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By *oShrinkingViolet OP   Woman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

So a year ago today I found a lump on my breast, didn’t take much notice figured it was hormonal and after my monthlies it would probably go away. It didn’t and within a couple of weeks on the 29th April I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

I hadn’t been actively checking my breasts for a number of years I had just gotten out of the habit of checking regularly.

I was really lucky the NHS moved quickly and by June I was having surgery and radiotherapy completed in sept, I’ve got medication to take for the next ten years but I’m cancer free and have a future to look forward to, my hair is slowly growing back and my scars are healing and I’m learning to love my new body and be thankful.

This past year has been traumatic, funny, amazing and a million other emotions along the way. I have lost more “friends” than I ever thought possible and even found that much of my family aren’t much support either when I really needed it. But what I also found was that I’ve made some amazing friends on fab who have been my rocks and saw me through many dark days. I have realised that the only person I truly need to worry about is myself and to stop giving into what other people think, that tomorrow is never promised so do what you want to do today, stop apologising for putting yourself first for a change !! It’s not selfish it’s self care !!

Please please please check yourselves regularly (men too) and encourage others to as well, you just never know what is around the corner

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

What a lovely heartfelt message…thank you!!… sending hugs and admiration for your courage (and others) (f) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you're doing better OP. It's something I don't often do, checking myself but I'm going to make a point of it now after reading your message. I've got my own health issues that my family don't know about as they're not sympathetic or supportive in any way. Best dealing with it and taking care of myself x

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By *ersatile-1Man
over a year ago

stirlingshire

I know two people in the last year who are in the same situation.

Thankfully medical science is amazing nowadays and it looks like they’ll be ok, but it’s brave women like you OP who will save lives.

Thank you.

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By *oShrinkingViolet OP   Woman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"Glad you're doing better OP. It's something I don't often do, checking myself but I'm going to make a point of it now after reading your message. I've got my own health issues that my family don't know about as they're not sympathetic or supportive in any way. Best dealing with it and taking care of myself x"

It’s easy to get out of the habit of checking my cousins partner also was out of the habit until she heard about me and she also found a lump same size position and type however hers had spread so she also had to have quite a few chemo sessions as well as the radiotherapy and only just finished a week ago, she kept her diagnosis and treatment quiet from a lot of folk until she got her all clear, me on the other hand I was straight on social media talking about it very open, if I was as private a person as she is then she might very well have not found the lump and things could have been worse. I can’t quite get how more people don’t talk about cancer and other illnesses more, to me it’s second nature I suppose having previously worked in care sector that no subjects are off topics, folk mention cancer and suddenly folk go quiet, folk talk about mental health and everyone goes quiet and then you hear the stories about people who got help too late or didn’t get the chance to get help anyhoo every day is a present as they say to enjoy

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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago

the pub or in the nude in Paisley

You're amazing. Glad you're the person you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you're doing better OP.

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By *dglasgow30TV/TS
over a year ago

glasgow

?? xx

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Absolute class

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

A lesson to us all to take a wee bit time to check ourselves and tell those you care for also . ( every days a school day wee can all teach and learn )

Take care and enjoy today .

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By *weetDreamsxpMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Friend had a really heavy flow over lockdown. Didnt get checked till too late. Stage 4. Something else to stay on top of.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

OP you are an absolute star. You are right. Talking about these things keeps it in people's minds. If it makes it easier for others to speak up that can only be a good thing.

Have a feel. If something doesn't seem right get it checked. Doctors would rather do 100 checks that turn out to be nothing than 10 that are too far gone for treatment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a year ago today I found a lump on my breast, didn’t take much notice figured it was hormonal and after my monthlies it would probably go away. It didn’t and within a couple of weeks on the 29th April I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

I hadn’t been actively checking my breasts for a number of years I had just gotten out of the habit of checking regularly.

I was really lucky the NHS moved quickly and by June I was having surgery and radiotherapy completed in sept, I’ve got medication to take for the next ten years but I’m cancer free and have a future to look forward to, my hair is slowly growing back and my scars are healing and I’m learning to love my new body and be thankful.

