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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best " Haha “they” … not for you then? | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? " nope | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? nope " I’m here to learn… What put you off? I have an image of what they may be like and it terrifies me ?? | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? " "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? nope I’m here to learn… What put you off? I have an image of what they may be like and it terrifies me ??" definitely not the one to ask | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously " Hahaha brilliant. Yeh I class myself as superb in bed (obviously) but not if I’ve just eaten. Less bloated the better. You’re in the mood to be honest. The standard at these places… generally poor? | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously Hahaha brilliant. Yeh I class myself as superb in bed (obviously) but not if I’ve just eaten. Less bloated the better. You’re in the mood to be honest. The standard at these places… generally poor? " No comment | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously Hahaha brilliant. Yeh I class myself as superb in bed (obviously) but not if I’ve just eaten. Less bloated the better. You’re in the mood to be honest. The standard at these places… generally poor? No comment " Wise. | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously Hahaha brilliant. Yeh I class myself as superb in bed (obviously) but not if I’ve just eaten. Less bloated the better. You’re in the mood to be honest. The standard at these places… generally poor? No comment " I was extremely stereotypical and tried to message you but I am blocked due to you being age-ist Strangely was attracted to your wit rather than just your tits. In another life eh | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously Hahaha brilliant. Yeh I class myself as superb in bed (obviously) but not if I’ve just eaten. Less bloated the better. You’re in the mood to be honest. The standard at these places… generally poor? No comment I was extremely stereotypical and tried to message you but I am blocked due to you being age-ist Strangely was attracted to your wit rather than just your tits. In another life eh " It's no wit .just brutally honest | |||
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"Yea that’s pretty much how most clubs are if your shy it’s hard going but every night is different " Not shy at all. I guess the concern would be not finding anyone remotely attractive but I guess it’s easy enough to leave I suppose | |||
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"I'm also a newbie to a club but been thinking of trying CJs at some point if I get brave enough though what I've seen on the forums is that as long as you go wih no expectations and it being a fun night out then it should be fun I would probably go to the presocial before hand to calm my nerves and meet some folk beforehand " Eh.. something tells me you’ll do fine | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best " Very much this! | |||
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"And you wouldn't be 1 of 1000s single guys (unless you go for a greedy girls event), they keep tabs on male / female ratio x" Didn’t know this | |||
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"In my experience it depends on the crowd, some are cliquey who make very little effort to make new comers feel welcome, some are really good where a regular will bring you into the fold with a game of spin the bottle or similar but it’s also on you to make a decent impression and not turn up pissed or be painfully shy, and then if yer devishly handsome like myself someone will usually take a shine " I got roped into spin the bottle once, which I thought was like a kissing game. It was not a kissing game!! (Although some kissing did occur). Definitely a night to remember x | |||
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"I'm also a newbie to a club but been thinking of trying CJs at some point if I get brave enough though what I've seen on the forums is that as long as you go wih no expectations and it being a fun night out then it should be fun I would probably go to the presocial before hand to calm my nerves and meet some folk beforehand Eh.. something tells me you’ll do fine " You and a bootyfulday could go together, that way you would know someone in the same boat! Think I will change my middle name to cupid | |||
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"I'd caution a female to go herself, almost never happens but I know 2 that have and had bad experiences from pushy single guys luckily couples/staff intervened. I think they should only with an escort either guy it female friend. Some of the guys have no sense of boundaries or social cues and think being a sex club means the girl will fuck anyone. I've been to Ecclesia once and CJs twice so here's my experience as a relative newbie. I went with female friends and they both said that almost all the lone guys that go are creepy and desperate unless it's the male half of a couple that are regulars and it's basically just a social event for them instead of the pub or a guy meeting a couple as part of a planned MMF. They were right. The single guys that just go looking for sex are creepy corner lurkers that just kind of haunt the halls. It's weird. The ones that are that are confident enough to approach people just come across as desperate so also not good. Even the fun for all Saturday nights at CJs are mostly couples, females with a friend or one half of a couple just chilling with pals. Most of the fun happens between couples who then invite another or swap in the couples room. For a single male you're only likely chance of sex is getting invited to join in an impromptu gangbang by a couple playing in one of the open rooms. So if you'll fuck anything that's your best bet. Your chances of going and finding a lone female you find attractive and hit it off with is almost zero. I've had a brilliant night all 3 times. Didn't play inside the first one but loved watching and it was great foreplay for my friend and I. Played together and were watched the 2nd time until she squirted on some poor guy that got