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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play? I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol Ta
C x"There is no pressure at all. The venue is two floors, the ground floor is a "social area" like a normal pub or bar where the people just chatting to know each other. The other floor is the playing area. So you'll perfectly at your ease at ground floor. | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "See this is exactly what gives me the fear because we don't actually know anyone who goes to the club as its mainly single males we chat to on here.dealt with cliques enough at high school, dont really want to be dealing with it for fun lol C x | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "I’ve not met this posse, must pay more attention the next time I’m there. | |||
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"I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves. " Put on your big boy pants and go yourself  | |||
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"If I put my big boys pants on will you hold my hand plz  "Nope. A man should be able to walk into a club by himself  | |||
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"If I put my big boys pants on will you hold my hand plz
Nope. A man should be able to walk into a club by himself "Yea that’s true  | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "We are relatively new and don’t find chatting to people we don’t know easy but we love cjs and there is no posse everyone is friendly ! | |||
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"If I put my big boys pants on will you hold my hand plz
Nope. A man should be able to walk into a club by himself "To be fair iv been to cjs alot now and still haven't walked in myself  | |||
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"We have been to cjs a few times... whoever this 'clique" is...we are yet to find out. Everyone is super friendly, we have never came across anyone who we felt was rude and the single men do tend to be respectful. We have always had a great night, and I (wife) have always felt completely safe. Now we are going in and saying hello and hugging people we have chatted to on previous visits and always have a great time getting to know new faces! Caroline and her staff are incredible! We were there on Saturday, and I took a bit of a funny turn at the end of the night, felt a bit faint. Caroline instantly got me water and got my husband for me... After that I was given a cup of tea and a home made bit of caramel cake, then another couple we have met on the few times we have been, kindly took us home. Hopefully that sums up just what cjs is like! Always had the best time visiting!! " And the nuts are free! | |||
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"And the nuts are free!" Yes they are! But you have to eat the whole ones first!!! The game was upped on Saturday though...we even got skittles and Crisps!! We were spoiled!! | |||
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"And cake and food " Yes! Can't forget about the buffet!! | |||
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play? I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol Ta
C x"I am going along on Saturday for the second time. No plan, agenda or optimism | |||
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"And cake and food " I totally forgot there was grub!! | |||
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play? I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol Ta
C x"You've nothing to worry about. I'm the least confident person in the world, and I've always felt comfortable there. There's a friendly crowd and absolutely no pressure to do anything. You'll have an enjoyable time if you go, I'm sure. | |||
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play? I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol Ta
C x"Hello, it is entirely normal to feel this way even in a day to day social meet. I havent attended CJs but have only read good things about it. I used to be so anxious goin to meets and events but have met so many genuine and lovely people at all kinds of meets and events (lots of amazing sex and stories too) and now its just a heap of fun. I'm sure you both will have a great time and it would be great to hear how u got on? Cheers | |||
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" To be fair iv been to cjs alot now and still haven't walked in myself "Carried? Flew? Tunneled? Thrown? I need to know | |||
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play? I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol Ta
C x""You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "When we first went, we went direct to CJs, and we saw there are clicks for sure in certain groups. But that's maybe because folk feel relaxed with each other. Since then we goto the pre socials and have enjoyed CJs much more as your already relaxed and have spoken to some people. Was at fancy dress night at the weekend and it was a great night. There is no desire for yous to play on your first night, use it as a social evening if you like. Staff are also really good. Feel free to message us with any Questions | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "No need to pm me, you can say what you wish here. | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
No need to pm me, you can say what you wish here.
I’m gutted I never got a PM I mean I regard myself as one of the furniture in cjs  "Been twice this year. My posse must be lonely without me | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
No need to pm me, you can say what you wish here.
I’m gutted I never got a PM I mean I regard myself as one of the furniture in cjs
Been twice this year. My posse must be lonely without me "Defo I’m missing you loads xx | |||
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"CJ’s is great when we went we met a couple for a social first (usually a post on here with people saying where they will be) and it got us “over the door” easier as we where both really nervous! as soon as we where over the door nerves gone and it was just like a normal night out with the bonus of play rooms up stairs. Go with 0 expectation that you will play and if you feel comfortable enough and do play then it’s a bonus! " Was reading this excited to see something like “met some great people there” but nope…  ha ha ha.
It’s a great night out and as always it is what you make it. As Mr G says go with zero expectations and a willingness to chat to people and amazing times can be had. X | |||
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"How often do they hold coupled only evenings?" If you have a look at the clubs website there’s info there on dates but usually 2 a month for couples & single F nights. Good one is the Fun for All nights but single M spaces get booked up quickly. Millie | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
See this is exactly what gives me the fear because we don't actually know anyone who goes to the club as its mainly single males we chat to on here.dealt with cliques enough at high school, dont really want to be dealing with it for fun lol
C x"Definitely get yourself along to pre-drinks or social event which tend to be on the same night as the club nights. I sometimes sit with friends but Ian & I make a point of talking to new folk and aren’t stuck to each other all night so it makes it easier for folk to chat. Millie | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
See this is exactly what gives me the fear because we don't actually know anyone who goes to the club as its mainly single males we chat to on here.dealt with cliques enough at high school, dont really want to be dealing with it for fun lol
C x"We have attended cjs a few times and our 1st time was super welcoming we didn't feel that there was any groups yes some ppl know each other but my advise if to just say hello to peeps we have always found 99% of ppl very chatty and nice | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "I've never felt alienated at Cjs always had a wonderful time, but I do chat with people, I've been there and when I've spoken to someone new they've told me nobody has spoken to them until me. At which I replied it works both ways, if you won't talk to the other people in the room, they are not going to talk to you! | |||
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It's defo something we are considering even if it's just the social aspect at the minute
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
I've never felt alienated at Cjs always had a wonderful time, but I do chat with people, I've been there and when I've spoken to someone new they've told me nobody has spoken to them until me. At which I replied it works both ways, if you won't talk to the other people in the room, they are not going to talk to you!"This exactly. On my first visit I was waiting on people approaching me and when they didn't I viewed it as clique. So glad I tried again and now I go fairly frequently and I make sure I talk to people and mingle. People get confused with cliques and friends | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
I've never felt alienated at Cjs always had a wonderful time, but I do chat with people, I've been there and when I've spoken to someone new they've told me nobody has spoken to them until me. At which I replied it works both ways, if you won't talk to the other people in the room, they are not going to talk to you!
