FabSwingers.com forum: What do you look for when considering to reply?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, was just wondering if any ladies or couples on here can give us single guys some advise on the best way to start a convo and make a good first impression. I'm always polite, send a face pic and if ignored do not continue to message. I make sure I read profiles as to not waste anyone's time but getting a response or even getting a message opened seems to be a rare event. Iv been told I'm a pretty attractive guy and on a night out I have no problem atall with women. I'm confident, well groomed, always play safe and don't let anyone down when it comes to meets.from what iv heard alot of guys have the same problem on here so I assume that alot of us guys might be tarred with the same brush as guys that have let women or couples down in the past. Also iv been told that most people on the site have their own clicks and arent lookong for new guys to join them however im not sure how true that is. What do you all look for when considering to correspond with a single guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send me a message and I'll see what I'm working with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, the guy has to be dominant and can accommodate. I'm not fan of tattoos or piercings but everyone and their dog has them. Not looking for one offs ...

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Send me a message and I'll see what I'm working with

I’ll play this game too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I even open the message il read your profile and make up my mind then.

So the actual message dosnt matter really

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before I even open the message il read your profile and make up my mind then.

So the actual message dosnt matter really

So what do you look for in a profile? Is their anything in particular you would look to avoid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shoulders back and own the message . Go out there and smash it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before I even open the message il read your profile and make up my mind then.

So the actual message dosnt matter really

So what do you look for in a profile? Is their anything in particular you would look to avoid?"
for me personally I hate knobshots..we females know what they look like so no need for 80 pictures from different angles.

A good pic of what shape/size of body type and a bit about what your after.

Simple.

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

You’ll really shag a 99 year old

Look at interests, pics, oh and who’s verified you as well can help or hinder

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Female… Check

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"Before I even open the message il read your profile and make up my mind then.

So the actual message dosnt matter really

Pretty much the same here.

There needs to be something about the profile that sparks my interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ll really shag a 99 year old

Look at interests, pics, oh and who’s verified you as well can help or hinder "

Nothing wrong with keeping your options open

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

A pulse (joking)

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Before I even open the message il read your profile and make up my mind then.

So the actual message dosnt matter really

So what do you look for in a profile? Is their anything in particular you would look to avoid?"

Who you've verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the profile first. If something catches my attention then I'll reply to most messages (unless it's just a hi or it's really cringey).

I very very very very very rarely reply to a message if I don't like the profile.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

It's pretty rare that a lady-person will message me first, but I need to see evidence of a similar sense of humour to mine early-doors else I'll quickly lose interest. She could be drop-dead-gorgeous with the skills of a pornstar, but if there's no potential rib-tickling going down, then it's my balls, and yer no playing.

Op - be yourself and find your own path. What every woman wants is different to the next, and most of the time they don't even know what they want, and they want it yesterday. I'd rather get one meet doing it my way than fifty meets doing it how I'm told to.

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By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

95% of it comes down to the message and profile. I often don't even look at their pics. Only if it passes those then for the remaining 5% I'll check for attraction to a face pic and actual connection from the conversation. The pool becomes absolutely tiny for decent men, and then those who actually meet.

The vast majority of messages are abusive, threatening or full of creepy language, blatent red flags etc. It's exhausting. I see so many supposed 'good guys' moaning on here they can't get meets who I've personally received abusive opening messages from.

When it comes to profiles it's about basic effort: a few basic pictures, verifications, completing all the required fields to show some personality, putting your actual interests in & age range and then being genuine in your bio. If I'm not interested in the same things or the profile is blank in a few places, I will reply and say no. End of. I'm not wasting time sending messages to ask basic questions because they haven't bothered.

That's my two cents but hope it helps.

Jigs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"95% of it comes down to the message and profile. I often don't even look at their pics. Only if it passes those then for the remaining 5% I'll check for attraction to a face pic and actual connection from the conversation. The pool becomes absolutely tiny for decent men, and then those who actually meet.

That's my two cents but hope it helps.

Jigs

What's an example of creepy language, worried I'm bring creepy and don't know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and if people don’t like that then leave it there.

I also block peoooe I have no intention of meeting. If only couples and single females done the same then it would be a lot better place

Might not be good at the time but after least you’re know where you stood

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By *idas ManMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Shoulders back and own the message . Go out there and smash it ! "

Troy?!

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Hi, was just wondering if any ladies or couples on here can give us single guys some advise on the best way to start a convo and make a good first impression. I'm always polite, send a face pic and if ignored do not continue to message. I make sure I read profiles as to not waste anyone's time but getting a response or even getting a message opened seems to be a rare event. Iv been told I'm a pretty attractive guy and on a night out I have no problem atall with women. I'm confident, well groomed, always play safe and don't let anyone down when it comes to meets.from what iv heard alot of guys have the same problem on here so I assume that alot of us guys might be tarred with the same brush as guys that have let women or couples down in the past. Also iv been told that most people on the site have their own clicks and arent lookong for new guys to join them however im not sure how true that is. What do you all look for when considering to correspond with a single guy? "

From experience, OP, you could have a really good opening message and put yourself across well, only to get rejected for something you can't control.

9 times put of 10, the rejections I get from couples specify that my cock is too small for them. I can't control it, but it affects the number of replies I will get.

Just do your best and as long as you're pretty hung, you'll do really well

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By *iltycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Greenock

We're quite partial to

"Hi. Howz u?"

As an opener.

Normally that will get a reply of.

"we're good. You?"

So yeh... Eloquence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From experience, OP, you could have a really good opening message and put yourself across well, only to get rejected for something you can't control.

9 times put of 10, the rejections I get from couples specify that my cock is too small for them. I can't control it, but it affects the number of replies I will get.

Just do your best and as long as you're pretty hung, you'll do really well

Jesus Christ man....you're obsessed with your cock size. I've seen countless threads where people (myself included) have reassured you that there is absolutely fuck all wrong with your boabie.

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