This past year has been traumatic, funny, amazing and a million other emotions along the way. I have lost more “friends” than I ever thought possible and even found that much of my family aren’t much support either when I really needed it. But what I also found was that I’ve made some amazing friends on fab who have been my rocks and saw me through many dark days. I have realised that the only person I truly need to worry about is myself and to stop giving into what other people think, that tomorrow is never promised so do what you want to do today, stop apologising for putting yourself first for a change !! It’s not selfish it’s self care !!

Please please please check yourselves regularly (men too) and encourage others to as well, you just never know what is around the corner "

You seem absolutely lovely.

Hope all is well in your world just now.

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I was in a similar boat to NSV, but my issue was getting the GP to actually get anything done (damn Covid).

I was made to endure any number of medication and diet changes to see if they could identify what was wrong, and on the 16th of April last year was confirmed as having bowel cancer.

It was removed early June, and after a series of chemo, started on the road to recovery.

I had a few chats with NSV and still look forward to the day I finally meet her, but like she said, it's important to listen to your body. If you've got a small niggling pain, blood in your pee or poop, feeling tired all the time? Then please go to your GP. They're their to help, and the NHS WILL do their best to help you. Yea it may be slower than going Private, but it WILL help.

Mandy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was in a similar boat to NSV, but my issue was getting the GP to actually get anything done (damn Covid).

I was made to endure any number of medication and diet changes to see if they could identify what was wrong, and on the 16th of April last year was confirmed as having bowel cancer.

It was removed early June, and after a series of chemo, started on the road to recovery.

I had a few chats with NSV and still look forward to the day I finally meet her, but like she said, it's important to listen to your body. If you've got a small niggling pain, blood in your pee or poop, feeling tired all the time? Then please go to your GP. They're their to help, and the NHS WILL do their best to help you. Yea it may be slower than going Private, but it WILL help.

Mandy"

You take care too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friend had a really heavy flow over lockdown. Didnt get checked till too late. Stage 4. Something else to stay on top of."

Sorry to hear this x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"So a year ago today I found a lump on my breast, didn’t take much notice figured it was hormonal and after my monthlies it would probably go away. It didn’t and within a couple of weeks on the 29th April I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

I hadn’t been actively checking my breasts for a number of years I had just gotten out of the habit of checking regularly.

I was really lucky the NHS moved quickly and by June I was having surgery and radiotherapy completed in sept, I’ve got medication to take for the next ten years but I’m cancer free and have a future to look forward to, my hair is slowly growing back and my scars are healing and I’m learning to love my new body and be thankful.

This past year has been traumatic, funny, amazing and a million other emotions along the way. I have lost more “friends” than I ever thought possible and even found that much of my family aren’t much support either when I really needed it. But what I also found was that I’ve made some amazing friends on fab who have been my rocks and saw me through many dark days. I have realised that the only person I truly need to worry about is myself and to stop giving into what other people think, that tomorrow is never promised so do what you want to do today, stop apologising for putting yourself first for a change !! It’s not selfish it’s self care !!

Please please please check yourselves regularly (men too) and encourage others to as well, you just never know what is around the corner "
Violet I’m so glad you are doing well .

I had a similar experience to you and found my fab friends a great comfort & support .

Many believe you can’t make true friends on fab but that’s just not true !

Here is a link to my post I posted way back then (10 years ago now can’t believe it was that long ago)if your interested in reading my story .

I'm glad I’m still here to talk about it too .

Take care & I hope you continue to do well .

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/76168

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a good post! I’m glad your getting better OP. I check often after my big sister having breast cancer a few years ago. Xxx

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By *oShrinkingViolet OP   Woman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"I was in a similar boat to NSV, but my issue was getting the GP to actually get anything done (damn Covid).

I was made to endure any number of medication and diet changes to see if they could identify what was wrong, and on the 16th of April last year was confirmed as having bowel cancer.

