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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve just got a message from a man, calling me a little fuck and telling me what he’d like to do to me. No “hi, how are you…”. Straight into assuming I’m up for a chat like that right away. My question is, do any women actually like that as a first message? I gave him a reply explaining why that message was not to my taste. Then he blocked me hahahaha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, not into that.

I'd probably just block and not even bother replying tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just got a message from a man, calling me a little fuck and telling me what he’d like to do to me. No “hi, how are you…”. Straight into assuming I’m up for a chat like that right away. My question is, do any women actually like that as a first message? I gave him a reply explaining why that message was not to my taste. Then he blocked me hahahaha. "

Nope, not in the slightest!

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By *den1000Woman
over a year ago

Hamilton

Block !! No thanks.

I occasionally unblock messages from single men and instantly regret my decision x

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By *aughty_Jack_ABZMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Apologies for jumping in with some mansplaining

To be fair to the clumsy fella, there are plenty of women on here that like that direct, confident and dirty approach. Clearly you are not one of them.

Unlike many women on here you do state what you are looking for, and not, so he clearly did not read your profile.

So I sympathise and apologide for all the clumsy, rude, desperate men out there.

Although to be honest having read through your profile, as a man on here I am very unclear on what you are looking for?

You are happily married, have a FWBs with whom you suggest you have great sex and connection already. So exactly where would I or any other new sexy, bearded, tattoed 'fantasy' man fit in?

Perhaps Mr.Gray was correct. Women are pretty daydreamers from Venus and men are direct brutes from Mars?

Delete. Laugh. Move on. Keep being you and have fun.

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By *exysamforuCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

Very very disrespectful blocked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The way to find out what someone is looking for in detail is to strike up a conversation. Not to go head first assuming I’m done whore who deserves to be spoken to like that.

I asked the question of who actually likes those sorts of messages right from the word go as I find it hard to believe that many women do. How did you come to that conclusion?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*some whore

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Would you have replied to a hi how are you message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for some guys they know that won't work. They can't be arsed putting the effort in to actually strike up conversation so they just get their kicks from sending that type of message, the fact they've said something dirty to a woman is enough. Obviously they have a tiny bit of hope she'll reply.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I’ve just got a message from a man, calling me a little fuck and telling me what he’d like to do to me. No “hi, how are you…”. Straight into assuming I’m up for a chat like that right away. My question is, do any women actually like that as a first message? I gave him a reply explaining why that message was not to my taste. Then he blocked me hahahaha. "
I don’t give them the time of day .

Just block them and leave them to it .

I do often wonder if that approach actually works for them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block without answering.

He cant make effort in message i aint waisting my time with response x

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By *obbi_sutherlandTV/TS
over a year ago

Dornoch


"I think for some guys they know that won't work. They can't be arsed putting the effort in to actually strike up conversation so they just get their kicks from sending that type of message, the fact they've said something dirty to a woman is enough. Obviously they have a tiny bit of hope she'll reply. "

I would say that this is a good summation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block without answering.

He cant make effort in message i aint waisting my time with response x"
same

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Treat this place like a pub. Would you say, what you're typing, to a lady, at the bar?

If it's a no, then don't

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By *oyeur 777Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I personally always send polite and respectful messages to anyone that I message and never get many replies.

I think that some women might look at his profile and if he was fairly attractive, would possibly answer back as a lot of women seem to prefer cheeky/ slightly forward guys.

Could be wrong , just my experience of the site so far, so please don't give me a hard time x

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By *cottish30Man
over a year ago

aberdeen

Females on here dont like the "hi,how are you?" or the "have you had a nice day/week-end?"

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"Block without answering.

He cant make effort in message i aint waisting my time with response x"

What constitutes and effort? Chocolates, wine and flowers!

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Instant block from me as well x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Females on here dont like the "hi,how are you?" or the "have you had a nice day/week-end?" "

They're just deleted, if that's all there is in a message. It won't get people on my block list x

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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"I’ve just got a message from a man, calling me a little fuck and telling me what he’d like to do to me. No “hi, how are you…”. Straight into assuming I’m up for a chat like that right away. My question is, do any women actually like that as a first message? I gave him a reply explaining why that message was not to my taste. Then he blocked me hahahaha. "

It's a bit like the "I'm free now, fancy a fuck" messages. I always wonder if they actually get anywhere with a message like that.

Each to there own and all that jazz but it doesn't inspire me to reply anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had hey slut as an opening heading then he proceded to tell me what he was gonna do with me etc.. i just replied to him to step away from the porn and blocked him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't like messages like that. Either give him a block straight off the bat or give him a curt response and block him before he gets a chance to reply x

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

It would be a straight no reply and block from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

too many guys on here don't have a clue how to communicate simple as that

also too many guys with an entitled attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would just block

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

Sounds like a lot of guys are ar**holes and entilted

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By *ust_Fun_Paisley35Man
over a year ago

Paisley

That’s just weirdo behaviour. I really don’t get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not really my thing. At least not straight out the gate.

I'm also not a fan of the first message being a 1000 word erotic novella detailing what they want to do to me. Especially when what they want usually boils down to an evening out followed by fairly vanilla sex

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By *reme de la creme500Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Nope….. I usually end up blocking as they will keep at it!!!

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By *ust_Fun_Paisley35Man
over a year ago

Paisley

Why are guys wanna abuse people on here. Majority are looking for the same on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not my thing at all, I always wonder does this approach work, same as the 1 word message and dick pics... nope.

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.

That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.

That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.

"

Us woman are so ungrateful eh!

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By *ide em cowgirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao "

Howdy Miss Cowgirl

My name is Trampas, I love cowboy films and I started in the Virginian. Nowadays I like to listen to Radio 4 in my housecoat and slippers.

Is this boring enough?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao

Howdy Miss Cowgirl

My name is Trampas, I love cowboy films and I started in the Virginian. Nowadays I like to listen to Radio 4 in my housecoat and slippers.

Is this boring enough? "

Hold my beer Davie

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao

Howdy Miss Cowgirl

My name is Trampas, I love cowboy films and I started in the Virginian. Nowadays I like to listen to Radio 4 in my housecoat and slippers.

Is this boring enough?

Hold my beer Davie "

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By *ide em cowgirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao

Howdy Miss Cowgirl

My name is Trampas, I love cowboy films and I started in the Virginian. Nowadays I like to listen to Radio 4 in my housecoat and slippers.

Is this boring enough? "

Lovely, Nice and mundane just the way I like it thank you that was appreciated

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Depends. If it’s first thing in the morning I’ll read it, it saves me looking up sexy literature.

But don’t expect a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I won’t do it again!

(It wasn’t me)

If I wouldn’t do it in a bar I won’t do it behind a computer screen. Personally believe respect and finding a detail in the profile to highlight you’ve read throughout

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.

That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.

Us woman are so ungrateful eh! "

Oops...I can feel a tongue lashing coming my way

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.

That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.

Us woman are so ungrateful eh!

Oops...I can feel a tongue lashing coming my way "

Haha you wish!

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.

That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.

Us woman are so ungrateful eh!

Oops...I can feel a tongue lashing coming my way

Haha you wish! "

Just a lashing will do

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.

That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.

Us woman are so ungrateful eh!

Oops...I can feel a tongue lashing coming my way

Haha you wish!

Just a lashing will do "

Get a room, you two!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve blocked many messages like that.

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By *ary_ArgyllMan
over a year ago

Argyll

You've clearly stated that you don't want wood in a wood!

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By *arahSissyLoverWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Thats pretty standard from the guys on here x can they not just say hello lol x

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