to close to the bed as he walked by, splashed his trousers and us and the onlookers all erupted in laughter so that killed the sexual sort but was a hilarious night. Third time we played together then were asked to join another couple beside us which was awesome. If you go with a couple you'll naturally end up chatting to others. It just happens at the bar or folk asking to sit beside you on the limited seating there is etc. It's very casual and laid back, everyone are kindred spirits if you get me so it's quite an open and relaxed space. Most negative comments about the clubs are from women who are just on this site not to swing but just to meet men individually and can be quite nasty about women that swing and enjoy gangbang. A lot of the regulars/cliques mentioned are people that have all slept each the same guy and there's jealousy, school yard politics at play etc but honestly if you go with a female friend for a new experience if nothing else it's usually great foreplay and hot watching/being around other people have sex and excellent foreplay for you both. Sorry if it comes across as arsey. I'm just being brutally honest as I respect the fact you've had the initiative to ask. Shows a degree of consideration and respect that most single guys on here don't have. There's obviously exceptions. Like if you're an absolute hunk but even then there's just so few single females looking to play it's likely only going to be couples that approach you. As an aside I'd also suggest changing your profile picture. Most women hate dick pics as a profile picture or being sent to them unless asked. If you ever see one of their inboxes you'll see why. Change it to your body or if you're brave enough/don't have employment concerns etc, like me, show your face. Goes a long way to making you stand out from the crowd and gives a degree of genuineness until you get verified or more so if you are. So many picture collectors and married guys that are just here for online thrills and escapism. Hope that's helps and sorry it's a bit long lol " If it wasn't for single guys attending, I wouldn't be going and i usually go by myself (sometimes via the pre CJs social). If anyone creeping gets too close all you need to do is tell them to keep their distance or get out the room. If they don't, staff won't hesitate to get them out the door completely. This is not something I see often, by far most single guys have been respectful and decent and I have had more issues with (male half of) couples. It's also unfair how men seem to get the most negativity when you'd be surprised how often they're being treated as a play thingy by females and couples who may have had a bit too much to drink and think it's ok to grab his arse or whatever. This isn't just in clubs, it seems to be the general outlook of a lot of females and couples on fab. Single men of fab - I'm glad you're here and I totally appreciate you attending clubs x | |||
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"I'd caution a female to go herself, almost never happens but I know 2 that have and had bad experiences from pushy single guys luckily couples/staff intervened. I think they should only with an escort either guy it female friend. Some of the guys have no sense of boundaries or social cues and think being a sex club means the girl will fuck anyone. I've been to Ecclesia once and CJs twice so here's my experience as a relative newbie. I went with female friends and they both said that almost all the lone guys that go are creepy and desperate unless it's the male half of a couple that are regulars and it's basically just a social event for them instead of the pub or a guy meeting a couple as part of a planned MMF. They were right. The single guys that just go looking for sex are creepy corner lurkers that just kind of haunt the halls. It's weird. The ones that are that are confident enough to approach people just come across as desperate so also not good. Even the fun for all Saturday nights at CJs are mostly couples, females with a friend or one half of a couple just chilling with pals. Most of the fun happens between couples who then invite another or swap in the couples room. For a single male you're only likely chance of sex is getting invited to join in an impromptu gangbang by a couple playing in one of the open rooms. So if you'll fuck anything that's your best bet. Your chances of going and finding a lone female you find attractive and hit it off with is almost zero. I've had a brilliant night all 3 times. Didn't play inside the first one but loved watching and it was great foreplay for my friend and I. Played together and were watched the 2nd time until she squirted on some poor guy that got to close to the bed as he walked by, splashed his trousers and us and the onlookers all erupted in laughter so that killed the sexual sort but was a hilarious night. Third time we played together then were asked to join another couple beside us which was awesome. If you go with a couple you'll naturally end up chatting to others. It just happens at the bar or folk asking to sit beside you on the limited seating there is etc. It's very casual and laid back, everyone are kindred spirits if you get me so it's quite an open and relaxed space. Most negative comments about the clubs are from women who are just on this site not to swing but just to meet men individually and can be quite nasty about women that swing and enjoy gangbang. A lot of the regulars/cliques mentioned are people that have all slept each the same guy and there's jealousy, school yard politics at play etc but honestly if you go with a female friend for a new experience if nothing else it's usually great foreplay and hot watching/being around other people have sex and excellent foreplay for you both. Sorry if it comes across as arsey. I'm just being brutally honest as I respect the fact you've had the initiative to ask. Shows a degree of consideration and respect that most single guys on here don't have. There's obviously exceptions. Like if you're an absolute hunk but even then there's just so few single females looking to play it's likely only going to be couples that approach you. As an aside I'd also suggest changing your profile picture. Most women hate dick pics as a profile picture or being sent to them unless asked. If you ever see one of their inboxes you'll see why. Change it to your body or if you're brave enough/don't have employment concerns etc, like me, show your face. Goes a long way to making you stand out from the crowd and gives a degree of genuineness until you get verified or more so if you are. So many picture collectors and married guys that are just here for online thrills and escapism. Hope that's helps and sorry it's a bit long lol " What a load of crap | |||
