FabSwingers.com forum: Reading profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Cos they don’t read your profile. I think most men look at pictures and can’t see the words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get that as well think it is just a bit of laziness we have a buzz word in our bio for anyone who messages us but not many seem to use it so we don’t reply if they are not going to make the effort to read our bio and only look at our pics we ain’t going to bother either just the way we see it

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

I actually quite like reading some profiles, one liners just show a lack of effort

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Cos they don’t read your profile. I think most men look at pictures and can’t see the words.

Not entirely sure it would be fair to only pin that on single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Cos they don’t read your profile. I think most men look at pictures and can’t see the words.

Not entirely sure it would be fair to only pin that on single guys "

Have to agree we have seen many couples profiles with the line will fill in later and they have been on the site for a year and haven’t even looked at our bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Topo many guys are just lazy and see pics. Many of them also have no idea about swinging full stop. They see naked/ naughty pics and think we will shag anyone. The stupidity of mny of the messages gives us a laugh though. We generally delete, the funniest messages are the 2nd messages that say... You deleted you not interested? Why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We get that as well think it is just a bit of laziness we have a buzz word in our bio for anyone who messages us but not many seem to use it so we don’t reply if they are not going to make the effort to read our bio and only look at our pics we ain’t going to bother either just the way we see it "

Yeah if that’s the name ‘buzz word’ we also have this and I’d say around 80% don’t pick up on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Topo many guys are just lazy and see pics. Many of them also have no idea about swinging full stop. They see naked/ naughty pics and think we will shag anyone. The stupidity of mny of the messages gives us a laugh though. We generally delete, the funniest messages are the 2nd messages that say... You deleted you not interested? Why? "

It’s the ‘awright babe your sexy as fuk’ messages assuming this is a single available woman.

Not sure if we’re just complete novices and that’s the way it is or it’s just plain disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the ‘awright babe your sexy as fuk’ messages assuming this is a single available woman.

Not sure if we’re just complete novices and that’s the way it is or it’s just plain disrespectful "

Yeah don’t understand that they can see that we have a couples profile yet only address the female like it will get them somewhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s the ‘awright babe your sexy as fuk’ messages assuming this is a single available woman.

Not sure if we’re just complete novices and that’s the way it is or it’s just plain disrespectful

Yeah don’t understand that they can see that we have a couples profile yet only address the female like it will get them somewhere "

Of course we know how to keep it simple, forget to read our profile usually means we forget to reply to the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the ‘awright babe your sexy as fuk’ messages assuming this is a single available woman.

Not sure if we’re just complete novices and that’s the way it is or it’s just plain disrespectful

Yeah don’t understand that they can see that we have a couples profile yet only address the female like it will get them somewhere

Of course we know how to keep it simple, forget to read our profile usually means we forget to reply to the message "

Yesterday we got a... "Hi Lovey let's meet and I'll fuck you in my van"

Oh dear...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I read a profile and, if there's a buzz word use it but I'll often ask what folk are looking for coz people's desires change and, sometimes, once you've spoken to a person, you think, actually... With you...I might want to.. Whatever

But also... It confirms that the profile was accurate and that what drew me to the person is indeed them

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

LuvDup, TandZ, and Pepsi … You all have good profiles! Clear, to the point, we’ll written … and you all actually talk about what you do/don’t want. (Your posts here made me go have a look.)

I get that a lot of guys (and girls, believe me …) may not be as comfortable with the written word. But you don’t need to be Shakespeare. Just be chatty.

On the other hand … the very best writers can blow you away with a single sentence. There are very, very few of those on Fab! (But I did see one this morning. She must be in the ad industry, right? Selling herself in one beautifully-crafted line is *impressive*.)

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I do ask people often what they're looking for as sometimes it could be both of us or it might be just me, or they have a scenario they're looking to play out, so a quick clarification helps me to decide whether to continue the conversation. Or they might not have much written on their profile.

