FabSwingers.com forum: After 8 club

By *untimes8 OP Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

hi folks just a wee update to let you know we are doing all we can to get open asap, toilets are just about finished new floors went in last week, 9 rooms are built with beds doors etc all done so rubbing down walls ready for painting, reception and lockers areas are built and getting filled and painted asap, bar area is well on way as is the lounge new seating got delivered yesterday, still got a lot to do but we will open asap, hope to see you all soon xxx

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By *ngelnfugyCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

great effort

see you soon

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By *rmani5Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow /Blackpool /Amsterdam Liverpool

Never been but heard good things this is what we need am always away to England because there aren't any good clubs hear can't wait to attend z

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By *ilkand2Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Canny wait

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

This is great news , we can’t wait to get back to the club

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By *oggingnfloggingCouple
over a year ago

fife

We can't wait for the opening

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By *ennyjMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Great effort being put in ,

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By *aughtybutnice5Man
over a year ago

ulverston

Is ice lady from Dunblane still on scene

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Glad to hear everything is going to plan.x

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Oh nice, hoping to make After Eight my first club experience after hearing lots of good things

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By *r humanMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Great news can’t wait see the new place thanks all people working work on it take lot of hard running swingers club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh yay! Exciting!

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Fab news thanks for all you’re doing x

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By *ave9by9Man
over a year ago

Perth

Great work. We're all waiting patiently. Tired of driving hundreds of miles to get to a decent club

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By *idandnancy95Couple
over a year ago

Fife

Wonderful news!!!

can’t wait to get back and see everyone again

xxx

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think as long as people know what's going on, they'll be happy when you're open.

What I'd say is to make sure things are setup the way that makes you (as owners) feel content with it.

Mandy

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By *horman11Man
over a year ago

Thurso

Great news, you have put a lot of hard work in to get it ready so far

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By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

So excited to hear the progress & cannot wait for opening night!

Good luck with the continuing works.

Jigs xx

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I sense a wee trip through to Edinburgh is looming. Good luck with the final touches.

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By *ruetothisMan
over a year ago

Looking forward to this opening up again!

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By *hebs maloneyWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Can't wait to meet up with everyone again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cannot wait to get back to after8 and seeing everyone again. Been so long

xxx

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

Thanks for the update. A lot of us here are keen to know what's happening and looking forward to coming along when it's ready xx

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By *acmanecosseMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Excellent stuff looking forward to joining in again after long time away

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By *ornyguy9120Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Great to hear.

Looking forward to returning

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Looking forward to trying the new venue

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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Very much looking forward to visiting once your open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking forward to you reopening, its been so long!!

B x

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

"Looking forward to you reopening, its been so long!!

B x"

After party's Bonnie's

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By *uncouple3636Couple
over a year ago

Dundee

Oh looking forward to this opening up. We're going to make the trip down to see it for sure

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By *loobookMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

looking forward to you opening and catching up with everyone after so long.best of luck with the rest of the works

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

Great news; well done. Can't wait to get the next update already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking forward to you reopening, its been so long!!

B x

After party's Bonnie's

Hell yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh excited for it to open. Never been to any club and new to this. Shame it wasn't open last night as we stayed in Edinburgh.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Oh excited for it to open. Never been to any club and new to this. Shame it wasn't open last night as we stayed in Edinburgh."

We felt the same. In Edinburgh with my pal for the weekend

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By *ubmissive Couple4funCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Never been but we will when it opens

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By *omandsubcplCouple
over a year ago

Turriff

Always great to have another venue to visit! Keep us posted! X

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By *assNGuyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Looking forward to you reopening, its been so long!!

B x

After party's Bonnie's

Hell yes

Trust our invite will be in the post

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By *ilthyOnesCouple
over a year ago

galashiels

"hi folks just a wee update to let you know we are doing all we can to get open asap, toilets are just about finished new floors went in last week, 9 rooms are built with beds doors etc all done so rubbing down walls ready for painting, reception and lockers areas are built and getting filled and painted asap, bar area is well on way as is the lounge new seating got delivered yesterday, still got a lot to do but we will open asap, hope to see you all soon xxx"

Need any help??

