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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right truth time, mainly for the ladies!!

So now the quiet period is finished and men are back at work and not stuck with wife’s and partners now the vile messages have started again and I’ve had to add more message filters and block more, so my question is.

Do other women ever look at Forum posts from men and block them if bad attitude, rude etc or for me this week attend wank groups when straight?

I also looked at my block list today and some of the status’ from grown men have me in tears of laughter, just me? Curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tend to block anyone unless they become annoying. I have only ever had a handful of abusive mails from men in the 15 years I have been on FAB.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lucky you, I get it daily mostly! Is this because I’m a women and they know better to mess with a couple? As they know the man will also see?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I've never felt a need to block anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Since I haven’t renewed my gold site membership in November I don’t have private notes to keep up with who had said or sent what, so I’ve been blocking the really bad ones tbh, less hassle. No shade but also wonder if it’s because you have boobs on show, sucking cock etc so they can still please themselves over your pics as lovely bodies? Where as they want to see more and 5/6 messages in without a reply then I’m a bitch or a slut or “gonna get r**ed” yeah I block and report them I’m afraid!!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Since I haven’t renewed my gold site membership in November I don’t have private notes to keep up with who had said or sent what, so I’ve been blocking the really bad ones tbh, less hassle. No shade but also wonder if it’s because you have boobs on show, sucking cock etc so they can still please themselves over your pics as lovely bodies? Where as they want to see more and 5/6 messages in without a reply then I’m a bitch or a slut or “gonna get r**ed” yeah I block and report them I’m afraid!!"

I don't follow your reasoning

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well they get all rude and mean when I don’t reply especially when they send a photo first and I don’t reply. They aren’t going to be rude to you when they can see photos of your boobs or especially sucking a cock, they will be able to get the wank without even chatting to you is what I mean.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Well they get all rude and mean when I don’t reply especially when they send a photo first and I don’t reply. They aren’t going to be rude to you when they can see photos of your boobs or especially sucking a cock, they will be able to get the wank without even chatting to you is what I mean. "

That's one of the most bizarre lines of reasoning I think I've heard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Curious isn’t it, but maybe on to something, who knows. Lucky you that no abuse is given. All here for a good time, might put the girls public and see if the abuse stops, curious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have exposing pics and also don't get abusive messages so I think that reasoning is flawed. Also I think they're more likely to assume someone who does have more explicit pics is a "slut" and assume they will shag anything then get abusive when they don't get anywhere with them.

(I mean the "I'm here to fuck" brigade with no understanding of swinging or expressing sexuality).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What’s up with these Fab men then?! Been on 17 months now and most weeks get worse? Was never an issue 10 years ago when I was a couple and never ever get abuse on Fet?! Really really curious!!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Have you tried just deleting messages from those you've no interest in chatting with?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Of course, when it’s 5-7 messages without a reply they get blocked. I’ve set the message filters to no newbies and no unverified and tada not a weirdo for hours! This forum hopefully helped too, the good boys get spanked the bad boys get blocked, simple life on fab now hopefully!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Of course, when it’s 5-7 messages without a reply they get blocked. I’ve set the message filters to no newbies and no unverified and tada not a weirdo for hours! This forum hopefully helped too, the good boys get spanked the bad boys get blocked, simple life on fab now hopefully!!"
why not set your filters to no men at all that way you can do your own searches for those you might be interested in

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By *onda Coxor2Woman
over a year ago

nosey cunt.

Blocked a guy today who I've met previously. Called me a whore a while back and I asked him not to, well today while chatting he called me it again so it was an automatic block. No more chances.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course, when it’s 5-7 messages without a reply they get blocked. I’ve set the message filters to no newbies and no unverified and tada not a weirdo for hours! This forum hopefully helped too, the good boys get spanked the bad boys get blocked, simple life on fab now hopefully!!why not set your filters to no men at all that way you can do your own searches for those you might be interested in

Think I might do that again like the summer, thanks for the advice. Or hide my profile completely again tbh. Been honestly really bad for last few days x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Blocked a guy today who I've met previously. Called me a whore a while back and I asked him not to, well today while chatting he called me it again so it was an automatic block. No more chances."

What goes on in there heads, you had already warned him so deserved it! Since I added the watersports etc “move along” even had the I’ll piss in your hair. Honestly starting to think it’s the same person doing different profiles as a lot have been newbies mysteriously

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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

I use the block button when I see men post statuses I don’t like. When I see men asking for it or dealing in drugs or wanting to pay women for sex. Anything I don’t like in a status I block as i know I wouldn’t want to have anything to do with them if they messaged me so block anyway. I don’t read all my messages. Just leave them unread but occasionally they get too persistent and just keep messaging and messaging so would eventually delete and block. I have had a few abusive and nasty messages, but a few times it has been mistaken identity as well.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I used to feel bad about blocking people, now I don't think twice about it and block for all sorts of reasons

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I use the block button when I see men post statuses I don’t like. When I see men asking for it or dealing in drugs or wanting to pay women for sex. Anything I don’t like in a status I block as i know I wouldn’t want to have anything to do with them if they messaged me so block anyway. I don’t read all my messages. Just leave them unread but occasionally they get too persistent and just keep messaging and messaging so would eventually delete and block. I have had a few abusive and nasty messages, but a few times it has been mistaken identity as well. "

I can hear the angels choir right now lovely, finally someone who understands what I was meaning,

Two status’ today, both from down south granted when I looked at my block list one was,

“Who wants to be my maid for few hours, I’m paying”

“Who has sniff, cash waiting”

Thanks for getting what I meant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I used to feel bad about blocking people, now I don't think twice about it and block for all sorts of reasons "

Hallelujah, another soul sister. Don’t owe these freaks anything, especially when married and playing away!

