FabSwingers.com forum: Why block for a message??

By *ockboy77 OP Man
over a year ago

Angus, and Aberdeen area

Ok if your profile has an age range I get it, but… Why block someone for a simple respectful message???

We are all on here to meet up, with a simple, non degrading question surely a simple “ no thanks” is ok?

Or am I being too old fashioned and polite?

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

People block for any number of reasons and that’s their right.

In addition you aren’t entitled to a response just because you’ve messaged someone. Some ladies and couples literally get 100’s of messages daily it’s impossible to reply to all hence fab etiquette as stated in faqs is

No reply = not interested

So just move on.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"Ok if your profile has an age range I get it, but… Why block someone for a simple respectful message???

We are all on here to meet up, with a simple, non degrading question surely a simple “ no thanks” is ok?

Or am I being too old fashioned and polite? "

Old fashioned I'm afraid....

As previously said.

It's a swipe society!!

Fabs version of swipe is simply "block" button.

See it as a good thing.

Less issues for all parties concerned. If you are blocked then you know that individua is not intetested.

That means you can invest time into those who are interested.

Amelia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they've read a post on the forum they didn't like and your pm reminded them.

Maybe they looked at your pics, they're not remotely attracted to you and took the short cut by blocking rather than explaining.

Maybe you caught them on a bad day.

You'll never know. Forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve done both. I’ve just this minute told someone ‘sorry, I’m not interested’ and I had a reply saying ‘rude’. I’ve also had replies saying ‘you’re just a fuckin slut anyways’.

I find it easier to block because then I don’t get made to feel like shit and called a slut because I’m not interested.

You can never win.

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By *pank-me-harderWoman
over a year ago

close to leven

"I’ve done both. I’ve just this minute told someone ‘sorry, I’m not interested’ and I had a reply saying ‘rude’. I’ve also had replies saying ‘you’re just a fuckin slut anyways’.

I find it easier to block because then I don’t get made to feel like shit and called a slut because I’m not interested.

You can never win.

100% agree here I used to always reply as I was raised to be nice and respectful but then you get nothing but abuse cause you said no

So block button is way easier to avoid that

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By *ornyone30Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

I find it easier to block because then I don’t get made to feel like shit and called a slut because I’m not interested.

You can never win.

Those guys who have called you a slut in the past clearly dont know how to spell hot as fuck

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

I am sure everyone have their own reasons, could be anything or various things.

Best thing is just move on and forget about it.

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How dare anyone block without a reply!

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

If you have been blocked OP you at least know they have perved your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We occasionally block before a message lol. People we're clearly not interested in, people with specific requirements we don't match etc etc.

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

I use the block like a filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does it matter? They're not interested so what difference does it make if you can still message/see their profile, they're still not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have their own likes and what they find attractive in a person and there is nothing wrong with that at all.

Most people do tend to reply but the ones who don’t, that’s their choice!

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By *ill dance for wineMan
over a year ago

balloch

I don’t see anything wrong with the block option, it sends the same message as a no thanks and saves the inevitable torrent of abuse or worse, the “wouldn’t it be a shame if your wife found out your on here” messages.

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

I’ve found lately lots of guys who don’t pay for the upgrade keep messaging and I’ve reminded them before they’ve already messaged me, the joy of upgrading you can see all previous correspondence so finally have started blocking more

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Oh dear, some people just don't read the rules, no answer is a no. If women say no then they get either abuse or why not.

If you don't like, block and move on.

Men have no entitlement on here.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier to block because then I don’t get made to feel like shit and called a slut because I’m not interested.

You can never win.

I 100% agree with you. Most men are badly behaved.

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Could be a preference on your profile doesnt interest them.

If you message wasn't rude or offensive, I would look there

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By *cottish30Man
over a year ago

aberdeen

I find it easier to block because then I don’t get made to feel like shit and called a slut because I’m not interested.

You can never win.

Yes so I noticed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is a bit tougher than getting blocked.

It's really really not the end of the world. Life goes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they've read a post on the forum they didn't like and your pm reminded them.

Maybe they looked at your pics, they're not remotely attracted to you and took the short cut by blocking rather than explaining.

Maybe you caught them on a bad day.

You'll never know. Forget about it."

I have blocked ppl for some of above reasons . I am not her for other ppls sole pleasure I am here for mine , not going to feel bad for blockng ppl I don't want to connect with

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By *OSCCOSMITH69Man
over a year ago

glasgow

"Ok if your profile has an age range I get it, but… Why block someone for a simple respectful message???

We are all on here to meet up, with a simple, non degrading question surely a simple “ no thanks” is ok?

Or am I being too old fashioned and polite? "

Previously on as couple in the past and we would block couples females and males just by looking at the profile and having nothing of interest its a personal choice and dont get butt hurt over it and move on

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Did you send the simple respectful message to the same person like 3 times? That's for me a reason to block someone x

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By *ockboy77 OP Man
over a year ago

Angus, and Aberdeen area

No, one message only

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By *ockboy77 OP Man
over a year ago

Angus, and Aberdeen area

"Life is a bit tougher than getting blocked.

It's really really not the end of the world. Life goes on"

Yeah I know and movers on already

My point mainly the rudeness… I give a simple “no thanks” if I get a message from someone who doesn’t really do it for me

And no follow up with daft insults

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Life is a bit tougher than getting blocked.