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"I'd caution a female to go herself, almost never happens but I know 2 that have and had bad experiences from pushy single guys luckily couples/staff intervened. I think they should only with an escort either guy it female friend. Some of the guys have no sense of boundaries or social cues and think being a sex club means the girl will fuck anyone. I've been to Ecclesia once and CJs twice so here's my experience as a relative newbie. I went with female friends and they both said that almost all the lone guys that go are creepy and desperate unless it's the male half of a couple that are regulars and it's basically just a social event for them instead of the pub or a guy meeting a couple as part of a planned MMF. They were right. The single guys that just go looking for sex are creepy corner lurkers that just kind of haunt the halls. It's weird. The ones that are that are confident enough to approach people just come across as desperate so also not good. Even the fun for all Saturday nights at CJs are mostly couples, females with a friend or one half of a couple just chilling with pals. Most of the fun happens between couples who then invite another or swap in the couples room. For a single male you're only likely chance of sex is getting invited to join in an impromptu gangbang by a couple playing in one of the open rooms. So if you'll fuck anything that's your best bet. Your chances of going and finding a lone female you find attractive and hit it off with is almost zero. I've had a brilliant night all 3 times. Didn't play inside the first one but loved watching and it was great foreplay for my friend and I. Played together and were watched the 2nd time until she squirted on some poor guy that got to close to the bed as he walked by, splashed his trousers and us and the onlookers all erupted in laughter so that killed the sexual sort but was a hilarious night. Third time we played together then were asked to join another couple beside us which was awesome. If you go with a couple you'll naturally end up chatting to others. It just happens at the bar or folk asking to sit beside you on the limited seating there is etc. It's very casual and laid back, everyone are kindred spirits if you get me so it's quite an open and relaxed space. Most negative comments about the clubs are from women who are just on this site not to swing but just to meet men individually and can be quite nasty about women that swing and enjoy gangbang. A lot of the regulars/cliques mentioned are people that have all slept each the same guy and there's jealousy, school yard politics at play etc but honestly if you go with a female friend for a new experience if nothing else it's usually great foreplay and hot watching/being around other people have sex and excellent foreplay for you both. Sorry if it comes across as arsey. I'm just being brutally honest as I respect the fact you've had the initiative to ask. Shows a degree of consideration and respect that most single guys on here don't have. There's obviously exceptions. Like if you're an absolute hunk but even then there's just so few single females looking to play it's likely only going to be couples that approach you. As an aside I'd also suggest changing your profile picture. Most women hate dick pics as a profile picture or being sent to them unless asked. If you ever see one of their inboxes you'll see why. Change it to your body or if you're brave enough/don't have employment concerns etc, like me, show your face. Goes a long way to making you stand out from the crowd and gives a degree of genuineness until you get verified or more so if you are. So many picture collectors and married guys that are just here for online thrills and escapism. Hope that's helps and sorry it's a bit long lol If it wasn't for single guys attending, I wouldn't be going and i usually go by myself (sometimes via the pre CJs social). If anyone creeping gets too close all you need to do is tell them to keep their distance or get out the room. If they don't, staff won't hesitate to get them out the door completely. This is not something I see often, by far most single guys have been respectful and decent and I have had more issues with (male half of) couples. It's also unfair how men seem to get the most negativity when you'd be surprised how often they're being treated as a play thingy by females and couples who may have had a bit too much to drink and think it's ok to grab his arse or whatever. This isn't just in clubs, it seems to be the general outlook of a lot of females and couples on fab. Single men of fab - I'm glad you're here and I totally appreciate you attending clubs x" I genuinely appreciate that level of response. I can absolutely see every scenario you’ve given and picture you’ve painted being accurate. It’s what I expected. The profile picture is advice I’ve had often. Previously I’ve had my body, me in a suit .. ‘ever my face granted but I can say that by far and away the most messages I get are when I have my gigantic cock as my picture. I know - it goes against everything we are led to believe but from my experience a large percentage of woman on here just want a massive and pretty looking cock. | |||
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" jeeez this thread just gets better You started it" haha you asked, I gave my opinion..everyone will have their own, best thing to do is try it for yourself and form your own | |||