It was removed early June, and after a series of chemo, started on the road to recovery.

I had a few chats with NSV and still look forward to the day I finally meet her, but like she said, it's important to listen to your body. If you've got a small niggling pain, blood in your pee or poop, feeling tired all the time? Then please go to your GP. They're their to help, and the NHS WILL do their best to help you. Yea it may be slower than going Private, but it WILL help.

Mandy"

Defo need to get a lunch a date in soon x onwards and upwards

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By *oShrinkingViolet OP   Woman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"So a year ago today I found a lump on my breast, didn’t take much notice figured it was hormonal and after my monthlies it would probably go away. It didn’t and within a couple of weeks on the 29th April I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

I hadn’t been actively checking my breasts for a number of years I had just gotten out of the habit of checking regularly.

I was really lucky the NHS moved quickly and by June I was having surgery and radiotherapy completed in sept, I’ve got medication to take for the next ten years but I’m cancer free and have a future to look forward to, my hair is slowly growing back and my scars are healing and I’m learning to love my new body and be thankful.

This past year has been traumatic, funny, amazing and a million other emotions along the way. I have lost more “friends” than I ever thought possible and even found that much of my family aren’t much support either when I really needed it. But what I also found was that I’ve made some amazing friends on fab who have been my rocks and saw me through many dark days. I have realised that the only person I truly need to worry about is myself and to stop giving into what other people think, that tomorrow is never promised so do what you want to do today, stop apologising for putting yourself first for a change !! It’s not selfish it’s self care !!

Please please please check yourselves regularly (men too) and encourage others to as well, you just never know what is around the corner Violet I’m so glad you are doing well .

I had a similar experience to you and found my fab friends a great comfort & support .

Many believe you can’t make true friends on fab but that’s just not true !

Here is a link to my post I posted way back then (10 years ago now can’t believe it was that long ago)if your interested in reading my story .

I'm glad I’m still here to talk about it too .

Take care & I hope you continue to do well .

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/76168"

Hope you’re still doing well xx

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By *weetDreamsxpMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Friend had a really heavy flow over lockdown. Didnt get checked till too late. Stage 4. Something else to stay on top of.

Sorry to hear this x"

Thanks, fucking heartbreaking. Only in her early 30s.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"So a year ago today I found a lump on my breast, didn’t take much notice figured it was hormonal and after my monthlies it would probably go away. It didn’t and within a couple of weeks on the 29th April I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

I hadn’t been actively checking my breasts for a number of years I had just gotten out of the habit of checking regularly.

I was really lucky the NHS moved quickly and by June I was having surgery and radiotherapy completed in sept, I’ve got medication to take for the next ten years but I’m cancer free and have a future to look forward to, my hair is slowly growing back and my scars are healing and I’m learning to love my new body and be thankful.

This past year has been traumatic, funny, amazing and a million other emotions along the way. I have lost more “friends” than I ever thought possible and even found that much of my family aren’t much support either when I really needed it. But what I also found was that I’ve made some amazing friends on fab who have been my rocks and saw me through many dark days. I have realised that the only person I truly need to worry about is myself and to stop giving into what other people think, that tomorrow is never promised so do what you want to do today, stop apologising for putting yourself first for a change !! It’s not selfish it’s self care !!

Please please please check yourselves regularly (men too) and encourage others to as well, you just never know what is around the corner Violet I’m so glad you are doing well .

I had a similar experience to you and found my fab friends a great comfort & support .

Many believe you can’t make true friends on fab but that’s just not true !

Here is a link to my post I posted way back then (10 years ago now can’t believe it was that long ago)if your interested in reading my story .

I'm glad I’m still here to talk about it too .

Take care & I hope you continue to do well .

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/76168

Hope you’re still doing well xx "
Im doing amazing thank you & hope you continue to do the same xx

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By *aggismuncher69Man
over a year ago

Johnstone

Great post - 100% agree there needs to be more discussion and so good you are recovering so well. I've lost family and friends to the big C and it's just awful. Posts like this reminding EVERYONE to check themselves and FFS go see the doctor if there are any concerns. Like most guys I would normally be very reluctant to see a doc and would likely "leave it and see what happens" - this kind of message reminds me that's just daft!

