FabSwingers.com forum: Chat or attraction

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't we just hate it when the face matches, the profile matches but the chat is crap.... Or the chat is great but there's no attraction

Whats more important to yous, good chat or attraction or does it 100% have to be both like us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preferably both, but sometimes good laugh and banter can make you chnage an opion of someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Preferably both, but sometimes good laugh and banter can make you chnage an opion of someone.

I was actually coming back to say this. Sometimes the initial attraction isn't there but they win you over with personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Preferably both, but sometimes good laugh and banter can make you chnage an opion of someone.

I was actually coming back to say this. Sometimes the initial attraction isn't there but they win you over with personality. "

Great minds think alike

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By *ittle cheeky oneWoman
over a year ago

scotland

"Preferably both, but sometimes good laugh and banter can make you chnage an opion of someone.

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is no spark between you, the chat is flat....game over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preferably both but sometimes if there is good chat and connection there then looks doesn’t matter 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preferably both but sometimes a good connection can sway me away from my typical "type".

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By *omandsubcplCouple
over a year ago

Turriff

Personally chat is more important but a little attraction does help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To quote Frederick mercury

"I want it all"

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I don’t care how good your chat is, if I’m not attached to you then I’m not having sex with you …

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By *ilhouette-mannyMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"I don’t care how good your chat is, if I’m not attached to you then I’m not having sex with you … "

Sex is actually possible without being attached to someone!?

Nonsensical piss-taking aside, a (mental!) connection is important, though not vital to me. Without it, though, she's purely a glorified, self-cleaning sex toy.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"I don’t care how good your chat is, if I’m not attached to you then I’m not having sex with you …

Sex is actually possible without being attached to someone!?

Nonsensical piss-taking aside, a (mental!) connection is important, though not vital to me. Without it, though, she's purely a glorified, self-cleaning sex toy. "

I agree it is possible without being attracted to someone, I’m just not doing it, for me there has to be an attraction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing worse when the chat is great then face pics are exchanged and there's no attraction.

Gotta be an attraction or nothing goes any further.

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By *ilhouette-mannyMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Nothing worse when the chat is great then face pics are exchanged and there's no attraction.

Gotta be an attraction or nothing goes any further."

Hence why I avoid fpf, hope to catch women oan the wine, during ovulation, and just before their next appointment at Specsavers.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It needs to be a bit of both of us really.

Of course, looks aren't everything but there needs to be some level of physical attraction. Having said that, someone could be the best looking person ever but if they had shite chat, it's a no from us

C x

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

"Nothing worse when the chat is great then face pics are exchanged and there's no attraction.

Gotta be an attraction or nothing goes any further.

Hence why I avoid fpf, hope to catch women oan the wine, during ovulation, and just before their next appointment at Specsavers. "

Don’t forget the benefits of earlier dark nights and misty foggy weather .

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By *ilhouette-mannyMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Nothing worse when the chat is great then face pics are exchanged and there's no attraction.

Gotta be an attraction or nothing goes any further.

Hence why I avoid fpf, hope to catch women oan the wine, during ovulation, and just before their next appointment at Specsavers.

Don’t forget the benefits of earlier dark nights and misty foggy weather .

Cheers, Cupid! (Heart)

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By *rNiceGuy1Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Definitely both a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks reel me in initially, personality keeps me engaged.

If they don't "have something about them" personality wise then even the prettiest of coupons won't swing it for me.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Looks reel me in initially, personality keeps me engaged.

If they don't "have something about them" personality wise then even the prettiest of coupons won't swing it for me."

I have just booked to appointments. The first is with a plastic surgeon and the second's at the comedy college.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Looks reel me in initially, personality keeps me engaged.

If they don't "have something about them" personality wise then even the prettiest of coupons won't swing it for me.

I have just booked to appointments. The first is with a plastic surgeon and the second's at the comedy college.

Doh, two.

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By *vanabeusedTV/TS
over a year ago

somewhere

Had it all my life . My chats great and straight into friend camp . And you can’t laugh anyone into bed either .

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

On here, needs to be a bit of both. At a club/meet, purely physical.

If you don't like what's coming out of their mouth, put something in it.

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By *usu99Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

Chat is always good, for me. it's annoying when there is a hot guy and the messages are one or two word ones.

Much more likely to do something after being "chatted up".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks reel me in initially, personality keeps me engaged.

If they don't "have something about them" personality wise then even the prettiest of coupons won't swing it for me.

I have just booked to appointments. The first is with a plastic surgeon and the second's at the comedy college.

Doh, two.

When is the appointment with your English tutor?

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Looks reel me in initially, personality keeps me engaged.

If they don't "have something about them" personality wise then even the prettiest of coupons won't swing it for me.

I have just booked to appointments. The first is with a plastic surgeon and the second's at the comedy college.

Doh, two.

When is the appointment with your English tutor?

I wish I could say it has been a long day or I didn't have my specs on, but!