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"That's definitely a true point, particularly with couples whuch is why I said in a club scenario you'd probably highly attractive to couples. Now if there was a singles only night an dot was restricted set exactly 50/50 males and females for example, different story mate. I'm just trying to give you a no bullshit response as I said I appreciate the fact you asked. I asked back when I first joined on my old profile as well and received a similar answer that I gave you but from multiple women, 2 of which I eventually ended up meeting. I didn't say anything was absolutes but like I say they restrict single males for a reason and its only males I've seen or heard of ring disrespectful, pushy or chucked out. Others have and will disagree and that's OK. Up to you decide if a response like mine is genuine or has any value to you " Wasn't that long ago that there was one scruff of a woman fighting another one over jealousy in the club, not a place I'd think was fun to be | |||
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"That's definitely a true point, particularly with couples whuch is why I said in a club scenario you'd probably highly attractive to couples. Now if there was a singles only night an dot was restricted set exactly 50/50 males and females for example, different story mate. I'm just trying to give you a no bullshit response as I said I appreciate the fact you asked. I asked back when I first joined on my old profile as well and received a similar answer that I gave you but from multiple women, 2 of which I eventually ended up meeting. I didn't say anything was absolutes but like I say they restrict single males for a reason and its only males I've seen or heard of ring disrespectful, pushy or chucked out. Others have and will disagree and that's OK. Up to you decide if a response like mine is genuine or has any value to you " I've had to be pretty firm on a couple ocassions with persistent pesterers. Also had an ocassion where the guy went in unwrapped, gave him second chance but tried take it off again. You have to be very assertive. | |||
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"Very in depth there. Keen to hear points you disagree with. It can't be all of it because half of it literally happened so if you're disagreeing about the attitude towards single males leek to hear why numbers are restricted and how many women you've seen being made to leave by staff or lone females approaching/pawing at men? " Try "reply and quote", so we know who you're responding to. Was this aimed at me? I maybe should have gone for "load of crap" instead of trying to explain it's really not only men. Common sense really to restrict numbers and keep a balance with men and women attending. And I have better things to do than sit near the exit to see who hasn't behaved and is made to leave, so I can't tell you how many have been escorted out. It really doesn't happen often, you'll probably get more issues at your local pub. If someone grabs your ass out of the blue, would you go running to management straight away to get them kicked out? A stern "hands off" will stop them. But if it happens to you, you can choose to report them, whatever would be best for you x | |||
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"No it was directed at the couple that said "what a lot of crap". I don't use the forum much so apologies for not using the reply and quote...starting to remember why I don't though. To echo another respondee and as I said already everyones experience is different. OP asked a question and I gave him my opinion based on my experience and that of others I know. Its obviously not the experience of every single person that ever went to CJs as I clearly said but I'm confident that what I said is correct for the majority in terms of the actual experience of lone men more the most part. The numbers aren't balanced as single females aren't restricted. There are also much more lone men than women that attend. OP, if you go, CJ herself will tell you why, she's very approachable and no bullshit. Dont get why when someone asks for opinions and someone gives one to them other people have to get snippy at the responses they don't like or disagree with. Just give yours and get on with your day If folk responded to the OP theh they can consider all those individual opinions and maybe their own mind up. Maybe if folk just stick to that we could save the bickering " No worries. Ignore my response | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously " Well don't let so many people finger you then. | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously Well don't let so many people finger you then. " lol shut it you | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously Hahaha brilliant. Yeh I class myself as superb in bed (obviously) but not if I’ve just eaten. Less bloated the better. You’re in the mood to be honest. The standard at these places… generally poor? No comment I was extremely stereotypical and tried to message you but I am blocked due to you being age-ist Strangely was attracted to your wit rather than just your tits. In another life eh It's no wit .just brutally honest " I agree, it's definitely not wit. | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously Hahaha brilliant. Yeh I class myself as superb in bed (obviously) but not if I’ve just eaten. Less bloated the better. You’re in the mood to be honest. The standard at these places… generally poor? No comment I was extremely stereotypical and tried to message you but I am blocked due to you being age-ist Strangely was attracted to your wit rather than just your tits. In another life eh It's no wit .just brutally honest I agree, it's definitely not wit. " just you wait | |||
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"If you like sitting in kitchens chatting you'll be absolutely fine, seems to be what they do best Haha “they” … not for you then? "if" i ever went to one I definitely wouldn't be sitting in the kitchen eating the buffet that a thousand previous fingers had been that's probably touched dirty assholes previously Hahaha brilliant. Yeh I class myself as superb in bed (obviously) but not if I’ve just eaten. Less bloated the better. You’re in the mood to be honest. The standard at these places… generally poor? No comment I was extremely stereotypical and tried to message you but I am blocked due to you being age-ist Strangely was attracted to your wit rather than just your tits. In another life eh It's no wit .just brutally honest I agree, it's definitely not wit. just you wait " Promises, promises. | |||
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