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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

You are being sensitive

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I have to like both if I’m meeting a couple but I’d probably say something in general about why I didn’t want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

"

You are definitely being a tad sensitive, if the Mrs doesn't find your man attractive what's she meant to do? Take one for the team?? I definitely wouldn't let Jane do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

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I've had that

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I once had a couple message me and when I declined their invite I was asked which one of them was putting me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once had a couple message me and when I declined their invite I was asked which one of them was putting me off "

Pmsl please tell me you said both

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

You are definitely being a tad sensitive, if the Mrs doesn't find your man attractive what's she meant to do? Take one for the team?? I definitely wouldn't let Jane do that. "

No your missing the point we just feel there's a more tactful way to reject like just do like we do and say sorry not for us.

What did they expect the response to be hold on I get rid of him and get someone more suitable

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on"

To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on

To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh "

Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Ultimately I think there needs to be attraction all round, but if there isn't then singling one person out and specifying that they are the reason seems a bit unkind.

K

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By *exicolaMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

Get what you are saying and I personally wouldn't single one person out from a couple.

That said, it's what single men (and women) go through daily on here. Thick skin well and truly required.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

You are definitely being a tad sensitive, if the Mrs doesn't find your man attractive what's she meant to do? Take one for the team?? I definitely wouldn't let Jane do that.

No your missing the point we just feel there's a more tactful way to reject like just do like we do and say sorry not for us.

What did they expect the response to be hold on I get rid of him and get someone more suitable "

They probably hoped that you would agree to meet without him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

You are definitely being a tad sensitive, if the Mrs doesn't find your man attractive what's she meant to do? Take one for the team?? I definitely wouldn't let Jane do that.

No your missing the point we just feel there's a more tactful way to reject like just do like we do and say sorry not for us.

What did they expect the response to be hold on I get rid of him and get someone more suitable "

I don't think I'm missing the point I understood what you wrote, they where being honest in their reply as to not meeting yous you didn't like that response, simple as that, happens alot of times on fab.

Block them and move on

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on

To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh

Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up"

I think the question of you being sensitive has been answered

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By *lunder WomanWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

As a woman that shoots straight from the hip I think it's best to be upfront the reason

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I don't think it's nice or necessary to single out one half of a couple as the reason not to meet.

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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


" I don't think it's nice or necessary to single out one half of a couple as the reason not to meet.

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I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think the couple said anything wrong. Very often here if you just say no thanks there’s a flurry of “but why” questions. They were direct not insulting in my opinion and perhaps they have found it’s best to be so. You were offended, that’s also your prerogative. As often said though one needs a thickish skin here.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It was pretty tactless I think

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"I once had a couple message me and when I declined their invite I was asked which one of them was putting me off

Pmsl please tell me you said both "

I asked what answer they'd be happy with

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

"

I get it, a polite no thanks would have sufficed.

Through probably they reading this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on

To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh

Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up

I think the question of you being sensitive has been answered "

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

"
you are perhaps being a wee bit sensitive by the delivery of the message .

There were other ways of saying thanks but no thanks without it coming in the form it did but perhaps the couple prefer to say outright why they do not wish to meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once had a couple message me and when I declined their invite I was asked which one of them was putting me off

Pmsl please tell me you said both

I asked what answer they'd be happy with "

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

"
a bit harsh but that's fab for you at times. Ironically we met him on Friday night and he's a charming fellow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it as a compliment that they really liked the female half.

Look for the positive, but yes if not into both no point

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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on

To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh

Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up

I think the question of you being sensitive has been answered "

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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago

the pub or in the nude in Paisley

We don't discriminate, we dislike everyone equally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't discriminate, we dislike everyone equally "

Best answer yet

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By *assNGuyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Personally we have never had that message yet but in reality we believe some chats have faltered because 1 of us isn't their type and believe both us have been the reason before. You can't be everyone's type so chin up and onwards

Fab really can be a roller coaster sometimes with the highs and lows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd agree with you, there's more tactful ways of saying it. Saying you're not for them is totally fine but singling one person out as the reason is unnecessary.

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther

We have had it too normally comes down to hubbies hight it would be much nicer to say as a cpl We don't feel your a good fit for us xx we have met your male half and he's an absolute gentleman BTW

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He looks better in real life people shouldn't judge by a picture

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"He looks better in real life people shouldn't judge by a picture "

How else are they supposed to judge online?

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By *OSCCOSMITH69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on

To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh

Not what we are doing we are putting a point out fir discussion so grow up"

You ve pretty much summed up why folk thing your being over sensitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say "you're not for me thanks", leaving the comment open to interpretation as to which half of the couple, or if neither floated my host.

If they persisted, I'd then rip the plaster and point out which one was a munter.

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

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Just you being sensitive. It seems you want the truth but delivered in a way that doesn't hurt your feelings. Or hurt your partners ego more to the point.

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By *edGlasgowMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"we had a couple say today no because the Mrs didn't like our Mr.

To us it would have nicer just to say sorry not what we are looking for other than single one of a couple out as seems a bit unfair rude or is it just us been sensitive

"

I definitely think you're being over sensitive.

To explain why, I'd say that as a single male (and it's probably the same for females) whe I get a rejection, or if someone doesn't reply, the the other person's reason for that is down to me, whether it's my looks, personality etc. Therefore I'm essentially being singled out in the same way your hubby is, I don't see the issue with this and I think that if you're going to put yourself out there, you need to be ready for the rejection.

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"He looks better in real life people shouldn't judge by a picture "

So you wouldn't even meet him going by his picture

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"He looks better in real life people shouldn't judge by a picture

So you wouldn't even meet him going by his picture "

Definitely coming across as pussy baiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on

To be honest telling the whole of fab that your husband wasn't wanted was harsh "

Wish I could post the Michael Jackson eating popcorn meme right now

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

Tbh your profile doesn’t give much away in terms of what you’re looking for, you may very well be part of a couple who also play alone and they were putting it out there that you’re most welcome to play with them or the female half of the couple. tad insensitive maybe but hey it’s fab

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

Did hurt feelings end this thread?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"We just feel there was no need to say who wasn't liked tbh seems harsh but blocked and moved on"

I agree. No need to single out one person.

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

Tactless , blunt , insensitive straight to the point - take your pick - welcome to Fab

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife


"Tactless , blunt , insensitive straight to the point - take your pick - welcome to Fab "

Or, honest

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire


"Tactless , blunt , insensitive straight to the point - take your pick - welcome to Fab

Or, honest"

Oops I forgot the honest part

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