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By *cotlad OP   Man
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No mate not doing anything wrong its just part n parcel of this site happens to us all keep ur chin up and keep trying maybe even go into chat that may help.

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just single guys get rudeness. We messaged a guy today reply was can I see a face pic of Diane, if not I'm not interested. He must have them queuing at his door !

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Goes with the territory, never let it get you down... Just keep trying.

Good luck

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By *autious CoupleCouple
over a year ago

home

It happens to us all so don't let it get to you just move on we say

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By *cotlad OP   Man
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Im glad its not just me but people are quite ignorant i find. I know its to be expected but i always thought a bit of decency goes a long way if your not interested just say no thanks

U know what i mean folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not just single guys get rudeness. We messaged a guy today reply was can I see a face pic of Diane, if not I'm not interested. He must have them queuing at his door ! "

Thats not rudeness. Thats not willing to shag anyone just for the sake of it. Dont confuse that with folk who think theyre above replying to messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am the same just feels like U are doing something wrong I did start thinking to just leave I don't get any messages tbh and I don't know why maybe no ones interested in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im glad its not just me but people are quite ignorant i find. I know its to be expected but i always thought a bit of decency goes a long way if your not interested just say no thanks

U know what i mean folks"

Single guys generally get next to 1% messages, couples 50% more, single women 100% more,,,,,daily, clicking Delete instantly seems an easy option to sort messages.Nothing ignorant or rude about it, if your adding to the headache, expect to be deleted/ignored.

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets. "

When this subject raises its head I always have a wee giggle , why is it rude not to respond to a message , did the people who u message ask for the message in the first place ?

No one is under any obligation to answer any message especially when its not been asked for , rudeness works two ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads of messages from guys all the time I click on their profiles see what it says if it doesn't meet what I've said in my profile I delete simples if you send a cock pic I don't even look at your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets.

When this subject raises its head I always have a wee giggle , why is it rude not to respond to a message , did the people who u message ask for the message in the first place ?

No one is under any obligation to answer any message especially when its not been asked for , rudeness works two ways. "

Rudeness?? No, arrogance I'd say!!! You're a credit to the site!!

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Because of comp problems I currently have 302 messages......should I spend all my free time replying to them all...even the ones with "hi" or "x" as the message,I do try to reply to the ones that write a half decent message or add a face pic as I ask in my profile but I admit I'm very tempted to be "rude" and "arrogant" n delete all

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Because of comp problems I currently have 302 messages......should I spend all my free time replying to them all...even the ones with "hi" or "x" as the message,I do try to reply to the ones that write a half decent message or add a face pic as I ask in my profile but I admit I'm very tempted to be "rude" and "arrogant" n delete all "
well thats a fair one but mind only 284 of those are mine ffs ok and the other 10 with boaby shots

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Pfft I didn't include the ones from you....they get deleted automatically

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

No one us under any obligation to reply to any emails they receive ..like most if it's an email from someone who is of intrest to me then I will reply and if not then I won't

I don't make any excuses for that and if they have taken the time to read my profile fully they will find the thanks but no thanks there .

I can understand guys frustration to a certain degree but in truth guys only you know what's in your emails to females so if it ain't working then change it xxx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Well, I can not keep on top of my current messages and have quite a lot currently still unread.

I will say however, if someone hasn't bothered to read my profile, then no reply, if they are under my age preference, then no reply, if it is a 'Hi, how are you' then no reply, I think there is a pattern emerging here....

Also, if they haven't made an effort with their own profile, then that will probably merit a no reply also.

However, If I do get past the stage to actually open the message, and they have sent me a decent message then they will always get a polite message back, even if they are outside my current criteria of what I am looking for.

Some evenings I do get far too many messages, and if I am currently already chatting to someone I am interested in meeting, then my concentration is 100% on them, so to all of you guys who have received no replies, the are a multitude of reasons, not rudeness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not just single guys get rudeness. We messaged a guy today reply was can I see a face pic of Diane, if not I'm not interested. He must have them queuing at his door !

