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By *12340 OP   Man
over a year ago

scotland

What is it that woman on here want in that first message that every guy hasn’t already said ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno, it hasn't been said yet.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"Dunno, it hasn't been said yet. "

Oh you fibber. Did you forget Mr Fyffe messaged you and offered you a lifetime's supply of firm bananas for you to eat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of couples will say the same over their messages.

95% say....

How are you

Are you having fun on here

I would love to fuck you

2% are cut and paste (and often we get the same cut and paste message from the same people over and over).

A lot are fakes, have no pictures, just a dick picture and say nothing.

So, to get a genuine, well thought out message is not difficult but it does seem to be beyond a lost of people.

Think of it as meeting someone in a pub. You would not walk up with you dick in your hand, ask someone to fuck straight away, you find a good ice breaker.

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By *estless nativeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


"What is it that woman on here want in that first message that every guy hasn’t already said ? "

Is it not correct for a first message to say " here doll, want to take a ride on ma massive love rocket"

Pretty sure thats what every woman wants to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that woman on here want in that first message that every guy hasn’t already said ? "

If I knew I wouldn't be telling you.

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By *reamchasserMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

They get hundreds and hundreds messages

Sometimes you put effort into message and you get nothing back

No thank you that’s not for me etc

nothing

Copy / paste could work

Ideally read their profile and find something interesting something you have common..

Be polite be patient and don’t get upset if you get rejected . You are one of hundreds who message so chances are always slim

It’s so easy to give advice unfortunately I’m on the same boat as you ..

good luck i I hope you find what you looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gal i know had an account in here and we talked about it and her joining and what she was looking for etc etc. She joined and by day two was ready to leave, she said that within a couple of hours of her joining, she had about 150 messages, they were coming in soo fast, that the words in the titles were just a blur. So the one thing she could focus on was the picture first, cocks and silhouettes were ignored or deleted, men with six packs were also ignored, men dressed normally or for her in a shirt and tie, were looked at, she wanted to see something that she could connect with. I know it sounds very formal but it was the only way for her to filter out the crap, i think we have to connect with people first like we would out in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing wrong with most messages women get. Simply because of the numbers they can choose and your chances are slim to getting replies. Along with that many many women are simply on here to enjoy the attention and would have zero chance of such attention out with online in the pub and simply have no intention of chatting. Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures. They then complain about time wasting guys and in the same breath about guys profiles not being good enough.. (shrugging shoulders emoji) ..

And on it goes ..

I've sent hundreds of messages all of them relevant and particular to the profile, polite and cheeky and or funny following all the advice given in countless threads on this subject. It makes no difference quite frankly. Best to make messages short and sweet and have non filtered real pictures and play the patient waiting long game. Or go to clubs.

Can you tell I'm a bit fed up with it aswell ??! Lol

It's not this site, it's the short comings of online dominance in our lifes.

Hence getting to clubs is one answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures."

Wow, just wow.

I had no idea bigger women can't be attractive too.

Thank you for setting me right.

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By *quirt lancasterMan
over a year ago

adeje


"There's nothing wrong with most messages women get. Simply because of the numbers they can choose and your chances are slim to getting replies. Along with that many many women are simply on here to enjoy the attention and would have zero chance of such attention out with online in the pub and simply have no intention of chatting. Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures. They then complain about time wasting guys and in the same breath about guys profiles not being good enough.. (shrugging shoulders emoji) ..

And on it goes ..

I've sent hundreds of messages all of them relevant and particular to the profile, polite and cheeky and or funny following all the advice given in countless threads on this subject. It makes no difference quite frankly. Best to make messages short and sweet and have non filtered real pictures and play the patient waiting long game. Or go to clubs.

Can you tell I'm a bit fed up with it aswell ??! Lol

It's not this site, it's the short comings of online dominance in our lifes.

Hence getting to clubs is one answer."
spot on .. at least nice to know I'm not alone ,the struggle goes on

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"There's nothing wrong with most messages women get. Simply because of the numbers they can choose and your chances are slim to getting replies. Along with that many many women are simply on here to enjoy the attention and would have zero chance of such attention out with online in the pub and simply have no intention of chatting. Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures. They then complain about time wasting guys and in the same breath about guys profiles not being good enough.. (shrugging shoulders emoji) ..

And on it goes ..

I've sent hundreds of messages all of them relevant and particular to the profile, polite and cheeky and or funny following all the advice given in countless threads on this subject. It makes no difference quite frankly. Best to make messages short and sweet and have non filtered real pictures and play the patient waiting long game. Or go to clubs.

Can you tell I'm a bit fed up with it aswell ??! Lol

It's not this site, it's the short comings of online dominance in our lifes.

Hence getting to clubs is one answer."

If you message people with the same attitude as you've displayed here, it's no wonder you're not getting anywhere. They're not the problem.

Luckily for us fatties, there are people out there who are attracted to different things and who are not so narrow minded or judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the woman's profiles I have read on here say quite clearly what it is they're looking for. I'd suggest having a good read and thinking about whether or not you are what it is they're looking for then go from there to write your message.

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

I’ve got a huge tub of Ben n jerrys here with your name on it followed by a cosy wee massage and movies

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures.

Wow, just wow.

I had no idea bigger women can't be attractive too.

Thank you for setting me right. "

Larger framed female here has never had issue pulling in a club, shop, street etc nothing to do with body shape or size but apparently when I lock eyes and smile with someone I’m like a magnet

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By *quirt lancasterMan
over a year ago

adeje


"Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures.

Wow, just wow.

I had no idea bigger women can't be attractive too.

Thank you for setting me right.

Larger framed female here has never had issue pulling in a club, shop, street etc nothing to do with body shape or size but apparently when I lock eyes and smile with someone I’m like a magnet "
wondering what your eyes and smile must be like

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures.