This exactly. On my first visit I was waiting on people approaching me and when they didn't I viewed it as clique. So glad I tried again and now I go fairly frequently and I make sure I talk to people and mingle.
People get confused with cliques and friends
"See I can be very shy if I don't know anyone and I think this might be part of my issue lol I think I'm going tk have to make a friend before we go haha mr is fine he can talk to anyone but I'm a lot more reserved than him C x | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol
I've never felt alienated at Cjs always had a wonderful time, but I do chat with people, I've been there and when I've spoken to someone new they've told me nobody has spoken to them until me. At which I replied it works both ways, if you won't talk to the other people in the room, they are not going to talk to you!
This exactly. On my first visit I was waiting on people approaching me and when they didn't I viewed it as clique. So glad I tried again and now I go fairly frequently and I make sure I talk to people and mingle.
People get confused with cliques and friends
See I can be very shy if I don't know anyone and I think this might be part of my issue lol I think I'm going tk have to make a friend before we go haha mr is fine he can talk to anyone but I'm a lot more reserved than him
C x"A good icebreaker is to perhaps compliment someone on their outfit, or tell them they seem to know their way around and could they give you some first timer pointers, much as you've done here. We also usually advertise that we are attending and try to get chatting to people beforehand so you know there will be someone to chat to! | |||
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After reading all the messages here. It's made me feel a little more at ease. Will be attending CJ's on Saturday on my own. Was getting a little nervous as it's my 1st time on the scene.  | |||
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"I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves. Put on your big boy pants and go yourself "100% this I don’t understand why guys keep Posting that they require a female sidekick to attend a club it’s a bull s**t excuse to try and get laid man up and go by yourself and just go out without expectations and be friendly and chatty and you’ll have a great night you might not get to play with anyone but I’m pretty sure you’ll have a great night if your just after your leg over go get a lady of the night. | |||
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"I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves. Put on your big boy pants and go yourself
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Posting that they require a female sidekick to attend a club it’s a bull s**t excuse to try and get laid man up and go by yourself and just go out without expectations and be friendly and chatty and you’ll have a great night you might not get to play with anyone but I’m pretty sure you’ll have a great night if your just after your leg over go get a lady of the night. "There is another reason or two as to why they want to go in with a female. 1 - so they can get into the couples room (which is out of bounds to single guys!) and 2 - it's cheaper for guys to pay the couples price. Who the heck are they fooling? I don't believe any man who says they can't go into a club by themselves | |||
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"I have always wondered what Cjs was like also. Really want to go but would prefer the first time I do to have a female sidekick with me. Help settle the nerves. Put on your big boy pants and go yourself
100% this I don’t understand why guys keep
Posting that they require a female sidekick to attend a club it’s a bull s**t excuse to try and get laid man up and go by yourself and just go out without expectations and be friendly and chatty and you’ll have a great night you might not get to play with anyone but I’m pretty sure you’ll have a great night if your just after your leg over go get a lady of the night.
There is another reason or two as to why they want to go in with a female. 1 - so they can get into the couples room (which is out of bounds to single guys!) and 2 - it's cheaper for guys to pay the couples price.
Who the heck are they fooling? I don't believe any man who says they can't go into a club by themselves "Me either and I have done plenty of times | |||
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"It was good having it there after working up an appetite " Wait. THERE'S FOOD? | |||
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"If I put my big boys pants on will you hold my hand plz
Nope. A man should be able to walk into a club by himself "Or perhaps wheel them selves in | |||
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"Me and the mr have spome about attending cjs, was just wondering what it was like? Is it quite chill or can there be pressure to play? I'm not the most confident person around new people and can be quite self conscious Even if anyone wants to private mail so I can ask all my daft questions so I don't look like a twat on the forum lol Ta
Happy to answer any questions if you mail me
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"It was good having it there after working up an appetite Wait. THERE'S FOOD?" Is Caroline doing a buffet again!? I need to get back ASAP | |||
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"I’m actually thinking of going on Friday or Saturday this week. What’s the best night to go please? " You're best to check what dates that it's open on CJ's profile because its only open certain nights. Look for KinkyCJ or check the website to see what's on and when.  C x | |||
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"I’m actually thinking of going on Friday or Saturday this week. What’s the best night to go please? " My vote goes for a Fun For All night, however check the upcoming events as previously mentioned, and see if any of the nights appeal to you. | |||
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"I’m actually thinking of going on Friday or Saturday this week. What’s the best night to go please? " Saturday this week is couples and single women only, so if you want to go as a single man, it’ll need to be another evening. | |||
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"I’m actually thinking of going on Friday or Saturday this week. What’s the best night to go please? " Couples and single females this Saturday so You’re outta luck there check cjs profile for dates | |||
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"You will more than likely be alienated as you are not one of the CJ s posse lol "Well as a complete outsider and southerner lol, I've never been alienated, nor have I noticed any posse on our visits. I've always felt welcome, and everyone has always been polite and spoken to me at some point during the night. | |||
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