Thats not rudeness. Thats not willing to shag anyone just for the sake of it. Dont confuse that with folk who think theyre above replying to messages"

And you would send a face pic on your first message to someone you've never spoken to before. I'm not saying asking for a pic is rude but, send me a face pic of Diane, if not I'm not interested is definitely rude in my books.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, aint we guys terrible,,,we must this, we must fully do that or else, fit the criteria etc.

Ever thought, while wifey is out, hubbys sat there filling his boots, pinging random,quick as you like asks/messages, simply because he likes da pictures?

Probably most he read was, yer age and if "bi" is stated.

I understand the need to be specific in order to limit unwanted attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you send a message and it gets deleted without a reply, then that is the reply! Really nothing to take offence to.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"If you send a message and it gets deleted without a reply, then that is the reply! Really nothing to take offence to. "
Exactly most would just take that as a no but some take offence thn mail you back calling you all the names under the sun so i give a damn do i hell more to take up my time that someone like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Par for the course!!!You'll soon realise it's fairly standard!!!You'll get used to it.Took me a while and if I can succeed in finding then so can you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its us guys to blame...we are all to eager when thers not enough girls to go round..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im fine with no reply/delete etc,,, people blatantly contradicting what they state gets on my tits a tad though.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"its us guys to blame...we are all to eager when thers not enough girls to go round.."
My own opinion is that when guys sign upto this site they just assume that women are up for shagging just about anyone on here but that couldnt be further from the truth .

women are far more fussy in who they choose to have fun with than men will ever be its a fact so the sooner guys deal with that the sooner they will iunderstand that meets aint going to fall into their laps without a little effort in the emails they send ..you need to learn to sell yourself always remember your profile is your window of oppertunity so make it intresting .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why dont we have a ladies choice week whereby its the ladies who mail and do the chasing of the men of their choices...and see how many guys get pissed off of any unwanted attention...

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"why dont we have a ladies choice week whereby its the ladies who mail and do the chasing of the men of their choices...and see how many guys get pissed off of any unwanted attention..."
Lmao ah the other side of the coin been there done that and been accused of being too pushy just cant win sometimes lol

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets.

When this subject raises its head I always have a wee giggle , why is it rude not to respond to a message , did the people who u message ask for the message in the first place ?

No one is under any obligation to answer any message especially when its not been asked for , rudeness works two ways.

Rudeness?? No, arrogance I'd say!!! You're a credit to the site!! "

I would say I am , never been or had a timewaster , always happy to help anyone new , I am a chatroom moderator , and I give my time to the site , i would say ur dead right , but just because i choose not to answer peoples mail who have neither looked at my profile , referred to my profile in any way , dont fit my criteria , outwith my age range , one word mail and one sentence mail , that doesnt make me arrogant , but cheers for ur input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont mind a girl who knows what she wants and isnt afraid to go get it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets. "

If they dont reply then its a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to say, "nobody has ever gotten a meet by being insistant,persistant" but quite often they have.

Not my style personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I read the mail I will reply even to say no thx it's only polite...but if im.honest I mail guys that interest me don't wait for them to.mail me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets. "

A case in point.

We opened our profile up to single guys about an hour ago and changed the wording to a very specific criteria.

20 messages later it's clear not a single one of them took the time to read what Mrs K is looking for.

Are we rude for deleting without a reply?

We'd say no!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets. "

WOWWW god knows why baby you are well fit love ya file love what you put nothing wrong with it or with u

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By *cotlad OP   Man
over a year ago

lanarkshire


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets.

WOWWW god knows why baby you are well fit love ya file love what you put nothing wrong with it or with u "

Thanks alot guys xx

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets.

A case in point.

We opened our profile up to single guys about an hour ago and changed the wording to a very specific criteria.

20 messages later it's clear not a single one of them took the time to read what Mrs K is looking for.

Are we rude for deleting without a reply?

