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"He's old enough to be her father!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Inspired by another thread on here about men fancying older women.

What's the general consensus on older men dating or even just having sex with considerably younger women? Half his age for example.

Does it make you feel uncomfortable? If so why?

Or is everything on the table between consenting adults?

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Achh takes all sorts. To be honest though it just doesn't look right.

I've nothing against a big age difference either way or sex, however I was in a restaurant the other week. Lassie must have been about 24 all glammed up looking good and the guy was probably mid-50s. Now I've no ruck with that in general, my ruck is a mid-50s guy trying to dress like a 24 year old.

Invariably it manifests itself in a paisley pattern shirt, dress jacket, jeans and new white trainers.

If he has hair it will be gelled to the Nth degree.

Plus what do they talk about ...Jezee Kanye...Dave.

Peace and love x

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Age should never really be an issue, and it's not really anyone else's business.

I always say that "the heart wants, what the heart wants", and you can't help who you fall for.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Uncomfortable. My eldest is 27, so feels just wrong

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

It's not something I'd consider. The ego boost would be good but that's all it would be good for,in my opinion.

I know a couple with a big age difference and they are happy and it works for them.

I kids older and I can imagine what they would say if I was with someone younger than them.

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When I was a pre-teen, one of my friends had a step mum that was 2 years younger than his eldest sister, so it's not as if it's anything new.

That was 30-ish years ago BTW.

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By *ama bamaMan
over a year ago

dalkeith

Well i have to say when i was younger it was older women i was into. yet as i get older my lower age range has dropped some what and consider the person more than their age as a reason for seeing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, just feels wrong. I prefer my own age group.

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

22 years between us but he's taught me alot and sex is brilliant, now don't care what others think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone differs as long as it’s safe and consensual it shouldn’t be an issue. however people with children etc wouldn’t usually go lower than the age of them.

i like older men, probably wouldn’t date a man older than my dad tho. everyone has a reason for and against the age gap.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Last person I was seeing regularly was 33, the age difference wasnt an issuse for her or me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I wouldn't see a guy on here or even off, if he was young enough to be my son so there's your answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All about attraction and maturity I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I wouldn't see a guy on here or even off, if he was young enough to be my son so there's your answer "
This

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By *ordanediMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Achh takes all sorts. To be honest though it just doesn't look right.

I've nothing against a big age difference either way or sex, however I was in a restaurant the other week. Lassie must have been about 24 all glammed up looking good and the guy was probably mid-50s. Now I've no ruck with that in general, my ruck is a mid-50s guy trying to dress like a 24 year old.

Invariably it manifests itself in a paisley pattern shirt, dress jacket, jeans and new white trainers.

If he has hair it will be gelled to the Nth degree.

Plus what do they talk about ...Jezee Kanye...Dave.

Peace and love x"

My last two gf’s have been 22 and 25. No issue for me. Your description of clothing is ridiculous tho!

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"Achh takes all sorts. To be honest though it just doesn't look right.

I've nothing against a big age difference either way or sex, however I was in a restaurant the other week. Lassie must have been about 24 all glammed up looking good and the guy was probably mid-50s. Now I've no ruck with that in general, my ruck is a mid-50s guy trying to dress like a 24 year old.

Invariably it manifests itself in a paisley pattern shirt, dress jacket, jeans and new white trainers.

If he has hair it will be gelled to the Nth degree.

Plus what do they talk about ...Jezee Kanye...Dave.

Peace and love x

My last two gf’s have been 22 and 25. No issue for me. Your description of clothing is ridiculous tho!"

Yip it is ridiculous I agree.

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Just makes me think of mr Hefner and bunny girls bit cringy .

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By *ordanediMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Why is that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was thinking about it and realise I'm being a bit hypocritical as I don't judge older women with younger men in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't make me uncomfortable, we all like different things and I try not to judge.

Even if the typical stereotypes are in play that's up to them, as long as everyone's happy then it's really none of my business.

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By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

On a meet then not normally, as long as it's safe, sane & consensual. For longer term relationships, sexual or romantic, it all depends on the power dynamics & any predatory behaviour that's present. It can be a real cause for concern.

I personally don't normally go older than my parents when swinging, but my age restrictions on fab are much tighter to cut down on the creepy messages.

Jigs x

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By *ama bamaMan
over a year ago

dalkeith


"All about attraction and maturity I think."
so true the perosn is more impotaint that what society says is the norm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was old enough to be her mother" at a meet in c.js ..awesome girl and totally didnt look as young as she is hope she reads this as it was one of those experiences/ memories never forget!

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth


"I was thinking about it and realise I'm being a bit hypocritical as I don't judge older women with younger men in the same way."

You just want a young man for 20 hours of rampant pleasure. Hmmm, what was the question again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age should never really be an issue, and it's not really anyone else's business.

I always say that "the heart wants, what the heart wants", and you can't help who you fall for."

This... I used to worked with a girl who met her soul mate in her twenties, he was thirty years older. They had two children and a blissfully happy relationship but yes she was a young a widow and his children were relatively young when he died. Would any of them change a moment of that... no they would not, she regrets not a jot of what they had. The Heart does indeed want what the Heart wants x

In regard to here... likewise... just enjoy each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly..if I saw a guy had a veri from a much much younger chick..yip.would put me off.

But..alot can put me off profiles

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By *igNick1381Man
over a year ago

BRIDGEND

AHH, the DiCaprio dilemma

Interesting lol

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By *haz and CatCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

There’s 20 years between myself and my man.

Love him to bits because of who he is and not what age he is x

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"There’s 20 years between myself and my man.