When do you have space to squeeze in Miss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks reel me in initially, personality keeps me engaged.

If they don't "have something about them" personality wise then even the prettiest of coupons won't swing it for me.

I have just booked to appointments. The first is with a plastic surgeon and the second's at the comedy college.

Doh, two.

When is the appointment with your English tutor?

I wish I could say it has been a long day or I didn't have my specs on, but!

When do you have space to squeeze in Miss?

7.15pm on the 42nd of Julember suit you?

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Looks reel me in initially, personality keeps me engaged.

If they don't "have something about them" personality wise then even the prettiest of coupons won't swing it for me.

I have just booked to appointments. The first is with a plastic surgeon and the second's at the comedy college.

Doh, two.

When is the appointment with your English tutor?

I wish I could say it has been a long day or I didn't have my specs on, but!

When do you have space to squeeze in Miss?

7.15pm on the 42nd of Julember suit you?

Yeah. I will mark off the days on my abacus.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Don't we just hate it when the face matches, the profile matches but the chat is crap.... Or the chat is great but there's no attraction

Whats more important to yous, good chat or attraction or does it 100% have to be both like us "
Attraction is what will always make me want to get to know a person .

If they have both then perfect but il always chat to those who are happy to chat if we get along but il always let them know if I’m not interested in meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously attraction is the 1st reason anyone would show an interest, but a personality connection for me is way more attractive than any face pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat is absolutely vital in my opinion. If you've got nothing about you and you struggle to get any sort of conversation going, realistically you're probably not going to enjoy yourself as much as you would if you clicked with someone and had a good bit of patter between you and can make each other laugh.

On the flip side though as someone said further up, you can be the soundest person in the world but if there's no attraction there, get yourself on the train to Friendsville.

Personally speaking that's how I see it. There's folk on here that would shag the hole in a dolphins head so I doubt they'll be too bothered about what Munro's you've climbed or how many friendship bracelets you've made!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% got to be both for me. The chat has got to be there though regardless of how they look. Attraction is what gets my attention but it's good chat that keeps it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....having said what I did previously, would also like to point out that you could have top drawer patter but if you've got a coupon like a crash test dummy, we're no pumping.

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By *hiregirl76Woman
over a year ago

Scotland

Both are an absolute must for me, if either one is missing then it's a no go

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By *horts n hoodie lad69Man
over a year ago

gourock

Thank fuck my chat is good laugh a girl into bed haha happy weekend folk

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

"....having said what I did previously, would also like to point out that you could have top drawer patter but if you've got a coupon like a crash test dummy, we're no pumping."

Spoilsport.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Don't we just hate it when the face matches, the profile matches but the chat is crap.... Or the chat is great but there's no attraction

Whats more important to yous, good chat or attraction or does it 100% have to be both like us Attraction is what will always make me want to get to know a person .

If they have both then perfect but il always chat to those who are happy to chat if we get along but il always let them know if I’m not interested in meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know plenty of ugly women that have good patter, wouldn't ride them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly struggle to tell who I'm attracted to or not on here. I need good conversation. Some really hot people with no chat won't do it for me. Thank god some men think the same or id not get any lol

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By *he UnitMan
over a year ago

Paisley

"Don't we just hate it when the face matches, the profile matches but the chat is crap.... Or the chat is great but there's no attraction

Whats more important to yous, good chat or attraction or does it 100% have to be both like us "

Both. You have to be attractive but the energy in chat had to be matched. I've found a few profiles that have a lot of text in it are then monosyllabic in messaging and you have nowhere to go with what they give you, you can't sustain a conversation off of how they reply. I consider replies like that "technical ghosting"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah both is really what you want, but I would never judge someones chat from messages alone. Personality very rarely comes across well in messages.

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By *ulutvTV/TS
over a year ago

ayrshire

"Don't we just hate it when the face matches, the profile matches but the chat is crap.... Or the chat is great but there's no attraction

Whats more important to yous, good chat or attraction or does it 100% have to be both like us "

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By *ulutvTV/TS
over a year ago

ayrshire

"Don't we just hate it when the face matches, the profile matches but the chat is crap.... Or the chat is great but there's no attraction

Whats more important to yous, good chat or attraction or does it 100% have to be both like us "

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By *ulutvTV/TS
over a year ago

ayrshire

Both but it's good to halve a laugh and joke xx

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By *herriesandcreamCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

Sometimes good personality can help me (L) see past not being completely attracted..but rarely!! Attraction, great personality/connection and good banter we have found makes for amazing sex..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In an ideal world, there has to be a good balance of both.

SJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both but personality wins every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies with us as we have a variety of interests where sometimes both matter, sometimes neither matters overly like our event next month is based on skills but beyond the main event then other 2 come into play again.

Overall though would say personality tends to be marginally more important to us.

Looks are a way to catch attention but won't be enough on own to commit us to play with you.

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth

"Both but personality wins every time.

A spare seat at Anfield overrides both by some significant margin.

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