Wow, just wow.

I had no idea bigger women can't be attractive too.

Thank you for setting me right.

Larger framed female here has never had issue pulling in a club, shop, street etc nothing to do with body shape or size but apparently when I lock eyes and smile with someone I’m like a magnet wondering what your eyes and smile must be like "

Fuck knows lol when I was on clubs and stuff my pals always commented and they are all gorgeous but yet I was the one always getting the attention I think it’s self love and confidence that emulates

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By *reamchasserMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

The worst thing is that you make effort you try your best

And after few messages they ghost you ..

Just say sorry you not what I’m looking for ..

And no wonder some guys get fed up and don’t put effort

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By *quirt lancasterMan
over a year ago

adeje


"Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures.

Wow, just wow.

I had no idea bigger women can't be attractive too.

Thank you for setting me right.

Larger framed female here has never had issue pulling in a club, shop, street etc nothing to do with body shape or size but apparently when I lock eyes and smile with someone I’m like a magnet wondering what your eyes and smile must be like

Fuck knows lol when I was on clubs and stuff my pals always commented and they are all gorgeous but yet I was the one always getting the attention I think it’s self love and confidence that emulates "
sounds offy luvly

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By *ovesebonyladiesMan
over a year ago

Scotland

I get on average one message back every 4 months .. Im always respectful and nice but with the age I'm at no one wants to chat or meet .. its soul destroying .. there should be a decent site for us aulder yins lol

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"I get on average one message back every 4 months .. Im always respectful and nice but with the age I'm at no one wants to chat or meet .. its soul destroying .. there should be a decent site for us aulder yins lol "

Plenty older members on here. What difference would another site make. People are attracted to what they are attracted to. If that's not you then another site won't help

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By *artanjockMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"There's nothing wrong with most messages women get. Simply because of the numbers they can choose and your chances are slim to getting replies. Along with that many many women are simply on here to enjoy the attention and would have zero chance of such attention out with online in the pub and simply have no intention of chatting. Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures. They then complain about time wasting guys and in the same breath about guys profiles not being good enough.. (shrugging shoulders emoji) ..

And on it goes ..

I've sent hundreds of messages all of them relevant and particular to the profile, polite and cheeky and or funny following all the advice given in countless threads on this subject. It makes no difference quite frankly. Best to make messages short and sweet and have non filtered real pictures and play the patient waiting long game. Or go to clubs.

Can you tell I'm a bit fed up with it aswell ??! Lol

It's not this site, it's the short comings of online dominance in our lifes.

Hence getting to clubs is one answer.spot on .. at least nice to know I'm not alone ,the struggle goes on "

Spot on and well said

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By *ovesebonyladiesMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"There's nothing wrong with most messages women get. Simply because of the numbers they can choose and your chances are slim to getting replies. Along with that many many women are simply on here to enjoy the attention and would have zero chance of such attention out with online in the pub and simply have no intention of chatting. Many many women are of larger frame and it's amazing what you can do with filters and cropping and all that. Genuine really attractive women get bombarded and so can home in on the gym boys and in a lot of cases equally faked up guy pictures. They then complain about time wasting guys and in the same breath about guys profiles not being good enough.. (shrugging shoulders emoji) ..

And on it goes ..

I've sent hundreds of messages all of them relevant and particular to the profile, polite and cheeky and or funny following all the advice given in countless threads on this subject. It makes no difference quite frankly. Best to make messages short and sweet and have non filtered real pictures and play the patient waiting long game. Or go to clubs.

Can you tell I'm a bit fed up with it aswell ??! Lol

It's not this site, it's the short comings of online dominance in our lifes.

Hence getting to clubs is one answer.spot on .. at least nice to know I'm not alone ,the struggle goes on

Spot on and well said "

Agree 100% ..

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By *ovesebonyladiesMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"I get on average one message back every 4 months .. Im always respectful and nice but with the age I'm at no one wants to chat or meet .. its soul destroying .. there should be a decent site for us aulder yins lol

Plenty older members on here. What difference would another site make. People are attracted to what they are attracted to. If that's not you then another site won't help "

Not everyone is shallow minded .. other sites have people looking for companionship .. somebody to have a meal and a drink with and a good laugh .. this is just a swingers site .. most women / men on this are just after sex .. some are after socials .. but they tend to go for guys alot younger than men my age .. they then complain about no shows or just being very rude .. more mature men have respect and gentlemanly manners .. just my opinion mind you lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I have a single profile, a couples profile and my partner has a singles profile I'm uniquely positioned to see how it works from all sides.

I genuinely do not take this seriously. I message those that I want to message. If they do not reply I make a little note on their profile and do not bother them again.

Remember this is a swinging site.... Not a sex site. I'm here to swing.

I do read profiles and look for what they are looking for and if that matches me. I am random in my messages too... Strange humour shining through that most humans quite rightly do not entertain. Again that is not a problem.

I always put a face picture in my first message.

Winks don't work.

I can only do what I can do..... Or I can only piss with the cock Ive got.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get on average one message back every 4 months .. Im always respectful and nice but with the age I'm at no one wants to chat or meet .. its soul destroying .. there should be a decent site for us aulder yins lol

Plenty older members on here. What difference would another site make. People are attracted to what they are attracted to. If that's not you then another site won't help

Not everyone is shallow minded .. other sites have people looking for companionship .. somebody to have a meal and a drink with and a good laugh .. this is just a swingers site .. most women / men on this are just after sex .. some are after socials .. but they tend to go for guys alot younger than men my age .. they then complain about no shows or just being very rude .. more mature men have respect and gentlemanly manners .. just my opinion mind you lol x "

100pc agree.

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