It also helps to find out what they're not into - e.g. I don't do pain, pee or poo

I've had a few complaints about the length of my profile text, but it gets across all the important points

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LuvDup, TandZ, and Pepsi … You all have good profiles! Clear, to the point, we’ll written … and you all actually talk about what you do/don’t want. (Your posts here made me go have a look.)

I get that a lot of guys (and girls, believe me …) may not be as comfortable with the written word. But you don’t need to be Shakespeare. Just be chatty.

We agree - Some people have said in other posts why don't you block single guys from messaging, but we will point out not all single guys send poor messages and many do read our profile. Some write to compliment, some write and ask questions and many are nice and polite.

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By *edGlasgowMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Looking at your profile, other than the generic wee list which is pretty basic, it doesn't say much about what you guys are into sexually. Good description of the psychological aspects bit mot much about what actually gets you going. Maybe these messages genuinely want you to expand on that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Does clearly state we’re looking to meet an orally bi guy, I could write it in twice but unless the profile bio is read writing it twice would make no difference.

Let’s face it, regardless what our profile says loads of people experience this here.

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By *edGlasgowMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Does clearly state we’re looking to meet an orally bi guy, I could write it in twice but unless the profile bio is read writing it twice would make no difference.

Let’s face it, regardless what our profile says loads of people experience this here. "

No doubt they do, but I can understand why other will ask the question. If they aren't clear having read the bio, it's reasonable to ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Does clearly state we’re looking to meet an orally bi guy, I could write it in twice but unless the profile bio is read writing it twice would make no difference.

Let’s face it, regardless what our profile says loads of people experience this here.

No doubt they do, but I can understand why other will ask the question. If they aren't clear having read the bio, it's reasonable to ask."

Could be a fair point but when they mostly forget our buzz word it just confirms the bio is not read so I guess we both win that debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people just look at pics and mail anyone they like the look of just to chance it. Or they read the text and think fuck it, I'll give it a try anyway.

I never got round to properly writing a profile, mostly because I'm not really looking for anything in particular but it does amuse me when I get messages saying they've read my profile and think we share interests

Oh and it's not just single guys, I get loads of mail from couples who clearly only go on the fact I'm bi and don't look at the who I'm looking for part.

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By *ookie69Man
over a year ago

Whistle Dixie

I’ve never quite understood why people encourage others to read there profile.

In my experience profiles never reflect exactly what they seek.

I’ve never written a half decent profile on here and has never stopped or held my back exploring what I have seeked.

I find communication to be far greater than reading endless female ranting demanding profiles.

Albeit, not everyone has the same logic I adapt which is cool.

Send someone a message and chat, it may make someone’s day whether there’s a connection or not.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Does clearly state we’re looking to meet an orally bi guy, I could write it in twice but unless the profile bio is read writing it twice would make no difference.

Let’s face it, regardless what our profile says loads of people experience this here.

No doubt they do, but I can understand why other will ask the question. If they aren't clear having read the bio, it's reasonable to ask.

Could be a fair point but when they mostly forget our buzz word it just confirms the bio is not read so I guess we both win that debate "

Tbh 'buzz words' put me off a bit. Not sure why, maybe seems a little demanding? I don't know, I do understand why people use them though

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"I think a lot of people just look at pics and mail anyone they like the look of just to chance it. Or they read the text and think fuck it, I'll give it a try anyway. "

Absolutely this! If I get a 'fancy a meet now?' message when I'm in a sarky mood I tend to reply 'fancy reading the profile?' One guy took the huff and said it was longer than War and Peace, another replied 'yeah but I'm horny now'. Oh well in that case let me lace up my Nikes and I'll dash right round

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Does clearly state we’re looking to meet an orally bi guy, I could write it in twice but unless the profile bio is read writing it twice would make no difference.

Let’s face it, regardless what our profile says loads of people experience this here.

No doubt they do, but I can understand why other will ask the question. If they aren't clear having read the bio, it's reasonable to ask.

Could be a fair point but when they mostly forget our buzz word it just confirms the bio is not read so I guess we both win that debate

Tbh 'buzz words' put me off a bit. Not sure why, maybe seems a little demanding? I don't know, I do understand why people use them though "

Easy enough to explain, let’s us identify who’s actually serious about us.