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By *ittlebitofpleasure100Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Where is the new venue about?

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By *cottishEdinguyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

This is amazing news! You have been missed

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By *dinburghcouple77Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Exciting news

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By *ide em cowgirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Have to admit I'm getting pretty excited for my first club experience in the future. With it closer there are no excuses. Keeping eyes peeled for up dates

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By *idandnancy95Couple
over a year ago

Fife

"Where is the new venue about? "

Unfortunately we won’t know until they are ready to open but I’m sure it will be made worth the wait

they never disappoint!

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By *ilthyOnesCouple
over a year ago

galashiels

Can’t wait!

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By *aldimeatMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Very keen to see the place. I never came before but looking forward to making new friends.

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By *cotsguy888Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Great news, I've missed this place and a few faces

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By *mudg3rMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Terrific news and great work guys. Really hope opening day/night is a date I can make it along. Best of luck.

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By *idKnightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Been too long, looking forward to the reopening!

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By *lay_N_cum2Couple
over a year ago

Somewhere in Scotland

Is there going to be a grand opening??? Can we get a lift ?? Ahahahahha….

Liz and George xx

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By *cottish gentMan
over a year ago

Dumbarton

Exciting times! I've never visited a club before.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Can't wait to visit when it opens

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By *ShowCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sounds like a plan,

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By *ilthyOnesCouple
over a year ago

galashiels

Any updates on this yet????

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By *ischiefandmayhem69Couple
over a year ago

cupar

Good morning all. Any news of opening?

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

Work is still ongoing but hopefully soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Work is still ongoing but hopefully soon. "

Great news: been on my mind lately that I’d love to get back to those Thursday nights x

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By *our Average shy GuyMan
over a year ago

east lothian

Wow that is refreshing to know not to far to travel to a club again Result

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By *randmrsG123Couple
over a year ago

Port Glasgow

Thanks for the update, we have never been but we will be looking to come and break our duck here

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By *exybreeksMan
over a year ago

East Calder

Is it still going to be in the same area of town or is it moving to the east end?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it still going to be in the same area of town or is it moving to the east end?"

It's out by hermiston gait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a rough time frame for the grand opening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any day time opening time slots planned?

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By *erryandjuneCouple
over a year ago

Livingston

Hermiston Gait would be very handy. Could even buy donuts on the way home!

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

"Hermiston Gait would be very handy. Could even buy donuts on the way home!"

At least you'd be guaranteed your hole

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By *irsten.LWoman
over a year ago

around the corner from you

Looking forward to paying a visit to the new place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wondering if there was any update on getting an opening date?

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Brilliant news. Looking forward to attending.

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By *ischiefandmayhem69Couple
over a year ago

cupar

An update in forum would be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look forward to trying this club out when it opens. Been asked numerous times to go to CJ’s but it’s just too far, nice to have somewhere more local. Open to offers if someone wants to show me the ‘ropes’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you still be at the place u used to be at or have u moved somewhere else .TA

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By *anuelMassageDelightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Are you planning on opening party?

Do you need a masseur?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hermiston Gait would be very handy. Could even buy donuts on the way home!"

Is it just me that doesn’t like dunking doughnuts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if there was any update on getting an opening date?"

Hmmm…. Sometime never at this rate

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By *ab_girl2021Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Can't wait for the club to open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hermiston Gait would be very handy. Could even buy donuts on the way home!

Is it just me that doesn’t like dunking doughnuts?

Thankfully it’s not Dunkin Donuts but Krispy Crème..love myself a chocolate custard…

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By *untimes8 OP Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Hi guys, here is an update. We have outside nearly finished, reception is done bar a few small things and locker room is finished. Lounge was ready till we had a flood last week so had to fix a few things but now back on track. Bar was done but got a new bar top to fit. Rooms are all complete but need a touch up here and there. Bdsm side almost finished. Heating and lighting all installed. Toilets all fitted. The disabled toilet it is still to be gutted. 99% of people are behind us those who are knocking us. I have one pair of hands and a few good friends helping out when they can we are really trying to be open in October.