Love him to bits because of who he is and not what age he is x"

Which one of you is being economical with the truth?

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By *hroatitboyMan
over a year ago

GLA

Always preferred older men lol. When I was 18 my fuck bud was 55.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"There’s 20 years between myself and my man.

Love him to bits because of who he is and not what age he is x"

Your profile says there is a 9 year difference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hooked up with a few girls younger say around 12 years younger or so. The sex is incredible!! They seem to really know exactly where to touch on a guy!! Amazing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s 20 years between myself and my man.

Love him to bits because of who he is and not what age he is x"
fab age?

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

It totally depends on the people involved, and for me how they met.

My late husband was 16 years older than me. I was 22, him 38. We met through a sport. Similar friend group. Similar place in life with regards to study, work, ambition, family and the likes. I was old before my time, I lived alone and was a “proper” adult. You couldn’t really tell the age difference.

A friend of mine met a guy 15 years older than her at a similar age. She was very, very young for her age. She was at college, never had a job, had never been away for a weekend or holiday without parents, her mum did all her washing, made her meals etc. He worked in the college, had responsibilities, already had children etc. The imbalance was quite uncomfortable for a lot of people, and it wasn’t overly surprising when he turned out to be a controlling arsehole.

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

If it's purely about physical attraction then there needn't be an issue. My daughter goes out with a man older than me.

However, I think there needs to be a level of mutual maturity. No matter how physically mature someone considerably younger might be, they're not necessarily well rounded, open minded with mature and non self-centred attitudes. I would never want a sexual relationship with anyone like that. Surely there needs to be some equivalence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hooked up with a few girls younger say around 12 years younger or so. The sex is incredible!! They seem to really know exactly where to touch on a guy!! Amazing!! "

Porn education?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as its between consenting adults I don't have a problem.

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By *ert999400Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Hooked up with a few girls younger say around 12 years younger or so. The sex is incredible!! They seem to really know exactly where to touch on a guy!! Amazing!!

Porn education?"

Totally agree with porn more accessible to younger people it is porn educated young people both male and female. Us older people when younger had to fumble or way about. I prefer mature women but each to there own.

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By *apperMystiqueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow East

It came to my attention that one of my daughters work friends had a crush on me. She didn’t know who I was until my daughter heard her talking about me. She’s half my age and beautiful, fun and seems mature. If it hadn’t been for my daughter being friends with her I’ve have taken her out. I think it comes down to the person rather than the age tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hooked up with a few girls younger say around 12 years younger or so. The sex is incredible!! They seem to really know exactly where to touch on a guy!! Amazing!!

Porn education?

Totally agree with porn more accessible to younger people it is porn educated young people both male and female. Us older people when younger had to fumble or way about. I prefer mature women but each to there own."

I don't think the "porn education" is necessarily a good thing btw.

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray


"There’s 20 years between myself and my man.

Love him to bits because of who he is and not what age he is x

Which one of you is being economical with the truth? "

Hate to say this but find that remark find highly offensive. It sounds like you don't believe an older man could love a younger woman, if that's the case we've just wasted 20 years of our life's living a lie.

Lx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There’s 20 years between myself and my man.

Love him to bits because of who he is and not what age he is x

Which one of you is being economical with the truth?

Hate to say this but find that remark find highly offensive. It sounds like you don't believe an older man could love a younger woman, if that's the case we've just wasted 20 years of our life's living a lie.

Lx"

If you look at the profile in question you'll see there appears to be a 9yr age difference and not 20 as their comment states.

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray


"There’s 20 years between myself and my man.

Love him to bits because of who he is and not what age he is x

Which one of you is being economical with the truth?

Hate to say this but find that remark find highly offensive. It sounds like you don't believe an older man could love a younger woman, if that's the case we've just wasted 20 years of our life's living a lie.

Lx

If you look at the profile in question you'll see there appears to be a 9yr age difference and not 20 as their comment states."

My apologies, I read it as someone was being economical with the fact they were in love, again apologies.

Must of got out of bed wrong side

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There’s 20 years between myself and my man.

Love him to bits because of who he is and not what age he is x

Which one of you is being economical with the truth?

Hate to say this but find that remark find highly offensive. It sounds like you don't believe an older man could love a younger woman, if that's the case we've just wasted 20 years of our life's living a lie.

Lx

If you look at the profile in question you'll see there appears to be a 9yr age difference and not 20 as their comment states.

My apologies, I read it as someone was being economical with the fact they were in love, again apologies.

Must of got out of bed wrong side "

Nae bother

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I have two couples who are friends where there is a 20 year age difference. She’s 45 and he’s 65. I’m quite sure if I’d said 20 and 40 it would be more shocking.

Why are we so hungry up about ages? I won’t meet people who are the same age as my kids but that’s a personal choice.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Inspired by another thread on here about men fancying older women.

What's the general consensus on older men dating or even just having sex with considerably younger women? Half his age for example.

Does it make you feel uncomfortable? If so why?

Or is everything on the table between consenting adults?"
I think it’s just they way things are viewed .

Ie older men dating or having sex with younger women are mainly classed as dirty old men where an older woman dating or having sex with younger men are classed as sexy cougars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before the first lockdown I used to see a girl 42 which is 22years younger than me

We used to meet once a week for fun but her boyfriend found out and we had to stopped.

Love being with her she was bbw loved me buying her sexy undies, choccies, wine etc always had a present for her when I visited

Miss our fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps yeah. One had been on here before. They just seem to have higher sex drive. Or I’ve yet to meet my match similar/older age

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