Really don’t know put it in more similar or terms.

Many of these people also feel the need to tell they are prefessional ‘not sure the connection between that and sex’ but still don’t bother reading about who they contact.

I guess each to their own but personally I wouldn’t take them seriously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve never quite understood why people encourage others to read there profile.

In my experience profiles never reflect exactly what they seek.

I’ve never written a half decent profile on here and has never stopped or held my back exploring what I have seeked.

I find communication to be far greater than reading endless female ranting demanding profiles.

Albeit, not everyone has the same logic I adapt which is cool.

Send someone a message and chat, it may make someone’s day whether there’s a connection or not.

Your profile, your choice how you choose to go about your own business.

As is ours but personally for us we prefer someone who knows what they want and would like to know more than just a picture.

I just bin those mails

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"So as a couple we like to know exactly what people like and what their looking for before we make contact. Same goes for anyone who contacts us, we always read about them.

But it seems we get huge numbers who just look at our pics and ask what we’re looking for ect when it’s already all covered.

Why ?

Does clearly state we’re looking to meet an orally bi guy, I could write it in twice but unless the profile bio is read writing it twice would make no difference.

Let’s face it, regardless what our profile says loads of people experience this here.

No doubt they do, but I can understand why other will ask the question. If they aren't clear having read the bio, it's reasonable to ask.

Could be a fair point but when they mostly forget our buzz word it just confirms the bio is not read so I guess we both win that debate

Tbh 'buzz words' put me off a bit. Not sure why, maybe seems a little demanding? I don't know, I do understand why people use them though

Easy enough to explain, let’s us identify who’s actually serious about us.

Really don’t know put it in more similar or terms.

Many of these people also feel the need to tell they are prefessional ‘not sure the connection between that and sex’ but still don’t bother reading about who they contact.

I guess each to their own but personally I wouldn’t take them seriously. "

Yeah I don't get the professional thing at all.

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By *ullie-kingMan
over a year ago

newmains

Should take a saucy pic on snapchat and put a text bit across the private parts saying "read our f***ing profile!" ... see if that helps

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By *omcupCouple
over a year ago

Alexandria

It seems reading a profile takes too much time for the desperate ones who message saying "hi can you both fuck me in the next 2 minutes"

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By *uffolkJohnMan
over a year ago

Newmarket

"It seems reading a profile takes too much time for the desperate ones who message saying "hi can you both fuck me in the next 2 minutes""

Well if you read some of these war and peace profiles, they look like they have been written by a human resources department. I don't blame guys cut and pasting 'fancy a fuck?'. The result is probably the same in any case.

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By *enLucyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Tbh 'buzz words' put me off a bit. Not sure why, maybe seems a little demanding? I don't know, I do understand why people use them though "

I feel the same.

I’ve read profiles which say “Don’t just add us as friends without chatting first” , yet the reason I’m reading the profile is because of the random friend requests…

And a great many profile blurbs have quite the snippy tone, like they’re doing us all a favour by being on the site. That’s a nah from me.

Personality - even for the one-off meet - is absolutely a deal breaker.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Always always always jump through hoops, lol with every fibre of your being at some lame ass joke, agree with everything to show you are on their wave length, never show your true self become the dream ride you know they want. Too many hoops for me generates zero interest (for me a single hoops is to many)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do chuckle when I get "great profile" or "love your profile" messages... Maybe they're all people who don't enjoy reading?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause they're lazy cunts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Should take a saucy pic on snapchat and put a text bit across the private parts saying "read our f***ing profile!" ... see if that helps

That’s a great idea

not that we’d bother.

Can’t be bothered reading just means can’t be bothered answering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really enjoy reading a well composed profile. I've messaged people and told them I've enjoyed reading their profiles or if they made me laugh in the past.

Each to their own, but I can understand the frustration of those who go to the bother of writing a profile only to be sent a message from an unwanted member who, clearly looks at the pics and asks if they want to fuck/suck.

I won't normally engage with a profile that has no information on it.