We'd say no!!"

definitely not , which was my point exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" .....but just because i choose not to answer peoples mail who have neither looked at my profile , referred to my profile in any way , dont fit my criteria , outwith my age range , one word mail and one sentence mail , that doesnt make me arrogant , but cheers for ur input "

I wouldn't argue with or disagree with you on any of the examples you quote, guys who fall into these categories don't deserve a reply. However there are plenty of guys who do do things properly and still get treated with disdain and rudeness.

And to the OP, if you're waiting for a lady to make initial contact with you, then I'm afraid you'll be in for a long wait. I can state categorically that I've never had an initial message from a lady, and although I've got a fair few negatives working against me, I still regularly meet.

Personally OP, I'd fill out your profile wording a bit, other than that it's the 3 'P's; patience, patience, and patience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This, "if i have'nt replied or your message is deleted,take it as im not interested", i understand that totally.

Does seem to be the quantity/amount of messages that brings about the need for people to delete,would it be fair to say quite often,even the potential people who have read your profile fully and with that,thinking they may suit, sent a message, get deleted along with the "no interest" messages?

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

for us discretion is a must.

from this site,any single females we know,is due to meeting at swinging related events.

the only couples we know,is due to meeting at swinging related events.

the only tv's we know,is due to meeting at swinging related events.

this is not so when relating to single males.i know two single males,work colleagues,who openly speak of meets,swinging clubs they have been to,experiences they have had.

we know the vast majority of guys on this site,are likely to be discrete,and it's unfair to tar them all with the same brush,but to be honest,we cant take a chance not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here for god know's how long

and still waiting on something to happen through here!

i have hope lol

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Been here for god know's how long

and still waiting on something to happen through here!

i have hope lol"

It won't 'happen'. You (not just you) have to work at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found checking out the local swinging scene helps, chatting to other swingers always has benefits, even if its just meeting someone new. But stand strong and do your best to get yourself noticed, it'll happen sooner or later!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the same problems but it's like anything in life, unless you're a jammy bastard you need patience and it will come (pardon the pun...)...taken my fair share of knock backs and 'not my type' replies but i'm sure over time you will get people mailing you asking to meet who are..let's say, 10 pinters in old currency. chin up old boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ohh where is it, when is it, how many other folk are goin to be there"?

Thats a typical message from a so called, "interests are, group meets, adult parties,gangbangs" solo male, even better, he often has "meet today" proudly showing when you invite him!!

And "meeting today" does'nt suit them,lol??

You'll maybe understand if i kinda laugh at the next moaning, "why cant i get a meet" thread, that, lets face it, will appear soon.

People still have the right to pick n choose who and when they want to meet,,b, b,b b. blah de blah, dont ping up,, meet today then!!! Just a suggestion.

"He's having a go at us single guys", no, you guys are doing it, im not making it up !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he's picky who he wants to meet tho...

Not every guy wants to attend a party or a gang bang tho.

Maybe his meet today is just actually maybe ...just to meet,a woman alone...shocker Ehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im talking about after they themselves have done the, "im interested" message, "where is it?" They just need to see the "at ours" part of meet detail, "when is it",if the meet is advertised by those wanting the meet, that too is stated usually.

And i did cover the "everyones entitled to pick and choose" which pretty much is "maybe they dont like the group thing or parties", so, ok, they dont like the group thing or parties but still ping a message acting interested??

Quite often folk get peeved at people not " read our profile fully",some seem to not even read a "meet today fully".

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Maybe the time of day the party/gangbang whatever it is does not suit them, maybe they dont get on with other people that are attending, maybe the location is too far/too close to home ...maybe the reason they ask the questions then choose not to attend... who knows, who cares.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the time of day the party/gangbang whatever it is does not suit them, maybe they dont get on with other people that are attending, maybe the location is too far/too close to home ...maybe the reason they ask the questions then choose not to attend... who knows, who cares."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the time of day the party/gangbang whatever it is does not suit them, maybe they dont get on with other people that are attending, maybe the location is too far/too close to home ...maybe the reason they ask the questions then choose not to attend... who knows, who cares."

