FabSwingers.com forum: Why do st8 guys say they are bi but not on their profile

By *plofsinners OP Couple
over a year ago

Haddington

Recently added males who could see our profile. My other half wants to explore his bi side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recently added males who could see our profile. My other half wants to explore his bi side "

I guess so they can explore at their own pace and without getting loads of messages that would go unreplied and potentially make him look bad .

Maybe

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Ah the old "FAB straight".

Lots of reasons. The main one, to be socially accepted by the sheep majority.

bi men are stigmatized.

They are no quite gay enough. Not quite straight enough.

So not quite accepted in either camp.

Funny enough, not a problem in the women's camp because the sheep majority love to see women kissing!!

But men kissing, "oh no", definitely not acceptable...

Shame really. Ut its just the way it is.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Lots of intersecting reasons! But… research has shown that cis bi men (and men who are attracted to people regardless of gender or across the gender spectrum) often aren't open about their sexuality because they fear stigma, judgement and being outed to others. They also fear being perceived negatively by partners because of their sexual experiences as LGBTQIA+ folk.

So a shout out to all the bi, pan, queer, questioning and LGBTQIA+ men who are exploring or becoming more at home in their own sexuality, wherever they are in that journey - you are sexy however you identify! A x

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

I have found the reason on here guys who are bi have straight on their profile is they know that there are women on here who will not meet bi guys. So they lie on their profile so that they still have a chance with those women.

I always respond to "straight" guys that I'm not interested in meeting them if that is the reason they haven't put bi or bi-curious on their profile.

Guys who have straight cause they are unsure/have never been with a guy are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the real world it would be cruel to out someone who isn't ready to come out , I don't see why here would be any different , everyone has to take it at their own pace and make that decision for themselves , usually admitting it to themselves takes just as much courage as admiting it to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its The bi guy's that say there straight, that im keeping my eye on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found the reason on here guys who are bi have straight on their profile is they know that there are women on here who will not meet bi guys. So they lie on their profile so that they still have a chance with those women.

I always respond to "straight" guys that I'm not interested in meeting them if that is the reason they haven't put bi or bi-curious on their profile.

Guys who have straight cause they are unsure/have never been with a guy are different."

I kinda agree to an extent. There is always the bi curious option for them tho. Best be honest.

I had a "bi mmf" years ago arranged by a female FWB at the time. Guy claimed bi but when it came to it he could get hard for female but went soft as soon as I touched him. Ended up a horrendous meet and awkward for all involved.

Honesty is always the best policy. You will be found out very quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't have to say they are bi to attract bi/gay men

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By *aney Mac40Couple
over a year ago

paisley

Why put labels on it why not just enjoy new experiences I like being with a girl but I don’t label myself as bisexual x

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By *aney Mac40Couple
over a year ago

paisley

I would have no problem meeting with a bi guy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why put labels on it why not just enjoy new experiences I like being with a girl but I don’t label myself as bisexual x"

It's not about labels. It's about transparency. Some people don't like bi guys. Being bi with a straight profile is misleading to folks who wish not to play with bi

Just my humble opinion tho.

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

We look for bi guys but get loads of messages from guys who are straight on profile but say bi in messages. Have been caught twice by guy saying he's bi then after fun with me ran a mile

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By *ally dugsCouple
over a year ago

Motherwell

They just be be honest with themselves about their true sexuality

Honesty costs nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of intersecting reasons! But… research has shown that cis bi men (and men who are attracted to people regardless of gender or across the gender spectrum) often aren't open about their sexuality because they fear stigma, judgement and being outed to others. They also fear being perceived negatively by partners because of their sexual experiences as LGBTQIA+ folk.

Cis Bi men, what a load of bull!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

A lot of women won’t meet bi guys so most will put straight.

It’s difficult enough for single guys to get a meet without adding to the restrictions.

Personally I prefer bi guys but we are entitled to our preferences.

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By *Sweet94Couple
over a year ago

dunfermline

From what we have seen most straight guys will says anything on the of chance they get to play with the mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what we have seen most straight guys will says anything on the of chance they get to play with the mrs

Are you actually suggesting that men on here use underhanded tactics in the quest of sex.

That's some wild accusations your throwing around there.

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By *loodmoon101Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Each person has there own reasons for putting down there sexuality

I prefer to up front about it

And that's my preference as i enjoy men and women tvs trans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some guys aren’t bi but don’t mind a bit of ‘play’ in the course of actual play. Myself included. Have zero attraction to blokes, tvs etc do absolutely nothing for me but if someone is full on engaged in a meet with my wife then I’ll happily join in, in the spirit. It’s a marked difference.

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