FabSwingers.com forum: First date for years

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh gees I have a lunch date today, not a fab one, a possible dating one. Haven't been on a date for a couple of years , I'm an absolute nervous wreck.

Any one else get like this? Actually feel sick with nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it every time I go on a fab date.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gees I have a lunch date today, not a fab one, a possible dating one. Haven't been on a date for a couple of years , I'm an absolute nervous wreck.

Any one else get like this? Actually feel sick with nerves

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Yeah All the time,its more common than you think,im sure you will be fine when you get there,if all else fails, order a pint of venom when you get there.Enjoy your date

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By *ick1979xxMan
over a year ago

hornyville

Good luck, its not a job interview. They either like you for who you are or they dont..

Be yourself and relax.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am what I am, he's not nervous in the slightest lol. Always wish we could skip this part it's fear of the unknown.

I mean, I might not like him it works both ways I know. But God why do we do this to ourselves lol

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Is it a blind date?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No we have been texting and video chatting for 3 weeks

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"No we have been texting and video chatting for 3 weeks "

Oh you’ll be fine then. Nerves will settle in 2 mins. Get in there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No we have been texting and video chatting for 3 weeks

Oh you’ll be fine then. Nerves will settle in 2 mins. Get in there

I hope so hun

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By *ookie69Man
over a year ago

Whistle Dixie

"Oh gees I have a lunch date today, not a fab one, a possible dating one. Haven't been on a date for a couple of years , I'm an absolute nervous wreck.

Any one else get like this? Actually feel sick with nerves

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck hope it goes well x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Oh gees I have a lunch date today, not a fab one, a possible dating one. Haven't been on a date for a couple of years , I'm an absolute nervous wreck.

Any one else get like this? Actually feel sick with nerves

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im sure itl all go fine .

Just go flutter those eye lashes at him

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Oh gees I have a lunch date today, not a fab one, a possible dating one. Haven't been on a date for a couple of years , I'm an absolute nervous wreck.

Any one else get like this? Actually feel sick with nerves

im sure itl all go fine .

Just go flutter those eye lashes at him

Does that still work?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Oh gees I have a lunch date today, not a fab one, a possible dating one. Haven't been on a date for a couple of years , I'm an absolute nervous wreck.

Any one else get like this? Actually feel sick with nerves

im sure itl all go fine .

Just go flutter those eye lashes at him

Does that still work?"
Not all the time but sometimes it does

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By *lipandslide069Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I haven't had a proper date in over 10 years

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Good luck - you’re braver than me I’ve not been on a proper date in over 10 years though admittedly that’s partly due to slim pickings in my areas of interest

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

I hope it's gone well for you. A good sign it's long past lunch and the poster hasn't returned yet...

(I had a rather crap date last week, so I get why you're nervous.)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks folks . Oh my head is mince , had a nice time felt very relaxed with eachother, but I felt no sexual spark, am I expecting too much ? Could that grow? I've always thought that should be instant or your flogging a dead horse so to speak. Advice anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you like him meet again - although instant spark is always better - slow burners can last longer

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there

I agree. Worth another meet to check in on your feelings and first thoughts.

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

If it went well and you had a good time I'd agree with the others and say it's worth a second date to be sure

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"had a nice time felt very relaxed with eachother, but I felt no sexual spark, am I expecting too much ? "

Sounds to me like it’s worth giving it a second go. Sometimes you don’t get that spark until you hit a certain point … whether it’s the first kiss, or whatever.

Two dates definitely doesn’t come close to flogging a dead horse. This horse is very much still alive, you just don’t know which way it might trot yet.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nerves may have thrown you off. Worth a 2nd date to clarify. Was there a kiss? If so and definitely no spark that may not be ideal

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

That’s the clincher for me, too. You can tell a lot from that first kiss. Spark or no spark?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone I really appreciate it. I'll give it one more try x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Enjoy it. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck, its not a job interview. They either like you for who you are or they dont..

Be yourself and relax.

This

Enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The nerves and flutterflies are a good sign, I saw you went and had a good time which is ace to see.

The sexual side comes later with dating

All the best with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone xx

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By *inky KatzCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks folks . Oh my head is mince , had a nice time felt very relaxed with eachother, but I felt no sexual spark, am I expecting too much ? Could that grow? I've always thought that should be instant or your flogging a dead horse so to speak. Advice anyone? "

When I first met hubby I thought he was a big weird and there was no spark. Almost 25yrs later, we’re still going strong.

Definitely give it a second chance. All the nerves etc of the first date will be gone, so you can relax and enjoy it, and you might just get that spark x

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

I’ve also not been on a proper date for a very long time, I can’t even remember it’s been so long. Probably going back to 2008, everything is so very different now and I don’t think there’s many folk out there who actually do traditional dating anymore which is pretty disappointing tbh sometimes though you will meet someone and even without any sexual chemistry there something clicks and that chemistry can come later. On the other hand you can meet someone and all the chemistry is there and the relationships only exist because of the sex and everything else goes out the window. Sex is something you can work on with someone if you both want to talk about it and listen and work with it and experiment with different things personalities and connection is not something you can fake or change. I would defo give the guy another chance if you have gotten on, just be sure not to spend too much time talking though or you could find yourselves friend zoning each other and that’s worse !!

Butterflies when you get a message or late night phone calls, video calls are the modern version of courting. You defo have to go for the kids on the second date though and if you’re not feeling it try and mix it up a bit, see if they are willing to play the game and mix it up a bit too, if they do you’ll soon know if it’s worth pursuing xx wishing you loads of luck xx

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

*kiss not kids lol bloody autocorrect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't been on a date in 15yrs! I dread to think how I would feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mabey we should do something about these lack of date's,im just saying that's all

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By *hrobbermanMan
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

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By *hrobbermanMan
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Oh gees I have a lunch date today, not a fab one, a possible dating one. Haven't been on a date for a couple of years , I'm an absolute nervous wreck.

Any one else get like this? Actually feel sick with nerves "

After the end of a very LTR (20+ years) a couple of years before Lockdown, I found myself having to start anew and really didn't know how to begin. I hadn't asked a woman out since the 90's. How did we do things back then? How did we meet and get started? I was a quaking bag of nerves. My last "date" had been before the advent of mobile phones, the Internet, websites and suchlike. And when I actually successfully managed to chat to a woman on a website (not here!) I simply had no clue about 'protocols' of messaging, chat etc.

When, after months of messages, we met in the real world it was an utterly terrifying ordeal going to meet her and going for a walk. I was a wreck. We had an ice cream cone and after our walk and chat I drove her back to her home. I enjoyed the 'date' but felt no spark. She never messaged me back and totally 'ghosted' (I also had to learn a new vocabulary) me. Maybe she was just as nervous as me and felt no spark.

Been another couple of 'dates' since, but zero sparks. Maybe onbe date isn't enough to have time to create a spark. I sometimes think that my age, Life's journey or mibbe Technology (or a combination of all of them) has removed any chance of a spark. Maybe I am just getting too old and cynical. But I persevere because the other option is a bit bleak.

Good Luck Strawberry Laces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck OP I'm starting this all over again too after yearsss , yet to have an actual date lol nervous at the thought still x

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