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By *ittleCurvyChickWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the rainbow

Well done it sounds like you've had a mammoth task. I can't wait to see it x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Hi guys, here is an update. We have outside nearly finished, reception is done bar a few small things and locker room is finished. Lounge was ready till we had a flood last week so had to fix a few things but now back on track. Bar was done but got a new bar top to fit. Rooms are all complete but need a touch up here and there. Bdsm side almost finished. Heating and lighting all installed. Toilets all fitted. The disabled toilet it is still to be gutted. 99% of people are behind us those who are knocking us. I have one pair of hands and a few good friends helping out when they can we are really trying to be open in October."

Nearly there!!!! We'll see you soon x

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By *oppy CheeksWoman
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Visiting Edinburgh weekend of 15th/16th October so would love to visit if the club is open by then x

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

Great effort and we can’t wait to come visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def interested and hope all goes well with Club x

Going to try visit as many Clubs in UK as i can this year x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scotland needs your club. There is a need for variety and plenty of business to go around. Looking forward to visiting in the future.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Great job, looking forward to visiting

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By *ndermykiltMan
over a year ago

Perth

Perhaps there are members on fab willing to volunteer they're time and have the skills and abilities needed to help complete the work required?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hermiston Gait would be very handy. Could even buy donuts on the way home!

Is it just me that doesn’t like dunking doughnuts?

Thankfully it’s not Dunkin Donuts but Krispy Crème..love myself a chocolate custard…

Ha! Don’t like them either! Best doughnuts are the custard ones from Morrisons

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By *ennyjMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Lot of hard work by sound of it , look forward too you getting opened

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By *oggingnfloggingCouple
over a year ago

fife

From what we have heard there's been a great deal of work and time invested and everyone involved needs a massive thank you and hopefully they will be able to open soon especially now we have lost another Scottish club taking us down to one

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By *ischiefandmayhem69Couple
over a year ago

cupar

There only ever was 2 really let's be honest

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By *heekyweebissimWoman
over a year ago

fife,

Ohh well done, lots of hard work by the sounds of it. Hope to see you soon

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By *r humanMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

That great news hear we must patiently think still lot of hard still done at new after eight club sure thank all people and staff work on right now can’t wait see it

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Congrats on getting this far.

Like many, I can't wait to have a venue in the capital again and particularly closer to home. It will become a hub for those who do not fit into the normal sexual boxes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps there are members on fab willing to volunteer they're time and have the skills and abilities needed to help complete the work required?

I know some that already have been……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't wait to visit. Been going to CJs decently but its such a long journey. After8 would be much closer for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

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By *inkyCJWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

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So why comment if not been. Cj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't wait to visit. Been going to CJs decently but its such a long journey. After8 would be much closer for us"

CJs is a super friendly club and the people are by in large very open and candid. It's all begins with yourself - you go in all positive and wonderful things happen. Insecurity leads to a rubbish experience.

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By *othiandoggersCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

So why comment if not been. Cj "
strange comment if never been

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

I often find with clubs the folk that moan its cliques at clubs are are the same ones stood not making any effort to talk to anyone clubs are the same as anywhere u have to make an effort

Personally I been to both cjs and after8 found chatting to folk at both venues very easy and have made some amazing pals from doing so

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By *ennyjMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Never go on hearsay ,make the effort and judge for yourself

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've only been to cjs once and I loved it very well run clean and friendly

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

Nothing as strange as folks

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By *anuelMassageDelightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Fantastic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really looking forward to

Seeing the end result

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By *mudg3rMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I’ve been to CJs, after 8 and kudos as a single guy. I can confirm there ain’t no cliques as far as I’m concerned. Chat away. Always a good night out.

