thank you it is hard indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are finding it difficult to meet couples and we don’t know why? We don’t fancy club fun!

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

I do fancy club fun but not sure if i would have the confidance to go on my own. And dont have any friends to go with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grammar, spelling and punctuation.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"I do fancy club fun but not sure if i would have the confidance to go on my own. And dont have any friends to go with "

Catch 22 then. Or grow a pair and just go.

There's a social only area in the Scottish clubs, where it's got more of a pub feel to it.

To avoid disappointment if you're counting on a shag, it's not guaranteed you'll get one. But it is a great way to meet lots of fellow fabbers x

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Sorry for my mistakes but i have dyslexia

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

I wouldnt mind the social aspect of it. It is just quite daunting to think about doing something new on my own for the first time

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Sorry for my mistakes but i have dyslexia "

No need to apologise, we know what you mean anyway

Big improvement on your profile pics as well x

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thank you i will always defend myself for spelling and stuff. Concidering i couldnt read or write in high school. I think i have came a long good so far

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By *uiet_69Man
over a year ago

Near

Just be yourself and the right sex demon will swing into your DMs

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thank you

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By *ac995Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Just be yourself and head to a club

Easier to vibe and meet new folks in person as a single male than on profile

Just don’t expect anything and things will just flow

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

Delete the ps bit at the bottom you’re not a sheep ! Think for yourself

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Much better but keep working on it as you gain experience etc

I’m sure my first one was shite! It’s been honed many times over the years I did a cull of pics a couple months ago as I was reaching the max limit and a few were the very first I posted, the tech/cameras then weren’t great (over 10 years ago) and my own skills and knowledge have improved too, people on fab have suggested ideas and ways to take good pics.

Bio develops over time too as you learn what you do and don’t like, what pisses you off! And what you have to offer others.

Don’t worry about the dyslexia, hope this doesn’t sound weird but I’m the opposite as it’s my profession and I don’t judge if what people write online isn’t perfect grammatically etc as there are people who’s sight isn’t great or have dyslexia or English isn’t their first language etc. as long as what’s there can be understood that’s cool.

Not a fan of lack of effort or text speak nonsense though.

Review regularly add new pics when you get chance - whenever I’m dressing for a meet or a night out etc I use the opportunity to take some pics to post here.

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thank you for the kind words

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate


"We are finding it difficult to meet couples and we don’t know why? We don’t fancy club fun! "

As you're quite new, unless there's a good reason, I'd show the verifications you have rather than have them hidden in the summary. So many people put fake verifications so it's good if they're shown so people can check them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of the legal statement, hate profiles with them on.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Like the above advice delete the warning about pics….it means absolutely nothing!

Definitely check out if there are any group socials in your area or fairly close to you….I find it so much easier to get to know someone in person and you’ll get a feel for the scene that way too. Socials are usually super welcoming and I would recommend them

Good luck on your fab journey OP!

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Woops last emoji was supposed to be haha

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are finding it difficult to meet couples and we don’t know why? We don’t fancy club fun!

As you're quite new, unless there's a good reason, I'd show the verifications you have rather than have them hidden in the summary. So many people put fake verifications so it's good if they're shown so people can check them out. "

Not everyone hides them sometimes the person who has left the verification has left the site so the person cant show it as it goes too

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By *herriesandcreamCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

Keep an eye out for the socials on the forums, it's a great way to meet other people. We have all been there, making some good friends is half the battle. Also try the clubs, people organise pre-drinks which is good for nerves and if you don't want to go alone x

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By *imbob692000 OP   Man
over a year ago

fort william

Thank you x

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