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By *onda Coxor2Woman
over a year ago

nosey cunt.

I can hear the angels choir right now lovely, finally someone who understands what I was meaning,

Two status’ today, both from down south granted when I looked at my block list one was,

“Who wants to be my maid for few hours, I’m paying”

“Who has sniff, cash waiting”

Thanks for getting what I meant"

This is another reason I block automatically, any statuses saying that they take drugs or deal drugs is an instant block. I ain't dealing with your body if something goes wrong while the jiggy jiggy is commencing! I'd also walk away from a meet if I suspected they were off thier tits on something.

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By *hyme2020Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow Scotland

I can hear the angels choir right now lovely, finally someone who understands what I was meaning,

Two status’ today, both from down south granted when I looked at my block list one was,

“Who wants to be my maid for few hours, I’m paying”

“Who has sniff, cash waiting”

Thanks for getting what I meant"

Yes exactly this!!

I know these men aren’t going to be the type of men I want so I can just block. I do enjoy a weekend blocking session.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"Right truth time, mainly for the ladies!!

Do other women ever look at Forum posts from men and block them if bad attitude, rude etc or for me this week attend wank groups when straight?

I also looked at my block list today and some of the status’ from grown men have me in tears of laughter, just me? Curious"

From my point of view, I deff block (more so from the couples profile)those who update or post a thread where they are blaming others or being nasty for example struggling to get a meet. It's not a good look and foes them no favours but is a excellent filter. Very childish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very long block list. I block anyone who puts up degrading/whiny status updates and I block people from the forums for the same reason as you. I block for abusive or repetitive messages when I’ve stated I’m not interested, and also block people who send me random friend requests when my profile states I don’t want them

I don’t want these people communicating with me or seeing anything I potentially put up

I like a block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes me too

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

There will be individuals I will block due to differences of opinion. Yes most definitely.

I wouldn't socialise with that type of person so therefore I have no reason to view their profile regardless of how Hot they might be.

Better to eliminate negativity before it becomes overbearing.

Took years to learn that...

Amelia xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking is everybodies friend. Too many people, too many incompatibles and too many fuckwits. Blocking and being blocked cuts out alot of the noise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys, good to know I’m not alone! Hidden profile again so I get peace just incase. Blocking is so needed for some

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There will be individuals I will block due to differences of opinion. Yes most definitely.

I wouldn't socialise with that type of person so therefore I have no reason to view their profile regardless of how Hot they might be.

Better to eliminate negativity before it becomes overbearing.

Took years to learn that...

Amelia xx

Exactly, I’m getting to that stage now, just want fun on here not abuse or threats x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a very long block list. I block anyone who puts up degrading/whiny status updates and I block people from the forums for the same reason as you. I block for abusive or repetitive messages when I’ve stated I’m not interested, and also block people who send me random friend requests when my profile states I don’t want them

I don’t want these people communicating with me or seeing anything I potentially put up

I like a block

Yeah me too, means those with very strange status’ moaning about this or that or naming girls etc will never be able to contact me!

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've never blocked anyone in the 8 years on fab. I also don't have pics on my profile or send any. I don't check to see who says what on the forums and I just delete messages that I have no interest in. Don't know how people would put up with half of that crap and ping pong messages with someone they have no intention of meeting

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

There's only one I've blocked off forums but I have met him too

Attitude stinks and has a massive ego that he likes massaged constantly

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Right truth time, mainly for the ladies!!

Do other women ever look at Forum posts from men and block them if bad attitude, rude etc or for me this week attend wank groups when straight?

I also looked at my block list today and some of the status’ from grown men have me in tears of laughter, just me? Curious"

Yes. If someone comes across as a twat on the forums onto the block list they go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to hate those folk that actually bragged about how many they have on their block lists..not now.

I get why.

Older I get the less bullshit I'm willing to put up with on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've blocked for many reasons but I'm past caring what anyone says to me in a message now. If they're going to be rude or crude then obviously I'll block. Sometimes it's best ignoring them too. They eventually take the hint x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never blocked anyone in the 8 years on fab. I also don't have pics on my profile or send any. I don't check to see who says what on the forums and I just delete messages that I have no interest in. Don't know how people would put up with half of that crap and ping pong messages with someone they have no intention of meeting "

Yeah you are doing FAB correct, loving the game must admit. I’ll get more confident and get there. Yeah I never talk to folk I have no interest in!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Glad I’m not alone ladies, thank you

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By *inkycarolineTV/TS
over a year ago

Kilwinning

Hi Alice, Im sorry you are receiving vile messages from individuals. They clearly are just arseholes who think women are there for the taking and if you dont want to fuck them that makes you a slag. These boys are a menace to society and dont reflect all of us but sadly the do ruin it for us.

Id kick them square in the nuts and leave them naked a bleeding somewhere

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Right truth time, mainly for the ladies!!

Do other women ever look at Forum posts from men and block them if bad attitude, rude etc or for me this week attend wank groups when straight?

I also looked at my block list today and some of the status’ from grown men have me in tears of laughter, just me? Curious

Yes. If someone comes across as a twat on the forums onto the block list they go."

Same. 9 times out of 10 if they act like a twat in written words in the forums. They are a twat in really life and definitely not a person I would interact with so, simples, the option is removed before action is taken.

Your spider senses tingle.

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

Tbh I don’t get that many but then I have no pics so my profile doesn’t get a lot of attention I tend to do the looking when I’m in the mood I rarely entertain anyone who is rude I just delete message and move on it’s not worth stressing out over life too short

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

I have blocked males (and couples) based on their forum posts and I'm sure we've been blocked for the same reason.

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yeah you are doing FAB correct, loving the game must admit. I’ll get more confident and get there. Yeah I never talk to folk I have no interest in!"

I think the fact you call it a game explains a lot

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