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By *ing_of_the_swingers400Man
over a year ago

edinbugh

Looking forward to seeing you all when the new A8’s opens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw nice

think we will have to pay a wee visit soon L and T

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By *oggingnfloggingCouple
over a year ago

fife

We are just back from visiting the new after8 venue and all we can say is the excitement is real it is looking fantastic well done to everyone involved in all the work done really can't wait for opening

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By *r humanMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Can’t wait to visit new after eight club sound like going best swinging club uk thank all people work right now think real goods job

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By *loobookMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"We are just back from visiting the new after8 venue and all we can say is the excitement is real it is looking fantastic well done to everyone involved in all the work done really can't wait for opening "

looking forward to seeing u both and cant wait for the opening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

So why comment if not been. Cj "

Is it not allowed? It’s possible to find out these things without actually attending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been to CJs, after 8 and kudos as a single guy. I can confirm there ain’t no cliques as far as I’m concerned. Chat away. Always a good night out. "

You mean a good night in? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored. "

How do you know this if you have never been. Wouldn't it make more sense to experience something personally before sharing your opinion as fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were first timers at after8 a few years ago after getting in and finding our way around everyone was very welcoming and chatted away to us all night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were first timers at after8 a few years ago after getting in and finding our way around everyone was very welcoming and chatted away to us all night. "

I’ve been to A8s a handful of of times, other first timers or second timers chatted to us, also weird ones, but regulars, ignored us, we tried to start a chat, all we got was, “excuse me, there’s……over there…..” I know that doesn’t make it cliquey but when you see a large group of people all huddled together the body language says, don’t come over, that’s cliquey-ness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored.

How do you know this if you have never been. Wouldn't it make more sense to experience something personally before sharing your opinion as fact. "

I have been to After 8 when it was open - so…. Fact!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were first timers at after8 a few years ago after getting in and finding our way around everyone was very welcoming and chatted away to us all night.

Maybe they didn’t want to chat. Like I say we didn’t have that experience. Everyone chatted away to us no issues and we didn’t feel like there was any “cliques”. If we had seen any groups that looked like they didn’t want to chat we just wouldn’t approach them it wouldn’t have ruined our night either way.

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By *and Solo 2Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

totally agree with you.All clubs are the same.If you put the effort in then you will reap the rewards.If you are quiet and hiding in the corner then why should other people make the effort ? Everyone makes the effort and its a great night.I've been to After 8 and CJ's quite a bit and I just love going out meeting like minded people and having a laugh. Gx

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

So not true

never heard so much crap in my puff

I’m a regular at many different places and I go out my way to try and approach newbies every week I’m

There ! And I’m not the only one to do so, however nothing worse when it’s like trying to pull teeth with newbies or folk sitting with faces like fizz because they’re not getting the attention they want

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By *uiet_69Man
over a year ago

Near

Love to go and just have a drink and see where the night takes me. I’ll get to it one day

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over a year ago

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored.

So not true

never heard so much crap in my puff

I’m a regular at many different places and I go out my way to try and approach newbies every week I’m

I wasn’t just talking about CJs, but After 8 when it was open years ago. Were you there too?

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored.

How do you know this if you have never been. Wouldn't it make more sense to experience something personally before sharing your opinion as fact.

I have been to After 8 when it was open - so…. Fact! "

It's not a fact if you're basing one club you've never been to on an experience from another. All the clubs are different.

It's like comparing Oranges to a Snickers in terms of which makes the better omelette.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a fact if you're basing one club you've never been to on an experience from another."

I’m not and I didn’t - read it properly

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By *cotfinnCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

How can you find a place you have never been as cliquey? Not fair. Been 3 times and did not feel that.

Clubs always have the 'regulars' / 'the gang' and then there is everyone else... from what I have seen every club needs a wee gang who set the scene. Not necessarily cliquey ...

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored.

How do you know this if you have never been. Wouldn't it make more sense to experience something personally before sharing your opinion as fact.

I have been to After 8 when it was open - so…. Fact! "

I was asking about your comment on cjs.