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I was in a similar boat to NSV, but my issue was getting the GP to actually get anything done (damn Covid).

I was made to endure any number of medication and diet changes to see if they could identify what was wrong, and on the 16th of April last year was confirmed as having bowel cancer.

It was removed early June, and after a series of chemo, started on the road to recovery.

I had a few chats with NSV and still look forward to the day I finally meet her, but like she said, it's important to listen to your body. If you've got a small niggling pain, blood in your pee or poop, feeling tired all the time? Then please go to your GP. They're their to help, and the NHS WILL do their best to help you. Yea it may be slower than going Private, but it WILL help.

Mandy

You take care too x"

Thank you xx

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I was in a similar boat to NSV, but my issue was getting the GP to actually get anything done (damn Covid).

I was made to endure any number of medication and diet changes to see if they could identify what was wrong, and on the 16th of April last year was confirmed as having bowel cancer.

It was removed early June, and after a series of chemo, started on the road to recovery.

I had a few chats with NSV and still look forward to the day I finally meet her, but like she said, it's important to listen to your body. If you've got a small niggling pain, blood in your pee or poop, feeling tired all the time? Then please go to your GP. They're their to help, and the NHS WILL do their best to help you. Yea it may be slower than going Private, but it WILL help.

Mandy

Defo need to get a lunch a date in soon x onwards and upwards "

We will at some point, I need to get through to Glasgow and CJ's soonish.

Mandy

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I’m so glad you are on the mend, take care of yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met you for the first time at the weekend. I have to say you looked great, even though you have been through so much in the last year. Cancer is crap, it’s a bastard, but you came out on top. And you’re right, it should be openly talked about, there shouldn’t be a stigma attached to it, & it doesn’t matter what kind of cancer it is. Cancer isn’t fussy where it attacks

Take care of you

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

After re-reading this thread earlier, I got hit by something that really shouldn't have hit me.

An American friend's wife had been going through cancer treatment on and off for the last 3 years, and was due to start her latest round of chemo on Thursday.

However last night (our morning) she suddenly died and the cause of death has been stated to be due to complications from cancer treatment.

It just made me think how lucky I was to get through my treatment with no complications. What he'll be going through now is one of the things I feared my girlfriend having to go through.

I've re-written this several times and feel like I'm just rambling, but as I got on with her too and had many great chats, swapping UK and USA recipes it's just came as a bit of a shock to me.

Mandy

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"After re-reading this thread earlier, I got hit by something that really shouldn't have hit me.

An American friend's wife had been going through cancer treatment on and off for the last 3 years, and was due to start her latest round of chemo on Thursday.

However last night (our morning) she suddenly died and the cause of death has been stated to be due to complications from cancer treatment.

It just made me think how lucky I was to get through my treatment with no complications. What he'll be going through now is one of the things I feared my girlfriend having to go through.

I've re-written this several times and feel like I'm just rambling, but as I got on with her too and had many great chats, swapping UK and USA recipes it's just came as a bit of a shock to me.

Mandy"

No matter how prepared you think you are, it will still be a shock. Poor lady must have had it so hard and been through so much for 3 years.

At least she is out of pain now and at peace.

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By *enie90Woman
over a year ago

a bottle

Thank you OP! I definitely don’t check mine enough and should really have them professionally checked. You are such an incredibly strong person and I’m grateful I got to know you at the socials and the rugby!

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By *ill-Ian KissesCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere over there

To NSV know you’ve been through your battles and glad to see there is now some positivity.

To my lovely friend Mandy-sorry that you’ve been through a lot and with your friend passing as well. Happy to blether when you need.

Definitely always check; even if you are just a wee bit concerned-ALWAYS worth getting it looked at. People of all types.

Millie

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