FabSwingers.com forum: Separate rooms

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No not the option on Fab but as a couple.

We're finding we get a better sleep if on occasion we utilise the spare room double bed and sleep alone , no hot sticky bodies , tossing and turning disturbing each other , waking each other up because of shift patterns, perhaps 2 or 3 times a week now we go our separate ways , any other couples do this or the singletons out there, do you guys gals struggle sleeping with a bed guest and prefer your own space. Thoughts. ?

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By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

My husband is nightshift four nights of the week, and I have to say, I really enjoy having the bed to myself. It took a long time to get used to him not being there, but now that I am, I love sprawling out!!!xx

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Super king size bed plenty room .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My husband is nightshift four nights of the week, and I have to say, I really enjoy having the bed to myself. It took a long time to get used to him not being there, but now that I am, I love sprawling out!!!xx"

Yep we can definitely relate to that too. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single and sleep far better in my own bed by myself. I take bad sharing a bed to sleep in or a hotel room with friends, probs cause I'm a light sleeper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Important not to lose the connection though, make sure regular sex continues

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Important not to lose the connection though, make sure regular sex continues"

Absolutely, 25 years down the line I have to say, what's regular sex ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s why so many marriages fail

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s why so many marriages fail "

Yeah true , that and the fact they get past their sell by dates.

I'm joking before I get a doin from those of you that know Mrs penguin.

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By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

"Super king size bed plenty room .

We have a super kingsize bed too. Best thing ever!!xx

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

"Super king size bed plenty room .

We have a super kingsize bed too. Best thing ever!!xx"

I got rid of mind because I hated having it to myself all

The time tbh now I’m

I’m a wee double I sleep better on my own x when I’m used to someone I sleep way better sharing a bed tbh having an arm over my or a leg over me is like a comfort blanket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts?

I'm fucking amazed she sleeps with you at all!

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By *byeguysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Paisley

After 18 years, I can’t imagine sleeping in a bed without K. It’s a comfort thing. I suffer from insomnia so if I wake up during the night and can’t get back to sleep, I’ll just lie there and hold his hand until I’m relaxed enough to nod off.

Soppy and sad, I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After 18 years, I can’t imagine sleeping in a bed without K. It’s a comfort thing. I suffer from insomnia so if I wake up during the night and can’t get back to sleep, I’ll just lie there and hold his hand until I’m relaxed enough to nod off.

Soppy and sad, I know

Not soppy or sad at all, I think that's lovely. I wish I had someone's hand to hold in bed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d imagine most people would think couples that sleep in separate beds/ rooms would have marital issues but I’m sure it’s really common with shift workers.

That being said, there will always be a huge loss of intimacy. Just need to make sure effort is made in other areas of the relationship to ensure that things remain as strong as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d imagine most people would think couples that sleep in separate beds/ rooms would have marital issues but I’m sure it’s really common with shift workers.

That being said, there will always be a huge loss of intimacy. Just need to make sure effort is made in other areas of the relationship to ensure that things remain as strong as possible.

I sleep separately from my partner for multiple reasons. No loss of intimacy here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thoughts?

I'm fucking amazed she sleeps with you at all!"

Haha , shut it you. And the answers still naw, your no ma type.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d imagine most people would think couples that sleep in separate beds/ rooms would have marital issues but I’m sure it’s really common with shift workers.

That being said, there will always be a huge loss of intimacy. Just need to make sure effort is made in other areas of the relationship to ensure that things remain as strong as possible.

I sleep separately from my partner for multiple reasons. No loss of intimacy here. "

Same here, I can see how it may be perceived that way but the dynamics of a very long term relationship change all the time. That's why it lasts so long having the ability to adapt.

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Love to starfish

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By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

"I’d imagine most people would think couples that sleep in separate beds/ rooms would have marital issues but I’m sure it’s really common with shift workers.

That being said, there will always be a huge loss of intimacy. Just need to make sure effort is made in other areas of the relationship to ensure that things remain as strong as possible.

Yeah, that makes sense. But, every good, strong relationship will fluctuate. We have young kids, so our sex life isn't what it was. We do make sure we have plenty of family time, but it doesn't give us a lot of personal time. We make do, the best we can though, and we know that it's shortlived. Our kids are only young once, so we enjoy the time with them as much as we can, our time will come around again. It's one of the reasons we're on here, it gives us the chance to explore, have fun and excitement, and do it together, as well as apart xx

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By *cottishMrsWoman
over a year ago

Wishaw

Love to starfish

Aw man, best thing ever!! Love hubby, but I love a wee night to myself too lol. I do miss him, but you get used to it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to starfish

See, Mr loves ma starfish too much to let me sleep in the other bed

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Love to starfish

See, Mr loves ma starfish too much to let me sleep in the other bed

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