You have never been but finding it cliquey. Is it me being thick but I don't understand how you can find a place cliquey if you have never been

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By *raggle RockMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

My first ever post, usually just lurk and read the forums, but thought I would give my thoughts.

I first went to a club 10 years ago to broaden my mind coming from a conservative family upbringing, so completely out of my comfort zone. I went to CJ’s and it was awkward, but mostly on my part.

If it wasn’t for a lovely woman who started chatting to me, it would have been a completely awkward night. I just didn’t feel like I fitted in, but that was me.

I didn’t go to another club for a few years, and when I did it was After 8. It was a fairly quiet Wednesday night and I spent all of my time, sitting on the couch, wondering if I truly belonged in such a place.

A couple of months later, I went again, this time I was remembered and chatted to a couple of people. I never went often, a couple of times a year for about two years before the plague hit.

I have never done anything in the club. I am someone that, to this day struggles with confidence and striking conversations with new people, although I never have an issue once I get speaking (as this message proves). Being a single guy and not having anyone that I could attend with, I never went with expectations, only to broaden my mind, meet people and see what comes from it.

I enjoyed some of the nights when I didn’t speak because it was the atmosphere. Sometimes I did get conversations and that made the night better.

I know my struggles, but I think people take what they want from the nights. I have seen people that are just bold as anything (who I wish I could be) who will join any conversation and make an opening with ease, breaking through the ‘clique’ that comes with people who regularly attend and have formed close friendships.

Then there are the ‘expectants’ who come in with a cocky attitude just thinking it is a different kind of sauna, who then leave very disappointed.

Then there are people like me, who probably don’t belong, but like the open-mindedness and, frankly, the liberating idea of the clubs, who took 10 years to get naked at CJ’s greedy girls' night in August and participate.

I look forward to After 8's return, it is where I felt most comfortable (a Glaswegian being comfortable in Edinburgh is always a big deal!).

I enjoyed my time at CJ's in August far better than I did 10 years ago, but that was because I tried to engage a bit more, trying to find an opening to start talking, which worked but might not if I go again.

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over a year ago

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored.

How do you know this if you have never been. Wouldn't it make more sense to experience something personally before sharing your opinion as fact.

I have been to After 8 when it was open - so…. Fact!

I was asking about your comment on cjs.

You have never been but finding it cliquey. Is it me being thick but I don't understand how you can find a place cliquey if you have never been

You can find out a lot about places just through chat. I’ve never been to Torture Garden but i know you’d have to be a confident person to be able to wear clothing items that are not worn at regular parties, or show body parts that would be deemed inappropriate in other clubs.

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored.

So not true

never heard so much crap in my puff

I’m a regular at many different places and I go out my way to try and approach newbies every week I’m

I wasn’t just talking about CJs, but After 8 when it was open years ago. Were you there too? "

Yeah went to after 8 a couple times and everyone made me feel very welcome u fortunately some of the older men a bit uncomfortably so

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over a year ago

"Hope the new A8s isn’t cliquey like it was before. I’m finding that CJs is cliquey and I’ve never even been there

What do you base your findings on. Strange comment

I have my reasons - my comment isn’t strange at all

Many places are cliquey whether they mean to be or not, but those who go on a regular basis tend to stick to the same people, any new comers (pun not intended) who wish to join in, are then ignored.

So not true

never heard so much crap in my puff

I’m a regular at many different places and I go out my way to try and approach newbies every week I’m

I wasn’t just talking about CJs, but After 8 when it was open years ago. Were you there too?

Yeah went to after 8 a couple times and everyone made me feel very welcome u fortunately some of the older men a bit uncomfortably so "

Couple times I was there we ended up on our own to watch the TV…. Even the ‘bar’ stuff wouldn’t chat…. A few times when we’d arranged to meet another couple there was fun, bIt hit or miss.

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All this is just my opinion which anyone is entitled too, but that doesn’t mean anyone is entitled to fucking argue about it, accept my opinion and move on FFS

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By *r humanMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

No do right to your own opinion but people every right to challenge it as make no sense call cjs cliquey when never been there or give it a try

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