It's really really not the end of the world. Life goes on

Yeah I know and movers on already

My point mainly the rudeness… I give a simple “no thanks” if I get a message from someone who doesn’t really do it for me

And no follow up with daft insults

Insults are unnecessary and if anyone starts throwing them at you just report them. As to the polite "no thanks", that is often followed by nasty retaliation, or "why?", or "we can just chat" and many more similar to this. I stopped replying to most for this reason.

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By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Fab FAQs are crystal clear on this.

https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

Your message content may not be the issue. Your profile might be, or they might know you from your photo, or simply not be interested. They don’t owe you an explanation.

If they aren’t interested, there’s no difference between deleting and blocking other than to minimise the potential for abuse & repeat messaging (both of which are rife).

If they reply for any reason then fab allows you to message them again forever, even if they block all men or your age range from messaging at a later point. This is an important safety consideration for women trying to avoid abuse & repeat messages. It’s double the work.

Jigs x

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By *ockboy77 OP Man
over a year ago

Angus, and Aberdeen area

"Fab FAQs are crystal clear on this.

https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

Your message content may not be the issue. Your profile might be, or they might know you from your photo, or simply not be interested. They don’t owe you an explanation.

If they aren’t interested, there’s no difference between deleting and blocking other than to minimise the potential for abuse & repeat messaging (both of which are rife).

Jigs x "

Ok I get all that. Face pic Friday sent a few messages, one guy unknown to me then starts mailing with kind of strange stuff… when did you lose your virginity, who with etc

A couple from Edinburgh reply without a pic aand then block…

Weird folk aren’t just all incel guys..

Craig

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"Fab FAQs are crystal clear on this.

https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

Your message content may not be the issue. Your profile might be, or they might know you from your photo, or simply not be interested. They don’t owe you an explanation.

If they aren’t interested, there’s no difference between deleting and blocking other than to minimise the potential for abuse & repeat messaging (both of which are rife).

Jigs x

Ok I get all that. Face pic Friday sent a few messages, one guy unknown to me then starts mailing with kind of strange stuff… when did you lose your virginity, who with etc

A couple from Edinburgh reply without a pic aand then block…

Weird folk aren’t just all incel guys..

Craig "

I think you need to look closer as to why people are blocking you!

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By *ockboy77 OP Man
over a year ago

Angus, and Aberdeen area

"Fab FAQs are crystal clear on this.

https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

Your message content may not be the issue. Your profile might be, or they might know you from your photo, or simply not be interested. They don’t owe you an explanation.

If they aren’t interested, there’s no difference between deleting and blocking other than to minimise the potential for abuse & repeat messaging (both of which are rife).

Jigs x

Ok I get all that. Face pic Friday sent a few messages, one guy unknown to me then starts mailing with kind of strange stuff… when did you lose your virginity, who with etc

A couple from Edinburgh reply without a pic aand then block…

Weird folk aren’t just all incel guys..

Craig

I think you need to look closer as to why people are blocking you! "

Tell me then rather than block ?

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By *ockboy77 OP Man
over a year ago

Angus, and Aberdeen area

And I really see anything controversial in my profile or photos I have up

Enlighten me if something isn’t right

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By *ubstarWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Speaking as a single female I frequently use block not out of disrespect for anyone just as a filter it's impossible to reply to everyone

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

"Fab FAQs are crystal clear on this.

https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

Your message content may not be the issue. Your profile might be, or they might know you from your photo, or simply not be interested. They don’t owe you an explanation.

If they aren’t interested, there’s no difference between deleting and blocking other than to minimise the potential for abuse & repeat messaging (both of which are rife).

Jigs x

Ok I get all that. Face pic Friday sent a few messages, one guy unknown to me then starts mailing with kind of strange stuff… when did you lose your virginity, who with etc

A couple from Edinburgh reply without a pic aand then block…

Weird folk aren’t just all incel guys..

Craig

I think you need to look closer as to why people are blocking you!

Tell me then rather than block ?

You just lied and said I never sent you a pic … I did 8 hrs ago when you first messaged me for FPF then you messaged afterwards asking if we were going to CJs tomorrow to which my husband replied, then tonight you messaged AGAIN. with your pic for FPF to which I replied you already sent a pic earlier and you again replied …. Then I blocked you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok if your profile has an age range I get it, but… Why block someone for a simple respectful message???

We are all on here to meet up, with a simple, non degrading question surely a simple “ no thanks” is ok?

Or am I being too old fashioned and polite? "
not old fashioned but alot of folk block just because they ain't interested in you...simple answer to your question.

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

I find it easier to block because then I don’t get made to feel like shit and called a slut because I’m not interested.

You can never win.

100% agree here I used to always reply as I was raised to be nice and respectful but then you get nothing but abuse cause you said no

So block button is way easier to avoid that"

We replied to a girls status statement the other day and got blocked!

Nothing as strange as folk,

Her loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier to block because then I don’t get made to feel like shit and called a slut because I’m not interested.

You can never win.

100% agree here I used to always reply as I was raised to be nice and respectful but then you get nothing but abuse cause you said no

So block button is way easier to avoid that

We replied to a girls status statement the other day and got blocked!

Nothing as strange as folk,

Her loss!

Definitely her loss

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By *owvoltageMan
over a year ago

Airdrie

I wouldnt worry about it mate. I had one the other day that blocked me as I didn't send picture in my first message and explained that I was looking to find out if they were free or not so not to waste their time or mines and very respectful as I always am, I even take time to thank people for saying they are not interested too.Personally I wouldn't want to meet anyone anyway that treats people like that as respect works both ways. I am not computer oriented but I am sure fab can do a wee button like block button saying not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same lol

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