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By *rijj OP Man
over a year ago

paisley

Seem too be struggling on here hardly anyone replies they just read n ignore its brutal

Anyone else experiance this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seem too be struggling on here hardly anyone replies they just read n ignore its brutal

Anyone else experiance this "

i mean you’ve got three veris so obviously someone’s replying to you at some point. that and you are quite young. might not be for everyone.

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By *rijj OP Man
over a year ago

paisley

Thats the only 3 times ive managed too get any replies and not ghosted its brutal

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Thats the only 3 times ive managed too get any replies and not ghosted its brutal "

Moaning and negativity are not going to do you any favours. Just engage with people.

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By *rijj OP Man
over a year ago

paisley

Sorry not meaning too moan it was ment as a genuine question

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Have you read through the forum? There's literally hundreds of guys to every couple/female coming on here moaning puts off even more people.

I've had 2 meets in 4 years, this is not a fuck fest, if you want a fuck go to the pub, odds are better. This is a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats the only 3 times ive managed too get any replies and not ghosted its brutal

Moaning and negativity are not going to do you any favours. Just engage with people. "

three replies and three veris is a lot more than some guys on here i’d bet.

your doing not bad.

and as the other person said moaning about it will probably get you even less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you read profiles?

Like all the likes/dislikes or just look at the pics and fire a message?

Always take a no reply as a no thanks

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By *rijj OP Man
over a year ago

paisley

Im meaning just chatting aswell i dont expect too meet that often i know its not a fuckfest lol

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By *rijj OP Man
over a year ago

paisley

Yes always read profiles and half the time i dont even get a reply but i agree no means no 100%

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

I get a load of no replies.

Guess what? I'm not for them.

Yep, it's not fun, it's not great, but just chalk it up to experience.

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By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Seem too be struggling on here hardly anyone replies they just read n ignore its brutal

Anyone else experiance this "

The fab guidance is that if you aren't interested, you should just delete the message. It stops filter avoidance in the future, combative responses, and repeated questioning of why why why etc.

Personally I respond to far too many saying I'm not interested etc and it does me no favours. The guidance is there for good reason.

Jigs

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By *range lilyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm the same mate lol its the ratio of guys to women on here I think. Just need to keep on plodding away.

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By *uffolkJohnMan
over a year ago

Newmarket

"Im meaning just chatting aswell i dont expect too meet that often i know its not a fuckfest lol"

Tbf mate, getting advice on meeting of the forum is a bit like asking the Scotland football team what it's like to play in a world cup final.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Seem too be struggling on here hardly anyone replies they just read n ignore its brutal

Anyone else experiance this "

If I read your message I wouldn’t reply, due to a couple of things:

1. Spelling mistakes and punctuation.

2. Poor profile.

I’m not the grammar police, but use of a full stop and knowing when to use ‘to’ and ‘too’ is a good start.

Also, would you meet a 99 year old? Really?

Pics are not brilliant and your profile seems negative.

Your profile is your shop window, so think how you could make it positive and interesting, or at least a little less heavy on the negative vibe.

Hope this helps.

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By *undeegent80Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Too be fair the ratio seems like at least 10 blokes to every women on here.

Don’t get yourself down about it though.

It’s polite to get a thanks but no thanks message back in my books though.

However not everyone is a match, we all have different likes, interest’s, kinks we ain’t all going to pair up.

The thing this place suffers bad with is the lack of people who think because it’s a swingers then standard are out the window. An then there’s the attitude of people not being able to take no for an answer and turn nasty when told no.

Honestly find someone who ticks all your boxes and you tick all the requirements they are looking for. Chat and engage with them an see where it goes.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Sorry not meaning too moan it was ment as a genuine question "

I get that. But you’re moaning here and on your profile. “Not much luck” is an entitlement statement. You’re not. None of us are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is unlike some atleast you've met a few. There are folk that struggle to meet anyone on here.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Thats the only 3 times ive managed too get any replies and not ghosted its brutal "

Hod oan a minute! Three folk have replied, you've got your leg over with two, and the other watched you drill for oil? That's 100% success rate in my book! You should be toasted, not ghosted.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

To all guys.

As expressed above.

The FAB guidance states no reply - not interested - move on.

You need a different approach.

Messaging is a very small part of the FAB and swinging culture.

So is the meets section...

Improve your presence improves your chances.

Offline - attend organised socials, events and clubs. Network. Be seen.

Online - be active in forums, chat discussions. Have a good profile with good images. Network. Be seen.

If you network with active swingers and are accepted into their social groups. You can be invited to more intimate private gatherings.

Do the work. Reap the rewards..

Your welcome.

End of discussion.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"Seem too be struggling on here hardly anyone replies they just read n ignore its brutal

Anyone else experiance this

If I read your message I wouldn’t reply, due to a couple of things:

1. Spelling mistakes and punctuation.

2. Poor profile.

I’m not the grammar police, but use of a full stop and knowing when to use ‘to’ and ‘too’ is a good start.

Also, would you meet a 99 year old? Really?

Pics are not brilliant and your profile seems negative.

Your profile is your shop window, so think how you could make it positive and interesting, or at least a little less heavy on the negative vibe.

Hope this helps.

Totally agree with this.

Your age will also be a limiting factor, a lot of us have kids around your age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point on being on here with insecurities, just think anyone who doesn’t get to know you is missing out

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By *oyeur 777Man
over a year ago

glasgow

"Seem too be struggling on here hardly anyone replies they just read n ignore its brutal

Anyone else experiance this

If I read your message I wouldn’t reply, due to a couple of things:

1. Spelling mistakes and punctuation.

2. Poor profile.

I’m not the grammar police, but use of a full stop and knowing when to use ‘to’ and ‘too’ is a good start.

Also, would you meet a 99 year old? Really?

Pics are not brilliant and your profile seems negative.

Your profile is your shop window, so think how you could make it positive and interesting, or at least a little less heavy on the negative vibe.

Hope this helps.

Hey Mrs, that was brilliant. Could you do a profile analysis for me please?

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Seem too be struggling on here hardly anyone replies they just read n ignore its brutal

Anyone else experiance this

If I read your message I wouldn’t reply, due to a couple of things:

1. Spelling mistakes and punctuation.

2. Poor profile.

I’m not the grammar police, but use of a full stop and knowing when to use ‘to’ and ‘too’ is a good start.

Also, would you meet a 99 year old? Really?

Pics are not brilliant and your profile seems negative.

Your profile is your shop window, so think how you could make it positive and interesting, or at least a little less heavy on the negative vibe.

Hope this helps.

Hey Mrs, that was brilliant. Could you do a profile analysis for me please?"

After "My bucket list is" a colon or hyphen would seem more apt than a comma. Numerous full stops are missing, and Sydney University stopped perving Fab in the 90's.

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