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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can any of you ladies help me out, I am looking for some constructive criticism on my profile please.

When messaging women I am always polite, I send a face pic and a full body pic and usually full nude also. If I don't get a reply I never send a "take it youre not interested then" desperate type of message.

What I don't understand is when they read the message, they don't delete the message, they don't block me either and they never reply as a sign of no interest on their behalf.

All these profiles that I make contact with are women who are actively meeting.

I am looking forward to your feedback.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

You have a one sentence profile, there are hundreds of guys on here to choose from, you need to put in more effort!

Good Luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a one sentence profile, there are hundreds of guys on here to choose from, you need to put in more effort!

Good Luck. "

Okay thank you, good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You havent actually written a a profile... i read messages reply to those i want to and just leave the others.. a never delete or block, usually every so often al have a mass delete, when youve messaged delete your outbox and dont stress over why they havent replied deleted or blocked

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

Looking for discretion and cannot accommodate would scream cheating on your partner to me. Perhaps not but that's what I got from your profile so I wouldn't respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for discretion and cannot accommodate would scream cheating on your partner to me. Perhaps not but that's what I got from your profile so I wouldn't respond "

I would agree, if you are cheating put it on your profile. Just lets people make an informed choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly everything I don’t like

18-99 year olds you’d meet

Ticked literally every like

Cannot meet so married or cheating

And about 4 lines on a profile

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Casanova was at least truthful in his liasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking for discretion and cannot accommodate would scream cheating on your partner to me. Perhaps not but that's what I got from your profile so I wouldn't respond "

Fair enough very good point. Thank you.

First of all on a first meet I wouldn't expect a female to feel comfortable coming back to my place. Also given that I am looking for casual fun again for the first meet I don't want random people to know where I live. Also probably for safety reasons why I gather many women also don't accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking for discretion and cannot accommodate would scream cheating on your partner to me. Perhaps not but that's what I got from your profile so I wouldn't respond

I would agree, if you are cheating put it on your profile. Just lets people make an informed choice."

Thank you for your input.

The biggest take away so far ladies for me is that assumptions are very quickly made even before a letter has been exchanged.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly everything I don’t like

18-99 year olds you’d meet

Ticked literally every like

Cannot meet so married or cheating

And about 4 lines on a profile "

Thank you for your input.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Casanova was at least truthful in his liasons. "

Thank you for your input and time.

Again the best point I take away from you ladies is that absolutely every letter, every word is analysed and assumptions made immediately. Definitely a eye opener.

So far nobody said anything about my pictures and I am happy about that. LoL

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Looking for discretion and cannot accommodate would scream cheating on your partner to me. Perhaps not but that's what I got from your profile so I wouldn't respond

I would agree, if you are cheating put it on your profile. Just lets people make an informed choice.

Thank you for your input.

The biggest take away so far ladies for me is that assumptions are very quickly made even before a letter has been exchanged.

"

Correct me if I'm wrong, it was you asking us ladies gif help on your profile?

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Looking for discretion and cannot accommodate would scream cheating on your partner to me. Perhaps not but that's what I got from your profile so I wouldn't respond

Fair enough very good point. Thank you.

First of all on a first meet I wouldn't expect a female to feel comfortable coming back to my place. Also given that I am looking for casual fun again for the first meet I don't want random people to know where I live. Also probably for safety reasons why I gather many women also don't accommodate. "

But now you have went straight against your own morals and changed it immediately? You could have kept it as it was but explained that you don't accommodate on a first meet until all are comfortable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking for discretion and cannot accommodate would scream cheating on your partner to me. Perhaps not but that's what I got from your profile so I wouldn't respond

Fair enough very good point. Thank you.

First of all on a first meet I wouldn't expect a female to feel comfortable coming back to my place. Also given that I am looking for casual fun again for the first meet I don't want random people to know where I live. Also probably for safety reasons why I gather many women also don't accommodate.

But now you have went straight against your own morals and changed it immediately? You could have kept it as it was but explained that you don't accommodate on a first meet until all are comfortable

"

You are right I did ask for input and thanks for all the ladies that have participated.

I did change my profile because I am looking to meet people and go the extra distance to do so.

And also has nothing to do with morals I just realized how quickly assumptions are made no opportunity given.

I also changed my profile because I have nothing to hide and to give myself the best opportunity to meet like minded people.

Thanks again for your time.

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By *ookie69Man
over a year ago

Whistle Dixie

I’m glad you directed this to Ladies,

I can see past you’re profile,

It isn’t rocket science too work out.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say save the pictures until you agree to share pics. Sometimes I find as the female part of the couple opening messages to see photos you haven’t asked for is sometimes off putting. The connection should be there first before sending pics Willy nilly xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m glad you directed this to Ladies,

I can see past you’re profile,

It isn’t rocket science too work out.

Good luck "

Thank you so much for your time and input.

I would also like to thank all the ladies and the gentlemen who have messaged me in private about this post. I can understand why you have chosen to reply privately.

I appreciate all responses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say save the pictures until you agree to share pics. Sometimes I find as the female part of the couple opening messages to see photos you haven’t asked for is sometimes off putting. The connection should be there first before sending pics Willy nilly xxx"

Thank you for your time.

You have made a very good point actually. I just thought that being completely transparent as much as I can from the get go would work in my favor because of the high volume of single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out.

"

Thank you for your input and time.

Would you mind giving just a example of what would "stand out" for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out.

Thank you for your input and time.

Would you mind giving just a example of what would "stand out" for you? "

Do you have any experience of swinging - clubs / meets. If so tell people about these experiences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out.

Thank you for your input and time.

Would you mind giving just a example of what would "stand out" for you?

Do you have any experience of swinging - clubs / meets. If so tell people about these experiences."

Excellent point, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out."

Agree. Everyone on here says they are open minded and laid back.

I like to see some personality in a profile. At the moment it just kind of reads like a tick box of what to put on a profile. Sorry OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out.

Agree. Everyone on here says they are open minded and laid back.

I like to see some personality in a profile. At the moment it just kind of reads like a tick box of what to put on a profile. Sorry OP. "

Please don't say sorry. I need to know all this.

Thank you for your time and input.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out.

"

This.

If your profile was a colour it would be beige.

There's no indication of a personality, sense of humour or character.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out.

This.

If your profile was a colour it would be beige.

There's no indication of a personality, sense of humour or character."

Thank you for your input.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

No personality at all in pics or bio.

Discrete means separate - discreet means conducting oneself privately and with consideration for others privacy

Your profile tells me nothing at all about YOU!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It reads and looks like a typical standard single guy profile on here and has nothing in particular that s_ands out.

This.

If your profile was a colour it would be beige.

There's no indication of a personality, sense of humour or character."

Can always rely on Miss Muff to say it’ how it is!

Which I love and respect!

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride

For someone that "doesn't" smoke, maybe you should hide your fags and lighter.

Just saying

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"For someone that "doesn't" smoke, maybe you should hide your fags and lighter.

Just saying "

Well spotted! Lying ain’t a good look either op no matter what the lie may be about

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

It is a very bland profile. Just not really anything there to capture the reader's interest or to make it stand out from the crowd.

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