Maybe you'd suss a lot of that by just reading the details and opt not to "act" interested in the first place

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"Maybe the time of day the party/gangbang whatever it is does not suit them, maybe they dont get on with other people that are attending, maybe the location is too far/too close to home ...maybe the reason they ask the questions then choose not to attend... who knows, who cares.

Maybe you'd suss a lot of that by just reading the details and opt not to "act" interested in the first place "

sorry how do you know who is attending a party? do you put a guest list on your profile? and do you give out an actual address, I think not!

If I were attending a party I would like to know who else was attending, where exactly the party was... Glasgow or Edinburgh etc not pinned down enough, wouldnt like to go to a town my relatives lived in for example...

So when my initial message would be send I would be interested however my interest may fade when the information is given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply highlighting the contradiction of having certain things listed in interests, when the reality is,, no, not really, it is'nt a genuine interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tands....I'm shocked at you!!!

Surely because you are on a sex site and you list threesomes and party's you should just turn up and shag anything that's there...and be gratefull for the invite ...tut tut mrs

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"Tands....I'm shocked at you!!!

Surely because you are on a sex site and you list threesomes and party's you should just turn up and shag anything that's there...and be gratefull for the invite ...tut tut mrs

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always send a guest list out prior to any party we have,saves some turning up on the night to find there worst enemy is also there,we would rather they pulled out than ruin a good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tands....I'm shocked at you!!!

Surely because you are on a sex site and you list threesomes and party's you should just turn up and shag anything that's there...and be gratefull for the invite ...tut tut mrs

"

God, i just used the term "parties" as an example of what maybe listed on someones interests, that once you talk to them you soon realise its of no interest at all.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"We always send a guest list out prior to any party we have,saves some turning up on the night to find there worst enemy is also there,we would rather they pulled out than ruin a good night "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have...can accom

On our profile...

But we can't all the time....

Should we take it down???

Just because you have something in your preferences...does not mean its set in stone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have...can accom

On our profile...

But we can't all the time....

Should we take it down???

Just because you have something in your preferences...does not mean its set in stone...

"

And replace it with , luv turning threads on their head ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I should start another.

Headline....

Why do folk care about other folks profiles..

Or is that too long?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always send a guest list out prior to any party we have,saves some turning up on the night to find there worst enemy is also there,we would rather they pulled out than ruin a good night "

Cool, i once put together a 12 couple, 5 solo fem, 5 single guy party. Did likewise, everyone knew who would be attending etc, not blowing my own trumpet, just felt compeled to convey it, by way of puting in perspective that if you are fortunate enough to invite people who list "adult parties" in interests and they genuinely do like "adult parties",all it ever is, is great fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets.

When this subject raises its head I always have a wee giggle , why is it rude not to respond to a message , did the people who u message ask for the message in the first place ?

No one is under any obligation to answer any message especially when its not been asked for , rudeness works two ways. "

Always remember to read a profile before you message someone read what there looking 1st read there age limits read what they really have to say. Do all that 1st and you may get a reply remember Messages like " lets fuck " from guys are a little rude messages that are a copy n paste to me are a little rude. Always remember women are not lumps of meat and are just not just here for your pleasure

only my opinion

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Am i doing something wrong but some people i message seem to be ignorant and not reply and as of yet have had no meets.

When this subject raises its head I always have a wee giggle , why is it rude not to respond to a message , did the people who u message ask for the message in the first place ?

No one is under any obligation to answer any message especially when its not been asked for , rudeness works two ways.

Always remember to read a profile before you message someone read what there looking 1st read there age limits read what they really have to say. Do all that 1st and you may get a reply remember Messages like " lets fuck " from guys are a little rude messages that are a copy n paste to me are a little rude. Always remember women are not lumps of meat and are just not just here for your pleasure

only my opinion "
woman n pleasure ....................well if your in to pains in the ass ah suppose so .................ahll get ma coat

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